A holiday conversation with Sol

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good morning good afternoon good evening this is jason here with that other lifestyle podcast wherever you are in the world i hope you're having a fantastic wonderful happy holidays today i am blessed and so happy to be joined by a friend of the show soul hey hello friend hello darling i'm so very very thankful that you're hanging out with me this week it is christmas week so we just had you some very low-key very chill i have my hot my hot chocolate right here soul her coffee with her, and we're just going to hang out.

We're just going to talk about whatever random stuff happens to pop into our minds, and we hope everybody loves it. Just to tell everybody, thelifestyle.com is my website. It's got the blog and the courses and all that fantastic, wonderful stuff. Thank you so much for hanging out with us today. And Soul, if they want to find out more about you, where can they go? I would love everyone to come find me at soullifestyle.co.

And you can find out about the programs I'm offering, the live in-person experiences that we have happening in 2025, five and our coaching container, which I would love everybody to check out. And that's soullifestyle.ca. Live events you're doing in 2025. I've heard a little bit about them and maybe our audience heard a little bit about them. What are they? What do you have going on next year? Because I know you have plans and I see the smile on your face. You're excited about them. What does you have going on next year? Oh, Jason, thank you. I'm so excited.

So the live in-person experiences that we're offering in 2025 are going to be a two-day offering. And the first day is exclusively for women. And the second day is when partners join. For those of you who have not yet met me and my work, I'm soul, soul lifestyle. And I work, I work in the sexual wellness space. I work in the spirituality space. I work in women's health and nutrition, and I really focus my work primarily with women, on women, with women. From there, the work that we do overflows naturally to women and their partners.

So I'm really excited this year to be offering this two-day experience where one day is primarily set out to extensively focus on women. Through this work, the concept of the work that I put out into the world is connection. Within sex, love, and relationship, I have found in my experience that there is a deficit within one with women and women being able to connect with themselves sexually, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and even physically.

And this is where my true work is, is helping women dive into the layers, the beliefs, the thought patterns that hold them back or being able to truly experience their highest levels of pleasure, passion, play and power within their sensuality and sexuality. That is the workshop. That is the two day experience where that day one really connects with women and it allows women to peel back those layers. And it teaches women the skills and the tools, the rituals and the practices to be able to do that.

And they learn, they learn about themselves in day one and they learn the skills and tools necessary to be able to connect with themselves on a deeper level and be able to take that home and continue on that journey. Within that, the same concept overflows naturally to their partners. So on day two, when partners join, the women have already worked with me for an entire day, and they're experiencing themselves. Hopefully, the goal is in a more embodied, empowered light, sensually and sexually, and they're able to bring that to the table with their partner on day two.

And then when partners join, we work together as a unit to further deepen connection emotionally, mentally, physically, spiritually, sexually, and sensually. And it really creates this beautiful ebb and flow in this union within partnership and relationship. And it gives people the opportunity to be able to connect on a deeper level and be able to take those skills and practices home to continue on that journey. And really what this is about is giving ourselves the opportunity to have a very intentional container, an intentional space to connect with ourselves and our lover or lovers.

And that is something that we don't often, we don't do it. We don't do that, right? We may date or we may have a, you know, an erotic experience or an expansive sexual experience, but truly when was the last time that somebody, anybody took the time to deeply connect within themselves with their own sexual self, within their sexual expression, asked themselves about that. What, what is my turn on? What is my pleasure? What is my eroticism? What is my orgasm? What is my bliss?

And being able to do that in a safe held space with instruction is such a gift to give to yourself and then also to your partner and to your relationship. And the other reason, Jason, that I have created this, my heart is so big for our culture and our, uh, our couples and relationship where we're in a turning point and I'm not going to, I'm not going to down this, but we're in a turning point within our culture where it is the norm for, for couples and relationships to not last. It is the norm for them not to last.

