Surviving the Holidays: A Lifestyle Guide

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Speaker1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Wherever you are, I hope you have blue skies. Welcome to That Other Lifestyle Podcast. I am your host, Jason. Leave the no behind as I share a holiday survival guide. It's the holidays. Whatever holiday you celebrate this time of year, it doesn't matter. Collectively, the world has decided to make it hard to engage in our deviant lifestyle desires this time of year due to conflicts, obligations, traditions, and general all-around fucking wholesomeness. I am here to help you survive the holidays, have fun doing it, and share how to deal with those awkward questions from that one cousin who you only see once a decade, but that bitch has started snooping around on the internet and she plans on sharing your private business while everyone is eating a nice holiday dinner this year. Yeah, fuck her. Please know this podcast is intended only for adults. It is not safe for work. We will talk about adult or sexual topics and I'm going to cuss a lot. This content is for entertainment purposes only and again, only for those over 18 years of age. Feel free to reach out to me. Send me an email at host at thatotherlifestyle.com. Take a look at my website, thatotherlifestyle.com, and you can find me on sdc.com as That Other Lifestyle. I also try to be as inclusive with my language and terms as I can. It can be challenging to formulate and write and say all the inclusive terms in every instance. For simplicity's sake and time management, I may use terms like husband or wife or partner or spouse for the purpose of the narrative I'm sharing. This podcast is for everyone, though, no matter what your background, gender identity, gender expression, or whatever truth you may be living. Everyone is welcome, no matter how you personally experience the lifestyle and ethical, not monogamy. I want to take a moment right here and say happy holidays to every person around the world that listens. This show has listeners in 69 countries. Nice. I could make an attempt to say happy holidays or wish everyone a specific greeting in their own native language, but I know I will mess that up so badly. Look, I'm really good at speaking English. I have butchered every other language I've ever tried to speak. Now, to my credit, I can read Spanish and French. I cannot roll an R to save my life. Suffice it to say, though, I appreciate you listening. I appreciate you continuing to listen. I appreciate you if this is your first episode, and you should totally go back and listen to all the other 44 episodes I've already done. I appreciate if you tell a friend. Happy holidays, you fabulous people. May you always find a warm fire, a cold drink, a blanket to slide under, and a naked friend to cuddle. Y'all, the holidays, they can be great. A wonderful time of year where everyone is merry and happy and consumerism and twinkling lights. As lifestyle people, though, surviving the holidays, that takes some skill, finesse, luck, and a little bit of that magic. Maybe you're lucky and you have one of those Hallmark families. Everyone gets along. You all wear red flannel. There's a golden retriever running around for some reason. Six generations of people in one house that magically fits everybody comfortably. There's hot cocoa, gingerbread cookies, a fireplace, and I picture people taking fall pictures together in front of a big old pile of leaves, like real wholesome stuff. For people like that, the holidays are a joy. I once worked with a lady who would organize games for her family gatherings, like potato sack races or trivia about different family members. I found it insufferable. For people with families like mine, we survive the holidays. It is not happy. It's like my family has uranium in our blood and when too many of us get into a room together, there is a nuclear explosion of childhood trauma, adult anger, emotion manipulation, and potentially violence or bad food, really bad food. This episode is a guide for lifestyle people to survive the holidays. How to keep your mouth shut, deflect questions, be discreet, and find balance. Looking at the general lifestyle calendar, November and December, they tend to be quieter. There might be a few house parties. There might be some stuff around New Year's Eve. The focus this time of year is to fulfill all those vanilla obligations. Maybe slide in some lifestyle shenanigans if you can. There will be, look, there will be parties and events in the springtime. We, dear listeners, are in survival mode now. And Jason, you say, that is a powerful word, survival. It implies a threat that we must endure and overcome. Yup. What is the threat? Nosy ass relatives. Your discretion, your participation in the lifestyle is under threat from nosy-ass relatives like your douchebag uncle who wants to ask too many questions after he double-fisted four eggnogs. Or maybe your cousin who has the personality of runny mayonnaise, who wants to inquire why your marriage appears so much happier than her marriage. Maybe your own personal child will share with a relative your sudden acquisition and fondness of pineapple-related items, and he wants to make sure that everyone knows what to get you next year. According to some statistics, I found 96% of people in the lifestyle want to keep this hobby activity interest