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I am here in south Florida as a single male looking for either a MFM or MMF threesome. Please let me know if anyone has any interest in teaching a newbie

I was a bit nervous and the husband say she's already naked go jump in bed and she will show you what she wants. She was extremely hot and had me hard as a rock in no time. After watching the husband joined in for a split roast and then took a break for some water and went right back at it. So far every couple I have played with have been great. One ended earlier than I expected but was still great. As a single guy couples are what really what I like. I want to try a DVP but haven't met anyone that's into it yet.

My first time was with 2 very assertive guys. It was overwhelming at first but I loved it. I dont think I would have enjoyed it if it was with guys that were shy or unsure. It helped me sorta lay back and enjoy the moment. Of course now things are different and I enjoy taking charge on occasion lol.

My first 3some was when I was in college . I shared a house with a guy that soon became my good friend. We shared homework, went to parties together...generally hung out together all the time.

He happened to have a sizzling blonde girlfriend that flaunted her body and flirted with me whenever she came over. One time I was waiting for her to vacate the bathroom, waiting outside the door. As she opened the door and saw me waiting, she smiled and put her arms around me and kissed me deeply, grinding her hips against mine. Being very surprised by her aggressiveness, I kisssed her back. My roommate was in the other room and didn't know we were making out. We soon broke our hold on each other and she went back to her boyfriend.

One day, she came over and Dan, her boyfriend, wasn't home yet, but soon to arrive. She knew this and pushed me into my bedroom, unbuckling my pants, threw me on the bed and started giving me fantastic head...slurping up and down on my cock in desperation to get me off. We heard a car door slam.She got up and left me, with a hard on and naked to go greet him.

She continued flirting with me every chance she had when Dan wasn't around. Always rubbing my crotch and ass when she could.

New Years Eve....They had married and had their own apartment now. They invited me over to celebrate with them. Turns out, I was the only one they had invited. We had drinks, watched TV and around 11pm she put on music, turned the TV off and lowered the lights. Dan sat in a chair and she sat on the sofa with me. Her hand on my thigh, moving up and down my leg.She whispered that she and Dan..... since he and I were such good friends..... discussed having me fuck with them. I looked at Dan as he smiled. Before I could say anything, her hands unzipped my pants and pulled out my cock. Apparently, Dan's cock wasn't as big as mine and she mumbled she loved sucking on a big cock.She took me to my balls with deep, sloppy sucking, getting me hard in no time.
Then she stood, stripped off her clothes, revealing to me her hard, hot body. She sucked me more and with Dan watching ,announced she wanted to fuck. Dan stripped and had her suck him as well. With two hard cocks at her pleasure, she mounted me and rode me while sucking Dan. She was dripping wet as my cock pounded her, her juices running down my shaft.She kept moaning about getting fucked by a big cock. Dan's turn....He fucked her doggy while she deep throated me some more. Soon, Dan said he was cumming, filling her pussy with his load. I wasn't done.

I laid her on the sofa on her back, spread her legs and pounded her deep, hearing her moaning, screaming for me to fuck her harder. Dan fed her his cock in her mouth as she sucked the last drops of cum from him. I felt my load coming...and soon announced I was gonna cum....She went into hyper-fuck mode, screaming louder to fuck her harder, "Give me all that cum!"....
I exploded in her...filling her with all that I had. I pulled out as she dove for my cock, sucking me like a cheap whore! We all laid on the sofa....catching our breath....then bursting out in laughter. She said she wanted to fuck me from the first time she saw me, and unknown to me,Dan was aware of this and wanted to watch her with me as well.

I stayed the night. We fucked a few times more until at 4am I was wasted. This all goes to show you how an innocent gathering can evolve into some very erotic fun! We hooked up together many more times over the months, even having her girlfriend join us.

My first experience in the lifestyle was aa a married person. In reading these post there is a common thread to them called communication. Communication in both verbal and non verbal forms, that should take before (mostly verbal), during (mostly non verbal) and after (mostly verbal).

The point is without communication your experience will be dead in the water.

I do agree that being nervous and excited are pretty much the norm in the beginning and the process during that time is one of feeling out each others likes and dislikes.

For some the lifestyle is an awesome awakening of one’s sexuality whereas for others they find the lifestyle did not meet their hopes and desires.

Whatever course this journey finds you taking be respectful and communicate with each other. - wishing you the best as you two embark on a new journey of a sexual awakening together

OHC - That is exactly our take on the LS as well. I often do the "bowling" analogy.