If you are a couple or you are partnered and your past five years, cheers to you, cheers to you. Right. And that breaks me. It breaks, it breaks my heart. It breaks every, every cell in my being because I truly believe within my core and my heart, I believe that people have the capacity to fall in love over and over again. Oh, and I believe, I truly believe that partnership can last and that partnership can be lifetime. Now, whatever your story is, and it doesn't matter, but I do believe that there is the capacity within us to continually fall in love with ourself and our lover.

I totally agree. Right? And there's just this massive deficit within our culture.

I fall in love with my wife every morning I love it because I try to catch her whenever um I'm getting ready to go to the gym I try to catch her right when she's she's you know getting out of her night clothes about to get in the shower and she's naked and I just walk in there and I cheer and I clap I love it I love you I love you I'm so happy that makes my day when i can see my wife naked and we have been together for 20 we just made 20 years and i still really yes and i still cheer and clap whenever i see my wife naked i am giddy i am so giddy when i can see my wife naked and she's like what you've seen all this before i was like yeah but i love it i like it i want to see more of it stop wearing so much clothing but i like the way um because i got your i saw your email about the web the word that yeah words the stuff you have coming up and i like the way you put it invest use the word invest invest thank you yes and people it takes work it does take work to have a good sexual connection in a marriage or in the lifestyle or whatever it takes work and by saying the word work it reframes this that yeah i have to put effort into this but i can also invest look at it as investing in my ability to receive pleasure, to deliver pleasure, to be a better lover.

That is something we can definitely put work into, and you provide that service to people to help them. Because I know for me and my wife, when we started, we did not communicate well about sex because we did not have a frame of reference. We did not know the right words. Um, there was a lot of things that we've learned by being in the lifestyle. We can now say, I enjoy this, or I really like this, or I don't like this. We can now say those words and we have a language to say them and a shared language between us. Cause that also happens too with couples.

One person really likes this, but they don't know how to say it. Or maybe a couple is saying the same thing or they want the same thing. They're just not finding the right words to express that to each other. Yes. Oh, I could not agree with you more. And that's another piece to the puzzle is communication, right? Communication is such a learned skill. We're not taught, if you will, we're not taught how to properly communicate in relationship. We're not taught how to communicate with our lover. And it's such an important skill.

It's such an important skill for the foundation of success and for the foundation of longevity within relationship and for deeper connection, right? And when we can hone in on those skills of communication, we can understand better what's happening within our own self, our own mind, our own body, our own soul, and be able to then communicate that to our lover and say vice versa, right?

When we don't know what's even happening within ourselves because we haven't really been taught how to communicate effectively what we're feeling or what's happening with us in emotion or pleasure or in our bodies, when we haven't been taught how to effectively communicate that, how do you think that you're going to communicate that to somebody else? And that goes across the board in all relationships, right? Like lover or platonic, all relationships to be able to communicate effectively.

And when you, when you work on it, when you actually put the time in, when you invest in it, it really helps from the bottom up. It helps in all levels of your life, right? It not only helps with your lover and your sexuality and your sensuality, but it helps you professionally. It helps you with your career. It helps you with your children. It helps you with your co-worker.

It helps on all levels not just in the bedroom which is something i don't think we often think about oh no let's talk so my as you're saying all that what my brain goes to is oral sex because it oral sex all right hit a trade of sex between a man and a woman. There are some nuances, but oral sex is a lot more complicated.

And if you have a couple where the man just does the same thing over and over again, the woman may not feel comfortable expressing that she wants something different or expressing that it's not that she's unhappy with it, but maybe there was a little tweak or a change he made that she would enjoy it a lot more but a lot of couples aren't comfortable communicating to each other or trying to communicate you know maybe i would like to try something different people just don't have those skills especially around sex we're so terrible at communicating in this day and age and sex is sex is the worst thing to communicate about because you don't want to make somebody feel bad i mean you don't worry how they're going to take it and maybe they won't be as excited as you are so it's a whole thing it's a whole thing and do you think i mean i've i've found in my work what do you think about this when When couples are comfortable and things are smooth, if you will, like maybe she has an orgasm and yes, he has an ejaculation and that's comfortable.

