"We try to treat others as we would like to be treated ourselves. The LS community is large enough where there is someone for everyone, but still small enough where you don’t ever want to be known as “that person”. "
I am that fuckin' person, and I still get invited to house parties. Style, bitchez. ;)
That's from a woman I've known for about 4 years who gets me. She even asks me for advice sometimes because she knows I'll never bullshit her.
This is my favorite cert:
From unicorngirl114435 04/23/17
I know both Andrew and Robin and frankly I like Robin better but Andrew is a very good Fuck. He is opinionated but generally if you ignore him he will shut up. Andrew is good at what he does. He enjoys pleasing women, will take the time to to do it right and will make sure the woman has been satisfied multiple times before he allows himself to be fully satisfied. Robin is awesome. She has been putting up with Andrew for a long time which should tell you something about her character. She is a lot of fun and and definitely is responsive in play.
So, I have that going for me, which is nice.
BT
If they do, just block/delete the cert, you will continue to appear as desirable as you are now.
I pray that no one will ever call my cock sickly looking...
BT
Squirrel surely would have coughed at all the hair around the nuts. coughs
Hopefully a squirrel wasnt trying to get a nut and grabbed it instead...
FOSTA la vista probably killed it.
If not, there surely should be.
Isn’t there a thread for acorn sized dicks??
We know we are "that person", but are OK with it. We don't give a shit about certs and do not post them, either.
'This cert is so long overdue. I can't begin to describe what superhungalphamale did for Mrs and we have made a friend for life......' OK, we'll post it.
" This couple sucks. Her pussy smells and his overly hairy balls were disgusting and his acorn sized cock was sickly looking' Nah, we will hide this one.
Sorry to get off topic. Just having fun.
Ms. NJNY — guilty as charged of the “hey thanks for looking” message. Although we have pretty well stopped that. If we are attending an event and someone views us from the event attendee list, and they look interesting we will reach out.
Like everyone we get a lot of single gentlemen messages, some well crafted, some just crude. We will respond to them thanking them for their interest/kind words but we are not interested and we wish them well . We have had a couple of couples where we felt horribly telling them no, but they were not interested. Only one ever came back at us. To this day it was the only time we had someone come back asking why.
We try to treat others as we would like to be treated ourselves. The LS community is large enough where there is someone for everyone, but still small enough where you don’t ever want to be known as “that person”.
My two cents for what it’s worth.
This a great old topic. Call us rude, but we respond when some cosmic inner spirit within the email causes us to want to respond. I would say an overwhelming majority of SM emails are not worthy of one, and 40% of couples are the same.
Think of it like sales, because that is what this is. You reach out, unsolicited, for an outcome, just like calling the purchasing manager of the business. He owes you no follow up phone call why no response or interest. Same goes with a dating site. Can you imagine being on a dating site where in the name of someone's definition of courtesy you owe a response to all of your incoming mail? Not on your life.
We respond purely when an email causes us to feel like responding. We expect NOTHING from those who receive one from us. If we receive a response, great, if not....keep moving! Just like sales. Some will, some won't, so what.
We have gotten to the point that so many people don't have the common curtesy to respond to a message weather it is expressing interest or just thanking them for viewing our profile that we rarely send the first message anymore.
“If we reach out to you: It means we are interested. We understand everyone has busy vanilla lives but please be courteous and reply even if not interested. ”
MandaPanda: The above is from our profile. We understand your position and can respect anyone’s decision not to reply. There would be no need to apologize to anyone. We have a stance on the subject matter as well. If we send an email of interest, it will contain enough information to establish a sincerity behind it; if someone cannot be polite and respond, we will place a note of “no reply” on the profile. Everyone wants an email that contains more than a one liner, so we ask for a reply. Respect and courtesy in showing/receiving interest is the game we play in the lifestyle. If they cannot be respectful enough to reply to us, then they are more than likely not someone we would want to play with.
We have met several people out at events that have not replied to us on SLS and end up approaching us in person for interest. It really is a two way street.
We had a couple interested one night, we were talking to them, letting them spew their liking our profile and us as a couple; Eileen excuses herself to get a drink and rejoins a few moments later, she re-asks who they are, and I say, “baby, this is XXXX and XXXX, they are on SLS and their ID is XXXX, you know, the couple you emailed three weeks ago to see if they would like to meet for a drink, that didn’t reply”. She smiles and they smile back, but we know they are wtf-ing in their heads. At that moment she said, “You know, we believe if you can’t be courteous enough to reply to something as an email , you are probably just as inconsiderate in bed, good luck”.
~Allen
FWIW our "no thanks" is the same standard canned one that the website offers.
We also have a second "No pics" canned response that reads "Thank you for your interest. We are unable to gauge ours as pictures of one or both of you are not available which would allow us to know. Please feel free to write back when you have clear pictures of both of you uploaded to the site."
I wonder why it is that men get so nasty with women who say no thanks. In our 10 years on the site we've had maybe 5 replies with nasty to our "no thanks", and maybe 15-20 just asking "why not?" Only once has someone kept arguing after our initial generic "just a judgement call, nothing personal, wish you well"
We had one single female that we no thanked and she asked why not. We replied that it was because her profile made it clear that she was cheating on her husband. She ranted about how nobody else seems to care, so I must be gay.
FWIW, I hardly ever get any push back in response to my polite rejections. I also routinely answer emails and say no about 99% of the time.
Case in point... the moment you “politely”’decline... the barrage of messages is disturbing, and then for most males... the rejection becomes
Spiteful and resentful. Down right threatening (oh well, fuck You, your loss...).
So forgive me if I’m not so polite. I don’t need to justify why it’s “never gonna happen”. My body, my choice, executing my FREE will.
Ms. Panda I see that point. Welcome to the Fora...
I’m guilty of this and just now saw a blurb at the end of someone’s profile (from webmaster? Dunno?)
It is in respect to “being polite and sending a reply to state that I/we aren’t interested.”
I have some issues with that. While
It may seem the polite thing to do, I feel as a SF, I am already weeding through the sharks and vampires so to reply even with kind rejection leaves me open to the reply back asking why? Why are they not my type or why am I not interested? Sometimes it’s simply because of distance, other times it’s that I’m simply not attracted to them; age, smokers, no photos of the male...
While always trying to be polite and kind, rejection is rejection and it never feels good. So... to all who’ve messaged and never heard from me, Im sorry. They benefit of living in a free society with freedom to make my own decisions, I do hope that my two-cents justifies why I just don’t reply to all messages.
"Swingers rule 216: If you expect a particular behavior from another human being, there is a very good chance you will be disappointed."
Love me some TBR ;^*
GGMM: THANK YOU! I have my lovely Mrs. 888 to keep me in check along the way.
:-)
~Allen
Well, happy Monday then! And safe travels. :-)
My brain does not acknowledge the concept of weekends, so it wakes me up at 5 regardless. Convenient for those early MWF yoga classes, not so much when I've been out late.
