[quote=Over7Under8]Yes I'm old and out of sync with being social... I wonder about this instant hook up vibe I see. Being new here, I am wondering how long does it take roughly for new people to fit in with the community and local groupings.
It's one of them Catch 22's... say too much in a profile or too little, it can be your not fun enough or your type of fun is brings caution.
My take on this is find and go to an activity posted here and find your way, and then use this site to keep contact with those you have met. Am I wrong in thinking?[/quote]Go over to groups, events and hot dates. If you see anything , join the group or attend the event.
You also need a profile because some people only look for people online.
If you have a problem with being social, see if there are any meet and greets in your area. They are just social, no sex.
You can also check to see if there are any swing clubs in your area. Most have an area for social gatherings where sex is not allowed.
You could ease in that way.