"....then I got distracted by the nice photos of the lady when I looked at their profile."
Distracted? Is that what we're calling it now?
Pro tip: Keep the screen close and the tissues closer when you're looking at the nice photos of the nice lady.
Oh, and you might wanna keep the door to your office closed while you're distracted.
Not True.. I welcome all first time posters.. then its "on"!
"Speaking of etiquette, not a single one of you said welcome to a first time Forum participant.
Welcome to the Forum 1yummy! "
Funny thing is I actually thought about it when I saw it was their first post....then I got distracted by the nice photos of the lady when I looked at their profile. And that Ashtabula is only about a 3 hr drive for us.
Dammit. You'd make a poor choice for a wingman.
Or maybe it's wingmate....?
Also traditional is lying.
Within the last couple of weeks, I've gotten messages from two different guys who dropped out of sight a couple of years ago after some uninteresting conversation that I only remember because their profile photos are the same. Because boring messages are actually really common.
Anyway, my rough estimate for people who follow through to some sort of in person meeting, even if they are the ones to initiate the conversation, is somewhere around 10%. And it's only that high because I don't do any searching at all.
Speaking of etiquette, not a single one of you said welcome to a first time Forum participant.
Welcome to the Forum 1yummy!
BTW, it's customary for the F half of a newbie Forum participant to give a blowjob to the first guy who welcomes them. Just part of Forum etiquette.
;-)
Wow, 10 for 10! That sucks. Perhaps this is some new way of thrill seeking? Maybe the thrill is what they "could" have done and not what they did do. Who the hell knows what some of the people on SLS are thinking these days. Just thankful that I have such little reliance on online meetings. This is also a reason our party invite list is only people we've met with in person and know they go to a party to actually play.
After being in the same area for the 10 years we've been in the LS, other than new folks, I've probably reached out to most of the ones of interest on SLS in our area. It's actually rarer for me to engage with many people online these days, and the ones that I do, it's the norm where you hear nothing back from about 80% of them.
There's a lot of folks who think they want to be swingers until the opportunity to do so really comes up IRL and they get scared, chicken out and don't know what to say so they don't say anything.
It's really just part of the lifestyle now that it's internet based.
The old school swingers had to drive to the post office and check their PO box to find out if they got ghosted.
This has become a common occurrence for us as well. Folks reach out to us, chat a bit, agree to meet then disappear when we try to set something up. Never to be heard from again. In fact, we're now 10 out of the last 10 with this pattern.
Thank everyone for your insight sincerely. Thank some of you for your kind words and suggestions. We do understand life happens but still we never enter into a chat without the thought of chatting to see if it will lead to a meet. We have left conversations for life reasons however never without stating why we have to leave and never without saying we hope we can continue and then initiate the conversation again when we are able. We have never been mid question or sentence and then nothing and truthfully this happens more then we understand. I mean why say hello nice pics we are so and so and then when we reply again nothing but crickets. We can agree everyone is here for their own agenda l guess we just figured adult website everyone looking mainly for the same goals to chat meet and see if friendships or more can be developed. I mean most times it is like someone coming up to you in a bar saying hello introducing themselves then walking away ????? again appreciate and will look into some of your suggestions for sure. Appreciate everyone and good luck in the LS
"We realize parties/events aren't for everyone, but the party/event approach is a lot less frustrating to meet and talk to people as well as schedule. For us, if we get to a point of clicking with and meeting people online, it's just icing on the cake."
This is exactly our approach, too. Parties are where it's at over just couple dates in our book.
You get the whole social aspect of a party to get to know people and if that 4-way chemistry isn't there with another couple everyone has more options and people to chat and/or play with. Not everyone always plays at the house parties we go to.
We go weeks at a time with some of the messaging we do with others. It is difficult to schedule things when that is the case, but we understand and don't get frustrated by it. I think the longer we are here, the less there is that seems weird or different. There are so many different ways and reasons people use this site. At this point, it is best to laugh at it and move on.
<p>I'm curious as to what is the time period that goes by that you consider to be "ghosted"? </p>
<p>This is an extreme example, but I know of at least one member that was gone from the site for 10 years and then logged back in. They had an unread message and responded with: "Hey guys. We haven't been on in a while. Are you still interested?" </p>
Well what you are describing seems to have become the norm. People reach out say hello you respond in a timely manner and you get nothing in return. Or you reach out and people can't even have the courtesy to respond with a hi sorry not interested or even go f yourself. We also have been meeting more people at clubs.
Is this a regular occuring thing for you guys? While I can see it perhaps happening once in a while, I'd not expect this to be the norm. There are a subset of people that think people are just here for their enjoyment/use, so that may explain some just abruptly dropping off. By the looks of your pics I'd say that's their loss for burning that bridge.
We tend to spend more time meeting people in person at parties than online, so we're probably less likely to experience this, or even care if it happened. It is very rare for us though. More often than not, life just gets in the way and we sort of drift apart, but we'd certainly not just ignore someone if they wanted to meet us or continue chatting.
We realize parties/events aren't for everyone, but the party/event approach is a lot less frustrating to meet and talk to people as well as schedule. For us, if we get to a point of clicking with and meeting people online, it's just icing on the cake.
From what I gather, those limiting themselves to online-only meetings tend to be frustrated with SLS. It has less to do with people being adults and more to do with some people just not giving a shit about others. Perhaps they did you a favor by ghosting you. It's worse being ghosted after actually meeting and playing with people IMHO.
Ok help us understand being we are completely confused by all the children on this adult web sight.
Scenario: sign in birds flying with some random couple who shows interest. “Hello read your profile we are ___&__ we would like to know more” “hello ___& ___ how are you thank you for you interest thank you for you kind words how are you both” Ghosts??? We are so confused with this dialogue. Like why even say anything if you didn’t wish to chat. We understand some don’t like to chat and wish to meet which we are totally down however why do so many of you start conversations then just disappear. Like just say sorry didn’t mean to start or we changed our mind etc. but to just begin conversations some of which last 10-20 threads then just disappear leaving us like “ah ok” There hasn’t been a conversation we started and didn’t either end with a goodbye or no interest. Can we all just grow up be adults and enjoy the fact most here are here for genuine likeminded conversations with the idea of possibly meeting and playing if all agree. We are just so lost with the whole start a conversation then crickets. Does anyone else experience this same strange phenomenon. Thanking everyone in advance. Be safe out there.
