In this episode of "That Other Lifestyle Podcast," host Jason dives deep into the attributes that women find attractive in men within the lifestyle and beyond. Explore the key traits such as healthy masculinity, respect, confidence, and genuine connection that make a man irresistible.
Jason addresses common misconceptions about male behavior, emphasizing the importance of leaving behind unattractive qualities from the "vanilla world." Learn about the significance of safety, respect, and authenticity in becoming the best version of yourself.
This episode offers valuable insights into how men can navigate social dynamics, both in lifestyle settings and general interactions, fostering inclusivity while maintaining personal integrity. Whether you're already embodying these traits or just beginning your journey, this episode provides a candid look at the positive impact of redefining masculinity.
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good morning good afternoon good evening wherever you are i hope you have blue skies welcome to that other lifestyle podcast i am your host jason leave vanilla behind as we talk about men this episode and probably the next one will be about the attributes that women find attractive and men in the lifestyle and in general and i'll say next episode known damn well, I don't plan that far ahead with my topics. Please note this podcast is intended only for adults. It is not safe for work. We will talk about adult or sexual topics, and I'm going to use salty language often.
This content is for entertainment purposes only, and again, only for those over 18 years of age. I also try to be as inclusive with my language and terms as I can. It can be challenging to formulate and write and say all the inclusive terms in every instance. For simplicity's sake and time management, I may use terms like husband or wife or partner or spouse for the purpose of the narrative I am sharing.
This podcast is for everyone though, no matter what your background, gender identity, gender expression, whatever truth you may be living, everyone is welcome no matter how you personally experience the lifestyle and ethical, not monogamy. I am going to be talking to men today. Not that I don't want to talk to women. I really like talking to women. But my own perspective as a heteronormative, cisgendered, masculine identifying person, I can't speak for women. What I can do is talk to men. And men, y'all, we need to talk.
We need to talk today about what is considered attractive to women in the lifestyle. What behaviors, attributes, hobbies, and personality traits women find engaging and arousing. We need to talk about this. I know there is at least one man out there somewhere on this planet who needs to hear all this. And you might be in the population of men who already embody all of these qualities. Fucking great, man. I personally know men who do embody all these qualities. If you're one of these men, I expect you to be a model and an example for others.
Men need to see other men displaying and acting in a way that projects healthy masculinity, not reinforcing shitty behavior. What can we do as men to become the most attractive version of ourselves and what unattractive qualities do we need in general to abandon way the fuck out there in the vanilla world? And as a brief disclaimer here, I am talking in broad generalizations. There may be a woman out there who really fucking enjoys when a man wants to have a heated debate about politics, but I promise I ain't met them. I don't know them.
And if you are, and if you find one, they're going to be the exception, not the rule. For example, I always tell men, do not open a conversation with a dick pic. Women don't like it, even though, broad generalization, there might be one woman out there somewhere on the planet who does like it. Again, that's the exception to the rule. There are things that men do that will straight up dry out a vagina, like a reverse sponge. From what I see, the unattractive behaviors in the lifestyle are the behaviors that men bring into the lifestyle from the vanilla world.
Specific behaviors that men think work over there in vanilla dating, and then they bring it here, expecting it all to work the same. They ain't attractive over there in the vanilla world, and they're doubly not attractive in the lifestyle. Look, there's three things I want to impress upon all the men out there listening to me right now. Number one, do not be the reason your wife can't get laid. That is the tagline for my men's flirting course, and it is so appropriate right here.
Don't be the guy that limits your wife's fun because of your behavior, personality, hygiene, or just general disposition. Do not be the guy that someone else has to apologize for. Number two, do not rely upon your wife to close the deal. I have seen it, y'all, and I don't like it. The wife of a particular couple will do all the work, the chatting and the flirting and lining up the date, and then the guy just comes bouncing into the last minute, happy as hell, because he gets laid and didn't put forth any work. Number three, women want you to connect with them, not impress them.
You don't have to brag. You don't have to pretend to be something you're not. Women want to connect with the authentic, real version of you, not an image in your head of what you think women want. And that's some heavy, harsh truth right there. I know someone out there needs to hear it though, and it ain't knocking you if you don't realize that you do or engage in any of the behaviors we talk about on this show, I am pointing it out so you can address it and you can be better. Part of this is ingrained behavior that we as men have to consciously work on.
