Another echo repeating the same advice. DO NOT try behind her back. If your already playing you know honesty is the basis for all the playing you are doing or will be doing. She might like the thought, hate it, not sure, love it or be against it but any which way its in the open and you didnt open a can of dishonesty and she will appreciate you were trusting enough to be open with her
I'm going to echo many here . Don't do it behind her back ,just be honest with her .
Personally If I can't tell my wife what I'm doing I don't do it . 1 morals 2 I find it hot when she knows about it .
If you want to try something behind her back I would suggest not doing it on SLS where you have been since 2012. There is a very big chance that either she will see your post or an SLS friend will tell her or a lifestyle friend you met at a party will see your post and tell her.
On top of all of that, doing anything behind her back when she swings with you will really fuck up your relationship. Even if she has a secret fantasy to watch you with a guy and gets really turned on that you tried it, being mad that you did it behind her back will override.
I can't imagine having a wife that I could discuss watching her fuck other guys, but not ask if she would be ok with me trying a guy.
ExploringCouple1980 - Good point. The Mrs loves seeing me have a good time with others just as much as I enjoy seeing her have fun with others. I wouldn't expect bi play would be any different if either she or I truly enjoyed it.
Tell her. I guarantee you will enjoy it more with her. The first few times I had uncomfortable mixed feelings after, but my wife was there to reassure me that just because I enjoyed the play it doesn’t mean I’m any different than before. You won’t have that by yourself. Also, you’ll not have the thrill of her enjoying it with you.
I'll second the thought that doing something on the "down low" is generally not the best way to fly.
I guess the $64 question is why is telling the Mrs an issue? Are you expecting the Mrs to be upset by you're wanting to try bi-play? I can pretty much guarantee that if you try this and get caught, she WILL be upset, and it will likely have nothing to do with the bi play. Your call, but don't expect people here to help you cheat on your wife. Even on a swinger site, asking for advice on how to cheat is not well received.
Sorry…
“I am A single male”.
Hmmm, you and I are nearly in the same place, only I am single male. I am curious enough to think about bi oral during a MFM threesome. For me, I think some 1 on 1 action has to to start slowly. Perhaps a mutual masturbation scenario progressing to giving each other a hand? Just thinking about it though, makes me hard.
Why not just me honest with your lady and tell her about your feelings. If she is a good understanding person, she will be open to at least trying it once with you.
I'm a married straight man of my whole life.however,lately I am getting very turned on watching bi 3 sums and really want to know how to get my first experience alone without wife to see if I like it before I inform my lady. Please help !
Larry
