Help from the pros please

Thanks to everyone for the help. Hopefully the holidays will provide some decent pictures for us. Happy Thanksgiving to everyone

Good profile overall, nothing wrong or alarming. Good pics, good text, good emotional context. Solid "A".

Hi Felixandellen/Sue and Dave, you need to start your own thread. If you open the Better Profiles forum link and see all the different threads and then look in the upper right quadrant, there's a small New Topic link you can click. That will give you your own thread that people can comment on.

Newbies looking for constructive critiques.
Very intrigued by the excitement of the sexual tension, but unsure how to apply our efforts.
Very nervous about the first encounter.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
Please be kind.

Sue and Dave

I think what you have is good the way it is now. I'm still not crazy about the second pic since it seems very grainy, but it's fine.

The nicely dressed male half works well. I think you're good.

We feel like we are getting closer to expressing who we are and what we are looking for with the wording now. The pictures are proving to be more of a challenge with only phone cameras though ??

I understand that everybody has their own risk comfort level. For the most part, you can blur tattoos or just use poses to hide them.

You don’t necessarily need a pic of the guy coming out of the pool, it’s just the most natural way of showing a shirtless man. I think if you took a pic of him dressed well at a bar drinking something brown from a whisky glass, that would do.

There are lots of pics of him in our private gallery but we only show those to people we are interested in meeting up with. He has tattoos that are unmistakable to the vanilla world so we keep those private. I understand what your saying about action and nicely dressed pics and we will work on getting some of those up soon. Thanks for the advice.

I think you need a picture of him, but maybe not THAT picture of him. It probably didn't do anything specific for him that was useful. There are not great pictures and then there are GREAT PICTURES.

It's sort of like that "nip slip" picture I have on my profile. I put it on the front page for a reason. It's artistic, flirty, and, above all, fun. I'm a fairly reserved person, but under the hood, I'm deeply wild.

You need something like that... which shows the best aspect of your husband, what makes him so sexy.

The pic of the guy really doesn’t do anything. You don’t show his face. You don’t show his body. You don’t show fashionable clothes. It’s just kind of a generic upper male torso and an arm. It doesn’t to anything.

Look at my profile. I have a pic of my husband getting out of a pool. Holy fucking shit!!! I get to fuck that fine specimen of manhood that every day. EVERY SINGLE DAY!!! Oh happy vagina!!!

Don’t forget that men usually do the hunting, but women have veto power. Any woman who sees a pic like that will not only know my husband is fit, but stylish and sexy too.

What is your current icture showing? A bicep? A shark tattoo?

Again, look at the picture of my husband, see the pose and the dynamic movement. He looks like he’s getting out of the pool to come over and fuck the shit out of you.

It took us 25 tries to get that shot - and we did it in a public pool with people watching. It takes a lot of confidence to do that again and again, but he did it and now we have something amazing.

Based on your pics, I think you have a pool so you don’t even need to do it in front of anyonel. Try a shot like this - dynamic and full body- getting out of the pool and I guarantee you will get more interest.

Why do you say the pic of the guy really needs to go?

Make sure there is a period after: “chat & play with”.

Let me know when you get some new pics up. The pic of the guy, and the blurry couples pic really need to go, like...now.

Make sure there is a period after: “chat & play with”.

Let me know when you get some new pics up. The pic of the guy, and the blurry couples pic really need to go, like...now.

Hi. I still think your profile is unnecessarily negative - as in there are ways to convey the same things in an inviting way - but that's not what you're asking for, so I'll say no more about that.

How about if you toggle a tiny bit of interest in single men and have something like this: We are interested in both couples and singles, but our interest in singles is only in those who are experienced and bi in orientation. We like straight singles fine, just not in our bed. For couples, bi/bi is best but we're totally fine with those where he is straight.

And then just say no to everyone who does not fit your criteria. There are lots of reasons to say nope to people, so this can just be one more.

Thank you guys for the feedback. We've made some changes to the wording and are planning on taking some new pics hopefully soon.
To the single guy issue: We are interested in meeting single bi guys but every time we toggle the male option on even after stating our preference, we tend to get almost immediately bombarded with IM's & emails from straight guys that claim to want to have their first bi experience with a couple and guys claiming to be bi even though their profiles & certs all say they are straight. We understand not everyone is comfortable with being totally open about their sexual preference but these things appear to be huge red flags to us. Being so new to all this, we are excited every time the little bird appears or the im window pops up but after being on this planet this long we are programmed to always be cautious and skeptical when talking to people online. We have discussed this issue to exhausting ends and just cant seem to find a compromise that works for us. Any input from like minded people would be most appreciated.

Looking at this after changes have been made...

This looks pretty decent. I'd like to see a little more about your personal interests. That's still a little thin.

I see that you've made changes regarding negative language.

