In this captivating episode, host Jason delves into the vibrant world of Halloween and its significance in the lifestyle community. Declaring Halloween as the best lifestyle holiday, Jason explores the unique blend of costumes, parties, and sensuality that makes this time of year special for those who embrace ethical non-monogamy.
Listeners are invited to explore the intersection of the vanilla world and the lifestyle during Halloween, where inhibitions are lowered, and creativity shines through costumes and parties. Jason shares personal anecdotes from a recent Risqué Lifestyle Halloween party, highlighting the freedom and excitement that come with dressing up and letting loose.
The episode offers practical tips for navigating both vanilla and lifestyle Halloween events, emphasizing the importance of body positivity and inclusivity within the community. With humor and insight, Jason reflects on the cultural impact of Halloween and its enduring appeal as a time for self-expression and connection.
Tune in for an entertaining exploration of Halloween's role in the lifestyle, complete with advice on costumes, party etiquette, and the joy of embracing one's true self in a world of fantasy and fun.
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Transcript
Speaker1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Wherever you are, I hope you have blue skies. Welcome to the Another Lifestyle Podcast. I'm your host, Jason. Leave vanilla behind as we see what is going bump in the night. Happy Halloween, y'all. I'm declaring Halloween as the best lifestyle holiday on the calendar. This holiday has everything. A reason to get dressed up, a reason to party, a reason to get naked and eat candy. That too. What makes Halloween so special to the lifestyle community? What freaky frights are floating through the night to scare the vanilla world? Please know this podcast is intended only for adults. It is not safe for work. We will talk about adult or sexual topics, and I'm going to use some salty language often. This content is for entertainment purposes only, and again, only for those over 18 years of age. I also try to be as inclusive with my language and terms as I can. It can be challenging to formulate and write and say all the inclusive terms in every instance. For simplicity's sake and time management, I may use terms like husband or wife or partner or spouse for the purpose of the narrative I am sharing. This podcast is for everyone, though. No matter your background, gender identity, gender expression, or whatever truth you may be living, everyone is welcome no matter how you personally experience the lifestyle and ethical, not monogamy. Halloween, traditionally a season of trick-or-treating for kids, candy, costumes, spooky season, and scary movies. Our modern sanitized version of plastic mask is now a small stop on the never-ending march toward the holidays and Christmas. Why are Christmas decorations out in stores before Halloween? I know the answer is capitalism, I get that, but I wanted to lament and ask that rhetorically. While Halloween's footprint and the cultural zeitgeist of the Western world is shrinking in the lifestyle, though, Halloween is still the absolute best fucking holiday the rest of the year. The lifestyle community has to censor and hold back. Okay, yeah, we really don't, but we just don't hide it as much around Halloween. And the vanilla people don't notice us either. The rest of the year, it may be a little socially unacceptable to dress up as a scantily clad nurse or just in a rope. I've seen that. I saw a lady wearing a single rope. It went up one side and down the other. It was great. This time of year, though, don't have to hide as much. We blend in with everyone else. Suddenly the veil between the vanilla world and the lifestyle thins, shimmers, and breaks. The vanilla crowd comes very close to crossing over to the other side and they never even know it. The vanilla people will dress in their sexiest cat girl outfit and decide this is the most liberating night of the year because they can walk around in their underwear. But for us, we always feel that way. And when everyone is in lingerie at a party, can you really tell who the swinger is in the crowd? While the rest of the world focuses on amassing dangerous levels of candy on this night, for the lifestyle people, it is our favorite holiday of the year. It is my favorite holiday, at least. This past weekend, my wife and I attended Risqué Lifestyle's Halloween party. It was epic, as epic as always as i was standing in the ballroom a dance version of metallica's unforgiven yeah thumping in my chest courtesy of friend of the show dj fabes surrounded by lifestyle friends having fun it hit me halloween is just the fucking best y'all in the lifestyle community we have a chance to pour our creative juices into costumes and parties we We have a night where the vanilla world embraces being sexy and wild. The unknown spaces we exist open their doors to the vanilla world if only for a few hours. At a Halloween party where someone lowers their inhibitions enough to ask, what if? Lost in