completely under wraps. So I know 96% of my listeners do not want their families to find out that we have sex with people we meet on the internet. So what do you do? How do you prepare to survive this gauntlet of family gatherings? Well, like any journey, we need to prepare our supplies. In this case, our supplies are deflection, quick answers, change the subjectibles, not a word I know, but it is now. And if needed, lie like a motherfucker. Deny, deny, lie, lie. Okay, honestly, I'm not telling you to lie. You don't need to lie. You can instead omit the truth or confuse people. Or my personal favorite, be brutally honest because no one ever believes the honest truth. I dare say you can walk up to a family member, tell them that you are a swinger or hot wife or whatever you call yourself. They won't believe you. Even if you do it with a smile on your face, they will think you're bullshitting them. We are conditioned to not believe the truth if it's outrageous enough. Think about it. You could tell someone you are buying a car next week and you have an open marriage. You could be telling the truth on both or lying about both of them. People will believe the mundane and reject the outrageous. Their vanilla brains just cannot process it. So how do we deal with questions from family members or anybody for that matter? By having answers. So two parts to this. Assume they know nothing and assume they know something. So we'll take the first part first and the second part second. You arrive at the family gathering. It is oppressively hot because all family gatherings are just way too hot. Everyone forgets how to run the fucking heater on that day. After a round of introductions, a particularly nosy relative that we will call Brenda because I do not actually know anyone named Brenda. Therefore, no one I know will assume I am talking about them in this specific situation and project themselves into this story. Your cousin Brenda on her third marriage is documented by the series of names tattooed down her left boob. Brenda who smokes Virginia Slim cigarettes and insists on bringing her own red wine from home. Brenda who is convinced her child will one day grow up to be a famous actress, even though her kid has a face for radio and a personality for voicemail. Brenda always brings her authentic 16-year-old dog with loose bowels with her to every family function. Brenda wants to catch up. You know, y'all used to be really close when y'all were younger, around like five years old. Y'all went your separate ways whenever Brenda started huffing those cans of air duster in high school. This year, she showed up to the family gathering and she wants to catch up on life with you. She wants to humblebrag about paying off her trailer after 30 years of having a 15-year loan on it. Her child, Kaylee Ray, that's K-lee, two words with an ampersand in there somewhere, is doing really good at school. Finally, taking a drag off her cigarette, she asks about your life. Flashes of the last sex party you attended run through your head. No, we do not indulge in that kind of thinking today. Shut that shit down. Brenda is asking an innocent question here. She wants to inquire about your life. You and your hobby are not under threat with this one. The trick here is to give as little information as possible and what you do share, make it as boring as possible. Tell her that you're now talking about reviewing old to-do lists, reading website terms and conditions kind of boring, collecting free paint samples kind of boring. Tell people that you're getting really deep into professional table setting. Make it so generic that they stop asking questions. Legit tip here. If you need a cover story on why you suddenly have a bunch of new friends and are busy on the weekends, tell people that you got into wargaming or tabletop RPGs like Dungeons and Dragons or board games. This is a good cover story. It explains why you may have a new social circle, why you may be busy on weekday or weekend nights, and explain why you may not be able to have guests over at certain times. Sorry, best friend Dave, I can't hang out tonight as I'm hosting our 40k Warhammer tournament at our house and it's going to get rowdy and wild. Anyway, back to Brenda. For innocent basic questions from family, be boring and vague. People usually just want to talk about themselves, so this is easy to deflect back to them. They ask, how have you been? Ask them about work. They ask about your job. Ask about their kids. Y'all, we can handle innocent questions. Role play with your wife or your spouse ahead of time with questions y'all may anticipate and work on some answers. Now, let's say Brenda, though, did a little bit of internet snooping. Brenda, being bored one night of watching reruns of sitcoms, saw your face pop up on Facebook. And this ain't the normal Facebook profile you have for family. No. She usually sees that one. No, this is a different Facebook picture, a different Facebook profile that has a pineapple in the background. Brenda stumbled onto your lifestyle online profile, oh shittity. Maybe she found a tweet or a comment or something. And oh yeah, all this happened way back in May. And turns out she only showed up to the Christmas party this year to confront yo ass. Months of seething curiosity and deceitful glee hidden behind pancake makeup foundation and a bad dye job. Oh fuck, what do we do? Brenda