Right. A lot of times I have found that the woman doesn't necessarily want to disrupt the apocard. She feels, she feels in her, she feels in her body, she feels guilty to express a desire or a want for something different. doesn't want to hurt his feelings right right she doesn't want to hurt his feelings about sex yes a lot of men not me a lot of men think they're just perfect at it uh just by nature like well yeah i know how to thrust repeatedly that's that's it? Or they learn from porn or they learn from bad teachers versus good teachers. Your wife is the best teacher.

Your wife is the absolute best teacher on how to pleasure her. She's the best. Bad teachers are porn and other guys and all this stuff. Learning from a good teacher makes you a better lover and your wife is the best teacher out there. But you have to be willing to accept. It's not criticism. It's just how do we take this to the next level together? What are the things you can try to make more pleasurable for both of us? So it's reframing the discussion and how you look at it. You're not deficient. You can get better and we should all strive to get better in whatever we may do.

And you're right, this does translate into work and all these other areas of your life saying, how can I get better at what I'm already good at? That's a sign of a professional. That's just a professional lover. Yes, you're a professional, you're an expert. And it you know it takes it takes stepping into that space of vulnerability right it takes oh yeah you got to be vulnerable you have to be vulnerable the criticism I wish I didn't think of a better word for it it's a hot chocolate um you have to be willing to accept that okay I am not perfect at this but I can get.

And it's the desire to get better that women find incredibly attractive, y'all. Women do it. Yeah. Women do dig it. And women are attracted, at least this woman, I am. I am attracted to a man who gives a try. A try is so important to me and a try for expansion, a try for something better, a try that goes outside of the box and outside of the comfort zone and says, I may not have executed this perfectly, but I'm willing to try. That is so attractive and that is so sexy. And that opens the gateway.

It opens the door for communication and for effective communication, because then you've opened up Pandora's box, if you will, for something that's new or something that's a little bit different than the normal in the bedroom scene. You've opened the door for communication because then you can start asking the questions. How does this feel? Do you like that? More pressure, less pressure, faster, slower, softer, harder, right? Those very simple words that lend themselves to effective communication in relationship. And it's, it's beautiful. And that's so attractive. It is so sexy. So sexy.

Even if it's horrible, it's still sexy because it's a try and it's the conversation and it only gets better from there. Well, let's take a quick commercial break. Cause when we come back, I'm going to talk to y'all women. Cause it's so broad of something we need to talk about we'll be right back fuck like a goddess and make love to your life is a two-day hands-on and educationally based experience rooted in ancient tantric wisdom and sacred sexuality offered by soul lifestyle this experience is designed for women and their partners.

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This is Jason again from That Other Lifestyle. Sol, before we go any further, where can people find out more information about you? I want to make sure we talk about your website a bunch. Thank you, soullifestyle.co. And I'd love you all to jump on over there and check out what we're doing and see what we have coming up for 2025. And reach out to me anytime. You can email. My email is on the website and connect. I love chatting. I love it when people ask me questions and want to know deeper about what we're doing. So I'd love it. Send away.

So before the break, there was something you said that triggered a little thought in my head.

And we're going to deconstruct this as gently as possible because it's a gentle gentle yes well okay so let's say you were with a woman and there's zero feedback like am i doing this right and it's not and i'm not saying oh she's just starfish no no that's no we're not saying that but it's like am i doing this good am i doing this well you know you can't feel her body tense or her breath doesn't change or it's just kind of like is she digging what i'm doing with my tongue you know my am i doing this right so ladies this is why it's a general subject Ladies, men need more feedback, but women have to be comfortable giving that feedback and know that it's going to be accepted.

