Welcome to a bold exploration of the lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy, where host Jason dives into the art and science of connecting physically with new partners. This adults-only episode tackles the unique challenge of having good sex with new people, providing actionable guidance for understanding and enhancing pleasure in the lifestyle. Jason discusses the importance of communication, listening to bodily feedback, and the nuances of providing and receiving consent.
Explore the dynamics of first-time intimate encounters, where communication becomes key to delivering memorable experiences. Discover how to read and interpret non-verbal signals and the role of verbal feedback in navigating new sexual territories. Tune into the body’s language and respond to its cues, helping both partners achieve greater satisfaction.
Whether you’re exploring these topics for personal insight or curious about lifestyle dynamics, this episode serves as a tool for better understanding your partners and yourself. Journey with Jason as he shares insights and tips for fostering more fulfilling and informed intimate connections. Listen now and transform how you approach new experiences.
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Speaker1: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. Wherever you are, I hope you have blue skies. Welcome to that other lifestyle podcast. I am your host, Jason. Leave Vanilla behind as we talk about connecting physically quickly with another person. This podcast is for adults only. We'll be diving into adult and sexual topics with plenty of colorful language, so it is not safe for work. If you're under 18, this is not the place for you. Thank you. This show is all about exploring the lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy, and it's open to everyone, no matter your background, gender, identity, expression, or your personal truth. While I try to do my best to use inclusive language, you might hear terms like husband, wife, or partner for simplicity's sake. This show is for everyone, though, Lifestyle, vanilla, or just the curious. You want to connect with me? You can send me an email to host at thatotherlifestyle.com. Visit my website at thatotherlifestyle.com. Everyone is welcome here because the lifestyle is so much more than you think. Today's episode, as promised last week, is about sex. Naughty, raunchy, glorious, passionate, sticky, sweaty sex. Now, I could share a story of how I met a woman and had sex with her three hours later. She had a super interesting tattoo on her inner thigh. Is that possible? Yes, because it happened to me. Or how I made four different women squirt in a 24-hour period with a claw of justice. Or I could share a personal recollection of all the orgies I have hosted or attended with an in-depth play-by-play of what I did with my dick and the adventures that went on. I'm not going to. Not going to. Me, personally, I find stories of other people's escapades just not that very interesting. I don't care what people do. I'm not the kind of person to go sit in a playroom at a swinger convention just to watch other people fuck around. That's not my jam. And yeah, it's fun to share wild stories with my friends. But for me, I would rather share useful information to everyone out there rather than random stories and hope you can find a useful bit of knowledge in there. I want this show to present and share useful, actionable guidance to help people, help you navigate the lifestyle. There are other shows out there that will share all the intimate details of the host or the guest's sexual adventures. You listen to the whole episode and you wonder, what the fuck am I supposed to take away from this besides a hard-on? Out of my previous 60-some-odd episodes, I have dropped and dispersed pointers on good fucking. How to deliver, how to receive, how to recover. This episode, I want to address a unique lifestyle problem we have, how to have good sex with a new person. Here's where my brain is on this and why. When you meet a new couple or a person or a group of people for the first time, you engage in naked shenanigans for the first time, you may not know what the other person likes or dislikes or wants or needs. Some women really like clitoral stimulation, others need penetration. Some men can get off from blowjobs or they may have the endurance of a diesel engine. A new body is a mystery. A fun mystery. A warm mystery. A wet mystery. And you want to deliver the best experience you can or at least you should want to. I know there are people out there who their only concern is getting theirs off, is getting their orgasm, and they couldn't give two shits about yours. Dudes who will pop in 20 seconds, then they gather their clothes in the most shameful manner possible and bounce. Or women who give you zero feedback so you don't know if you're rubbing your tongue raw for nothing. You, dear listener, I like to believe that you here, hanging out with me every week because you do legitimately care about the