First time mfm

Yea, Mayhem said! Lol

Let her take the lead and see where it goes. Especially if she has been in the LS for a while.

Our first MFM was also our best. She was being sexy and flirty. She kept teasing us and got us both visibly excited. Once we both had a bulge she walked up to him, unzipped his pants and his rock hard cock popped in to her mouth! We ended up in our room banging my wife, she was in heaven!

MFM is really a self starter. If she wants it to happen it will. Never fails.

If your girlfriend was in the LS before then it's a very good chance that she'll know when and how she wants to proceed. As mentioned, the first time is always a little tougher to get started than subsequent times, but it also tends to be the most exciting. Best bet is to ask you're girlfriend upfront if she wants your help or feels comfortable taking the lead.

If you're at a hotel and you do like to drink, a drink or 2 definitely helps everyone relax and move things in the right direction. If you're someplace that you can dance, that may be a good ice breaker. Depending on what you do before you get to the room there could be some petting/groping so that you don't even need to think about it once you actually get there.

Meet first for a drink or two in a public place, share some stories about past encounters, agree on rules ( safe sex ). at some point excuse yourself to go to the bathroom to let her and him talk. When you get back make sure she is comfortable and wants to go forward. Then head for the room. It will all fall naturally into place. This was how my first time with a couple went at their direction and it has always worked for me since with other couples. Key is getting comfortable with each other in a neutral setting before jumping in. gives all involved the opportunity to back out with no hurt feelings.

Best of luck

There ISN’T one, single way to do this.

Personally? I’d just say you haven’t done this mfm thing before. I’d tell her she’s beautiful and you can't wait to get to know her. Give her a nice, gentle kiss, ask what she wants to drink. Your wife should slowly begin getting undressed at that point.

Or, some variation of that. This is just one way...Things should progress from there. Kissing and compliments. Etc.

Usually she takes the lead and removes a piece of clothing. Generally it is her top or dress. Usually she has nothing under her top or nothing but a thong under a dress but she might have a matching bra/panty set. Then it all pretty much flows naturally from there.

In a MFM situation with a newly met SM, assuming we all hit it off over a drink and proceed to the bedroom, I will generally just stand back at first, give them some room, then watch the action for a while.

After many years of dabbling in swinging, I have yet to see either her or the SM fail to figure out how to move forward with the action. After a bit of one-on-one, she will look over at me and ask me to get involved, but it does not take any coaching or directions from me to get things started.

Don't over think this or over-plan it. If she and the SM hit it off, and you are "on board", things will move forward gradually and naturally.

Phoebert has been known to lift my shirt and invite our guest to suck my tits - telling him that I like to have both sucked at the same time. Once they start that my hands start exploring - and then rather quickly the worst of the first time awkwardness has worn off. ;-)

Hi my girlfriend and I are about to have our first mfm. She has been in the life style for awhile. I am new. Question is laugh if you want lol. Ince we got to the hotel room what's the best way to start