So it's this yin-yang thing, I think, about we need more, but you have to be okay to do it. That's a tricky one. And something you said, you know, triggered that in my head of guys, there's a lot of guys we we want to do a good job but we need feedback that we are doing a good job but i know women are trained and conditioned by society to not give that feedback so it's this weird dichotomy that we need to break apart and yeah i don't know where I don't know what side it starts with. Is it men?

We need to be more, accept me, let women know that it is safe and okay to give us more feedback and we're accepting of it that, you know, if you say, I don't really enjoy this, stop it. We're going to be okay with that. We're not going to get all pissy or women give us more feedback so we can react to it. I don't know. I don't know. This is such a great one, Jason. There's a lot to unpack here. Yes. Unpack it gently because it's a gentle subject because I know it's a touchy subject.

There's a woman out there who's like, oh my God, I could never tell my husband he's bad with his tongue or I don't enjoy what he's doing with his tongue but no he needs that in order to get better so that you can enjoy sex more but i also know there are men out there who are going to get pissy and whiny if a woman critiques their technique on anything they're doing with sex because they think they're perfect i don't know i don't know where to start with it oh it's such an interesting one and and here here's my take on it within the relationship space right so as a teacher and someone who coaches and guides people around this very subject here's something that i find within my work and that is that, that is, that is what we spoke about earlier, which was women often feel guilty sharing with their lover or with their partner what they're feeling because they don't want to hurt his feelings.

And here's, here's where my guidance comes in around that. How is your lover supposed to know what feels good to you if he isn't told? Yeah. Or she isn't told if they aren't told because it, I don't, I don't think it, I mean, yes, it matters how long you've been together, how long you've been intimate because you've learned the nuances of your lover's body and breath. I will counter with the longer you've been together, the less signals you catch. Interesting, Jason. I will counter with that.

The longer two people have been together and they've been doing it for a long time, the less signals because when you are, let's get graphic here, when you're going down on a woman and I notice her breath is quickening or her body is tensing or some shift. Once you've been together so long, you miss those cues because they're not novel anymore. They're not different from the norm. They're not different from that baseline that we had established with her five minutes before. So when you're with your partner after all these years, you may miss all those signals completely accidentally.

And you just think, well, this is the baseline and this is normal. Yeah. Right. It's the normal. Oh yes. It's the normal. I think that makes sense. Yeah makes sense yeah it totally makes sense i love it it makes a lot of sense and i think i think where that i think where that comes in and where those nuances come in are really around around you well one thing one piece of that that you that you spoke on and i think is something that we have to establish within any, excuse me, within any sexual encounter, right?

Whether it's your primary lover, your partner, your husband, or your extended lover. When a woman feels safe, she is more capable of being able to express herself sexually. And when a woman can communicate and when she can express herself sexually, she feels more safe to be able to use her voice. And that comes down to how she feels energetically with the man or the woman, whomever she's in an intimate relationship or intimate scenario with, and the environment, right? It's huge. Those pieces are huge to a woman's success within her sexual expression.

And then also, here's another place that I guide people around. And I feel like this is one of those simple misses that we all forget. And it is establishing a communication, a sexual communication outside of the bedroom. Before you get to your hot and spicy and sensual turn on and your, um, intimate time together before you're there, have a conversation around your sexuality and your sensuality during coffee. Now, how many, so I know when we're engaging with new couples, extended lovers, new people, I will ask, what do you like?

What positions would, you know, ask about turn ons, where the things, extended lovers, new people. I will ask, what do you like? What positions? Ask about turn-ons, what are things, good things to do, not good things to do? No surprise fingers, y'all. Don't do that. Right. How often do you do the same thing with your spouse though? Correct, Jason. Talk over coffee. I know in a married relationship and you've been together forever, it can be hard to have that conversation because you're both conditioned to not upset the other person.

