Being Blocked for No Reason

"The one thing that gets me though is that at least two of those couples had visited my profile numerous times each."

That may have no meaning at all. I accidentally open profiles daily while scrolling through the forum and imagine it happens to others looking at Who's On or some other section of the site. Or, it could mean they couldn't decide you weren't for them without multiple visits.

I haven't looked, but if rabbit says your profile needs work, it needs work. Maybe do that and see if it changes your experience.

A "tool" is a great analogy and how I look at it as well. If/when I occasionally stumble on a blocked profile and don't know why, I assume it is either that something I saw about them in the past caused me to block them, or something they saw about us in the past caused them to pull the block trigger.

Either way, one of our profiles (or both) have made a conscious decision they are not interested in having any interaction with the other. This "tool" is made for just that purpose, to prevent unwanted interactions.

Ya kiddin me, right? It's a tool, no big deal. I block everyone that presents as bi-intolerable, just to spare myself the temptation to engage. Thrilled to find others that have blocked me! It means the system is working! Get over it, and appreciate the ones that haven't...yet!

Yeah, I probably was a little too harsh. I just get tired of people bitching that they are having no luck while not putting in effort.

Being irritable after a sleepless night of stress dreams doesn’t help my mood. My apologies.

~rabbit~

wow Rabbit, kick him again while he is down. Ron you say they blocked you but don't know you? They are saying that they don't want to know you and for any number of reasons like Rabbit has listed. Don't fret just move on.

So they visited your profile. What does that mean? It means nothing. Maybe they think they might know you in real life or are wondering what you could be thinking posting blurry pictures in what looks like) a sweatshirt.

They looked at your profile a time or two (I looked at it 2-3 times this morning). You wrote them. Their response to your message was loud and clear, “not interested”.

~rabbit~

Thanks for the feedback. The one thing that gets me though is that at least two of those couples had visited my profile numerous times each.

Ron, welcome to the forums. If you read through them you will find that you aren't alone in being offended by being blocked. First, keep in mind that blocking is often used as a way to simply cut down the field a bit or avoid any unwanted communication. Most who do it don't intend any personal slight. It just makes the winnowing process much simpler. So, you may simply have been blocked because they block all from your age group, body type, or maybe they didn't like the default pic. Don't think too much about it. Just do as good a job as possible when crafting your profile. Start a thread in better profiles and apply what you learn there. Good luck.

Ron- there is always a reason. Maybe it’s their way of weeding out who they don’t find desirable, maybe it’s because of your low quality pictures.

Maybe is because you prefer to play bareback and aren’t V-safe and they are afraid you’ll slip off your condom, maybe it’s the typos and grammar in your profile.

Maybe it’s the quality of the messages you send, maybe it’s because you are “fluffier” then they like.

Maybe it’s because you’ve been on this site for 4 years yet have no certs. Maybe it’s because you’ve put minimal effort into a highly competitive “sport” and haven’t bothered presenting the very best version of you.

There are always reasons,

~rabbit~

We are all adults here right? Well, I think it is Bullshit that someone can just out of the blue block you. I have been blocked by 4 couples whom I have had no contact with or have sent 1 email to with no reply. These people do not know me and vise versa. There should at least be a process you have to go through to block someone and an email sent to the blockee on why you are blocking them. If I peruse a profile it is because I find someone who I think is worth getting to know and mabey meeting. Being a single male I let them make first contact so that they can decide weather they would like to get to know me. This is to save time writing and getting no reply and out of respect for the couple or female I am interested in.