a swirl of vampires, ghouls, sexy nurses, a couple of fairies, and the sexiest version of Pennywise the Clown you have ever seen. The air was palsy-thumping, heavy with excitement and anticipation for the event. On the edges of the crowd, bunnies and devils prowled in lust, floating in and out of dark corners. Mustached, Marilyn Monroe was living his best life on the dance floor, while his wife, a sexy JFK, confused the fuck out of my penis. Let me explain that one. A couple we know went to the party as gender-swapped Marilyn Monroe and JFK. I need to give a special shout out to the guy dressed as Marilyn Monroe. He rocked six-inch heels all night. He danced in them. He did little spins in them. Huge respect for that. He was living his best life and enjoying himself. and the ladies loved his costume. Then there was this wife, the gender swap JFK. She had on the suit jacket and the tie, plus a corset and garters and a paper JFK mask. She nailed the accent just perfectly. Definitely confused my penis with that one. And at this party, we're all free. Free to be, free to express, free to live, free to dress up in whatever fucking costume we wanted. Maybe we really were channeling energy from a long-lost autumn celebration, echoing through history, reverberations of a forgotten epic. When the coming winter is celebrated, the work of summer is done, and now we turn to internal pursuits, carnal pursuits, best performed under warm blankets by firelight. similar to other holidays like satirilia i don't remember how to say it halloween started out as a party suits best performed under warm blankets by firelight similar to other holidays like satirelia i don't remember how to say it halloween started out as a party granted it was probably a fertility ritual but come on we all know it was a fucking party get with the program anthropologist you can call it a ritual or a ceremony or a celebration it was a fucking party they had bonfires and mask and they danced all night and they drank and had a great time that is party. We continue this proud tradition. It was a gathering of a bunch of people with food and drinks having fun. That's a fucking party. You don't have to call it anything fancy. Risque was and is a great place to gather for our lifestyle fun and we had fun y'all. The night had so many moments for me of just, huh, that's really cool. Those little flashes of inspiration for an episode that as I write this script, I am totally hoping to coalesce into some kind of narrative structure. And I'm trying to be as culturally sensitive and neutral as possible, so bear with me. The holiday season, which stretches between Thanksgiving and Christmas or Hanukkah and Diwali, November and December are busy, full of vanilla stuff. And now Christmas, specifically Christmas, that is encroaching all the way into September. And I like the generic brown and orange Thanksgiving decorations. They have no soul. They have nothing fun about them. They get put out for three weeks and then they're banished to make more room for Christmas every year. Does anyone actually decorate for Thanksgiving? Because I'm genuinely curious as I don't think I've ever seen it. Halloween started out as a fun all night rager, right? Has Thanksgiving ever been fun for anyone? Thinking back to the origins of Thanksgiving, a bunch of pilgrims sitting around a table. The scene is always during the day. All the paintings you see, it's always during the day. No one looks happy to be there. There's zero smiles. Go check it out. Go check out all the paintings depicting the first Thanksgiving or any fucking Thanksgiving. No one wants to be there. It looks like everyone is waiting at a doctor's office, just sitting there quietly, the oppressive environments pushing down on their very souls. And now, centuries later, we reenact this somber gathering every year. Thanksgiving is the saddest fucking holiday. And we might as well scratch November and December off the lifestyle calendar. I have noticed over the years that the lifestyle, it follows seasons. Hear me out. January, we got New Year's Eve, the first big thing of the year. And then there's a lull the rest of January. February may have a few big events, but it's pretty quiet too. March, though, March starts picking up. Either we got Mardi Gras, like here in the Southern United States, carnival in the rest of the world, or something about sports. April may have Easter in there, which is not a lifestyle friendly holiday. But then we get to May and the summertime, at least here in the northern hemisphere, summer's the best. There's bikinis and beaches and tropical drinks. Then August, which means school starts back up, and everyone with kids suddenly gets super fucking busy. October is that final pop of the year with Halloween. And then we get to November and December, which are just full of not-fun activities. So yeah, we have seasons. There's a great wheel in the sky that determines the best time of year for shenanigans. Shit gets real quiet at the end of September and again in January. Lumping November and December into one entity that we all call the holidays. Every