It's a lot easier to tell an extended lover that, hey, don't do that versus telling your spouse, hey, don't do that, even though they've been doing it for 20 years. Why is it a problem now right vulnerability of having to be open especially to your partner the most important person in the world being open to them and their i've got to input i forgot to think of a better word than critique uh their you know i think their input well and it's really the um you know it's not necessarily a critique it's a it's a conversation that's not a conversation right All right.

Well, and it's really the, you know, it's not necessarily a critique. It's a conversation. That's not the right word for it. Right. It's a communication. It's a conversation. It's an expansion of what is happening within your body and being able to communicate that effectively to your lover. Right? And you nailed it because it is. So many times within the couple dynamic, it's much easier. It feels safer to be able to have the conversation with the extended lover because at the end of the day, it's kind of like I'm not emotionally necessarily invested in that extended lover.

and this is an experience for me. And I want this experience to be epic. I'm investing my time in this experience and I want it to be epic for all of the people involved. Well, okay, flip that coin over. Invest in your relationship. Invest in your intimacy with your lover. And those external experiences are going to naturally overflow because you and your lover have already had the conversation and the communication around what works for the two of you. So that naturally evolves into the extended relationships, right?

And that's something I guide around too, Jason, is that is so crucial to safety within a couple's dynamic or the framework, right? It is like, I guide, I guide couples, like this is a place that breaks my heart. It's the couples that go into extended relationships with, um, a very naive take and they just think everybody is going to know what to do. And it leads to tears. It leads to trauma. It leads to inappropriate actions because what one person says is one thing is not the other person's. Soft to one person Thank you. Because what one person says is one thing is not the other person's.

Soft to one person is not soft to another. Clarification is absolutely crucial to the success in all of this, right? It's crucial to the success in an intimate relationship, and it's crucial to the success in extended relationship. So if there's not clarity, if you as a woman are not clear with your lover about what feels good inside of your body, how do you expect him to be able to provide that for you or provide that to your body?

And And then how do you expect extended lovers to be able to provide that for you right and it's so it's such a it's such a miss and that's you know that's another place where my heart just breaks because it's it's a it's an avoidable it's an avoidable miss right it's very avoidable communicate. We just have to believe in ourselves enough to get those words out. And be okay saying those words. To know that there's no, I think a lot of people are so held back because they think there's going to be this negative ramification. And it's like, but this is, we're on a path to getting more positive.

And if someone has a negative reaction to you saying oh no no i don't like it when you do that then that's a whole nother issue we need to go there we need to go there another book to open yes that's a layer that's a layer that needs to be tapped into before we can even feel safe enough to express ourselves at our highest sexuality, right? If we as partners are unable to receive from our lover, a guidance, if we're unable to receive a, you know, babe, I, I love, I love this so much, right? How would you feel about this? Or I would love to experience this. I know this is new for us.

I know this is something we haven't explored yet. How do you, are you open to that conversation? Are you open to those experiences? So if those conversations are really hard to have as lovers, then that needs to be addressed first, because that's a layer to your success as longevity within your relationship.

And if those conversations are hard to have at home within, with an intimate relationship dynamic, how are they going to work with extended lovers being able to express yourself to a stranger which is okay this shouldn't be strangers because they're probably about to have sex with them but expressing yourself to your extended lover it can come off as easier than expressing it to your spouse or your partner which is really really fucked up if you think about it that I'm able to you know tell this other woman's like no no no don't yank on my balls and spit on my mouth that's my current joke that's the right joke i've been having for like three weeks now you know you can tell that to a another person but you can't tell your spouse and it's it's this weird interplay in our relationships because we make them so hard and it's almost like we're just closing off.

We're breaking up our own relationships, not allowing them to grow and evolve, but then we're running to other people and allowing that extended relationship dynamic to grow and evolve versus our own and our own relationship. Our own first. It has to be our own first. There you go. It has to be our own first. That's the tagline for the episode. Your own relationship first. And that's the work that I put out into the world, Jason, because so many couples come to me.