pleasure of your partners, however temporary those engagements may be. And temporary partners, first-time partners, people you finger in an elevator on the way down to a party, this is about them. What do we need to look for and listen for and be attentive to in order to make sure that the woman you were giving the claw justice to squirts before you hit the first floor. We need to take a step back and better define what the fuck I'm talking about. You may be married. You may be married for more than two decades. I am willing to bet you know what your spouse likes because of time and trial and error. You know the exact spot on their dick that they like to be rubbed or the perfect sequence for a nipple massage to make them happy. You know your spouse's body. With a new person, we don't have the benefit of time to learn. Maybe you and your spouse have a friend couple that you fuck around with all the time. Through multiple encounters over years, you have learned what the other wife really enjoys. She likes oral sex in a particular manner. After years of fucking, you know how to make that other dude squirm. Again, it's time that is the big factor in learning other people's bodies. Time is not on our side, though, with one night stands or new partners. That's okay. What we lack in time, we can make up for in communication. There is nothing weird or strange in asking another person what they like and what they enjoy in bed. We are adults, we use our words. Look, you feel comfortable asking about test results prior to playing around, right? And side note, stdhero.com, use promo code TOL15 for 15% off your order. This is your weekly reminder to go get tested. Are you due? Go get tested. We can openly talk about our STI status, which means we can openly talk about and ask questions about a person's sexual wants, desires, stimulations. While you're riding in the elevator up to a hotel room, quickly check in. Like, hey, do you like clitoral stimulation? How do you feel about oral sex? Do you prefer softer, gentler sex or a little bit more aggressive? What are your limits and boundaries? Anything I should not do or anything you don't care for? These are easy questions. Or if you don't like that, we can try another approach. You could say, hey, I really enjoy when a man moans. That primes that dude to make a noise. It lets him know, her or him or her, know that you enjoy the noise and they are welcome. Or you tell them, I really like to be on top or I like this or that position. And if you're nervous, the play here is you get your spouse to mention it or drop it in a hint like, oh, my wife really likes when a man does this. See where I'm going? Noises going off on a fucking tangent right now. It's weird. Most people are conditioned to not make noise when having sex or engaging in sexual activity. And I can't say all people because I have heard men scream when they come like Tarzan. And yes, it freaked me the fuck out the first time it happened. And women will unleash this guttural growl of pleasure or my favorite, the giggles. Giggle orgasms are fucking adorable. Some people, though, they are stone silent during sex, staring into the void, pondering the mysteries of life, while being frantically fucked to climax. No judgment on quiet people, though. I think it comes from when we are younger, you're trying to rub one out in the middle of the night, quiet and stealthy under the cover of darkness, so no one hears you. That habit of stealthy pleasure, though, sticks around in our brains. Not everyone. Some people, they fully embrace grunting and moaning and dirty talking, which I enjoy so much. I am terrible at dirty talking, but fuck me, I enjoy it. Yes, the man who never shuts up with this podcast is bad at talking dirty. I think the harder my dick gets, the less words I know. The blood rushing around my body takes my vocabulary skills right out my brain. For everyone out there, making noises during sex is good. It is a good thing. It is a thing that we all need to do more of. Men, when you're getting a blowjob, moan. Make a noise. Tell the woman how good it feels. And this is coming from women that I've talked to. They've told me that they like it when men make sounds, audible sounds of happiness. It lets them know they're doing a good job. Ladies, if a man is going down on you, tell him he's doing a good job. He needs this positive reinforcement. I will settle for a short gasp. His eyes, my eyes are probably below the horizon at that point, but my ears still work and they're available. Unless you're the kind of lady that does the thigh headlock, then that poor bastard is more concerned with breathing than listening. This can be hard. For the people who are good at expressing themselves, they don't realize how hard it can be for someone to do this, for someone who is not good at expressing themselves. I empathize and I sympathize. But for The Lifestyle, my wife and I do the silent sex often. Another win for The Lifestyle is that we both found our voices sexually, be it in communicating better or grunting better. Are you ready to party in paradise? Risqué Lifestyle Parties presents Pulsify 2025 at the Island Resort on the sparkling waters of the Gulf Coast in Fort Walton Beach, Florida. September 26th through the 28th, 2025. Come for the two-day party that will take hotel takeovers to the next level in one place. With many stories and endless fun for you and your sexiest friends. 