Normally in the past I have not really bothered with blocking people. just today I blocked a guy that sent a contact message and if he had actually read our profile he would have seen that we have no interest in BBC. Can't take the time to read what we like then you are gone!
I been blocked by several folk who I later met at a swing party. They did not know who I was via SLS but I knew who they were. We met, they liked me in person and we fucked. They would asked me my SLS acct name not realizing that they blocked me. Then they would get home un blocked me and send me a message on how it was so great to finally meet. So folks don't take it personal. Just have fun out there!
Overed... it has happened to us quite often. Most have assumed that we were fake or something else and blocked us. We had a ton of these before we decided to get some certs up. Even after that we had a few. We all create some idea of what a fake profile is and we're never going to be 100% accurate. There was a guy on here arguing that anyone who was wearing a nice dress/ shirt and tie was fake because their defaults weren't tits and torsos.
Our funniest was a couple that sent us a message and then mid chat blocked us. In person we got the whole story about how they were arguing over our profile which was pretty funny to watch.
Seems like everyone communicates differently in a virtual world than they do in real life. That's one of the reasons we extend sm's a little bit of grace. Some of our best connections were with people who couldn't text their way out of a paper bag.
Have been asked for our SLS in person by people who blocked us on SLS. Fun times!
We also agree Florida one less
anyone who blocks us [ or me in particular ] please feel free to do so , dont hurt our feelings at all .
Agreed.. !!
we have also blocked those on SLS who every day.. every hour spew crap and go on and on.. Its a swing site people its suppose to be FUN.. besides those who claim they swing but never do and always have excuses.. !
Blocking them makes "our " journey on SLS much better.
Most of our blocks are simply from people not reading or adhering to basic protocols listed in the profile. One word IM's repeatedly, not opening pics, random spamming or just rude overall tone. We've done this long enough to weed out the fakes & flakes so sometimes it's just preemptive. But I can concur that there is generally always a reason and I say generally because the site glitches more often than not. We have found profiles in our block list that neither of us put there, but I was told that also happens if THEY block you.
Looking under favorites it only lists those you've blocked, it doesn't list those who have blocked you.
Now that I think of it I have blocked multiple couples and single women for various reasons.
Usually because they were full of BS or because they were simply looking to collect photos. Those type of people should be blocked without hesitation.
Also I've blocked for the following I'm just not interested, the profile is lacking information or blank, or My BS metter sense is tingling lol
So yeah I strongly encourage Blocking :)
I actually found the blocked list under Favorites.
Honestly be thankful, not annoyed a lot of these couple's are paranoid. Also a lot of the time it's the male half that's intimidated and is the one doing the blocking.
For those who want to access there block list
Scroll to the bottom of your friends list is people that you blocked/they blocked you.
I’ve only used the block feature a handful of times and it’s always been because they’ve become a nuisance. I’m sure I’ve also been blocked due to my reaching out to someone & their not having an interest in return. I don’t take it personally as it’s just their way of saying no thanks & like a previous poster said, it saves us both time.
If they block you just move on. You don't want to interact with these people anyways.
The Wall is no longer the defailt landing page when you log in, so problem solved as fr as that is concerned.
@mayhem hasn't tried that, but i do know that blocking doesn't remove ppl from showing up on recent matches,hotdates or main page view, just seems to remove em from whos on n search
We block for many reasons but they all fall into the same reasoning. We have no interest. We don't want to explain or feel we have to. Think of it this way. They person blocking you is saving you the time you would have spent maybe saying hello...only to get rejected. So be thankful, not annoyed. Its no diffrent than folks keeping pics under wraps. Its their prerogative...there is acost to it...they may limit there audience, but if they are willing to pay that price.its there choice.
I have blocked many people. Don't over think it. I mainly block just due to not having any interest whatsoever. It's not a slam or anything. It's just as simple as "we have no interest in them so no use in viewing each other."
I'm thinking that the "Wall" may be another reason to get blocked for an apparently unknown reason. I see SMs on our wall saying stuff like 'I wanna couple". I'd just assume not see that, but the Hide button isn't working and, though I haven't tried it yet, I think the only way to NOT see it is to block them.
Oh don't miss understand....I'm not concerned about being blocked. I have tons of cool friends on SLS that I enjoy meeting up with. I'm just letting folk know it happens to the best of us . So don't stress it and move on! So my recommendation to all is to enjoy your selves, have fun out there, be respectful and polite!!. There is too much craziness in the world today to spend much time being worried about being blocked by a couple of people. You have to look at it as their lost!
Blacker- if you walked up to me on the street and said,” hi, how are you? How are you doing during this pandemic?” I would jump back, ask “who the hell are you?! Do I know you?!” And disengage the hope of further conversation.
On here, if you sent that message, I would look at your profile, see your tagline and likely block you. Your tagline is almost the exact quote of what a guy said to me in a club one time. Immediately after he said that to me I pushed him off, dressed and walked away with no explanation. My Scamp is no cuck and I won’t have anyone treat him as such.
You are a disrespectful SM. That is why you got blocked.
~rabbit~.
blackerthanblack so basically you sent them a variable on the basic "Hi how are you?" message that has no indication if you read their profile or just looked at the pictures. Do you have any idea how many similar messages others have sent that read basically the same? Then if the couple actually looked at your profile there could be something they did not like (I have not looked so no clue). Versus "trying" to be polite and say thanks but no thanks which usually gets some kind of negative reply they drew on previous experience with the hundreds of other single males who simply do not make themselves stand out and did a preemptive block. It happens all the time. For example we clearly state we are looking for folks no more than 50 miles away. We constantly get "Hi how are you." messages from single males 100+ miles away. When we have said "Thanks but due to distance..." we frequently get the same reply of "What does that matter if I am willing to travel?" if they are even that polite about it. We simply have started blocking them without bothering to reply due to the fact they disregard what our preferences are and likely never read our profile. Now we could be missing out and it is likely some may consider us rude but due to the fact only once out of multiple times has anyone ever replied "I understand and thanks for the reply." we just make life easy on ourselves.
"Being_Blocked_for_No_Reason"
there is ALWAYS a reason someone was blocked. maybe they aren't looking for or meeting single guys. maybe they didn't like your photos or profile. maybe they just didn't have an interest, and didn't want to see you in searches. maybe they didn't like something you said in the forums.
Hi I just got blocked today by a couple! And this is the first time and only time I ever contacted them. Here is the dirty little message I sent them "Hi how are you?..How are you guys doing in all this pandemic craziness?" BLAM BLOCKED for LIFE!!!...LOL!!!
Oooh..tasty sarcasm from male half of a couple which blocks single guys to avoid "pinging"..while disparaging single men in a men talk thread..U know i sure am sad his wife doesn't eat this stuff up, cause id start serving some passive-aggressive, rejection..ALL DAY LONG!..least while still sheltering in place