And when I start helping them peel back the actual layers of what's going on with them as a couple, or even themselves as a as a partnered single person because i work with partnered people who are you know want to just work with me one-on-one too really what it comes down to is um oh i got totally sidetracked what were we just talking about it was so good i totally letting your relationship letting your own relationship first and letting it grow first thank you because it's also the relationship with yourself letting that grow first and then the relationship with your spouse growing and evolving before you can think about having healthy dynamics with your extended relationship because people have people can create very unhealthy dynamics in those extended relationships because they don't have a healthy dynamic with their own spouse there's the goddamn problem is it don't have a healthy relationship with your spouse first and foremost so then you create these unhealthy connections with other people, whatever those look like, recentering on first yourself and being okay with yourself, then your spouse.

Oh yeah, we got all these. Then others. There are so many. So that, thank you. So here's, here's something that I find. When I start helping people peel back the layers of what's truly going on, it's avoidance. And avoidance is one of those things that we all do. We don't want, as humans in the human construct of nature, natural, we don't want to come up against things that are hard. We don't like doing things that take work, right? But in order to grow and expand, that's where the investment comes in. And it is work and it is effort and it is energy. And so often we avoid the practice.

We avoid the work. We avoid the effort because it does take time, right? And we live in such a cancel culture and we live in such a fast paced, instant gratification culture that it's like, okay, just orgasm now. And I'm great. I'm fine. It's not really what it's about. It's not really what it's about at all. It's about feeling all of that sensation in your entire body. And how do you do that?

Well, first you have to be able to come up against whatever you're avoiding, which is keeping you from having the very real conversation with your intimate partner, your lover, and then therefore overflows to your extended partnership. Because when you start avoiding, then you're only... What is the word I'm looking for? Words. It's that time it's that time i've used all my words up me too they're gone they're all in 2025 55 days of this year of them i've used so many words and now i'm pretty sure on december 31st i'm just going to grunt. No more words left. No more eloquence.

Just grunting monosyllabic words. That's all people are getting out of me. If it has more than one syllable, I'm not saying it. I feel like it. I feel like it. Oh my goodness. Yeah. I can't even think of the word. Anyway, that don't fuel the relationship. We start to, it's sort of, it's actually kind of, okay, so it's kind of like American Christmas, right? How many, like it's this consumerism thing where you grab, right? You're like grabbing for the thing because it feels good in the moment, but does it really bring you a lasting pleasure? Does it really bring longevity to your life?

The answer is most of the time, no, right? Because you're, you're, again, you're avoiding something that's going on, on a deeper level inside of you first, in order to fill up. Fill the void God. Fill the void, Jason. Fill the void. The word. That's what I was reaching for. And it took consumerism and it took marketing. We found it. Round and round. Fill the void. Fill the void.

It's all about grabbing to fill the void right and really all that needs to happen is to tap into yourself first have the very real conversation with your lover and then your external experiences are going to be even more epic and it just overflows it just overflows oh i love it oh it's just words this that time of year it is oh i know oh my goodness okay so i want to touch let's just go left let's just go in a whole different direction um because i something whenever you're doing your intro nutrition i know this is completely off topic but i want to talk about this love it nutrition foods to be better at sex yeah off topic so i tell you guys um yes the only real supplements i recommend talk to a doctor for let me do the disclaimer you should always consult with a medical professional before you start a new diet or something anyway we have not empt that's right.

There's a couple of supplements I do recommend for men. L-arginine helps you have stronger, better erections. Eat vegetables, eat fruits. The whole thing about pineapple making your cum taste better, I haven't a fucking clue about that one. Never tested that for science. So foods that make people better at sex or enjoy sex more are things that have positive, uh, body effects. Yeah. Yes. I know. I'm just going left on you. Yes. I love it. No, it's so fun. I love this topic.

