Is there anything wrong with this?

I've seen crazier shit at kink conventions. Definitely not my thing, but go for it.

BullShirt50, being bound is not my thing, but as long as it turns you on, go for it

My question is why specific to duck feathers? Why not just feathers or maybe bird, chicken or ostrich ? Erotic put some serious thought into this one lol.....J/k

Upside down with duck feathers? The mental image alone made me laugh.

You are human and have a life. You lost your wife, but not your life. Live your life. If your desire is to be hung upside with duck feathers tickling your ass, what's wrong with that? It is YOUR life.

I am sorry for your loss, but you are still above ground and as such, are still human and as such, still have desires.

There is nothing at all wrong with your fantasy and it's certainly achievable. I've done both, although not to the same man and not with someone I just met. I'm not sure how I'd feel if a stranger asked me to do either one, but I'd be fine with the request from someone I knew. it also needs some planning. I mean, I carry bondage tape routinely, but harnesses are bulky so mine stay at home unless requested, you'd need your own dildo (and condoms that fit it), and if you want actual restraints, someone has to bring those. Oh, and gloves and lube would definitely be useful.

You know your own innards best, but maybe it would help to know that I work out my feelings physically. I could sit and process, I suppose, but it wouldn't be very effective once Dickinson's formal feeling passed. After that, I need to move my feelings and keep moving until I'm ready to reflect, then it's rinse and repeat.

To find women to do that is going to require you to hire them.

Thank you for your honesty. I feel like I have processed the loss thoroughly but you may be right; maybe I need to get back into things slowly and push fantasy aside until I'm a bit more secure. This is not a new thought for me by the way, so thank you for validating it.

We see nothing wrong with your fantasy. However, it seems to us that you're still dealing with the impact of your loss. We think you should work through those feelings first before getting too deep.

This is obviously based on very little information and no real idea of who you are and what you've been through. So apologies if it seems wildly off base.

We're certainly sorry for your loss.

I've been widowed now for five years. My wife and I were in the lifestyle prior to her passing, and she was a watcher/be watched type. I can count on one hand and still have fingers left the number of times we played with another male (1), a woman (0) or another couple (0) and I was OK with all of it. It was all about her all the time - as it should have been - and I was more than willing to go along with whatever she wanted.

Now after four years of isolation I find myself willing and wanting to rejoin the living and come back to the lifestyle in a very limited manner. I enjoyed the friendships we had and have begun reaching out to a select few on an infrequent basis. I've played a handful of times and it's been great but it's got me thinking about a specific fantasy that my late wife and I discussed but never indulged.

I want to have my arms and legs bound while two women use me for their pleasure. I don't want pain, humiliation or degradation but being teased with no relief until THEY choose to use me is a huge turn on. It is exceptionally difficult for me achieve an orgasm but I know from experience that having my prostate stimulated gets the job done, so ultimately at some point I'd want one to one peg me while the other either rides or blows me until I cum. Since this was not something she was interested in and one of our rules was that we never played separate I never pressed the issue, but now that I'm single the thought has cropped up.

So the questions rolling around in my squirely mind is am I being selfish and is this just too far off the rails to even think about if I'm NOT being selfish?