traps you in the kitchen while you are distracted, trying to scoop a bean dip onto a flimsy chip. A warped smile crosses her face. You turn and see her bearing down on you like a grizzly on a dead salmon. I'm pulling out all the crazy analogies today. Brenda brings up what she found. This bitch did research. She knows about pineapples. In a hushed voice that she wants to carry loud and wide, she asks you, are you a swinger? Your blood runs cold. Your scalp is hot. What do you do? Look, I need you, all right, to go talk to your spouse today, right now. Run this hypothetical question by them. Run this scenario by them. How do you answer? You can totally leave out all the unpleasantness about Brenda, but this is a legit real thing that you and your spouse need to coordinate and have an answer for. I will point out a positive right here. If Brenda found your lifestyle profiles and she found something online about you and the stuff you get up to, that means you have a leak somewhere. Your discretion plan has failed and you need to figure out that leak and fix it. I'm working on a book all about discretion and that's one of the topics I cover. When you have a leak, what do you do and how do you fix it? For a short time hanging out here today, take this one positive away. Your plan failed. Now go fix it. Back to Brenda asking the most pointed question ever. What do you say? We could go playful. We could go with fog of war, serious, or the old uno reverse card. And then there's the honest route. First playful. This might on what brenda thinks she knows and what she intends to do with the information if her intention is to share your sex life with everyone there and run her tobacco stained mouth all night this ain't gonna work but try playing playful first though you might get lucky if she asks are you a swinger you tell her oh only on the, or depends on how you define swinging, or maybe say, I prefer to call it enthusiastic socializing. Play it off with a laugh. Play it off as a misunderstanding. There will be an urge, I'm going to tell you, to explain swinging, whatever you call it, or try to dissect and educate her on what you and your spouse do. Y'all might technically be into hot wifing, which for an educated audience like our listeners out there, y'all are going to shrug and say, yeah, there's a slight difference between swinging and hot wifing. This ain't what Brenda's asking. In her vanilla brain, any type of ethical non-monogamy is just swinging and all the resulting connotations are associated with it. There may be an opportunity to educate vanilla people on the nuances of the lifestyle and on all of our various subcommittees, communities. This ain't it. Brenda wants fucking gossip, not learning. So try to play it off. Maybe add in a touch of offended scoffing. Oh, oh, how the nerve. Then change the subject. Have in your pocket topics to change the subject too. Look at the nuclear option is you throw something out about politics and give her some juicy gossip to satiate her. The goal is to get her to shut up and move on. Like waving a stake in front of the bear I talked about, you throw the stake to the left and you run to the right. Risqué means slightly indecent or liable to shock, especially by being sexually suggestive. Risqué Lifestyle throws the premier lifestyle parties and takeovers in the southern USA. 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Our curated environment offers the opportunity to step into the fullness of your sexual expression. Day one is exclusively for women. Partners join on day two. Within your experience, you will learn tools and skills available to you through our hands-on exploratory techniques. Unleash your sexual power with Soul Lifestyle. For more information, go to www.soullifestyle.co. Let's say playful is not an option. Next up, fog of war. We will attempt to confuse the ever-loving fuck out of Brenda. She will ask, are you a swinger? To which you ask, what gives you that idea? We need this. We need the second question. You need to find out. You need to know what she knows and why she thinks this. So, you know, hypothetically, she might share that she saw your lifestyle Facebook page. Notice the pineapple in your profile pic and the internet told her what pineapples mean. Wait. We need to be thankful right here. It's a little holiday thing to be thankful for. We need to be thankful that most lists of swinger symbols are complete bullshit and you can argue your way out of it. Totally not real. Y'all know that, right? I did a whole episode on it. Go check it out. It was like my second or third episode. Anyway, we're going to pull a rope-a-dope on this one. Did Brenda see a pineapple or did she see the logo of a travel agency of the cruise y'all went on earlier this year? Did Brenda see a pineapple denoting swinging or a pineapple denoting a Mardi Gras crew? Pineapple? Or are you showing your love for a particular brand of clothing? Stay sparse on details. Remember the point is to confuse and extract yourself from the conversation as quickly as possible. Fog of war works because we are fucking gaslighting someone. That's it. Confuse, spin them around, and make them question reality. Is this a nice thing to do though? No. I leave this up to your own personal moral compass. You know, because you're not technically lying and you're not technically answering the question. The Uno reverse