Profile critique and advice please.

Pretty good first picture. Use my template and make up some more.

Ok, a better final revision with a public pic is up for another review. Thank you all for your input and guidance it has helped us tremendously.
R&J

Definitely a step in the right direction as it tells me more about where you are in the LS and where you'd like to be, and an idea of "who" you want to do "what" with. It also tells me enough about your out-of-bedroom hobbies for potential conversation starters.

I was unable to see any pictures at all so can't comment on those.

How about this? Do it in Microsoft Word or Google Docs. Make each section its own paragraph. This will help ensure its saved and your spelling / grammar is correct.

Ok, so for some odd reason the updates we made did not go through, so please disregard last post. Back to the drawing board. At one point we had it almost done and clicked over to the preferences tab and lost all the changes.

I have the updates for an approved yet because I still see the all-caps SCREAMING.

some initial updates done, still working on photos

I thought it was funny that thier profile says "DON'T EVEN BOTHER CONTACTING US WITHOUT PICS OF BOTH" but they dont have any pics of either of them themselves LOL ... you should practice what you preach to get more responses

Nobody wants drama, so there is no point in mentioning it at all. Since your profile was so short I took a cut at what you have (re-arranged and negative bits removed) with some ideas about what a decent profile would have at a minimum for text. It is certainly by no means perfect, but hopefully gives you some ideas in addition to the comments about your pictures. Things in ( ) are suggestions or fill-in-the-blanks).

Looking For: Couples and single (men/women?) for FWBs. We have very little experience in the lifestyle so would be great to find people to talk to that can help us with our journey, and perhaps reach a couple destinations with us. Interested in (full/soft/watch and be watched?) and (MFM/FMF/FFM?)

Would love to find a couple that can travel (and/or attend a local lifestyle event?) with. (Hoping to meet for dinner/drinks and see where it leads.)

Description: We do talk in depth to ensure we are both on the same page. We are both laid back and easy to talk to. (He/she is shy/outgoing, funny, quiet, really enjoys ???? - Just something about your personalities that you can't get from the pictures. Also, expand on what it means that you list her as "Bi-curious", since that can be a wide range of things).

Enjoy shooting pool, playing cards, being outdoors, going to the races, camping, and just exploring the pleasures of life.

Our schedule is (flexible/kind of tight?) and we are usually available to meet on (?)

Fantasies and / or real experiences: Have had our first FFM and looking forward to more. (If this is ALL you've done, at least say a little more about other things you'd like to do.)

Additional comments and things to do, see, hear or learn about: Looking forward to our first lifestyle friendly trip in February to Negril. (Other ideas here may be if you can host or not, if you use condoms, if both or only one of you manages the profile/on-line communication, etc.)

I'm usually the kinder, gentler version of the blunt and/or mean review but your profile pushes ALL my buttons. Based on the fact that you have a cert from that FFM you enjoyed I'm going to assume that you don't realize how off-putting your profile is.

MsMolly & Velma are correct - without a default profile picture you are not going to receive much attention - ask me how I know. ;-) We're not actively searching so it's no big deal to us. You might do OK with those you approach (assuming you send a picture with your message and tell them your gallery is open) but you'll never know how many just skip right past you when they do a search.

The text of your profile is very unbalanced (as is your age preference range). You've reduced Looking For to meaningless sound bites - couples that bring drama don't recognize that it is them, "select" means something different to everybody and many of us want fun in & out of the bedroom. You have some good information buried in Description - and of course you're drama-free - but mentioning twice that you talk about everything isn't necessary. Fantasies and Additional Comments are OK but maybe move the comment about a couple to travel with to Additional Comments with your travel plans. And specify the "more" you look forward to - more FFM or other things?

Yelling about the pictures is just annoying (especially since yours are not open). Don't try to tell people what to do - it annoys adults that already do that sort of thing because they're adults and those you're trying to influence generally don't read profiles very well. So I'd leave out that whole section - mentioning that pictures of both is what piques your interest is a much more positive approach.

Hopefully you'll get some other opinions - then let us know if you'd like more advice when your updated profile is approved.

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi. I hope you've read other threads in this section so the seeming harshness won't be a shock. It is kindly meant, I,promise.

So, you need at least one default photo, anonymized however you like. Without that, no matter how much you dial in your profile, you'll be in a hole that's difficult to overcome.

Then, at more than two and a half years, you have had one ffm and that's it. You're pretty much the definition of drama if anyone stops to think about it, so it's best to avoid even using the word.

You can also eliminate anything that give a view of the process between you. I don't need to know your resolutions around communication or drama and neither does anyone else.

Other than that, DON'T USE ALL CAPS, because it makes a terrible impression and underscores your drama potential, put things in the section where they belong - Looking For is about others, Description is about you - and do your best to seem interesting and approachable.

Please collect opinions and then come back for a review.

Good luck!

I normally review pictures so I opened a private gallery for you to show you the kinds of pictures you should have.

If you don’t have any default pictures I will not be interested, now will many other couples. I will not even bother to ask.

The reason I say this is that you mention in your post that if we IM you, you will open your pictures. This gives me a feeling that you are one of those couples who feel that the pillars of the community and can’t risk having pictures in public.

You can feel this way if you want but it will limit your responses.

Also, please spell check your profile on a computer. The very first word in your profile is capitalized incorrectly. As a teacher, and 20% of women in the LS are teachers, I would stop reading right there.

Please take a look and give us some input please. IM us and we will open pics