You may get some response from people you aren't interested in. In the grand scheme, that's okay. Set yourself up a quick response:

Thank you for your interest, it's appreciated, but not returned. Best of luck with others.

When you put overtly negative language in your profile, the appearance of that negativity can put off people who might otherwise be interested in you, who you might be interested in! You take it out, you might get people responding who you aren't interested in, so you respond to them politely and if they are pushy, you block them. No skin off your nose. But you haven't turned off the people you DO want, who you want to write to you.

Hi. You have single men of every orientation blocked, so I'm unsure why you feel the need to use ALL CAPS TO REFUSE THEM. TWICE. There's also a thread of negativity running through your profile that pretty seriously undercuts what is otherwise a decent, interesting presentation. If that's all an honest reflection of you, then that's great. If it isn't, then in all kindness, I suggest you reevaluate things like calling people side pieces, seeming to suggest that if you don't specify soap and water people will show up dirty and using all caps where it really isn't necessary to shout. There are other things, but those are the standouts.

What sometimes works is that if one person has written the profile, the other person reads it out loud while carefully monitoring their own responses to it. It's not so obvious when you read it that there are clangers, but out loud? Yeah, that's usually more telling.

Good luck.

Howdy "gentile at first” nice to review you and we like what you have "WITHIN REASON" (quoting you). I’m not a pro’s in this forum like many others, just a nice human with an orifice and opinions; with the kink to help others have better sex with more partners.

First off, I hate all caps for anything except for commonly understood abbreviations (HWP, FWB, NSA, MFM, etc.) and your first sentence screaming at straight guys is a put-off to your intelligence. With your comfortable writing style you should be able to easily master that point and still get your point across <…If you're as young as our kids (21ish) or as old as our parents (55+) and you’re a straight guy we probably are not a good match.>

We love toggle controls on profiles and you should too. Toggles tell me your orientation, stats, and preferences and they let me block single guys from viewing our profile - so you could reset your preferences and ditch your two, all cap, references to no single guys. "((((( NOT INTERESTED IN STRAIGHT SINGLE GUYS ))))),” "AGAIN, NOT INTERESTED IN SINGLE STRAIGHT GUYS." - viola single guy problem solved.

Back to all caps in your profile "of all ages, races, shapes & sizes WITHIN REASON” what’s that mean…115 lbs and not 120, 54 yrs but not 55, or curvy but not round? Work that stuff out later. Your pics say athletic like your profile says "He is athletic with a six pack.” and that alone should rule out the out-of-your-preference folks.

Beyond these points I'm out of qualifications to give you any more opinions and I too look forward to the expertise of the pros on reviewing your profile - hope this helps.

It's not bad the way it is. You just need a few minor adjustments.

I'm not crazy about the pictures. You show the male, which is good, but the default picture looks like it was taken with a flip phone and the pics are too close up.

I'd like you to take some new pictures. My best suggestion is to google the word Contrapposto. This is basically how Greek statues stand. David by Michelangelo is a good example. If you look at my pictures, most of them are Contrapposto - it helps give the illusion of fluid movement.

You two have nice bodies, you should take some full-body poses separately and together. I also suggest to have at least one picture of the two of you dressed nicely like you are going to a nice dinner or church. There is a reason for this. I want to know what you are going to look like when you show up to meet me for drinks. Beach pictures work too - they show off your bodies and they show you doing something fun. Then add in a few pictures of you doing interesting things. You say you like "lounging in the pool or at the beach and music by the campfire" - show me some pictures of you doing those things. Got any pictures from a Red Sox or Celtics game?

I show pictures of us at baseball games and riding bikes because they are hooks - they are ways of someone starting a conversation with us without just talking about sex. Someone could say: "Hey, what kind of bike do you have? We're riders too!" or "We're doing the Chicago Marathon, will you be there?" and so on.

WITHIN REASON... If you're as young as our kids (21ish) or as old as our parents (55+) we probably are not a good match.

I'd take this out. You already have age preferences. People tend to stick to follow these guidelines.

We enjoy light S&M

Be very, very careful with this. I would take it out. S&M and swinging don't mix that well because swingers love their liquor and the power dynamics of S&M don't lend well to being intoxicated. The mention of S&M could bring out some people who are looking to turn light into heavy. Almost every girl is ok with a little spanking, hair pulling and bondage. So It's probably best to take out the S&M part and leave that up for discussion.

I'm also not crazy about the ALL CAPS disclaimers, but it's not a dealbreaker. I just might have that there once at the top.

It's pretty solid. The way it is now, I think I would have a 50% chance of contacting you if we were headed to a race in Boston, but you would probably lose out to people with better pics. So tighten up the pictures and repost so we can re-review.

We are pretty new to sls and looking for any constructive criticism from the people that know what a great profile should look like. Please be nice & Thanks in advance