Critique my profile

Maybe the sign your wife holds could include both profile names "together we're venus01 but partyfun2001 often plays alone" or something along those lines. A picture with both of you would be great but you'd need a lifestyle friend to take it if you don't have a tripod & timer or remote (it would probably be really awkward to do as a selfie of the two of you plus a sign).

And please be kind to older eyes using small screens - use thick black letters on white paper to make it easy to read even when the picture is tiny. ;-)

My inner graphic design nerd is breaking out!

~Phoebert's Wife

Yeah that's the route I will go. I plan to do a fun sign pic with her also.

I wondered about that. It's not a policy that's applied consistently, based on other profiles I've seen, but some do get flagged. It can still work if you just refer people to your couple's profile in messages. Maybe you can say you'll do so in both?

I attempted to link the accounts and the updates were flagged as violating the guidelines, so I guess we can't do that after all.

I like the sign option a lot. If you have the same photo in both profiles, it should allay any concerns.

Married people are my jam. It's rare that I don't meet their spouses at some point, but the timing is up to the couple. Ahead of time is fine and the few times it's happened have been fun, but it's usually after a few play dates.

Esperanza911 you have singles blocked so I can't open my pics for you.

I will link the accounts. I like the idea of her holding a sign. I currently leave whether she meets the people with me up to her. She enjoys dinner and conversation just as much as anyone.

You have some really good pics in your other gallery and have done a really good job with the profile.

With verifying, that's something the two of you need to decide on what will work best. Some couples video chat, others use a picture with her holding a message, others meet as a couple and then play separately. You will find most couples will steer clear of you to avoid drama and you may have to go case by case with it. However, find out what your wife is comfortable with and just stick to it.

I'd just add the couple profile name to the sentence currently in your single profile. And maybe add a sentence in the couple profile that references your single profile since the only place I saw mention that you play alone is in the tag line.

I always appreciate a mention of the other profile - reading both usually reveals different aspects of the people involved.

~Phoebert's Wife

You mention that you have a couples profile and that your wife runs it, but you never identify what that profile name is (or perhaps I missed it? Any reason not to list the couples profile name in your profile?

Are there any other good ways for my wife to verify? We do both have kik. We also have a couples account but rarely use it since she currently isn't playing.

The profile doesn't look too bad. The main suggestion is to let couples know that you all do have a way to verify you can play with permission. We have run into too may cheating men who do have two profiles, two kik handles, etc. Effingham definitely isn't the hotbed for swinging activity. Guessing that you all have to travel a bit to meet most of your contacts? If so, let people know in the profile that you all travel to Terre Haute, Champaign, Decatur, or what exactly your radius is.

You're very welcome.

Also, congratulations on finding a completely appropriate way to show off a shirtless body indoors. It's a great photo and it makes sense.

Go forth and conquer. ;-)

Thank you everyone.

Molly your input is always spot on.

I'll just pile on with another "you done good" comment!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi again. It's too bad we don't hand out frequent flyer miles. ;-) Anyway, my New Year's presented me with an unexpected bang, literally, so I hope someone comes around to fact check me, because doing this with scrambled brains is probably not ideal. Plus my spelling has gone to hell.

I think you've done a really good job dialing in your profile. There are some typos - for instance, it's let's talk, not lets up in Looking For, and you probably like open minded women rather than woman - but other than your lack of certs (what have you been doing for the past two years?) I have only three real quibbles.

First, thanks for opening your gallery. Your photos are good, but one of you smiling would be terrific. Right now, in the two where you're with your wife, she's incandescent and you have a tiny little smile. Like, what you have is fine and a huge improvement, but if a beautiful, happy woman can't make you grin, what can?

Then there's your age range of 17 years younger to 12 years older. It's fine, but the optics are better if it's balanced, even if you decide every woman over 50 really is too old.

Finally, in Fantasies, you say yours include MFM. Which, yay, but the way it's written indicates that you have no experience, which might raise a bit of a red flag since you do have a couples' profile here and there might be a question about how open you are to other guys playing with your wife. Maybe just change the wording a little bit so that MFMs don't sound quite so aspirational.

Anyway, really good job. Good luck!

I think we talked before-I wouldn’t make any changes I think it’s good the way it is.

Looking to improve my profile. I can open my other pics also if you respond here or message me.

Thanks