When you know you want to hook up

Like R&K, we know in 10 minutes if it's a go. You can sense it. Well we can. We can also tell if it's a go for them.

But even great conversation and the illusion that you are all compatible for a 4 some. She (one of the she's) might end up "taking one for the team". If the other guy can't get hard. Or doesn't know how to turn the other lady on, that lady is taking one for the team.

But sometimes the date gets better with time. Although, my wife is opening her options bi playing on both teams.

We always talk about the session on our way home. More than thrice, she has stated, "What was I supposed to do with that?" I just smile and reply, "OMG, she was so fucking hot. You should have played with her"

But it's all good. Don't look for the couple in the mirror. You already have that.

In closing, just relax. You might have a totally new experience. And THAT'S what this journey is all about.

Spot on R&K

You will know.. as if its meant to be.. it just flows and is HOT!

Never .. ever take one for the team as DTH has stated you will be sorry and its your journey! Are they good looking at first site, well dressed , did they go out of their way to make you feel comfortable, did the conversation flow freely.. hygiene, do they smell good, perfume / cologne, , shoes shined . are they slobs.. you get the idea right. We always dress for success.. and well for our first meets we expect same! Our profile photo of Kat is a meet 2 months ago !

Also dont be afraid to say sorry not a match it was a pleasure meeting you..we have met some who were boring, some only talk about sex and nothing else.. and some well they have no communication skills. Once again you will know.. If you are ready and all have a good vibe say how about we take this back to our home or hotel.. and dont drink too much! We usually know within the first 15-30 minutes if it will be what we are looking for !

Have fun, enjoy and dont expect too much the first time..ref your "nervous jitters".. if its good for all its a bonus

I agree with Hot

I was married in the lifestyle before single in the lifestyle. Your profile should give some indication as to your likes or dislikes and would probably be ironed out before a first meeting. I would say remembering what those are and then weeding through that in the conversation when you meet would be a good thing to focus on. Another is not doing one for the team, the attractions need to be there for all involved or it isn't going to work. Most of all, be true to yourselves and what your needs and wants are. You can tell during the evening if the other couple's desires are in line with yours, If not, a nice dinner, conversation and parting ways is not bad. If the stars align well better yet!

Everyone will have their own list of red flags. Red flags for us would be a couple who insist on not using condoms, or only play in separate rooms, or only want their wife to be touched by my wife. All those type of things should have been mentioned in profiles and pre-meeting chats, so they only need to be verified once you are face to face.

The bigger issues can usually only be discovered during the first meeting. Do they hold values which are abhorrent to you? Do your personalities match? Most people don't need to find a perfect match, after all Vegans and hunters can still find pleasure in the same bed.

The bottom line is to keep an open mind, but don't venture down a path that makes you truly uncomfortable.

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