I'd say have an honest and well-timed conversation about your interests and thoughts, and hear what she has to say about it. It's not so much about convincing her, but letting the process evolve (if it will). It is MUCH more about the right guy than just a package. Perhaps during intimacy, IR porn, bbc dildo use, and/or dirty talk might add some spark to bbc discussion ;).
Be well and feel free to send me an e-mail with any further questions/thoughts!
"We see at least 5x the bulls compared to unicorns"
Stay out of the china shop during peak hours.
Uriah,
We think your off by quite a bit. We see at least 5x the bulls compared to unicorns
Steer clear of the bull?
I see what you unintentionally did there.
FF: A bull is twice as horny as a unicorn.
“Crazy” blocked us months ago so I have no idea what nonsense they posted. I wasn’t questioning your level of interest in BBC or offense to the term.
We have found that guys who use “BBC” or some variation of “Bull” in their profile name are the male version of “unicorn” and we tend to steer clear.
~S~
With a profile named “crazy”, do you really want an explanation?
~S~
Seems like someone "needs" to be offended...
I got tripped up in my negatives and double negatives in my previous post (yeah, I flunked English 101).
I meant to say " I would speculate that many (if not most) of us who identify as "swingers" of any variety probably also grew up with the idea that swinging of any variety was "not right"...….at least by implication, if not explicitly.
"She thinks it's not right, from her up bringing. I'll just let her come to her own desires and take it from thete."
Rckymt, Truly that is your best option, but here is a thought to ponder in the meantime. I would speculate that many (if not most) of us who identify as "swingers" of any variety probably also grew up without any affirmation that swinging was "not right"...….at least by implication, if not explicitly.
Good luck!!!!
She thinks it's not right, from her up bringing. I'll just let her come to her own desires and take it from thete.
What are her hesitations?
Just because I feel like stirring the pot.
BBC is not racist.
Never has been, never will be.
Big is not racist.
Black is not racist.
Cock is not racist.
Three non racist terms together does not equal a racist abbreviation.
If BBC is racist is SWC (small white cock) racist? Is TAC (tiny asian cock) racist?
People throw out the word racist and racism with no fucking idea what it actually means. There is a MASSIVE difference between a stereotype and racism. There is also a massive difference in preference and racism.
Crazy, I am wondering...……………………
"When people engage in the pursuit of bi-sexuality, are they bothered at all by the grotesque history of it? Or by the way it degrades the participants? Do people just overlook that? Or are they unaware of the negative implications? (Yes, the cries of innocence will being in 3... 2... 1... but they don't fly.)"
Just for clarification. My comments are solely intended to elicit Crazy's thoughts. I have NO issues with either inter-racial or bi-sexual sex.
My wife knew for last 4yrs. N finally the right bbc came akong n she did it for me. Now she loves chocolate as she says but not bareback yet. That will take time. If you push her too hard she might shut down let it go at your own pace
I’d take her to a bbc friendly party and just let her watch...
Rckymt69. Before you expect your wife to do something you should do it yourself. Male or female BBC you will know if its good.
We never had any racial barriers and had a hard time figuring out why a big black cock was any different than a big white one or a blue one for that matter. I never compromise standards or just fuck because a man has a huge cock. A well equipped gentleman is simply that. Looking at a person as sort of a novelty item due to skin color seems strange. I don't want to digress too far. On the topic at hand, as suggested, let your wife move along at her own pace and put effort into finding out what body types, personalities, and cock sizes she actually she desires. Work on making her fantasies come true.
Wife is wanting BBC. If anyone knows of a guy ask him to get in touch
This more than likely will sound really direct.
Why are you forcing her to do something because you want it? You stated she has hesitations. Now we do not know what the hesitations are, and you may not know all of them, but do you OWN her? Shouldn't she be able to do as she pleases with her life and have you along for the ride?
Here, let me try this a different way. Wanna take a quick poll? Ask 100 women in the lifestyle if they think two guys giving each other blowjobs is hot and you will probably get about 70% that think it is hot and want to see it. Would you like your wife to come on the forums and say, "Husband's first cock sucking I want my husband to suck a cock and take a load in his mouth. He has hesitations. How do you progress into this?"
Now of course, if you are bi, dammit, my rant makes no sense :)
In my opinion, part of the lifestyle is about being able to comfortably discuss your desires/kinks with your spouse and then being able to execute it. So if you have no desire to execute her desire for you to take a load of cum in your mouth, that ends it :)
My wife is ready but can't find the right one the last one I chatted with wanted bareback and I told him she would be the one to decide that then he told me he would purposely rip the condom so he could fill her up that ended our conversation
Thanks for the input, that's what I was thinking. Appreciate it.
Our advice...don't try to convince her. Instead, let her know you support it. Let her know you have her back and will make sure that she is in control.
It may never happen. But if it does it should be her idea and not because you convinced her. Omid that happens and it doesn't go well it will be your fault.
Just our opinion.
As with all aspects of swinging, I found that the wife has to proceed at her own pace, the pace at which she is comfortable. Nothing wrong with putting her in situations where an opportunity exists, but it is totally up to her to take the plunge when she feels comfortable and ready to do so.
In our case, we had been involved in swinging for approximately seven years, she had passed the point of being comfortable having her own adventures. We were at the Swingstock event in Minnesota, in our motor home. I was inside the motor home, she was sitting outside nude or semi-nude (been several years ago, the details are a bit fuzzy now) under the awning. I heard her speaking to someone, looked out the window, and saw the gentleman walking up to her who was about to enter a new frontier for her. They got acquainted for a bit, and were soon headed inside where it was more comfortable.
As the saying goes, the rest is history....and the beginning of many more adventures.