This is where nutrition and holistic wellness is where my whole, uh, is, it was my inception that that's where I started this entire journey. Cause how do I say I have that, I have this, I, uh, are you vated? Are you vated? I am so wrong. But there's good stuff in there. So I, you know, I've read up on, there's good stuff in there And there's a lot of things that that particular school of thought and medicine recommends to people that are like, this is actually really, really good. I'm on board with this.

back back to the basics basic less is more in my school of thought and that goes with everything within one's one's wellness journey right and for me in order to have the most epic sex, first, you have to take care of yourself, which is mind, body, and soul, right? For the food piece and the nutrition piece, less is more for me personally, that's my school of thought. There's something to be said about sober sex. And there's something to be said about making sure that you are fueling your body with whole foods. So you nailed it.

Fruits, vegetables, healthy proteins, and drinking ample water, making sure you are hydrated prior to your sexual experience. Because if you are not properly hydrated going into your sexual experience, you're not going to be able to feel your body. You're going to get distracted. Your brain gets foggy and it shuts down. You're not going to have the stamina or the energy that you want for the experience. And you're also going to become slower. In order for your brain to speak to your organs, your brain has to be hydrated.

And our sex organs have to be hydrated in order for our brain to speak to them. And so in order to climax, in order to have your most pleasurable experience, one must be hydrated. And that means really well hydrated, right? And that's a simple water or herbal tea or kombucha, something that isn't necessarily caffeinated. Like coffee isn't the best choice because coffee actually decreases your hydration. Like I personally love coffee, but I'm not going to drink a gallon of it before I have a sexual experience.

It's not what I'm going to do for my body to show up best for myself and for my lover. Right. I put this for guy terms, y'all dudes, you know, if you're well hydrated, you drink a lot of water, you produce more ejaculate, which the more you make for guys the more you make for guys, I don't, the more you make, the better it feels. It happens. So, yeah, being well hydrated can increase your orgasms, dudes, and makes you feel better all around. Yeah. Y'all need to drink more water. Just drink water. It's really right. Less is more. Simple. And what is the percentage of a human body to water?

Yeah. 70, 75% the human body is actually water. So take that into consideration when you're wanting to be your best self, what are we naturally made of? Well, we're naturally made of water and protein. We need those things to thrive.

and they need to be healthy because i know i i talk to guys and they want to go down this rabbit hole of you know what magic supplement would you recommend what about this what about this like just drink water that's the basic building block once you have that done once you're drinking sufficient hydration for the day and there really is no hard and fast rule it's when you're thirsty drink water and if your pee looks weird you should probably drink more water drink more water you know have good hydration makes your dicks healthier makes them harder makes you last longer in bed it's such a simple fix and there's so many things that people complicate going back to our other discussion communication people over complicated your diet people over complicate yes drinking water people over complicate sleeping we're the only animal that can fuck up sleep that's just we're the only creature on the planet who can fuck up sleeping it yeah basic basic animal functions to keep ourselves going drink water go to sleep those are the two things and we fuck it up it's so true it's so true and i love that you know i love we do we want the magic pill we want the supplement we want the nutrition plan we want the we want the menu right and Again, simplicity, bring it back to nature.

What are the animals doing? They're eating, they're sleeping, they're drinking water. That's what happens in nature. That's how nature thrives. That's how the earth continues on its cycle of producing and evolving, right? So as humans, keep it simple.

Drink water, water eat healthy foods make sure you're getting ample sleep if you want to go deep into other you know other things that are you know more exotic and woo-woo sure they're there take some ashwagandha they're supplemental to having all these basics done yeah once you have all these basics done it will make sex so much better y'all just drinking the water it'll increase a woman's natural lubrication it'll increase the strength of your erections these are simple little things people can do and i know like you say everyone's looking for the magic pill everyone's looking for this thing that's going to solve other problems.

Dudes, did you know that if you lose weight, your dick will get bigger? Yeah. Yeah. Because as you gain weight, the fact is deposit around the base of your penis, which means you don't have as much sticking out of your body. So if you lose weight, it makes your dick bigger. These are really simple things that I encourage men to look at. And I offer body positivity. If y'all want to, whatever you want to be with yourself, rock on. I can tell you how to do things better. If you're looking for that answer, just to say. Right.

