MFM gone bad

This guys is full of shit and you guys fall for this crap all the time. Man up dude.

"this is what she wants..."
What one wants during play in the LS is often very different than what they look for in a spouse. If she enjoys her LS recreation and she has found the niche she likes then don't get insecure and pull away. Dive in with her and definitely do mfm. Just simply talk about what you both want out of a 3 some. Don't pull away from the relationship because you helped her out. If you genuinely enjoy seeing her enjoy herself then talk through how you are feeling and figure out how to proceed. If it tears you apart from the inside out let her know.

Hi. I've been trying to find a gentle way to express myself and it's proving too difficult, so I'm just going to be blunt.

"...she is setting up Game With black guys that are 6’4, 40 Years old and have 10 and 12” cocks. Not much of an MFM there."

This is on you, dude. As in, your insecurities are on full display here and instead of participating in MFMs, you're bowing out because the guys your wife is choosing aren't old white guys with average dicks.

Since your wife isn't okay with swapping, mostly due to jealousy, and you're not okay with MFM, mostly due to jealousy, it would seem like the actual answer is to stop having sex with other people while you work on a) your communication issues, and, b) the strength of your marriage. Swinging as a couple, if you'd like to stay a couple, means that you're in it for each other, and you two aren't.

I mean, sure, you can definitely blow up your marriage instead of working on it, but make sure it's for the right reasons instead of your inability to celebrate your wife's open embrace of difference in her play partners due to insecurity.

Lets us add.. we lived in WESTON and Pembroke Pines Keystone Lakes.. if you cant find swingers in the swinging capitol of USA .. wow there is definitely something wrong with your relationship !

People are just people.. ! Stop looking at ones color!

Also get rid of the closet selfie it does nothing for you.. you have a great smile, nice looking, good looking wife now stop complaining and enjoy!

NO.. we dont look at ones color but are they great in person, can communicate intelligently, good dancers..great kissers, good in bed, etc etc . If you have some class, a personality, fun well we will get along just fine!

Reexamine why you 2 are really here and what your real issues are.. if not nothing will ever be fixed!

Seems you 2 have way more issues than just swinging with certain groups.. thats a head game and we have been active swingers well over 30 years now.. and even travel with our FWB's !

What has your wife said when you told her all of this and expressed your worries and doubts to her?

We tried swinging but it’s hard to meet a couple where the man and the woman are both turn ons to the other partners and Sasha seemed to have a jealous side. So after several years dabbling, I came up with the bright idea to try MFMs. No jealousy for her. No trying to find two people that are sexy. Just one guy that turns her on and doesn’t piss me off. Well, it hasn’t been long since I discovered that my wife simply loves black cock. That’s all she goes after. That’s all she chats with. That’s all we’ve fucked with. She says it’s because white guys don’t approach her. That when they do they aren’t attractive. So I am 58 and 5’9 and she is setting up Game With black guys that are 6’4, 40 Years old and have 10 and 12” cocks. Not much of an MFM there. Now I am worried that I might start thinking differently about her knowing this is what she wants, obviously, and the thought has crossed my mind to find someone new and send her off to duck black guys. After 27 years that’s a bad place to be at. Anyone have a BBC-loving cougar that is leaving you feeling like this?