We learn to date and connect with women over in the vanilla world. Men learn to navigate the social maze of human interactions in middle school and high school and maybe college and the working world. We're socialized from an early age to establish hierarchies and the intricacies of social dominance. Balls. As evidence of this behavior, balls. I don't know why, but when enough men gather together, say at least five, and there's an attractive woman in their presence, a ball will show up. I don't know where. Football, soccer ball, a paper ball.
And then men will then begin playing a game, creating rules for this new sport on the fly in order to display their sport prowess to a lady. And I've seen it happen. I don't participate because I have no athletic ability whatsoever, so I just get to watch it happen. Say man one has secured a ball. Man Man 2 requests man 1 throw him the ball. Man 3 wants the ball and interjects in the change of possession of ball. Man 4 creates a rule to establish who may possess the ball and in what matter. Man 5 will disagree with the rules and use his possession of the ball to create a new rule.
And then there's me just sitting on the sidelines because, you know, can't see balls. Got this vision thing. Give you another example. A man enters a room and scans the area for potential sexual interest and other men who may also, then there's other men in there who may also be interested in the same woman. This man then feels intimidated by the other men in the room. Maybe they're bigger or they appear more confident or they're causing the woman to laugh and be engaged in conversation. This moment is an inflection point. This is a big difference between the vanilla world and lifestyle men.
This moment, right here, the nexus of uncertainty. The question is, what do you do next? The vanilla man is going to look at this room to determine other men or competition that must be eliminated. The vanilla man will find who he thinks is a weaker male and attempt to dominate the man he thinks is weaker, usually based on physical characteristics or just general demeanor. The vanilla man is going to just playfully insult the other man to appear better in the eyes of the women in the room.
The vanilla man will pull out all the things that in his mind make him a better sex partner and of higher value, be it money or muscles, whatever. The vanilla guy is only interested in establishing himself as the top of the pile because by vanilla logic, whoever is the king of the mountain is therefore automatically afforded all attention and sex by all the women in the room, which I hope as I lay this out to you this way, you realize just what bullshit this is. Risqué means slightly indecent or liable to shock, especially by being sexually suggestive.
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For links or more info, visit www.mojasadventures.com. That's www.mojasadventures.com. Are you ready for more? I have seen this, and I will provide a weird example. Gloves and straps, and this is not a BDSM thing. Granted, I thought of this example when I was working out this morning, but just run with me. It's going to be fun. I work out. Anyone who looks at me can tell that I work out a lot. I enjoy it. It's my hobby. Working out clears my head and it's therapeutic for my soul. One of my hobbies is picking up heavy objects and putting them down repeatedly.
Now, there's technique involved in a little bit of science, but in essence, for fun, I pick stuff up and I put it down. Super simple, and it's easy for my lizard brain to enjoy. Vanilla men will notice that I work out. They will make a comment on my physical stature, which is fine. I enjoy talking about lifting and working out because, again, it's fun. There's this weird moment, though, in the conversation. I have noticed some men initiate with me about gloves and the fabulous workout accessories I use. If I could bedazzle my workout gloves, I would do it. And I see it now for what it is.
This other man is trying to elevate himself by pushing me down. The other man in this imaginary conversation will ask if I use lifting gloves or lifting straps. For those who don't know, lifting gloves are gloves that you wear when you lift weights, and straps are straps that you wrap around your wrist and hand to assist you in picking up heavy shit. They're a legitimate tool, and I'll tell you why in a minute.
The other man, though, will ask if I use straps, and I say yes, and then the other man will playfully insult me that I am not a real man because I use straps and gloves when I lift weights. Somehow I am less of a masculine entity for using workout accessories. This fucking happens. It's happened a bunch to me. My entire status now is threatened as a man because my penis is going to shrivel up and fall off because I use gloves or straps. My beard is just going to fall off my face. I am now suddenly less worthy because this other dude has made this judgment about me.
Because according to men who have zero fucking knowledge of weightlifting, they believe that gloves and straps are bad, that they're a crutch, that real men, going to put that in air quotes, don't need them. Real men get calluses and have hands that get strong enough to crack a coconut. See where I'm going with this? I am not a real man because I use these workout accessories as this other man in this other imaginary conversation apparently has a problem with. What is actually happening is this ain't about workout straps.
What's happening is my very manhood is being insulted and diminished so that other people around me, other men, can feel better about themselves because they don't have the physique I have. They want everyone around us in the conversation to collectively join this imaginary person in insulting me and diminish me in the social standing. And in truth, I may use gloves because I know women do not enjoy the feeling of calluses on their body. If you want to make a woman scream like a pissed off alley cat, rub a callus over her clitoris.