And you know, I love this conversation too, Jason, because, because I, I'm in that world, right? I'm in the holistic wellness world. I'm fully supportive of supplements. I mean, I, I have an entire project in my world that is based on healing through herbs and plants and food as medicine, right? I have, that's a, it's a whole other world of mine. And so I fully believe in the healing power and medicine from herbs and plants and food. At the end of the day, it is the core basics first, or those herbs and those nootropics and those supplements aren't necessarily going to stick, right?

They're not going to have the effect. You're going to spend a lot of money on a bottle of something, hoping that it does the magic thing, the magic cure, but really it's going back to the basics of what your body actually needs first in order for the absorbency on a cellular level for the herbs and the nootropics to actually take hold. Basic nature first. Eat a vegetable. Get some broccoli. Eat delicious, wonderful broccoli. Go to bed. Go to bed. I had broccoli for lunch today. It's one of my most favorite foods.

I had roasted broccoli with olive oil and a little Himalayan sea salt and a little crushed black pepper. I was in heaven over the moon. Favorite food, broccoli. I have a weakness for sweet potatoes. I love me some sweet potatoes. Broccoli is good too. Roasted broccoli, roasted sweet potatoes. And what's bad is this time of year, so I want to throw this out. This is completely off topic.

Just to share this with everybody, your love and affection for your family is not dependent upon you eating their food because i oh god you go to family gatherings it's like well if you don't eat aunt brenda's pie you don't love her i don't want your pie i'm on a cal i count my calories i'm not a diet but i of myself. I don't have room in my diet for your pie. It does not mean I don't like you as a person. That's not mean I don't have affection for you. I just don't want fucking pie right now. Give me a pile of turkey. That's what my body needs.

Nobody, no, no human body needs that much sugar at all. That's my rant about the holidays. I love that. I love that. We, Thank you. no human body needs that much sugar at all. That's my rant about the holidays. I love that. I love that. My family has now been in my life for quite a few decades and I have gone on so many. As a person, as my being, I'm pretty extreme. I in my, in my thinking and my lifestyle and, and what I do. And there was a time in my life where I was a very, very strict raw vegan. So not just a vegan, I went extreme raw vegan. Oh yes. Raw.

And I wouldn't even eat honey from a bee because that was, that came from a living thing. Now I have since evolved from that thinking and that mindset and that nutritional space. And you know, it, there's a time and space for it, for whomever wants to experience it. It was definitely an experience. So my family has journeyed with me along the course of my nutritional extremes. And basically they know that soul is going to show up with her own food at every family gathering. We bring our own food. I don't think it's going to be the right thing. I bring my own food.

I love you for the pie that you made and the effort that you put into that special holiday loaf roll thing. I love your effort and I love that you did that. If I participate in eating that, I will feel sick for the next 10 days, right? So I can't do it. I can't do that to myself. I can't do that to myself. Well, this has been a fun journey and a fun adventure. Thank you so much for talking to me again today.

If people want to know more about all the fantastic work that you do and the stuff that you have coming up in 2025, because I saw the calendar and you have some awesome, awesome workshops and coaching and all kinds of stuff. What is going on and where can people find more information? Yes. Soullifestyle.co. Head on over, soullifestyle.co. And I'd love to see you all. Yes. And she's also on SDC. So go say hi over there too. SDC. Say hi over there. Yes, Soul Lifestyle on SDC. Don't say hi to her over there. So thank you everybody for hanging out with us.

Happy holidays, whatever you were doing, whoever you're hanging out with, I hope you have a fantastic time. This is Jason, That Other Lifestyle Podcast. Go to my website, thatotherlifestyle.com for all the fun stuff I have over there. Y'all have a wonderful holidays and I will see y'all next year.