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Use code TOL15 at checkout for 15% off your order. If you are nervous about taking your test, check out Jason taking a real-at-home STD Hero STI test on the That Other Lifestyle YouTube channel. We'll be right back. at home STD hero STI test on the That Other Lifestyle YouTube channel. For us lifestyle people, our community, we can take and incorporate lessons, aspects, useful tools from other places into our sexual repertoire. We could all learn from the BDSM community about consent and safety, and I'm going to do an episode about that eventually. Just stick with me. For sexual connection, we turn to massage therapy. I know it's a weird place to go, but you're in this deep, so let's just keep going. When you're getting a massage, you may groan or moan or wince if they use too much pressure. A good massage therapist will listen for, acknowledge, and adjust based around the biofeedback that you give them. It could be the way you shift under their hands when they're rubbing your back, or maybe you exhale hard when they find a knot. These are all feedback mechanisms that you are consciously or subconsciously giving this total stranger that you're probably paying money to. So if you're okay with giving biofeedback in that scenario, why is it so hard to do during sex? And on the other side of the discussion, we as sexual partners need to acknowledge, receive, and adjust based on the biofeedback that we are being given. The act of sex is primal, raw, the greatest expression of our humanity that our pitiful earthly shells can muster. Beyond our music, language, culture, sex has been the driving force of human expression since two cave people realized how much fun it is by firelight. And the rest of this episode is about how to read those words esched upon the warm flesh of another. If there are no words, though, if there is no feedback, you can't read the message. I implore you, if you're on the quiet side of the spectrum here, make a noise. I know that can sound intimidating. Do it with your partner first. They will not judge you. They will thank you. They want this. You're okay and empowered to breathe a little harder when an action is pleasurable. You are empowered to say right there or don't stop or I like it. You're okay doing this. The person who is giving you pleasure, they need this feedback to do the absolute best they can. And I want to help people learn how to read the feedback they're getting. So meet me halfway here. Give some more feedback. Ask about what a person likes and dislikes. That can dovetail very nicely into a consent discussion. Instead of outright asking, do you like oral sex? It could be, hey, what kind of oral sex do you prefer? And they can respond with this type or that type, or I don't really like that and I prefer something else. Such an easy way to establish boundaries here. The conversations around consent, they can feel intimidating as fuck, but they're a lot easier if you approach them with the attitude of, I want to provide the most pleasure possible to this person. I need to know what they enjoy and what they are wanting. And speaking of massage and the reason this episode even popped into my head, connecting with another person physically. I really enjoy giving massages. It is this intimate act of power and skin and pleasure. And the past few months, maybe I have a new kink developing. I really enjoy giving a woman a massage. Full body from her feet to her scalp. It doesn't even have to involve any of the fun bits. I just like doing it. My wife really likes massages. During COVID, y'all remember that time in our lives where everything stopped and the reason we all think it's still 2022. During COVID, my wife cannot get massages, you know, for reasons. So I went out and I learned on my own. I got the textbooks. I watched the videos. Now I'm not a professional, but I dove into this new skill hard. I got the table and the oils and I love giving my wife a massage. Recently, we had a friend come over and she was complaining that her back hurt. And on a whim, I said, well, hey, let me feel it and let me rub it. And she said, yes, I went to work. I am so used to rubbing my wife. I know every single inch of my wife's body. This new body, intimately massaging and touching and seeking and searching on her back. Oh, that felt amazing. Feeling her breathing under my hands and listening for the feedback. Remember, I'd only ever massaged my wife at this point. So even in lifestyle situations, my massage skills never really came up. I never volunteered it. Feeling this new person though, new kink, unlocked for sure. And