I use lifting straps because my grip will fucking get out way before the rest of my muscles. So yeah, there's a legitimate reason for me to use these items. But my personal manhood somehow in this vanilla conversation is now tied to these workout accessories and I'm being questioned by people who don't know what the hell they're talking about. So that's a very long-winded story that I'm sharing right there with you to illustrate a point. Vanilla men do this. They want to establish a hierarchy and push other men down in order to lift themselves up. Lifestyle men.
Men in the lifestyle don't do this. Hasn't happened to me in the lifestyle and And we should not do this. And I just don't see it in our lifestyle conversations and interactions. The qualities that women find attractive in the lifestyle are not the same as the vanilla world. Actually, maybe they are. Maybe there is some overlap here. If you, as a man, try to use the techniques you learned over in the vanilla world and the lifestyle, you're going to fail, my dude.
That includes insulting other men or trying to prove yourself as the dominant man in the in the room i really now that i'm thinking about this i i really don't think any woman enjoys watching that bullshit i can tell you what women on average mostly find attractive in men in the lifestyle you know what maybe this does apply to the vanilla world like i said earlier i know men who embody these qualities and so many women find those guys who have those qualities sexy as hell. They're not the biggest, most jacked dudes. They don't drive fancy cars.
They don't brag about their jobs or their dick size. They're genuine, authentic people who don't need artificial ways to increase their personal value. With all these qualities, there is a negative side to it and a positive way to express them. For instance, the first one on my list is confidence without arrogance. Now, the negative side of confidence is arrogance. Looking to be the most alpha man in the room, especially when you attempt to insult or put down another man or a woman to make yourself feel better and more attractive. This shit backfires hardcore, y'all.
The reason it backfires is this. Let's say in a room of 12 lifestyle couples, there's going to be six men. If you walk into a room and insult one of those men, you have effectively insulted a woman's husband. Why the fuck would she want to keep talking to you when you just insulted the most important person in her life? Now that means out of these 12 lifestyle couples, or whatever my math is, one of those couples is now off the table because you are a jackass.
And all the other couples in the room, they're going to see this behavior from you, and they're going to recognize how insecure you are by doing it. And you also see this from single men. Single men, I got a course on my website available for you, thatotherlifestyle.com. And I talk about this in the course. I see the messages single men send out to couples. Usually it is a dick pic and then some variation of the phrase, hello, random woman, I have a penis. I can have sex with you better than your husband.
Unless that couple has a certain cuck dynamic, you just effectively insulted the husband by insinuating that he is deficient at sex and somehow you can provide relief to the wife for him. That's a fucking insult, dude. Do not do that. Confidence, which I also call quiet confidence sometimes, means that you're okay in your own skin, being sure of yourself. You make others feel safe in your presence. Your personal confidence in the lifestyle comes from a few sources. And if you feel like you don't have confidence, this is the stuff you tap into.
Your partner, if you're a married man, your partner, your wife is the biggest, greatest source of confidence you can have, or she should be. They should be your best cheerleader ever. Your wife will make sure that you look good, you smell good, and you feel good. And no matter what happens at the end of the night, you get to go home with the love of your life. You could strike out all night long, but you still win. Your spouse should and is your emotional center and support in the lifestyle. Your spouse gives you freedom from worry and anxiety.
You are already married to the most special woman in the universe. Everything else is just a bonus. Another source of confidence for men addressing some physical issues here. Look, dude, we are all naked under our clothes. I know for men, we got physical insecurities. Women are physical. And you know what? It's just easy to say everybody has fucking physical insecurities. I got experience with it myself. When you are naked, there is nowhere to hide anything about yourself, but there's freedom in that.
If someone thinks enough of you to get naked with you, yeah, they're already accepting of you physically. Another source of confidence for men is, y'all, we're all equal in the lifestyle. You have nothing to prove to anyone here. You are accepted here, no matter how much money you make, your background, your demographic, socioeconomic background, whatever. There is somebody out there, I promise, who wants to fuck you. And at the very least, they want to be your friend. Unlike the vanilla world, you do not have to jockey for position or figure out the hierarchical standing among men.
You want real advice? I know. I know all this sounds very woo-woo. All right, here, real advice, the best tips I've got. First one is act like you have been here before. You might be nervous about a new situation. You might be nervous about going to a new party or event or hotel takeover, resort, something. Act like you have done all this before. Understand you don't have to be the center of attention in a room. You don't have to pull in all the focus in the room. You can simply be in your space.
