Getting burned out

Well, nobody else is going to state the obvious, so I will. You're discontented guys in their 30's aren't coming through. You guys are in your mid to upper 60's. Some of those guys may be new, inexperienced, and nervous- that's true. But even the more experienced ones in their 30's can pull women and couples in their 40's. We've recognized the value of staying in our lane if you know what I'm writing. We play mostly with couples in their mid-40's up to early 60's and it's working out well. Another upside to.. seasoned citizens.. is they generally know what they like and aren't afraid to put it out there. Good luck ;-)

I am a SM and I do not understand it myself.
I had one couple 20 minutes away who asked me to meet them 4 hours after they contacted me on SLS . They liked me and we had a threesome. They said they liked that I showed up and on time. Then they told me about all the SM' s who never showed up.
Another couple just contacted me on SLS. 4 1/2 hours away. Can't run over there today, but I would travel the 4 1/2 hours just for lunch and see if we click.
Unless I had to hire a personal assistant to manage all of the couples that were contacting and make appointments 6 months in advance because I'm booked, I can't think of any reason why a SM would not show up.

What CopNkitten said pretty much covers it. If you look at the Hot Dates calendar, parties will be listed as Events. They will appear at the bottom of the Hot Dates list on the days the parties occur. Being 30 miles north of Atlanta, I'd expect there to be something within a reasonable distance from you.

Keep in mind that you can just use the party/s to expand your social network. Once you have a few couples you get along with, you can always just get together with them outside of a party.

Just getting started at parties can be a little intimidating at first, but after you get to meet and know a few people it gets a bit easier.

Aside from all of this, for people that want to play but can't host, parties can be a real bargain. Consider a typical play date with dinner/drinks ($50-$100+), then a hotel room ($60 $150+). The parties we go to are $50/cpl, they are BYOB and have food/snacks and have rooms to play in and supply condoms/lube.

The other cool thing is if you meet a couple and don't click, there are other people at the party, so you're night isn't over. We also find it easier to schedule attending a party than we do trying to meet a couple.

I agree with trying parties. You can meet more people at a time, and if you don't click with 1 couple you can move on to meet others. On your sls home page under newest matches there are HotDate, Clubs, Socials, Parties, Travel, SLS Groups. There is also forums for each state.

Thanks, Mayhem. How do we find local parties? Looked here on SLS but there's nothing.

"We haven't tried parties, just not appealing to us."

Parties can vary widely. House parties for example can just be a small group that gets together to talk without loud blaring music, and perhaps have play time if people click. They can be couples only, or allow singles. It all depends on what the organizer wants.

By saying "parties don't appeal to us" you are eliminating the most productive and usually least frustrating way of meeting people that SLS (or any site like it) can offer. Limiting yourself to meeting people via online interaction only is likely to be (and will continue to be) very frustrating.

We're getting REALLY tired of the liars, fakes and flakes. It's unbelievable that someone takes the time to chat for a few days, meet for drinks or dinner then disappears. Seems like guys in their 30's are the worst. Of course, there are guys in all age groups that just don't follow through but the younger ones seem to be the worst.

It's getting to the point that we may just give up. Anyone else feel the same? We haven't tried parties, just not appealing to us. Thanks for letting me vent.