Respecting the ladies

Appreciate the support!! She asked me if it’s something I need, to which I replied no. I understand to each their own, no judgement here!

That dude can...and rightly should...take a flying fuck at a rolling donut.

"I think it’s more the comment seemed like a judgement on her preference delivered rudely"

There are good people in the lifestyle. Some of them are, as noted previously, awkward in their conversation. Others are clueless. Still good, just...unaware of their impact on others. And then there are the assholes. There are lots of them. I kinda think this guy wasn't being an asshole so much as he was unaware that giving a sideways compliment - she'd be fun anyway - would be taken as a referendum on her/her choices.

She's not attracted to either half of the couple, so it doesn't matter whether he was an asshole or just clueless, but she'll hear a lot worse, especially if the two of you ever turn people down.

[quote=Hockeycouple2008]Her confidence doesn’t just come from strangers, but you’re correct, it should just roll off. I think it’s more the comment seemed like a judgement on her preference delivered rudely[/quote]there are people who can let it roll off. Great for them. There are people that get affected/triggered by personal attacks. We can all say let it go, but some of us need time for that to happen.

Her own time,

Her confidence doesn’t just come from strangers, but you’re correct, it should just roll off. I think it’s more the comment seemed like a judgement on her preference delivered rudely

"As confidence is a big part of this whole lifestyle, why say something that makes her feel inadequate because of her choice?"

If your sense of confidence depends on strangers, especially male strangers, not being dumbasses, the lifestyle is going to shred you.

This is not me giving the guy a pass, this is me saying to let your confidence come from inside you and from the people who love you, and in the lifestyle let the good stuff boost you a very little and the bad stuff roll off.

True, true, true.. I mean I just realized there is an omitted word in my original post, so it happens…

Some guys are just awkward with words but some guys are just rude. Eloquent messages are rare.

Makes me wonder if he even realized what he said and how it came off

[quote=Onehorneywife]There are countless rude and crude people on the different web sites. Just had a guy this morning call my wife a cunt because we said sorry the attraction wasn't there for us no mind the fact he was in Vegas and us in Tenn. Just block the fool that insulted your lady and move on.[/quote]Yep, had this happen on another site. Single male. Didn't read profile. Was outside our stated age range. Politely replied that were weren't a match. Reply back was filled with a litany of personal insults.

Not sure how people can be so un self-aware

I’m sure she’ll stop interacting with him. She’s not even attracted to him or his wife for that matter

There are countless rude and crude people on the different web sites. Just had a guy this morning call my wife a cunt because we said sorry the attraction wasn't there for us no mind the fact he was in Vegas and us in Tenn. Just block the fool that insulted your lady and move on.

Just to get something off my chest that is bothering my Mrs. & in turn is upsetting to me. We have recently joined a social media group for swingers and some messages have come in, with 1 M ( part of couple) messaging the most. Over the weekend he was explaining about a MFFF he was about to have, and kindly my Mrs. replied sounds like a good time, enjoy!

He responds asking if he would need a scuba mask if he ever gets the opportunity to go down on her. She answers no, as she’s not a squirter. His response= “I’m sure your fun anyway”

WTF??? As confidence is a big part of this whole lifestyle, why say something that makes her feel inadequate because of her choice? She’s really not into this guy / couple anyway, but was bothered still the same.

I realize this isn’t about feelings, and there’s a self- imposed disconnect between the lifestyle and emotional attachments. But seriously— have some respect for other people, especially when you don’t if they struggle with putting themselves out there at times.