that's what inspired this episode. See, you've been with me for over 10 minutes and I'm finally getting to the inspiration and the reason. I had to tune into my friend's body. I had to listen to her breathing, which her and my wife just kept on talking and had a whole conversation while I was doing this. So that was interesting. There are so many little signals she was giving me that I needed to pay attention to. Realizing about halfway through this, this is the same thing I do when I'm having sex with a woman. Fun fact about me, I like to be on top when I have sex, meaning I will lay down fully on top of the woman. I see other guys and their techniques are different. Some guys like to stay upright with a woman horizontal. I'm not a fan of this because I have really shit balance. And the other reason I find laying physical skin-on-skin contact puts me much more in touch with the woman than being upright. I can feel their breathing when it changes in a positive or a negative way. I can hear a woman's breathing better this way. Instead of just having two senses, hearing and visual when you're upright, touching bodies allows me to feel their body with all of mine. And it's no judgment here on anyone. Y'all know I don't judge anybody for anything. However you fuck is your business. If you can lay down the thunder dick when you're upright, get it. I can't, I don't like to, and maybe this is the reason I don't besides my horrible balance. Be it massaging or fucking, we need to tune into other people's bodies. So here's a question to ponder. Do you know when a person is about to orgasm? For men or those who enjoy vagina, do you ever feel the tightening down there? You feel the change in their bodies? For those who enjoy dick, are you tuned into the way that men tighten up their bodies before climax? And side note, dudes. If a woman starts shaking, moaning, grabbing your hair, or saying don't stop while you were down there between her legs with your face, do not stop. Don't think, oh, she's enjoying this, maybe I should try this instead. No, she is literally telling you that motion feels good. Keep doing it. I don't care if your jaw gets sore, you get up in there and you stay there. Anyway, gathering feedback. When you're with a new person, it is so important to tune into their body. You can't go on autopilot. I know you go on autopilot with some people. You have the routine down and you know when you're person, though. You need to deliver the best you can, especially if you want a callback. Breaking this down into using the tools we have at our disposal. We have our senses, we have our bodies as an instrument, and they are the melody we are going to start playing. We need to listen to the noises other people are making, however faint, which is the reason I'm also not a big fan of loud music while we do the fuckery with people. I want to be able to hear what's going on. And also don't tune out the other person. If you're so focused on yourself and getting yourself off, you won't be able to get the information you need either. What kind of feedback are we looking for? The best giveaway I have found, the one thing people cannot control is their breathing. Yes, someone can not talk or make a sound, but their breath will give it away. Changes in tempo, changes in duration, changes in general. With all of this, we're looking for differentials. I asked the internet for a definition of differential, and it gave me back math and equations as an answer. Fuck that. We are looking for differences from the baseline when I say differential. So a good example is a song. If the beat of a song is the baseline, you will notice when it changes, when the bass drops, you will notice the difference. We are looking for differences from the normal and what is the variable that causes the difference, which means testing and science, which is the ugly child in math. If a person is breathing steady and you find that magic spot on their dick and they start breathing faster, you've found the differential. You've found the variable spot. You now know that they enjoy sensation on that spot. Maybe you used a finger the first time, second time you tried your tongue and their breathing changes again. We found new information. You touch the same spot with your tongue and their breathing does not change. Now we know the tongue is not the right variable. At a point in the past with your spouse, you did this. You went through this process. That's why you now instinctively know what they like or you think you do. It could be beneficial for all the couples out there listening to me to reevaluate every now and then what you may believe or think you know about what your spouse enjoys. And good news, you're in the lifestyle, so conversations about all this about sex are way easier now. Hypothetical situation. You and your spouse have sex with a great couple. You notice your partner has a really good time, like multiple good times. You can approach this information in two ways. The shitty bad way is to get upset that your