weekend is spent with family or vanilla friends. Trying to schedule any kind of lifestyle fun is a royal bitch this time of year. Everyone is somewhere else and they have other commitments, which is totally fine. We all have to do that vanilla unfun stuff at some point. But y'all, I am not good at vanilla gatherings anymore. My fucking brain is broken. I am so used to hanging out with lifestyle people where the conversation can just naturally flow between boob size to homeowner's insurance to fuckery and back around. Having to make vanilla small talk is mentally painful. I know no one actually cares about my job or my hobbies. They're just making conversation between bites of pie. Vanilla family gatherings, they don't give two shits what I have to say. They're just waiting for me to take a breath so a random relative I only see once a year can share that my little shithead cousin who I affectionately call Billy son of a bitch made an A in school fucking great let's all celebrate your kid who hasn't looked up from his iPad in four hours and started crying because the corn touched the turkey on the plate fucking great time here the small talk is painful oh fucking wonderful. My cousins went to Disney World last month. You know what I did? An orgy. I bet my cousin's husband would much rather go to an orgy than spend thousands of dollars at a theme park. I don't share my life at these events. Oh, Jason, what have you been up to? Well, I started a podcast about fucking and getting better at fucking people. But yeah, tell me more about your boring life. I put on my vanilla mask, I eat the dry ass turkey, and I stare into the void, mentally counting down the seconds until I can leave. Now why the hell is it always so fucking hot at family gatherings? See, I put a thought in your head and now you're realizing every family gathering you go to, no one can properly control the thermostat. You got five generations of people, and for some reason, no one thinks about turning the heat down. The fuck. Anyway, all right, that was a fun rant. Risqué means slightly indecent or liable to shock, especially by being sexually suggestive. Risqué Lifestyle throws the premier lifestyle parties and takeovers in the southern USA that is slightly indecent, liable to shock, and very sexually suggestive. Risqué parties provide a safe, fun environment for new couples, experienced couples, and everyone in between. The dance floor is open all night long with awesome DJs and the best sound system. They go above and beyond to host a party that you will be telling all your LS friends about for months. The next risque party is New Year's Eve in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. Ring in the new year at the sexiest, best party around. Go toquélifestyleparties.com to find more information. This is a live recording of a friend riding a motor bunny. Oh my god! Oh! Fuck! Oh my god! Oh God. Oh.
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Go to motorbunny.com and use code that other lifestyle at checkout for an exclusive discount. Offering guidance here for those who need to juggle vanilla Halloween and lifestyle Halloween. It is entirely probable that you will be invited to a vanilla gathering in the evening on the same night as a sexy lifestyle party because there's only so many weekends in the year. You can pull this off though. I believe in you. The trick is to have transforming costumes. Let's say a vanilla friend invites you to their party at 7. The lifestyle party is going to start later because of course they fucking do. Lifestyle party starts at 9. Cool. We got two hours of vanilla time and then on to spicy fun. The first trick is your costume. You can sex up or sex down a costume as needed. Take a men's vampire costume. The traditional route is black coat, maybe a vest. You got the fangs. You go to the vanilla party in your standard issue costume, like straight off the rack. Then when you get to the lifestyle party, strip, take it all off, lose the jacket and the pants, you keep your vest on and your underwear, easy change. For women, a witch's robe, long black robe, will cover your entire outfit. You put on the sexy black lingerie or your sexy costume and then you cover it with a robe. Nobody knows. It's so easy to flip that costume. Having to change costumes between parties is just a a bitch so plan ahead and you can avoid having to do those really uncomfortable costume changes if you have to do two parties in one night plan your exit set up your reason to leave prior to the vanilla party you can be honest with people and say you want to hit up another party across town don't go hard at the vanilla party either you cannot make the lifestyle party if you're already hammered. Give yourself enough time to change if you have to, preferably not in a car, because putting on a corset in the backseat of a car while you're trying to keep all your naughty bits covered from crying eyes is just asking for trouble. Yes, vanilla Halloween parties can be fun. I've never bobbed for apples and I have no desire to, but hey, y'all might enjoy it. I'm not knocking them at all.