Practical advice on this, and I know it sounds weird whenever you're in a social setting and you just don't know what the fuck to do and where to stand. Stand in one spot for five minutes. Then you walk across the room and you stand in another spot. Then five minutes later, you go to a third spot. In an hour, you have covered the whole room. You have talked to everybody who is adjacent to your spot that you were standing in. There's no frantic bouncing around, no being a wallflower. Try to stay at least six feet away from all walls if you can.
You know, that way it keeps you from just fuddling against the wall all night. Next thing, body posture. Do not allow yourself to curl up. You know what I'm talking about. It's whenever your shoulders round inward and you just really, really stressed out, you start wringing your hands, you got your legs together. What you're trying to do is you're trying to turn into a ball. When people are really stressed out, their bodies try to turn into balls, try to go back into the fetal position. No. Body posture. Force yourself to open up to the world. Just think about it and force yourself to do it.
It will make you feel so much better. Pull your shoulders back. Stand with your legs apart. Here's a weird tip, but it works. Imagine your hands are covered in butter. I know I just dropped the weirdest shit on you listeners, but I'm trying to help y'all. Imagine your hands are covered in butter. The sheer goofiness of that image is going to help you. And it forces you to keep your hands out of your pockets and to not cross your arms, which is something I have a huge problem with. It forces you not to, you know, cross your arms because you don't want to get imaginary butter on your clothes.
Somebody out there is going to find that useful. And one more note under confidence is safety. And I could do a whole episode just on this because feeling safe with someone is a huge fucking turn on for women, guys. Flat out. So many women tell me that they want to feel safe with another man. On the list of attractive qualities and the lifestyle, dick size, the size of your dick, does not come up. Dick size does not come up that often. But safety? Safety seems to come up in every conversation. And what do I mean by safety?
A woman wants to associate with a man that she knows will make her feel safe, that will keep her safe, that he is not a threat, that you are not a threat to her personal body autonomy and agency. Action speaks so much louder than words on this one. How do you make a woman feel safe? It's hard to encapsulate this exactly, what this means in this limited format. I can offer a little bit of advice. That's why you listen to this podcast. Number one, keep your fucking hands to yourself. Don't be grabby or assume consent to touch a woman or anyone really. Always ask for consent first.
Do not pressure a woman into having sex, whatever that looks like, be it verbally or physically. You know what I'm talking about. And if you ever question if a certain action could potentially make a woman feel not safe or feel pressured, don't fucking do it. Questioning is enough to know you shouldn't do it. Let women drive the relationship in whatever direction they want. Remember, women control the lifestyle, which is super comforting in a way for us guys, right? It means as a man, you don't have to drive and control and push.
You can sit back and just let the world spin around you and never take advantage of a woman either. I should not have to fucking say this, but it's a wild world.
Now that I'm thinking about this and going through the script and talking to you about it haha i guess we need to do like a whole episode on safety and want to add that to my big old list of future topics are you tired of your boring vanilla holiday parties you know the ones where your Coworker Linda tries to talk talk to you about her cats again well ditch the fruitcake and those awkward family gatherings because we're unwrapping something way more exciting next year get ready for national lifestyle weekend where the naughty list is more than just a suggestion it's a way of life.
Join us in Las Vegas, June 19th to 21st, 2025, for a weekend of sexy parties that you probably can't tell your relatives about, whether you've been naughty or, well, mostly just naughty. National Lifestyle Weekend is the place to let loose, let let go and let everyone have a very happy holiday go to www.thatotherlifestyle.com for tickets come on with me y'all just keep on hanging out with me let's keep rambling and running into respectfulness being respectful of others being respectful of the opinions of others respectful can mean shut the fuck up and Listen, you don't have to worry about it.
Listen, you don't have to worry of others. Respectful can mean shut the fuck up and listen. You have two ears and one mouth. Humans are designed to listen more than we speak. So I've seen online in the vanilla world, not that I've encountered this because I don't really do vanilla dating out there, but you know, the terrible, terrible internet. I've seen online that debating women wanting to debate other people is now a thing. As in, these shitty vanilla men want to debate with women on dates. As in, hey, I have a particular idea about the world and you disagree with it. Let's debate for fun.