partner got more pleasure from someone else. That is the vanilla way of doing things. We don't do that. Getting jealous, getting upset that your partner had a good time, not cool. The healthier lifestyle way is to look at this as a learning opportunity. Ask your spouse what happened. What did this person do that pleased them so much? And once you know what happened, once you know what the missing variable is, fuck, you can do it yourself. See, knowledge is power, just like all those 1980s cartoons said. That's what's so cool about the lifestyle. We can be exposed to new techniques and skills that would never have crossed our minds. It happens. It is understandable for it to happen. You have sex with the same person for 20 years. You make assumptions that you know what they like. It is good to re-evaluate that every now and then. And the benefit of the lifestyle is that we are exposed to new techniques by other people. As I was ideating the script, I wanted to get another perspective, a woman's perspective, a glorious shining beacon of lifestyle knowledge, and I made her go, huh, when I pitched the concept of this episode. I reached out to my friend Lexi Silver. Lexi has been a huge supporter of the podcast behind the scenes. I ended up talking to her for something else, and then I brought this up. You can find her at LexiSilver.com, and that's silver with a Y, L-E-X-I-S-Y-L-V-E-R, LexiSilver.com. She's a lifestyle coach, relationship coach, sex coach, all around badass and fabulous person. In hindsight, I should have recorded her conversation to just put it in this episode, but no, I lack forethought and planning on that one. Lexi did want to share. She wanted to share a couple of concepts that I had not even considered, and when trying to connect with another person sexually, Lexi said the eyes are important, eye contact, which then made me stop and think, do I make eye contact? Are you not wondering if you make eye contact during sex? Do I? Lexi said the eyes communicate everything. Well, for those without vision issues, eye contact is super helpful. No matter how much a person may try to mask their internal brain workings, if someone says yes, I really like that, but there's some hesitancy in their glances, that's information we can use. another thing Lexi pointed out about dirty talk because I told her I'm terrible at it she said be specific with the dirty talk as in would you like me to do this would you like me to suck your nipples listen to both the words they say and the inflection in their voice first off good thing about this is you're being direct and asking specifically what you want to do the other person can then make a judgment call without pressure on whether or not to consent. See, there's that important consent idea again to allow you to proceed. And listen for the inflection in their voice. I always talk about getting consent. You want enthusiastic consent. You want enthusiasm in the inflection of their voice. No hesitation. If you are unsure at any point, ask again. It is better to double check than do an act to a person who's not really on board with it. Lexi also has a unique perspective as she is bisexual. She shared that men are way fucking easier, her words, to tune into versus women. And I would surmise, yes, I agree, that's true. Men have this external genitalia just flopping around. You have direct feedback right there in the pecker on whether or not the guy's in the zone. She said in her experience, women, and I agree, are a lot harder because they're rising to zones. A lot of them are internal. Lexi said with women, tune into everything. Goosebumps, hard nipples, breathing, moaning, check in with them, ask how does this feel? And I'm so super happy I talked to her because Lexi brought up a facet of this I had not even considered. Neurodivergent people may have trouble reading facial expressions or reading all these physical cues that I've been talking about. So fully admitting there was a gap in my advice on this one. Neurodivergent people, depending on what kind of divergency they have, may have trouble reading facial expressions. It's a known thing. They may have trouble expressing themselves through body language. So checking in verbally, talking, asking. We need more of that for everyone's sake. Asking, would you like this? Asking, may I do this? Be direct with your communication. And Lexi was right and I had missed that one so I'm very glad I talked to her. Being unable to read facial expressions or operating without verbal consent, I can see how that could cause some performance anxiety or lead to situations where actions are purely performative and not for pleasure. And adding on that before I go someplace else, people with ADHD may have trouble recognizing the pleasure of another, not in a they don't care way more, more of a, it's harder for them to tune in. With ADHD, and I am intimately familiar with lots of people with ADHD, sex is a fire hose of stimulation. All their senses are firing off at one time, both internally and externally. It's