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I'll second the "Get out and meet people at LS events" thing. If I relied strictly on online interaction to meet people, we would have moved on a long time ago.

This site is one of the better sites for finding local LS parties/events. Sometimes those can be limited and cliquey, but at least you're meeting people in person, which is usually more than what happens online.

People online tend to be more critical of you than people you meet in person. I get that you're trying to get to a point where you meet people in person, but your chances for success are a lot higher at a LS event/party than they are online.

Once you do meet people in person, if there is mutual interest, try to remember to get contact info. From there, it's just networking (i.e. meeting friends of friends) to grow your circle of friends, just like you would if in the vanilla world if you moved to a new location.

Just gonna keep on keeping on and see where it goes I guess.... thanks for the positivity and insight

Best advice from us: go to a meet and greet, club, or hotel party. What you see is what you get. Some to go meet people for playtimes and others go just to socialize and talk. We use this site primarily to learn about events.. because.. we've been burned a bunch of times by people who don't show up even after you exchange emails. We also "stay in our lane" meaning we primarily communicate with people similar to ourselves and that has brought success too.

OHW...

I just send a few sentences on the first one to show interest, compliment a pic, nothing extravagant on the first contract. I usually follow up with more if I get a positive response. If the response is no, I thank then for acknowledging and responding and move on....

Well best I can say is get use to it. Seems like most people now a days don't have much courtesy. Then you have those that put no effort into their email and expect a response. Don't give up. There still are decent people in the lifestyle

I know no one is entitled to a response, but when did common courtesy disappear from society ?? Is it common place not to respond or too much to ask, even if it's a "no thank you" ??

Just gets frustrating to try and meet new people and potentially make new friends, with or without playing.

Any suggestions or insight appreciated....