I understand there’s a definition for attack! A wise man once told me “act never react” Rise above the verbal rise above the difference of opinion. Realize that another human might be going through some emotions or responses that you’re not aware of. or do what I do just block them and go on with your day.????
Esperanza- I'm not talking about discourse.
I do not care if someone disagrees with me, I'm talking about the insults and death threats because they disagree with me.
We second that SOC.. seems some have no class, no manners or even know what getting dressed up to meet are. So many here think just because they are on a swing site its an instant YES and FUCK.. not a chance.. we want the ones who get it !
WE said the same over the last 3 years and since CL closed down.. the site has changed drastically!!
Sad.. but the good ones every now and then.. fantastic!
Because the discussion forums are meant for discourse, not classified ads.
I'm with you Ym we are all adults here and there's no excuse for bullying internet or not.
I have noticed a loss of politeness and respect in politics, as well.
Used to be , I could disagree with someone.
Now, I'm a racist, homophobe or whatever insult you care to insert here and the other guy tries to kill me.
We no longer have moderates. Everybody is my way or die .
Why?
I suppose we could argue why all day.
I do know with cats, if a kitten misbehaves mom BELTS him. Sometimes sending the poor kitten spinning across the room.
But, it adjusts the kitten's behavior. And even if that kitten grows into big strong male twice mom's size, she still will not hesitate to take him down. And he won't fight mom.
I think if parents were allowed to punish children like in the old days, children would grow up to be polite.
Like cats do.
Our experience in the lifestyle has spanned over 40 years. Hubby wandered into the lifestyle while in college in the 80's and I in the 90's. We met in the early 2000's via lifestyle friends and are very thankful for having the wonderful group of special friends we had back then....and now.
I couldn't agree more with both Someonescoming & Townhousesocials. The lifestyle is not what it used to be. It seems that politeness and respect has definitely gone by the wayside. We always accepted others even if their desires differed from ours. We were both taught to accept others for their differences and to respectfully agree to disagree. That acceptance of differences is nonexistent in too many people nowadays.
What a shame, maybe it is the onslaught of the internet "wannabees" aka fakes, aka cheaters trying to gain a place in todays' lifestyle. Hopefully their quest here is short lived and true lifestylers will prevail.
Make love (and lust), not war.
If you can fight about something as enjoyable and reaffirming as sex, you can fight about anything.
You are so right there's no reason for attacking people or bullying. The lifestyle is not what it used to be and people don't have etiquette on forum. Which makes me think the etiquette is not there in their lifestyle experience. As an experienced swinger I was taught to accept others for their differences.
And as an adult was taught if you can't say nothing nice don't say it at all. With this being said there's nothing wrong with being blunt and to the point as swingers are however not in the expense of others.
I want to address something which I see alot in forum
I cant understand why it always havevto be someone attacking somebody of a ad they post what they are interested of finding.
For example, let's say a couple post a ad only looking for guys to do a gang bang on the lady. Then someone replied to the ad bashing them about it. I just can't understand that.
Same way when it get switched around, a guy might post a ad only looking for only woman, a guy reply and you already clarify in the ad you only looking for woman. Then he get in his feelings because your not into guys.