Let's argue for fun. Seeing that shit is one of the reasons I wanted to do this episode so that I can tell every man out there, no, no, that is the dumbest fucking advice. That is right up there with a woman can be too wet for sex. I saw that one too. That angered up my blood too. Wanting or engaging and debating with another person is not sexy. I think these men believe that they are displaying their intelligence by doing this, that they can verbally outwit and outmatch another person. Just fucking dumb. No one enjoys this. Women do not enjoy this. You can disagree with a person. That's fine.
We can all have our own political or religious or worldviews. Leave them at the fucking door, man. No one cares. You ever hear that before? No one fucking cares. No one cares who you voted for in the last election. No one wants to hear your carefully constructed argument on the economic situation of the European Union. Stop walking around looking for someone to argue with. That is a massive turnoff for women. Just shut the fuck up and listen. Let a woman speak. Just let her talk. Let her say what the hell she wants.
I ain't saying that you should not express yourself, but there are limits here. Y'all know what I'm talking about. That one fedora-wearing bastard who thinks she can cause panties to drop with his well-researched thesis statement. Life doesn't work that way. When you do that shit, you come off as super disrespectful. You wanna make women horny, you respect them. You respect them and their ideas and their opinions and everything that makes them, them. Respect means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. Going to dive into this and hopefully help somebody out there.
You wanna know one of the reasons women like lifestyle spaces, lifestyle parties and events and all this stuff that we do? There's a bunch, but one of them I hear often is in lifestyle spaces, women are respected as people. That doesn't make any sense. You think women are respected everywhere. No, they're not. In the vanilla world, women are told what to think and what to say and how to act and what to be and when to speak. Again, broad fucking generalizations here, but yeah, women run the lifestyle. I, for one, am perfectly fine with that.
Women determine the who and the what and the how and the dating and all that stuff, and they should. Men, we are here to support women in lifestyle spaces and relationships to be their true authentic selves. You do that by listening and allowing women to have a voice in and outside lifestyle spaces. I know there's a woman listening out there, and that's why it necessary to say all this, you know, thinking, oh my gosh, shouldn't men just know this? No, some of them don't. And some of them are hearing this for the first time. Look, I am not the sexiest man out there.
I am not particularly attractive. I'm not particularly debonair. I don't have a sex pack and I don't have a fancy car, but there's one skill I do have that opens so many doors. One skill that I can legit tell you attracts women. I respect them and I listen. I let them have space to have a voice. And Jason, that sounds more like a woo-woo bullshit. What does that mean? I let them speak. Though I don't like the word let in that sentence, but it's the closest word I can think of to what I mean. Women, humans, everyone, they want to talk. They want to express themselves fully and safely.
You give people, you need to give someone that opportunity. I might disagree with you. I might not like what is said, but I want to respect your opinions and ideas and want to ask to know more. I will want to engage with you as a person before sex ever comes up in a conversation. The difference is when someone states an idea, your response should be, tell me more, not here's how you're wrong. I respect everyone's voice in the lifestyle, even if we don't agree, you're a whole ass person. I ain't here to lecture or educate everyone, says the guy with the podcast, I get the fucking irony.
Another aspect of respect is respecting boundaries and respecting no. This is a big one for me. In my men's flirting course, I differentiate it from the vanilla flirting in that in the lifestyle, no means no and you are done. There are no overcoming objections in the lifestyle. There are no stupid psychological tricks to get a woman who previously said no to suddenly say yes. In the lifestyle, we take a no. We accept no. We don't push back on it. We move the fuck on. This is the first part of respecting boundaries.
Another part of respecting boundaries is understanding that couples operate together. Respect other people's marriages. Do not try to separate the wife from the husband. Understand that people who are in this are in this as a unit, and you need to be respectful of both people that you're engaging with. And look, I was going to list out more traits of healthy masculinity and the traits that women find attractive, but no, no. We are going to save that for the next episode because right now, let's go in a whole different direction. Let's talk about men in the lifestyle.
And as men, what do we need to do right now, today? Men in the lifestyle, I don't know if you realize it or not. So many men I meet are paradigms of healthy masculinity and manhood. As friend of the show Soul says, there's a divine masculine and a divine feminine energy. We are all composed of a ratio of both of these energies. There's also toxic femininity and toxic masculinity. And I know that phrase, toxic masculinity, is going to make some people cringe and decide to activate their woke detector. Y'all, fucking toxic masculinity is real. I don't care what anyone says.
Growing up with a father who was very toxic in a masculine way, yeah, I know it's real. I've seen it in action. Men who get hyped up on their own testosterone, snorting their own righteousness, and then they want to mold the world in their image. Especially in lifestyle spaces, this behavior is very disruptive and destructive. Lifestyle spaces are about equality and freedom, not domination. Masculinity is good. Toxic is bad.
