certifications that are basically meaningless

@DB: in your case, that makes sense. We are typically shy about opening our pics to profiles that have 0 certs or are less than a year old. Lots of bullshit out there & needs to be filtered.

I don't send certs. The people I meet up with don't need to be bombarded with "You fucked him, how about me?" messages.

I try* to articulate my certs in such a way that it's obvious if we slept with them or are simply acknowledging that they are real flesh and blood and we have met them.

I have left both types of certs, depending on what the other cpl requests or does. A few of ours and a few given are nothing more than checking a box, that they are real, showed up & could carry their half of a conversation.

"What do you want in a cert? Strokes/min rate? Suction in mm Hg?"

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My vote for post of the day. :-)

Lol@VA

Nice new (at least to me) pics too.

"What do you want in a cert? Strokes/min rate? Suction in mm Hg?"

Thanks VA - now I have coffee all over my keyboard and screen. ;-)

It just means that they are who they say they are, aren't wildly out of step with their pictures, both halves of the couple are aware of their presence on the site, and they don't seem to be psychotic.

That is worth knowing before you plan a date night with online strangers, don't you think?

What do you want in a cert? Strokes/min rate? Suction in mm Hg?

" Why do people " certify " couples they've maybe just barely run into at a party ? A bar ? or just met over a cup of coffee ? Seeing that this IS a website where we attempt to evaluate sexual attraction, compatability ... relationship potential maybe ....... Or at least a really good rockin' sexual encounters or three."

Nobody else can help you with sexual compatibility, relationship potential, or determine if the sex you have will be rocking. Our incredible experience could be someone else's meh.

What others can certify is that they met these people, that they showed up to the party/coffee date/bar, and made a good impression.

So, that gives you some comfort that you're not talking to catfishers or something worse.

That feels pretty meaningful to me. I'll do my own vetting for attraction, etc.

This seems like a strange thing to complain about.

In addition to Mayhem's points, certs help us to know that it most likely is not a fake profile, they actually meet people and for the more descriptive ones, what they may be into.

This has been mentioned before. It is at least easy to pick out the meaningless ones and discount them as part of your decision making, but it does make one wonder why a person/couple would approve a cert from someone that they never even met in person.

I can see someone saying something like, "Met them at a party and they were so interesting and easy to talk to." One, they were actually at a party, and two, they can carry on a conversation. That's a large part of people's criteria to play with someone beyond just physical appearance.

Oh wait.. with all our contacts over the years Wayne.. guess we need a Cert from you.

Just kidding , its all good!

That a great one Wayne.. guess I need my 600 plus contacts on LinkedIn to come on SLS and certify me.

Its a win win for all !

The problem with that one thought for us on a swinger site , so many we have run into are voyeurs, and those who are here for kicks never intending to exchange partners or even play. Just our thoughts

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=38476696">afterhours2012</a>,</p>

<p>The company policy on certifications is that it means you have met them and that is it. If I am walking down the street and someone says, "Hey, your Wayne from SLS." I would say, "Yup, I am. Give me your profile name and I will certify you when I get home." All that is required is that you have seen the other person/couple in person.</p>

<p>If you want to add more to a certification you can, but members get to accept or decline a certification, so it is doubtful that someone would accept a negative certification.</p>

Certifications are a joke.. when we first came on SLS and already swingers for a long time with our own group of FWB's.. we met several couples and single on SLS who after just talking with them asked us to write a CERT.. we declined and said what for breathing.. sorry we have seen those that collect Certs for just meeting for lunch, dinner, etc, but never.. ever play!!!

Our FWB;s know who we are and what we do.. plus our XXX photos tell a much better story!

When wife and I look at a couple to evaluate their potential as playmates, one major turn-off we see too often. Why do people " certify " couples they've maybe just barely run into at a party ? A bar ? or just met over a cup of coffee ? Seeing that this IS a website where we attempt to evaluate sexual attraction, compatability ... relationship potential maybe ....... Or at least a really good rockin' sexual encounters or three. We don't care if someone chooses to put mustard on their hot dog. Or ketchup. Takes 2 sugars in their coffee. Or thinks New Coke tastes better than original recipe.

We DO look for : do the people practice good hygiene ? respectful to each other ? equally willing and enthusiastic about playtime ? Drugs, alcohol : similar attitudes toward our own ? Can we trust our spouses / partners will be safe while down the hall, in the next room - and not subjected to humiliation, pain or discomfort. So unless you've gotten naked with another couple or person and been with them or seen them in a sexual setting - try to hold off on certifying people !