Ditto on the good advice. I can't see the LS working (3 somes or otherwise) if both are not on the same page and in agreement that this is only recreational sex.

Good advice. Hey it is only recreational sex for you both to enjoy. Some people play golf or tennis or bowl. We play sex

Just go for it! If you both want it, try it. If one of you decides its not for them, then stop and don't do it again. Many couples find it brings them closer and is a sign of their love for each other. BUT, be sure the two of you understand the difference between love and lust. Everyone wants to fool around once in a while, but no one wants the one they love to fall in love with someone else. If you don't think one of you can handle it, then don't !

Is he "open to it" or enthused about it?
Our first mmf just happened about a week ago, married 30 plus years, still madly in love. It was my idea actually. She was only nervous about her body image which at her age is delicious, despite her self doubt.

It was an awesome experience, hopefully to be repeated many more times.

If he isn't actually enthusiastic and is just accommodating your desires, maybe have a serious talk about what you're looking for (not a replacement, a supplement) to add to your (hopefully) already great sex life.

Hope you have a wonderful experience, best wishes ?

I understand your nerves. When we had our first threesome, she was very concerned that my reaction would be jealousy, feeling threatened if she enjoyed it, or even thinking badly of her. Once I reassured her I would be fine, we decided to go for it. She was very nervous when we got to the hotel, and I started by having him feel the material of her top which progressed to massaging her breasts on top to reaching under and playing with her nipples then we lifted her top enough to both suck her boobs at the same time. Her head leaned back and her eyes closed and she commented how wonderful it felt and lifted her arms straight up signaling to take her top off. We got naked and I took her hand and moved it to his hard cock. She started stroking him and he started rubbing her pussy then moved to the bed and started going down on her. By the time we finished, she had cum 6 times. It was amazing. I spent a few weeks reassuring her I enjoyed it and made sure she knew I was proud of her for surrendering to the pure pleasure of it. She said she would try it again. We did a few meet and greets and had picked another third, but Covid squelched it. During that time I kept in touch with a guy and finally we met him for dinner and it was an instant connection between them. It was a month before we got together and after he got her off and she saw I was not only ok with them having sex, but actually encouraged them to let themselves go and do anything they wanted to.

That session that gave her intense orgasms convinced her that she was free to say what she wanted and to respond to his kisses and his touch and made her totally comfortable naked with both of us with the lights on and didn’t need to cover up after they were done.

I believe if your hubby will give you the reassurance I gave her and you feel you can trust his reassurance, it can be a hot, wonderful experience for you. My wife now has a fave two she loves to be with and we see them about once a month. We love sharing with her special friends and we are crazy in love with each other.

Thank you all for your feedback it was very helpful..

Over thinking it isn't necessarily a bad thing, however isolating what it is exactly your concerned with is going to be key. There's a lot of emotions that you go through in these adventures and being able to break them down to the root is almost fundamental.

If this isn't a surprise for your partner then I would definitely recommend talking to him/her 100% honestly about your concerns. Easier said then done, share what insecurities you have or what you're scared of possibly happening. You might me pleasantly surprised that they share the same feelings/thoughts.

People will dirty talk about the idea and it thrills them to no extent. Then the moment comes and they can find themselves overwhelmed. Take your time communicate communicate communicate, then communicate some more. This isn't a race by any means, it's fun and exciting and incredibly sexy yes, for those that can lay the foundation to build on.

“I have a little nervousness about it hurting our relationship”

I think this is one of the most common reasons why women are reluctant to get involved in a swinging situation.

In what ways do you imagine your relationship being damaged?
Do you think your husband will look at you differently after seeing you with another man?
Are you afraid that you’ll like it too much and subsequently see your husband as inadequate?

Think about the specific things which make you nervous. Have ongoing discussions with your husband about those things. Make sure he fully understands how you feel. Vow to to have meaningful conversations after the MFM about what went well, and what you would like to change for the next time.

Thank you

joeshmoeandmary

While every couple is different, when we got started we arranged for our first meet as a soft swap only. This took the stress off almost completely. As it turned out, we went a lot further than soft on that first night, but by going into it assuming it will be only soft swap, it reduced the stress, decreased expectations, and had it not gone well, made for an easy out.

Hello,
I am brand new in this lifestyle and I am seriously thinking about a 3 some with my husband and another man possibly a full swap. The thought makes me NERVOUS and excited!! Any advice? Pros and cons? Do's and don'ts?? My husband is open to it but I have a little nervousness about it hurting our relationship?? I may be over thinking it