card. Brenda asked if you're a swinger, you flip that shit around, you look her in the eye, and you ask her if she is. Flip that question around. Uno, reverse. Make her defend herself on why she thinks you're in the lifestyle. Make her defend herself. Or you just ask a question that puts her on the defense and makes her want to leave the conversation as quickly as possible. Well, Brenda, if you're asking me if I'm a swinger, I want to know why Child Protective Services took your second kid from you. See, something like that. Finally, I'm going serious and honest with this for the honest route. I have learned that when I am brutally honest with people, no one believes me. If you say something with conviction and honest truth, people will doubt you. They won't believe you. I don't know why probably a psychologist could tell me. Back to Brenda, why this is relevant. Because she is, Brenda's turning out to be a great storytelling device, y'all. Brenda asks if you're a swinger. The honest response is you look her in the eye and you say, yes. Simple. Do not elaborate. Do not explain. Let her brain shut down and you run. She will either believe you or not based on the simplicity of your answer. Or you could say, that's a personal matter, but I appreciate your curiosity. Or my personal favorite, don't you fucking worry about what I do on the weekends. Why do you care what I'm doing? Don't use that one. This is why we don't do my family gatherings anymore. Really, you could also just say that's not something I'm comfortable discussing at this time. I'm mixing serious and honest together for this one. You have the right not to answer any question. She ain't the cops. You don't have a lawyer present. You don't have to answer her about anything. You do. You don't owe her nor anyone else an explanation at the fuck all. You do not have to explain the nuances of the lifestyle. You don't have to go into detail about your personal origin story. Nothing. People forget silence is also an option. Cover stories are useful here too. Let's say you went to a tropical adult lifestyle resort. Cover your bases. Go find a family-friendly venue nearby and tell people you went there. Same thing with cruises. Going on a sexy lifestyle cruise, find a ship leaving out from the same port around the same time frame as your cover story. But be prepared though to answer questions. When my wife and I went on our spicy, sexy cruise earlier this year, we got back home. Vanilla people ask questions. People ask questions about cruises. Like what was the name of the boat? Did we like the boat? And oh my God, it tripped me up because I picked a random boat name and cruise that we went on and a vanilla co-workers like, oh yeah, we went on that same boat, that same cruise last year. Last resort, last option here. You set a fire and run. You grab a paper towels, light them with a lighter, chunk it into the sink, and you run the opposite direction. Okay, don't do that. Honestly, do not do that. I'm not telling you to light a fire, though. You could go into cat mode, slide a glass off a counter, create a distraction, and run. Before we leave Brenda behind, the takeaway here is to practice. Have answers ready. Do not get if brenda decides to make a big old spectacle out of this like asking the swinger question while everyone is opening presents and in front of your super uber uptight grandmother you just know was giving out hand jobs hand jobs behind a jazz club in the 1920s brenda is a bitch for that brenda has a vendetta out for you and she's doing this shit on purpose which means you get to fight back this is not a time for that. Brenda has a vendetta out for you, and she's doing this shit on purpose, which means you get to fight back. This is not a time for defense. This is all about offense. Sharpen those swords, prepare the army, and walk the fuck away. The best answer to that question if someone wants to make a big old spectacle, walk away. Gather your stuff and leave. Tell her you're offended and disgusted by that question, or you ignore her. When you ignore her, she's probably going to get louder and she's going to make it awkward for everyone. Or you just respond to the question with bewilderment. Wherever did she get this idea? Make her explain it. Make her go into fucking detail on what she thinks is going on. Draw this out. Make her admit to internet stalking you. make her admit it then you just shrug your shoulders and say no are you tired of your boring vanilla holiday parties you know the ones where your co-worker linda tries to talk to you about her cats again well ditch the fruitcake and those awkward family gatherings because we're unwrapping something way more exciting next year. Get ready for National Lifestyle Weekend, where the naughty list is more than just a suggestion. It's a way of life. Join us in Las Vegas, June 19th to 21st, 2025, for a weekend of sexy parties that you probably can't tell your relatives about, whether you've been naughty or, well, mostly just naughty. National Lifestyle Weekend is the place to let loose, let go, and let everyone have a very happy holiday. Go to www.thatotherlifestyle.com for tickets shifting gears and going left direction doesn't matter maintaining discretion at vanilla events what the fuck does that mean jason look are you the kind of person who has a few drinks and decides to share personal very personal details about your