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It is just much less likely for titties to pop out though. Sharing with the vanilla audience, what are lifestyle Halloween parties like? They're pretty much like all of our other parties. We dress up, dance, and have fun. If I had to point to a movie to describe it, think Rocky Horror Picture Show versus Eyes Wide Shut. Eyes Wide Shut is the movie it's from the early what not late 90s early 2000s nicole kidman tom cruise eyes wide shut is the movie the vanilla world thinks of when they think lifestyle or swinger party and it's so fucking far from the truth it's super problematic on so many levels look i'm going to share a big secret with you We do not have secret orgies in grand mansions with masks. I want to see the face of the person I'm fucking. Not to say those kind of parties don't happen. I've heard of them. I've never been to one. Those aren't really lifestyle parties like we do. Those are more you're paying to have sex with strangers in a mansion party. Our gatherings are a lot more raucous and fun, and that's why I point to Rocket Horror Picture Show. If you're a newbie couple or dipping your toes into the lifestyle, I'm going to put air quotes around that. I have no idea why everyone uses that phrase. I see it all the time. Dipping our toes in. If the lifestyle is a pool and you just want to dip your toe in, you're still going to get wet. Ha ha, I think that's a joke. Halloween is a good time for newbies to try a lifestyle party. Be it risque or somewhere else, this is a really good option for you. You can wear a costume, which depending on your personal comfort level with sharing your personal identity and discretion, that might calm your nerves a little bit. Pro tip though, no one gives two shits who you are, dude. Unless you're a celebrity, no one gives two shits who you are. I've run into couples who are terrified of people finding out that they're in a sex club while everyone else is in the sex club with you. So we're all guilty by association. All that to say, Halloween, if you have a super great need for discretion, which I respect, Halloween is perfect. I'm currently working on a book to tell people how to maintain discretion in the lifestyle, hoping to be done with that later this year. You can wear a costume to protect your identity. It is socially acceptable to wear a mask if needed. Granted, you might not get much interest from people because you are wearing a mask and they can't see your face, so there's a trade-off here. And this year at Risk A, people put so much effort into their costumes. It warms my heart. my wife made our costumes. We went to the party as Jim and Riot from the 1980s cartoon Jim and the Holograms. I really hope someone out there gets that reference. If not, go Google it. Look up Riot and the Stingers and Jim and the Holograms on YouTube. To our credit, two people at the party knew who we were, which is a win. I have pictures up of our outfits and previous outfits over on SDC on our profile if y'all want to take a look. My wife, when you look at it, my wife made my jacket and she assembled all the pieces. She made her outfit and the accessories as well. Costumes are just instant icebreakers at a party. I'm going to ask what you're wearing. I'm going to ask if you made it. I'm going to ask about the construction because I find all that fascinating. One lady at the party, the risque party, made her costume out of four scarves, four white scarves. I know this because I asked, and yeah, picture that. It was sexy as hell. It had this Grecian goddess, fairy queen vibe to it. Another lady we met who, as an aside, she shared that she was a polyamorous lesbian, which goes to show that you don't have to be lifestyle or a swinger specifically. You don't have to conform to that label or any label really to attend these parties. Her costume was fucking brilliant. She assembled her costume from the party Lost and Found. She put on all the pieces of outfits that people had left at the risque parties throughout the year, wrote Lost and Found on her chest chest and walked around asking people if they saw anything they left at a previous party fucking brilliant the hook is as people claimed items she had less to wear for the night costumes for halloween they are funny thing the vanilla world will use this as the one time of year to dress sexy and slutty lingerie and a set of cat ears yep good for a vanilla party. What the vanilla crowd wears on Halloween, that's what we wear all year long to all the other parties we go to. The vanillas think of it as one day a year to dress up and we look at it as a challenge to go even harder. Another aspect of costumes and the lifestyle that doesn't