How to respond?

Not sure how you solicited for this party since you don't seem to know the people potentially attending. I've never done that and I'm not sure how you would even sort for flakes, let alone compatible personalities. I (we) would personally be hesitant to attend a party where we didn't generally know the people who were attending and who specifically was coming that night. Having some new unknown attendees (potentially interesting/fun/hot) could be an added attraction, but we probably wouldn't commit the time if we didn't know there would be some people there we would enjoy hanging out and playing with. Otherwise we would rather go to the club, which I gather is not an option in your area.

An exception would be parties set up by organized groups, of which there are two in our area. One screens participants and requires pictures, the other does not. Predictably the former has better eye candy at their parties. We generally don't go to either group's parties unless friends are attending as well.

Question: how many people are coming?

Answer: we aren’t sure yet, but we are limiting the number to xxx.

What I’m suggesting is to be truthful (you’ll almost never know how many for sure), but by giving an upper limit you let them know that you are being optimistic.

By the way, next weakend we are going to a party which should be similar to the one you describe in your profile (gloryholes, swings, outdoor naked freedom)

The easiest route is to create a group and then make an event for your party. This will let others freely browse who else has been invited and has accepted the invite to come. As noted, attraction is huge and I am not sure what you mean by merit. There are some folks who will play with anyone they meet but there aren't many of them out there. Allow people to shop for their preferences and don't feel bad when they say "no, thanks." An issue in a smaller area like that is there may be some tension between a couple or two and they may simply want to steer clear of one another. They may also want to avoid seeing certain other community members for discretion's sake. The event page allows them to do that in a manner that isn't rude or causes any problems. It will also save you some time in sending and responding to messages. Good luck.

I’ve hosted several LS parties and I would let invitees know who else was invited and who had committed. My belief is people would want to know if they thought they would fit in.

This LS is based on attraction so it isn’t unreasonable that invitees would want to know who may be attending. Share the information and let all of them know that you are sharing who has been invited.

Good luck and have fun!

~Scamp

We had some questions about organizing a swinger party.
Some of the questions that are hard to answer, we like some input on.

One of the major ones we always get is "How many couples/people are attending"? The frustration in this is we are not sure yet as many couples do not commit to anything and we want to appease the people those that are interested. What is a good response to say even though you are waiting for a tally, technically?

Also, another question is, "can we see the couples/people that are coming?" Is this a good thing to do? Considering that we want this to be a party based on merit and fun, not just looks, or are we interpreting this wrong?

We live in a very rural outstretch area, and that is harder to find people to commit. We need ideas on how to appeal to those that do respond to be interested in coming still without wavering between coming.