weekend are you the kind of person who wants to brag to all the other guys standing around watching the turkey fry? Are you the kind of person who gets really honest after two bottles of wine? Somewhere out there in audience land, a person is now cringing. I have seen it happen at family gatherings. Yeah, Uncle Larry, after a few, two, three, seven beers, decides to get real honest about politics and his opinion of family members, which is fine for Larry. His hobbies do not involve sexy shenanigans that are generally frowned upon by mainstream society, unlike you. You and your spouse get loose lips, and suddenly, everyone knows what that pineapple doormat you got really means. Keep your mouth shut. Do not overshare. Don't share at all. If your spouse is the kind to overshare, y'all need to have a meeting and discuss this. If you know you or your spouse tends to get gabby and talky after the liquor shows up, limit the drinks. Will this cut into your fun? Yes. Will it make your family harder to tolerate for a few hours? Yes. Is the trade-off worth it? Figure it out now. And even the best laid plans can go completely sideways, so be ready. Have a code phrase or a code word or a signal to communicate between y'all if one of you needs rescuing or one of y'all is getting real close to that brutally honest drunk line. Something else to bring up? Keep your hands to yourself around the vanillas. But Jason, touching my spouse is fun. I agree. Touching spouses is great. In a friendly lifestyle environment, I am all on board with you. Flirting with my wife and playful touching and staring at her boobs, I do it all the time. It is a lot of fun. But remember, it is a big social faux pas in the vanilla world. You know, the ones who find flirting, ew, gross. Affection is weird. And don't you dare talk about sex in a positive manner. Now you could, if you're so inclined, if the urge hits, try to sneak off for a little fuckery at a vanilla event. I could try to dissuade you and tell you this is a bad idea. Oh no, you might get caught having sex with your spouse. Oh no, people might judge you for having a healthy sex life. Oh no, what if someone hears us? I am not talking you out of it. Do it. Sneak off. Best location is the bathroom. One person goes in, locks the door. Second person comes around about two minutes later, gives a secret knock. Then you get busy. Forget foreplay. Get straight to the good bits. Whatever y'all want to do, make a plan ahead of time and get to it. This is not the time for negotiation or hesitation. One consideration for the dudes out there. Guys, think about this. Y'all are fucking in the bathroom. Where is the cum going? I ain't going to go into details on it, but it's an important thing to think about ahead of time. Where are you going to shoot this? Y'all are adults and can figure it out. Whatever works for you. What about parties with mixed company? What about events where you have lifestyle friends and vanilla friends together under one roof? Well, I see two ways to handle this. And on one side or the other, one side or the other, somebody's got to get real cool real quick. If the vanilla crowd needs more respect and deference in this situation, deference, deference, there's a word, then the lifestyle people, y'all got to dial it down and you need to respect it. For whatever reason, you have created this mixture of people. And as a sign of respect for you, the party host or whatever you're doing, your lifestyle friends need to pull it back. Or conversely, the vanilla people need to be educated on what hanging out with lifestyle people could mean, the things they might see, and the stuff that might happen. And if they still choose to attend, then there should be no expectation for your lifestyle friends to change any other behavior. Not sure how often this happens, vanilla mixing with LS, but it could theoretically. You have to figure out which side of that coin you will defer to for the level of appropriate behavior in air quotes. Another odd point of the lifestyle my wife wanted me to add to this script, balance your diet. Hear me out. The lifestyle is a hobby that means we always have to look our best or at least attempt to look good. You never know who you might be naked in front of next weekend. For me, I can't indulge in the traditional bodybuilding bulk and cut routine. With bulk and cut, you take a few months to bulk up, lift heavy, gain muscle and fat. Then during a cut, you go on a diet to slim down and drop the fat. This cycle usually takes three to six months. Well, in the lifestyle, we don't have that luxury of time because every month, every weekend, there's a different party or a date or something. There's pressure, at least on me, to look fuckable at all times, which means I cannot take off six months from the lifestyle to bulk up and then slim down. I found the happy balance for me. But oh snappity, the holidays can ruin your diet and body plans with a quickness. Way too much food, way too many drinks, way too many times. It is possible to do damage to a well-planned out diet during the holidays. Be smart. Everything in moderation, even moderation sometimes. And let's say y'all are one of those lucky couples who use the quiet of the holidays to sneak away for a vacation somewhere warm. You lucky bastards. I fucking hate the winter time. Where I live, we have two seasons, summer and not summer. And I don't