get enough talk is talk, talk, just talk the right word. Let's say talk is the right word body positivity in my mind this makes sense to me so roll with it i never want anyone to think that they can't wear a costume and by extension attend an event and by further extension of that be in the lifestyle because of the way they look the lifestyle is an incredibly inclusive community no matter what your background is socioe socioeconomic status, personal history, career, most importantly, your body. You are welcome and included in what we do. You may not be everyone's preference physically, which is okay as well because everyone is allowed to have preferences on who they have sex with. But in terms of being in the environment, in the community, everyone is welcome, y'all. I know this subject, I know this can be a very difficult subject. Everyone struggles with their physical identity. And I'm going to tell you a secret. That super jacked guy at the gym who you think is a perfect specimen of human physicality has the worst body dysmorphia you can imagine. I know this from personal experience. Sharing more personal vulnerability here. Despite all the hours I spend in the gym, I'm still self-conscious of my body. And I probably always will be. Leading up to this risque party, I was crushing the workouts five, six days a week, dieting, cardio, doing all the stuff I felt I needed to look my best, carving my body with weights to achieve that perfect V taper. And then I put on a costume with a jacket that covered 95% of my body. So yeah, it made no sense. I want you to know that right here and right now, you are okay and you're welcome. No matter what you may think is not perfect with your body, no one cares. And I say this in a nice way, no one cares. We are happy you're here and we are happy you're partying with us and we accept you. That extends to costumes too. You want to be a sexy vampire? Do it. You want to prance around all night like a demented horse? Do it. I have seen dudes rock speedos and fancy man thongs with smiles on their faces. Do it. There is a liberation in costumes. There is a liberation in Halloween. You can become something or someone else if you want to. Outfits you would never wear in a vanilla setting? Totally fucking great here. We wore wigs with our costumes. I don't like wearing wigs. I had a big 80s rockstar style wig, like the big poofy hair. Hair everywhere. We went cheap on the wigs, which means you can't style that synthetic bastard at all. You just let it flow where it wants to go, which just so happened to be right on my fucking face all night. But I was a trooper. I kept on, I kept that wig on all night long because I promised my wife I would. What's funny about wigs, y'all, wigs don't get enough credit. For one thing, no one recognized me until they got close enough to see my beard. One guy spent half the night wondering who the hell I was until he walked over and shook my hand. Now, my wife, though, she had on this really pretty purple wig. She was able to style it and, oh, snap and oh snap did she look sexy don't sleep on wigs y'all looking to spice up your personal sexy time wigs go with a wig wigs add just enough of the differentness that is super sexy elevate your desires with house of sxn where luxury meets the bold world of fetish fashion from meticulously crafted leather harnesses to couture ensembles each piece is designed to captivate and empower whether you're exploring new boundaries or refining your style house of sxn offers sophistication with a daring edge experience premium quality discrete packaging and the art of sensual fashion ready to make a statement? Visit houseofssn.com and discover where indulgence meets elegance. Use code that other lifestyle for 10% off your order. Tired of the same old vanilla routine? Grocery shopping, soccer practice, and Netflix marathons? Every week the same thing, over and over again. What if you traded that for spicier fun join us for national lifestyle weekend in las vegas june 19th to 21st 2025 it's like a vacation but with more socializing don't worry what happens with your spicy friends stays with your spicy friends we can keep your secret. National Lifestyle Weekend. Come for the fun. Stay for the friendships. Tickets available at thatotherlifestyle.com. A lot of horror tropes like vampires and witches lend themselves super easily to be lifestyle-alized. That's going to be a word now. Vampires. I mean, come on. Is there any greater trope out there? The tall, mysterious stranger lingering in the shadows, ready to draw you in with his seductions. Flip side of that, the succubus or the temptress. These are easy costumes that just exude the lust and primal nature of the lifestyle.
