Are any men interested

Deb, he sounds like a good guy. And why have we not met you yet? I'm thinking we'll be hosting a party this spring...

Very well said Gina. We all need love, appreciation, compliments, and all the things that go with being a human being. I was very large (FAT) at one time and my hunnybunny loved me then and told me later he never realized I was fat til after I lost weight. You have to love a man like that. Debbie

As a woman who was only considered a "stick" from birth to about age 8 or 9 ("If you don't eat you're gonna dry up and blow away...), I can say that I hate that comment.
"I might hurt her."
"I don't want a stick, I want a real woman."
"Real women have curves."

We are ALL real women! Just because we are different weights and heights and sizes and shapes does not make any one woman less a woman than any other. It's what us "fat women" say to make ourselves feel better about our fat. Neither type woman, fat nor skinny, should use name calling and put downs and spite to try to make herself feel better.
There is room in this world, AND in this swinging world, for ALL types of people. Stop cutting each other. Most of us do it to ourselves quite enough.

If I fit your attraction preferences, Yay! If I don't, that's fine too. No one has to resort to name calling. It's petty and it's juvenile and I have no time or inclination for it. If I don't like something about myself, then it's up to me to change it. No amount of justification from anyone who is a similar size is going to help me, and neither is no amount of criticism from anyone else. It's what we think of ourselves that really counts.

Gina

Repost of my earlier comment:

"Are any men interested in a woman who is an actual woman and not a stick?"

So.... anyone who's not significantly overweight isn't an actual woman?

"Why do most men get turned off just because I have a few extra pounds?"

Some do, some don't. Those that do, so be it.

"Is today's society that close minded that everyone must be anorexic or spend thousands to look like an airbrushed model out of a magazine?"

Absolutely not. If this were true, 99.9% of women would be repulsive to everyone.

I'm frankly tired of this last bit. I'm tired of women acting like there are only 2 kinds of women - overweight ones and perfect ones. Who the hell is telling you this?

If I were 280 pounds, and complained that my huge beer gut turned women off (don't lie and say it wouldn't), whining that we all don't look like Calvin Klein models and women aren't fair to us etc etc, how far would that go?

Stick chicks? really?

as for me i have a real love for BBW's most are down to earth friendly and very great lovers, and i welcome it.. it is good more guys are into the stick chicks it leaves more to welcome as friends for me / us..

i am in no way over weight but we as a couple get turned down alot since wife is :( but the is their loss..

First of all, YOU are not a BBW if the pic is of you. But I definitely love women with a little more weight.. My wife asks me how did we hook up with her being so small.... I have no answer except to say it's about personality first then smile and body doesn't enter into i at all...... Unless the woman is ugly and all hung over her own body.... I like more meat on than boney....I have two girlfriends and neither is a skinny little thing...

well my thought about this is i look at women not about their weight.its about there heart

Just read his whole 4 posts. LOL LOL.

BLKTT54
I'm guessing that your IQ pretty much matches you age.. assuming you are 54.
Just because you're underprivileged doesn't give you the right to be a DICK.
Maybe you should just go by a sheep..

speechless

that comes across as insulting. ugh. It's just sort of turning the words around. So, you're basically saying that b/c I'm fat I do sexual things to keep my man b/c he appreciates me?

Whew. That's all I have to do?

I used to do BBW but I lost the weight. .
Now I find that man I'm more interested in BBW women than they are in slim women. Any fact, my BBW friends date more than I do. there is someone for everyone whether you are a BBW or not to take pride in your body what ever size you live, love and be the sexiest thing out there that's the best thing you can do for you and for your self-esteem.

I think it's more the non-attraction of someone with a "fat head" (as in stupid, and yes, I discriminate against stupid people, but they don't usually know that's what I'm doing) than it is a fat body. You can have either, or both, as in the OP.

Generalized statements that skinny women aren't actual women attest to that. And I would imagine it's much easier to get rid of body fat than brain fat. It's sad that it's usually women bashing other women, and yes, that is usually born of jealousy, realized or not. There is all sorts of beauty and sizes and it is subjective and preferential and makes life interesting, at the least.

Whiny complaining attitudes are unattractive on any sized person. So are chips on shoulders.

Gina

I love bbws but it is hard to find them on my end. I am in VA and all of them appear to have issues instead of understanding that swinging is recreational not emotional attachment

Sarcasm is not contrary to genuine.

No apology necessary, Thank you nonetheless.

Sed,
I did not state:
-skinny women can't have flaring hips.
-skinny women can't have large breasts.

I do get to make generalizations, when it is the nature of a statement about tendencies. It is not a rule of absolutes by any means. I even went so far as to all caps my expression that these things "CAN'T" be stated with entirety, they are merely tendencies towards.

Few things are absolute when it comes to the human genetics. There will always be those that do not allow fit into absolute categories.
-This could be due to basic genetic dominance.
"There is a tendency for people to have brown eyes when one parent has brown eyes and the other has blue."
-It could be just a random genetic deviation.
"There is a tendency for people to be born with two eyes."
Either way, common or uncommon in cause, I stand by my broadly generalizing statement and usage of the term "tendency."

The post was easily understandable. There was nothing in my post that indicated heavy women were not attractive. Your inference was insulting to me. My response regarding English merely reflected your post.

I was just thinking what would happen if the reverse were to happened, a slender, "airbrushed," "curveless", "titless," posted this drivel. Something along the lines of:

What's wrong with me? I have a flat belly, toned legs, tight little ass, perky tits, and men aren't interested. Do I have to grow a soft apron that hangs over my vagina, do I have to have gigantic droopy boobs with nipples staring at my feet, I can do what these people can not. I thought that this lifestyle was supposed to be about acceptance.

Sheesh.

Read what I wrote as though it is written in English.

Weight is not a trait of personality. Envy, jealousy and contempt sure can be though. I also indicated those traits would be ugly in any person whether chubby, thin or in between.

Not that he needs me to explain for him, but I'm fairly certain that he meant people who describe thin people as some have in this thread.

I totally agree with him.

I love the "bony hips" complaint. I've seen it several times. What a joke. I've always fucked thinner women and I've never had a problem with their hips.

The fact is heavier women (and the CCs who adore them) who complain about thin women are merely expressing envy, jealousy and contempt. None are attractive in any personality regardless of weight.

I'm sorry if I seemed nasty in my reply, but I was feeding off the nastiness of the original post (which I just realized is several months old, and likely the original poster is not even reading this).

It's no different than the black guy who says everyone who doesn't like black guys is racist, the short-haired woman who complains about guys who like or the bald guy who cries foul at every woman who wants guys to have hair. There is no reason whatsoever to whine about it. Maybe men find the crap attitude much less attractive than being overweight.

Sed,
I don't know about CAN'T, so much as a tendancy towards skinny women...

-not being in posession of soft curves

Do you mean fat deposits? I certainly deal with slender women with lovely rounded flaring out hips. If I had a buck for every fat woman that had no hips and carried her weight predominantly around her mid section, I'd be a very rich woman.

-not having natural 40DD's

Huh? where do you get this from? Do you think that only fat women have large breasts? I'm around fat women and skinny women, plenty of skinny women with huge natural breasts, plenty of fat women with tiny pimples.

-not having bony hips that hurt if you hit it too hard

Now I just know that you're making shit up. What's next, you'll tell us that you hit bone too? (rolls eyes).

Generalizations don't work.

" I'm tired of women acting like there are only 2 kinds of women - overweight ones and perfect ones. Who the hell is telling you this? "

Totally agree with you