like the not summer part. If you're traveling for the holidays, going somewhere spicing and fun. Here's a tip, easy way to meet people where you're going. If you go online and update on your adult online site profile like SDC, you can change your location or post a speed date or a rendezvous in the area you're going to be. And you can also check out new clubs in the area. And y'all know this, there will be more parties. During the holidays, it is especially hard to balance and juggle the vanilla obligations and the sexy lifestyle fun. Coming from a person who really doesn't hang out or do family obligations around the holidays me that's me family i i do know and i can tell you family those obligations they're really important i dare say they're more important than the lifestyle fund the reason is there's always going to be another party another, another date. There will be new people joining the lifestyle next year. It is on the horizon and we can all chart a course together to fuckery. The family stuff though. Your family may only get together once a year or maybe every couple of years. Entirely possible to go years without seeing that super annoying cousin Brenda. But those times with family and vanilla friends are important.. They are rare and special and cherish them, please. If this is the one time of year your vanilla friends want to have a party, make it a priority to go. It is important to them. Respect it and show up. Laugh with them. Pull out those old memories. Enjoy the time with them. I always say the lifestyle is still going to be here when you're ready. For family gatherings and really any gathering, be it vanilla or lifestyle, if I've learned anything this past year, my words of wisdom. People need to know that you want them with you at an event, not that you miss them. People want to know you want them, not miss them. It's all well and good to text after a party or a family gathering or a shenanigans-filled weekend and say, oh yeah, you know, we sure did miss them. It's all well and good to text after a party or a family gathering or a shenanigans filled weekend and say, oh yeah, we sure did miss you. Cousin Billy, we sure did miss you at the potluck or whatever. I can't think of a good example. Where was the text telling Cousin Billy John that you wanted them there? Where was the outreach prior to the event? For some reason, people don't express enough how much we want people to be with us. We're all about after the fact when it really doesn't fucking matter and you can't do anything about it. We all need to get better at telling people we want them at events or parties or family functions. Not wait till the moment passed, hoping the fact you missed them is enough to entice them to attend the next one. Tell people you want them, not that you missed them. And last little tidbit today, save time to reconnect with your spouse. Reconnecting and checking in with your spouse is hard enough the rest of the year. And it can get double hard during the holidays without traveling and bullshit and parties and stress. Take time right now to reconnect with your spouse. If you can, plan a nice date night, nothing fancy. Just drink hot cocoa naked under a fluffy blanket and watch a holiday movie like those terrible Hallmark rom-com movies where you know the plot within the first two minutes. Yeah, watch those. Take time to connect. Take time to check in. Take time to help each other de-stress beyond sexually. Take time to connect with friends. Remember, it costs nothing to be kind. It costs nothing to support another person. It costs nothing to tell someone that they matter to you. And you don't have to wait till the end of the year, y'all. Tell them on auesday in march tell them in october tell them today what are you doing on december 21st are you near baton louisiana one of the friends of the show dj fabes is having another party y'all check out his page on sdc.com for more information and maybe this year you would like to get a present for your lifestyle friends and have no clue what to get them, I can help. I have a website, Binnable.com slash thatofthelifestyle. That is B-E-N-A-B-L-E dot com slash thatofthelifestyle, just like the show name, or just look in the show notes. I list out products that swingers or lifestyle or pineapple people need and could use, and it's really useful stuff. Some of the links give me a commission. Some of them don't. That's okay. It may spark a few ideas on what to get your friends. You want a deeper toes into the lifestyle, go to my website, thatofthelifestyle.com, and you're going to find a link to join sdc.com, where you can connect with me, connect with sexy people, and be part of one of the largest lifestyle communities on the planet planet i always appreciate hearing your feedback and comments on episodes or suggestions for topics so feel free feel free to reach out to me go to that other lifestyle.com for the blog courses and all that fun stuff my personal disclaimer i am not a medical professional nor a trained and certified educator of any kind in any way i am a guy with a microphone sharing my personal experiences with you this podcast is for entertainment purposes only please join us for the next episode whatever you may do today i hope you have a fantastic time doing it have a wonderful happy safe holiday season know that you appreciate and love have a great day I'll see you next time.