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Then you could go with a fun costume.
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For Lifestyle Halloween, you don't have to go scary. Like I mentioned the lady who went as lost and found, you can go funny.
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Think professional wrestlers or hot dog cooks.
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You aren't locked in or restricted. Just stay away from offensive. Don't go political or religious, please. Also, usually parties have rules about keeping the nips, lips, and the dicks covered. Random rules you may need to know. No weapons or no weaponish props. Oh yeah, fucking glitter. We need to retire glitter as a society. The hotels hate it. People who host parties at their house hate glitter because I have fucking glitter in the grout of my kitchen tile that will never come out my floor is so sparkly so yeah watch the fucking glitter and okay you're not locked into a single costume either at a halloween party or really any party you can do costume changes you can show up in one outfit and then as the night goes on take stuff off or put stuff on change. And my wife, as I'm writing the script, came in here and she wanted to share a pro tip to all the ladies and some of the men because I did this. Bring comfortable shoes. You wear the sexy, uncomfortable shoes for the pictures and the first hours like the big old heels, then go change your shoes. Black tennis shoes work with 99% of outfits and are way more comfortable than a pair of boots or heels. And I have to give a special shout out to a couple who had the best room decorations I have ever seen. Y'all, they showed what is possible in a hotel room for a party with just lights and a few tapestries. They put up battery operated lights outside their door so everyone could find their room. They taped up trippy tapestries on the walls. All around the rooms were battery-operated black lights and stage lights. That way you don't have to look for outlets. Then he had a projector shooting at the wall playing interesting videos. Yeah, it gets crazier though. You know how hotels have pictures affixed to the wall? They're not hung up there. They're fucking glued on the wall and you cannot take these down short of a crowbar. So he used a program to help map the projector's video to fit the frames on the wall. That was so cool. They did bring in a bunch of heavy equipment or move furniture around just using lights. They create a super cool hotel room for the night. They were able to use lights to create this sensual, inviting atmosphere. And yeah, Halloween is supposed to be spooky seasons, scares and all that, but it's also a really sensual holiday. Low spooky lights are also low sexy lights. The music is slow and moody, which is great for intense, slow fuckery. I see the whole thing as a natural mood setter for connections. And I really like the aesthetic, the purples and blacks and skulls and crows and all that. Halloween, also a time for horror movies. Now, I personally ain't a fan of horror movies. Haunted houses though, I fucking love those. I worked in a haunted house when I was a teenager and it was the best job ever. It was my job to flush the lines. So when a group entered the haunted house, which was really a former furniture store, sometimes that group would get too scared to move forward and they would just pile up in the hallways, unwilling to move forward, screaming the whole time. So it was my job to find these groups, patrol the hallways with my flashlight, and then either shame them into moving forward or you escort them to a chicken door. Best job. So, horror movies, they ain't my thing. I don't really watch movies or TV anyway, any time of the year. Horror movies, though, I do see the appeal. They're a controlled induction of fear. It is a manipulation of our emotions. We expose ourselves to scary scenes to elicit a visceral, physical, and mental reaction. We want that little tinge of fear. Horror movies create these bizarre universes where the macabre and the fantastic are possible, suspending our belief in our own safety for two hours at a time. There's a parallel here with the lifestyle. With the lifestyle, there is this excitement and a rush of adrenaline. It ain't fear, drawing a line right there. It ain't about being scared. But what we do offers us in a controlled way to tap into a primal emotion, be it lust or joy or something else. The lifestyle is a way for us to tap into that excitable part of our brains. You