a lot of background noise to sift through. On top of that, then they're expected to be vocal, which adds a whole other layer of expectations. So in addition to getting blasted with a fire hose, they have to dance the whole time. Be calm. For those with ADHD, focus on one thing at a time. Focus on one sensation that you are receiving. I'll see the whole time. Be calm. For those with ADHD, focus on one thing at a time. Focus on one sensation that you are receiving. There's no pressure to perform in this. Focus on your own pleasure and what you are feeling. If you have an audible reaction or a physical reaction, let it flow out. Do not stop it. Allow your body to react as it wants versus thinking you have to do something or getting self-conscious about a reaction. Performative, that's the other direction I wanted to go. I need to talk about that one too. Feedback should not be performative. If you want to scream and yell, fucking go for it. But do it because it's a natural reaction, not something you think someone else wants to see based upon what you've seen in porn. Coming from the dude with experience here, genuine feedback from a woman is amazing. It helps me, it helps people fine-tune how to pleasure you. That performative stuff though, that just muddies the message. Then people have to question, are you really enjoying this or are you pretending? Am I doing something right? Changes in breathing patterns are much more helpful to the outside observer versus screaming. Saying I'm about to come. Golden fucking great right there. Let me know how close you are and I need to keep doing what I'm doing. Yelling out oh fuck me unless it's followed by an instruction like harder not as helpful. Now the practical advice. The how. How do you do this? Doesn't do any good to talk about without sharing the real advice. As I said, we're looking for variables that cause a differential reaction. So we're going to talk about oral sex. It's the easiest one. Sucking dick and licking clit. As I have way more experience with one of those, I will use that as my example, though I guess those in the position of sucking can figure out your own techniques. It all still works. Giving good cunnilingus is an art and a science. For most people I would say right off the top slow the hell down. Let a sensation linger. Check for a reaction before you try a different technique. So use the flat of your tongue in an upper motion for 20 or 30 seconds. Then switch to tongue flicks against the click for a few seconds. Give the person time to react to the sensation. If you're tuned into the woman's body, then you're looking for a change. Is there a positive reaction when you switch techniques from flat tongue to flicking? I imagine these have specific names, but I don't know them, so please just accept my simple terms for all this. If the woman likes the tongue flicking more than the flat tongue, she's going to react. Her breathing may change. She may shift her body a little bit. She might even tell you that feels good. Or conversely, there could be no reaction, no change. Okay, we're still making progress here. You switch back to flat tongue as your baseline. Then you try swirls. Check for a reaction. If we have a positive, then we now know that swirls are good. Stick with the swirls for a little while and then try something different. What we're looking for is a highly strong positive reaction to one of these techniques. And yes I am grossly oversimplifying looking pussy. If you find there's a technique that elicits a strong reaction you fucking ride that wave. Do not stop. We have identified the technique that will bring that woman to climax, probably, most likely. At a minimum, it feels good for her, and we want to give good pleasure so we are on the right path. If you get tired, which does happen after marathon pussy-looking sessions, alternate two different techniques. Alternate between your baseline technique and the one that works really, really well that we figured out. So if you are swirling away and your tongue muscles are getting tired, switch to an open mouth side-to-side motion to let your tongue rest. We know the baseline feels good. The variable technique feels great. So just alternate those two. We have eliminated from consideration techniques that she does not enjoy by going through this