I know the world, the vanilla world, is bombarding young men and teenagers and kids with these very bad ideas about what manhood means what it is to be a man young men are being taught to control dominate repress fight and push in media there are very few positive role models for men to see good attributes of manhood in action and i see the vitriol and the anger and the hatred that flows like sludge through the internet. Each ripple in its inky black surface is another scream of frustration, another emotion deferred.
And I see at the center of each ripple, another teenager, another young man who slips beneath the surface into darkness. Men in the lifestyle, I see the ways we are judged. For being body positive, we're called stupid. For being inclusive, we're called weak. For being sex positive, we're called simps or beta males or cucks. I see the way the toxic men, angry at themselves in a system they cannot understand, redirect their venom on us. Us, the men in the lifestyle who embody the positive traits of manhood. The men I know in the lifestyle, they are kind. They do not judge.
They support each other. They support their friends. They have friends. They're part of a good community that uplifts each other instead of tearing each other down. And yeah, there's always exceptions, y'all. But overall, I feel comfortable saying this. I know men who are bastions of virtue and everything wonderful this world can produce. They love their wives more than life itself. They take care of their kids. And a tangent right here, just wild diversion. Most parents I know in the lifestyle are like great parents. They're wholesome and positive and supportive of their kids, which is wild.
Just blows my mind. My words may be completely lost into the ether and land nowhere. I'm fine with that. At least I said it. Join me in saying it. Men in the lifestyle, I believe you are the best model of healthy male attitudes and behavior and goodness out there, and we need more of that. The young men of the world need more role models and examples of men being good men. You don't change anyone by yelling or lecturing or preaching. You give them examples. You show them that a man can be strong and kind. A man can be decisive and compassionate. A man can protect and nurture.
We are judged by other men. I know this. We are not judged for our sexual escapades, really, because I promise those miserable bastards over there in the vanilla world who judge us wish they had the fun we had. No, we are judged because we show the world that you can be a man in a healthy way, and that makes people uncomfortable. And woe unto thee, if you dare ever make a man uncomfortable with himself, especially when his entire worldview is based on scarcity, greed, power, and anger. The men I interact with in the lifestyle, they make me happy.
It makes me happy to see them love their wives and tell them that constantly. It makes me happy to see them support their wives, support their friends, and support other men. In the vanilla world, so often men are taught that other men are competition. And over here, y'all, it just ain't like that. We know we are all equal. We know we can relax for once. We can express and be and still represent positive masculine traits. There's so much more to this I need to talk about, so we'll probably do an episode two tomorrow. Episode two next week.
In other random news, I was a guest on the Miami Swings podcast. That episode should be posted on YouTube shortly. So hey, if you ever want to see me on camera, now's your chance. And if you like seeing me on camera, let me know. I am open, maybe, to doing more video content next year if y'all are interested. And if you want to hang out with me a lot, I will be hosting some live shows on SDC in December. Still tinkering with topics and dates, so more to come on that. Speaking of letting me know what's up and reaching out to me, y'all can reach out to me in a bunch of different ways.
If you ever want to suggest a topic or give me feedback, I am on SDC as That Other Lifestyle. You can email me at host at thatotherlifestyle.com. YouTube comments are good too, and also on Facebook. There are lots of ways to reach out and say hi, and yes, most of them are anonymous. I have two courses out there, the Single Men's Guide to the Lifestyle and the Men's Guide to Flirting. Those are available on my website, thatotherlifestyle.com.
I am working on a book about discretion, how to respect it, how to figure out your personal level and comfort of discretion in the lifestyle, and there's a new video course coming. My next course is going to be all about unicorns, single women in the lifestyle. I see it all the time. Couples join the lifestyle looking for a single woman. It's right there in their bio. Then the question is, how do you find single women? How do you attract single women? What are single women looking for? I got a whole course planned out and I will let everyone know when it's available.
I always appreciate hearing your feedback and comments on episodes or suggestions for topics, so feel free to reach out to me. Go to thatotherlifestyle.com for the blog and the courses and all the fun stuff. My personal disclaimer, I am not a medical professional nor a trained and certified educator of any kind in any way. I am a guy with a microphone sharing my personal experiences with you. This podcast is for entertainment purposes only. Please join me for the next episode. Whatever you may do today, I hope you have a fantastic time doing it. Know that you are appreciated and loved.
