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Off topic — Privateice nice to see you posting once again.

We missed our annual vacation to Williamsburg/ Va. Beach this year. No new William and Mary T-shirt for me this year :(

Privateice nailed it.

One of the biggest complaints about LS profiles is that there are hardly any pictures of him, which is then assumed as ‘she’s hot, he’s not’
I don’t believe that’s your case at all.

For 42 he looks very good. Use that, you’re high two very attractive people. It will expand your reach and pool of couples/singles.

You profile as written is okay. I have no major gripes. You seem like nice people. It's a little bland. Maybe you could use a little more as far as what your non-sexual interests are, to give people "hooks" to talk about on a first date. Everyone likes travel, music, and boating. If there is something interesting and unusual you do, tell us about it. People like to hear about things they don't know anything about too.

I'm going to make some bones about your pictures.

A profile is primarily a marketing tool. Look at it as such. Don't look at yourselves with your own eyes look at yourselves from the outlook of the average person. From the average person, you guys are hot. Unless you are ONLY interested in exceptionally hot "perfect" people--and your profile is NOT written like that, your profile is written like you are interested in NICE PEOPLE--then you should be okay with your imperfections. The fact that He is no longer perfectly cut isn't a big deal bc who is! Only other perfect people!! Your target market is not "other perfect people." It is the more reachable market of "nice people with substance," who might (not) have perfect bodies, but have substance. Everyone likes to think they have substance and are nice. VERY few people think they have perfect bodies, even the people who arguably DO.

A little known fact: on SLS, men do the shopping, but women make the up or down decision.

So having a couple hot pictures of Her is a good idea, but if He is remotely hot, a picture of him without his shirt is critical. He doesn't have to be exceptionally cut. Maybe he's not in great shape for 24... but he's NOT 24 anymore. He appears to be slim, fit, and in fabulous shape for 42. Have you seen what other 42 years olds look like? For 42, he's HOT. Man, take off your shirt and flex (just a little). Get rid of that picture in that loose button down. It adds nothing. We've seen your wife.

Replace the picture of you as a couple in t-shirt and bikini (we've seen her in a bikini) with a formalwear shot. We know she's hot, we want to see if you guys clean up well. You're not 24 anymore. You say you're professionals. Prove that you can put on a well tailored suit and gown and do the adulting thing with the rest of us. There is nothing to drop panties like a fit man in a good suit. Damn.

Again I wish I was getting the results he is getting now. The pictures tell a story of he looks good.
No one is going to be counting his abs to make sure he has a six pack.

Fokkers, she didn’t say he doesn’t go to the gymn originally. She said he does go just doesn’t quite get the results he once did ?? results aren’t as easy at this age as they once were!

I wished I looked like him not going to the gym... SMH

I'm with KellyJean in the two iterations about being parents, etc., and think the easy solution is to just remove everything in the parentheses in Looking For.

Other than that, you could use a comma between "travel" and "boating," unless there's something called travel boating. Plus, it's fun couples and select singles to have fun with (it's actually with whom to have fun, but that wouldn't work in your profile, so common usage it is). I like everything else except that missing section. But hotness factor. ;-)

I have a short section in my profile that says straight women are fine. I don't spell it out, but it indicates I'm up for the challenge of an FMF that completely concentrates on him (and obligates him to do twice the work). If that's what you're looking for, you might want to add a short sentence in Fantasies. Or, as KJ suggests, put in something about being bi-friendly or whatever is accurate.

I notice you say "Looking for fun couples and select singles . . . " yet you have no interest in single males and you list the wife as straight so which singles and WHY? If the female is 'curious' you should probably list her that way or put some type of disclaimer in your profile. Mine used to say something like "from time to time I cannot deny the term bi-friendly would apply" or "a few of my best friends might argue my straight designation." I preferred to put those things in the body of my profile rather than list as myself bi-curious (I'm no longer curious wink wink).

Also, you can say you're parents, professional, etc. just once - most people have other lives to protect too.

Enjoy

Thanks for the feedback (and compliments we weren’t expecting those only criticism!). We have made the updates, let us know if the new one works better. Thanks again!

Hot covers a lot of flaws....

But Molly and Nj are right....

But hot covers a lot of flaws...

#justsaying

Hi. I solemnly swear that I'm not dissing your profile because I'm cranky (I am cranky, btw, but it isn't currently affecting my interactions with others). It's just that it really could be better. I'm guessing your changes haven't gone into effect yet, but I'm hoping I can convince you to do a little more work before declaring victory. Because your profile is kinda bland right now.

In Looking For, you don't really say much about who you're looking for or what you're looking for. That's really what this section is designed to do. There's an error of grammar in the first sentence and you've used the word "time" three times in the second sentence, which actually belongs in Description anyway. Plus, like minded doesn't really mean much.

You mostly get a pass on Description, since apparently you've changed it, but I do hope you now include something about the kind of people you are as individuals and as a couple. That's the sort of thing that intrigues me. Additional data point is that any discussion of anyone's skills in the bedroom either leads to the reaction njny talks about or causes a bit of an eyeroll, because I really do expect better than basic competence as the default, so why talk about it?

Most of what you have in Fantasies actually fits better in Description. This is the place to talk about anything you'd like to do but haven't or that you'd like to do again.

And, really, you're wasting a marketing opportunity by leaving that last category blank.

Anyone that comes in asking for brutal honesty automatically signals that they're interesting and have depth and I'd like to see more of that in your profile, But if not, you have the hotness factor and that will be good enough for most people. ;-)

Good luck!

Good feedback, update complete!

Pretty good.

The only thing I would suggest is take out this:

Him per her: still works out but not as buff as he once was lol.

I fucking hate it when I see “lol” in a profile. It’s beta as fuck. Take out the part about not being “buff anymore” as well. This makes me thing you let yourself go and are using your hot wife as a fishing lure.

Or how about the brutality of “honest” feedback (sheesh maybe proof reading is the problem with our profile lol)

Looking for advice on improving our profile. We are fully prepared for the brutality of honey feedback, so fire away as self assessment is the first step towards improvement lol.