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And all of this can happen over the span of like two or three minutes where you're connecting with another person quickly, figuring out, deducing what they enjoy. The bad way to employ this, the not right way is to think, well, my wife really enjoys when I do this technique or this sequence. Therefore, ipso-faxo, every woman must enjoy it. No. Every human is different. There is no one blanket technique, especially for pussy licking, that every woman enjoys. Some women are not a fan of constant clit stimulation, and you may have to go tongue diving instead. I am such an eloquent speaking person. The other way I would call bad way to do this is to just not give a shit. It happens. Men and their excitement and women too. Everybody, people, don't care about the pleasure of their partners, so they're just going to do the bare fucking minimum, the least amount of effort possible because they're in a race to get to the penetration. Slow the fuck down and appreciate someone else's body. This other person has allowed, granted, blessed you with access to their most intimate areas. Even if this is a one-night stand, look, you want to be memorable. You want to be the guy or the woman that they think about in two years when they're trying to rub one out. You want to be the ghost that haunts them, the elusive specter that lingers in the last breath before they come. And remember what works. If you are lucky enough to have a second round with a couple, remember what worked the first time. Don't get crazy fucking amnesia the next time you're staring at this pussy. You went through all this whole process the first time, you know what variables work and don't work. The next time you are with this sexual being, you can either try new techniques or you stick with the ones that you know are successful. Oddly, weirdly, talking about this episode with a very sexy friend this week, she mentioned that I know her spots. I learned the spots on her and what she likes over time, lots of time. Now when I am blessed to be in that position, I know what to do. I've tried all the variables before. I landed on a set technique that I know works for her because I know her body. I know when she's close to orgasming and then I can slow down, speed up. I can manipulate the situation, which sounds so very bad when I use that word, because I have practice and I care about her pleasure. I don't want this to come across as mechanical either. Sex is an art. If sex were a science or a mechanical action, then every man and woman could climax at the exact same time after 100 thrust. Sex is the purest form of art. Just as good paintings abide by the golden ratio, we can apply forethought and effort in a scientific manner to what we do. Let the act flow naturally. Respond to the signals you are receiving. think water not not metal. Metal is the element of industry. It is hard. It is knowable. A metal gear will stay a metal gear until it is no longer a metal gear. You are not a metal gear. You are a bag of water. Water flows. Water can become ice or vapor with sex. You may need to become a different state or something different in order to help a person reach climax, just like water can change its state. Not every person will respond to oral sex like another. You may need to use your fingers or your dick or your pussy to achieve that goal. Hence, you are water, changing your techniques and your state of being as the other person reacts to it. Look, if you throw that metal gear into a river, it's going to sink and it's going to stay there. If you are water, though, you can flow along the natural valley and beaches, and there is no better metaphor for sexual acts than a river flowing to the ocean. You must go along with the flow. You can't suddenly declare in the middle of the act, I have reached orgasm. I am now done, and I don't care that you have not reached orgasm. Where are my pants?
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You're being metal by doing that, unflinching, uncaring. If you're like water, you can say, I have reached orgasm, but you have not. Here, let me assist you by licking your vagina until you achieve orgasm, thereby changing your state of being from a wrecked penis to a tongue. This is some deep shit right here, and I really hope it's landing with everyone. Sex is art, and water do not be mechanical and metal. Be adaptable to the tongue. This is some deep shit right here, and I really hope it's landing with everyone. Sex is art, and water, do not be mechanical and metal. Be adaptable to the situation with another person. And if you're married, it might be time for a refresher with your spouse. Next time y'all are getting intimate, throw everything you know out the window and try this process. You know what they might like it. You know the sequence. Introduce a new variable and test it out. People go to extreme lengths to spice up their marriage when sometimes all they have to do is to lick a clit in the new way. I always appreciate hearing your feedback and comments on episodes or suggestions for topics, so feel free to reach out to me at host at thatotherlifestyle.com. My website is thatotherlifestyle.com. My personal disclaimer, I am not a medical professional nor a trained and certified educator of any kind in any way i am a guy with a microphone sharing my personal experiences with you this podcast is for entertainment purposes only and please join us for the next episode remember sti testing is important and it takes a community to make a difference go to stdhero.com and use my promo code TOL15 for 15% off your order. Whatever you may do today, I hope you have a fantastic time doing it. Know that you are appreciated and loved. Have a great day.