can tell I'm a very, very well-trained brain specialist over here. The parallel is that we in the lifestyle are seeking out these situations to create a response, be it a physical or emotional or recreational. When we meet a new couple, there's this palpable excitement and energy you feel. And I see the same as a vanilla person watching a horror movie. They're doing it to tap into sanitized fear while we're doing it to tap into controlled passions. Back to my original thesis. Halloween is the best fucking lifestyle holiday. We get to dress up, we get a reason to party, we immerse ourselves in an environment that is way very much conducive to sexy time. The vanilla world has no idea how close they get to the lifestyle side during Halloween. If you ever find yourself staying at a hotel, around this time of year I notice the ballroom is suspiciously blocked off. If you notice music playing at all hours of the night, if you hear laughter bouncing down the hallways like a spooky red ball, you might be a lot closer than you know. Halloween allows us to ask the what-if questions. What if I was a vampire? What if I chose trick instead of treat? What if I took a look behind the curtain, opened the door, and see what's on the other side? There are a lot of what-ifs this time of year, this best time of year. Happy Halloween. I have two courses, and I am working on a third. The Single Men's Course and the Men's Guide to Flirting are available on my website, thatotherlifestyle.com. The Single Men's Course is $99, and the Men's Guide to Flirting is $29.99. I also have a free e-book, the Take Your Shot Conversation Guide, to help you make conversation. I'm working on a new course. Not quite ready to tell everybody about it, but when I do, you may cry. You're going to smile. You might jump up and down for joy. It's going to be awesome. It will address one of the very first questions just about every couple ask when they join the lifestyle. And I've already spoiled I'm doing a book, an upcoming book called A Matter of Discretion. Everyone to some degree in the lifestyle wants to maintain discretion, a separation between their lifestyle personas and the vanilla world. So I'm writing a book to help. Share all the tips and tricks and secrets, safe ways to share your picks, manage your online life, hoping to have it done maybe next month or in December. Don't pressure me on this. All good things take time. I'll be doing two live shows on SDC on November 8th and 19th. I am super excited for the show on the 19th. We're going to be talking about nerd stuff, how your geeky passions can help you connect with couples. You can sign up on SDC or you jump on the live show. I encourage you to ask questions, get involved, send me questions ahead of time if you want, and I'll answer them live. Next week,
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I am planning on having DJ Fabes, the lifestyle DJ, back on the show. He's doing a show, party, set, not sure what to call it when a DJ is doing his DJing thing. There's a party in Baton Rouge, Louisiana on November 9th. So coming up in about a week or two from this episode, you can check out his page on SDC or his website, djfabz.com for details. Come on out if you're in the area. It's a free event. There's no cover. There's a football game watch party, and then he's going to be spending all night. Me and my wife, we're going to be there to support him, and I encourage everyone to come on out. If you're a newbie and you're curious, this is a great chance to attend a meetup of lifestyle people in a super casual, super relaxed, no pressure environment. I am personally inviting you out. Me speaking right now in your ear, come on out and join us. And finally, I owe you, my audience, a big thank you, a huge thank you. We passed 20,000 downloads. Thank you to everyone who shares this show with their friends, everyone who listens, and everyone who enjoys it. On to 50,000, baby. I always appreciate hearing your feedback and comments on episodes or suggestions for topics, so feel free to reach out to me. Go to thatotherlifestyle.com for the blog, courses, and all the other fun stuff. My personal disclaimer, I am not a medical professional nor a trained and certified educator of any kind in any way i am a guy with a microphone sharing my personal experiences with you this podcast is for entertainment purposes only and please join us for the next episode whatever you may do today i hope you have a fantastic time doing it know that you are appreciated and loved have a great day
