hard to find good males

to Torrington...... I completely understand your comment. Just coming in for the end game is so boring.

To invite someone into your intimate life and share your bodies, a heaping dose of sensual seduction goes a long way to making a memorable experience. I know that some couples may like the quickie to spice up their life as foreplay. But I think more perhaps are interested in play acting the seduction which leads to a great time for all. I don't think anyone is looking for a love interest, but that doesn't mean you can't make it interesting!

JMVHO

@torrington - I'm guessing that English is a second language for you? If yes, you can try asking for help here in the Better Profiles thread and/or, in the Additional Comments section actually put that English is a second language and maybe mention what your first language is. That may attract others that you can better communicate with.

Communication is key to finding what you want. You may find that you do better in person and it's worth trying to attend some local lifestyle parties in your area. That way you and your wife will get to meet guys in person, and perhaps even witness them in action.

I did notice that you have been members for the last 2 years and it shouldn't take THAT long to find what you're looking for. I will also say that this comes across as 100% the fantasy of the man and the Mrs really isn't on board with this. If she is, it would help your cause if she could edit your profile and put in her own words what she is looking for. Good luck.

Love find non pushy guy has massage table and willing slowly seduce my wife. She has agreed to this as start of playing and experimenting. But most guys just want sex and not willing put in work. Also trying find cool couple but that also has been hard. Any advice on

I am not sure it is “hard” to find good males, but it is time consuming and requires appropriate vetting. Too many are looking for the “Wikipedia” of effort in finding people!

I'm having just the opposite problem, I can't find quality couples in my area. Everyone is like a three hour drive.

After reading from the sidelines for many months this is going to be my first post. I find that there are a lot of good males out there. You just need to vent them, exchange messages to get to know them. Then arrange for a meet for a nice adult drink in a public place. The truly good ones will make that date. Others I have come to find are fakes, photo collectors.

For those looking for good males simply do a male search, make sure they are paid, have photos, and certs help. Really read the profile and certs as well as the ladies or couples who write those certs. If the profile is well written, the certs are well written, most likely the person is educated and not a bottom feeder. I always look at the profiles of people who have viewed me, if they catch my eye I will thank them for taking a peek at me. Simply take it from there. I understand why guys get a bad rap on this site, most are asses but the good ones, they are rare and worth looking for.

Mayhem8, you made me laugh!

Easy to find one here in central SC. If you travel I 95 stop at a hotel near Florence and give me a shout

I do what it takes to satisfy ladies guys and couples

You may want to reset your toggles as they now say, Want smokers and drinkers". Noticed neither of you smoke so...

If you get inundated by SMs you may want to list specific criteria. For example, does she like tall guys, clean shaven, bad boy or sense of humor, etc?

Most of your Looking For section belongs under Description and there is very little there about what you're looking for.

A small nit, but most of your sentances don't start off in caps and some of your punctation and word use is wrong (i.e. were vs we're). It makes you come across as either lazy or uneducated.

Of course, with a Mrs that looks like yours, none of that may matter. Especially to many SMs, but keep in mind many SMs aren't likely to be "good" SMs. If they were, they'd be a lot easier to find ;-)

Damn near impossible to find......but when you do!

Rabbit is firmly in the “hard males are good to find” camp.

~Scamp

So have you had any luck after fixing your wording in your profile?

mandr. Much improved profile! Now just add a pic or two of the male half and you are there. Wish I were younger and closer . . . .

I agree that being positive about what you prefer rather than negative about what you don't want will help.

You should use a computer rather than your phone to compose your profile text and probably should copy the text into a word processor and run spell check & grammar check on it - your generally poor punctuation makes it hard to read (especially your lack of apostrophes - for example "were" rather than "we're"). And YELLING won't help with those that don't read profiles and will alienate those that do.

Good luck & have fun.

~Phoebert's Wife

It takes a lot of vetting, yet with lots patience too, it eventually pays off. It's hard enough to find three or four and the ability to have the same schedule to meet at the same time. With the new profile reviewing on SLS, it may take a while (several hours) to see the changes, yet I must say I find myself often giving silent kudos to the Travelers, as they seem to always have a way with words when it comes to making lemonade from lemons.

Don't forget to change your other profile as well and good luck to you folks.

~Allen

i agree and have changed it

@miaandrob

Everyone has preferences. Just decline the one's that do not match your preferences.

In my humble opinion, a profile that says "She really enjoys playing with white guys" sounds 100 times better than something harsh like "ONLY WHITE MALES".

gfood points and will change that . she likes white males and is very firm about that i will see if i can change it to sound better . i didn't even realize it said no single males but will change that as well thanks for the advice. and yes this goes for adff as well

M&R: Is this concern local to SLS or are you including your AFF profile as well? Just curious.......

:Mi-a-fan:

:-)

~Allen

@Miaandrob, yes, I agree with the other comments, when your profile clearly states in all caps, "no single males", why would any contact you. Now since I am in your area, if you look at my profile and she thinks I may be her cup of tea, send me a bird ;-)

Fully agree. No reasonable, or “good” maleis going to reach out when all the indicators on the profile say “no chance” . . . Or minimal chance at best. Add a phrase like “no single men” and the message is clear; run, don’t walk away! If you are truly open to, or want to find a SM, adjust your profile!

You eliminate black men and have the NO SINGLE MEN in caps in your profile. On top of that you admit she's picky and you guys don't like to go to parties, so it shouldn't be a big surprise it's hard to find good men.

One of the SMs we know said, "How do you think couples would feel if I put NO COUPLES. I WILL CONTACT YOU IF INTERESTED in my profile." Yeah, if you're a GOOD SM, the NO SINGLE MEN thing is a turn-off for them.

A good SM already has decent contacts so avoiding you for spite isn't far fetched. I'd consider changing that text to "Looking for select SMs" and then define what your criteria is if you want to increase your chances.