A guy organizing a "women only" group or party raises some red flags in my mind.
The parties I mentioned were at the home of a married couple who also had parties for men and women. I think most of their parties were coed; singles or couples of both sexes allowed as I recall. I don't recall how often the "ladies only" parties happened. I know they were popular- the only game like it in town.
A friend of mine that does hotel room parties always wanted to do a "Bi ladies only" party. As much as he'd try, the parties always fell apart at the last minute. He would get a decent number of initial sign-ups. It seems lots of women talk about and like the idea of wanting to have/attend these parties, but actually attending one when the time comes is another matter.
It likely didn't help that he is an older SM trying to organize these parties. He did have a Bi single woman trying to help at one point, but by the day of the party there weren't enough sign-ups left to even pay for the cost of the hotel room. I think he would have done it anyway for close to break even as it was obvious to me he was one of many guys with an FMF fantasy that he wanted to make a reality.
There used to be a Bi Ladies Club (BLC) here. A couple often had parties at their home, and she decided to start that club.
She would host ladies only parties, I forget how often. Mrs. G was a "member". Many times a SF or F half of a couple (no offense to those who object to the use of "female") would come to our house and they would then go to the BLC party with Mrs. G. Usually these were women who were too nervous to attend something by themselves, or in a few instances, newbies to the LS and this would be their first ever party and wanted a mentor or chaperone.
I frigging loved it. Without exception, I (OK, we) had a FFM or FFFM-some after party, and I got to hear all about what Bi ladies do when guys aren't around.
Better yet, I got to experience what multiple Bi ladies do with a guy involved.
We <3 unicorns.
The point is, if there aren't any Bi Ladies clubs or groups, why not start one? Based on what I've read in the Forum, pretty sure there is an interest everywhere for one.
Oh yeah it makes it even harder when a couple is only looking for single females. I get couples from 4 to 5 hours away looking at me. And I would consider them regular looker's where they keep looking at me maybe twice a month these couples don't understand that it's making it more tuff for them to accomplish their fantasy when they're only looking for that threesome.
Me as a single woman I have difficulty finding single women so I have to go after married women that are bisexual but i don't play with the husband.. I've had too many bad experiences with couples and I am done and fulfilled that fantasy within me.. I do meet lots of couples in House parties that are experienced and the husband let's go of his wife to play separately..
Ya know, I didn't try to look at their profile before I posted. The "flyover" shows they have 0 interest in couples and single men, so I assumed couples and single men couldn't see their profile.
But I just looked and I can see their profile, so nope, I'm not blocked. Yet. There's still time...
I forget how that blocking versus 0 interest for certain categories of profiles works when searching for people. We don't categorically block any group.
Goodenuff - I was able to see the OP's profile, so either they took your advice or perhaps they just blocked you specifically?
FWIW - A number of new to SLS people think that this site is going to open the floodgates for them by having a profile and perhaps a forum post, and it will be more like a LS supermarket experience. Finding people online can be a fair bit of work, and looking for unicorns only is going to make that MUCH harder. YMMV, but not likely by much.
One comment for the OP- you block couples. Might wanna rethink that.
The lady parts of some couples are occasionally willing to meet other people- men, women, couples- solo. Trust me on this- been there, done that.
ComejoinUs08 - As has been mentioned before, a Hot Date will tend to be a lot more effective than a Forum post for what you're looking for.
We are one of the rare couples that are not looking for SFs. As THS noted, because we attend LS parties, we happen to know and have played with a number of them, mostly at parties. That is really going to be your best shot at finding SFs (aka - unicorns).
For that matter, LS parties/events are going to be your best bet to actually meet anyone, followed by Hot Dates (responding or creating your own), then direct messaging/online contact, and lastly, a forum post. The latter is not impossible, but SLS members that read the forums are only going to be a % of the total membership, so you've already limited your audience, probably substantially.
"Think about what you can offer her, not what you want her to give you."
To the OP: I looked, you're relatively new here. Welcome!.
The first line in this post, that's some sound advice from someone who obviously lives the unicorn life. We offer candy, specifically Skittles, in our unicorn quests. Not sure why, but the unicorns we've met seem to like Skittles.
We suck at giving advice, but have had pretty good success with unicorns. Pretty sure others will be along to offer better advice...
Happy questing!
Another couple joins the hordes who think they will find a unicorn to fulfill their fantasy. There are few single women who want this, and you are statistically unlikely to be the successful exception. Your profile is all about what you want and says nothing about why that rare woman would want YOU. Think about what you can offer her, not what you want her to give you.
Welcome guys.. you will NOT find it on forums. also I would proofread your profile and add more photos.. try Johnnys Hideaway in ATL or Trapeze in ATl.
Get out to clubs, events and parties especially this time of year with Halloween coming up.. thats what works.. and YES we do know swinging for over 30 years and also have a home in Holly Springs Ga.
Good luck, enjoy and have FUN we have well over 30 years!
As a unicorn myself.. I would advise you to start attending House parties us unicorns hang out there- there are safety in numbers.. it's almost impossible to find that perfect unicorn we all rules for our safety. And for some of us this is a fantasy that won't last for one or two parties and we are gone.. When that bucket list fulfilled.. in the 30 plus years doing this I have only met around 5 and none of them are in this lifestyle now..
good luck- stand in line grab a chair
We are looking to add a sexy female to join us for some fun. Meet for some drinks, talk and have some fun afterwards if the mood is right. Hope to hear from you soon!
