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Thank you for joining us on this adventure i'm russ and i'm ashley and this is hot couple chronicles so today we're going to talk about a big part of our lives our journey with weight loss health confidence body positivity it's a lot more than just weight loss it's about pretty much who we are and and it's an entire five-year journey we've been i mean really our whole lives have been personally have been on this journey since i was about eight years old but yeah it's been my entire life it wasn't actually like i didn't actually lose any weight really until about five years ago and it kind of transformed everything and i really do think that we wouldn't really be on the same journey that we're on without that yeah definitely not yeah we're going to talk a little bit more about that we've always wanted this podcast to be a lot about little pieces about our story and a lot about who we are and our friends and that's why we share our friends and our family and our stories and so this is it's a big one people have been always you know always asking questions always intrigued about it so we wanted to cover this one this should be fun 2019 we found out that your best friend was getting married and that was your main motivation i just felt like garbage and i said yeah i need to lose weight too so i decided that we'll do it together like you were my motivation when we started losing weight because i knew i was just done i mean at that point in my life i was already starting symptoms my cholesterol high i was pre-diabetic yeah my sugars were high and oh it was we had four kids to i was tired all the time my body hurt all the time wow it was was not in good shape and it gave me i have to have like i don't know something about me i have to have like a deadline like a goal yeah for like an ending yeah that was my well i wanted to lose like 50 pounds that was like my big goal was 50 pounds yeah by her wedding and then we started in yeah 2019 we started doing like keto yeah pretty much we went pretty hard on keto like we even like we're like testing our pee with the strips yeah making sure you're in ketosis and we lost like 20 25 pounds on keto yeah like 20 pounds and then we really got serious and ended up like i started going to the gym regularly.
And we cut out pretty much all carbs and sugars. And then we went to high protein. We switched to high protein. And that's really when I got serious. We basically went to the carnivore diet before the carnivore diet was a thing.
Yeah, we did a lot of protein protein shakes and we went into a major calorie deficit like a major calorie deficit yeah and then COVID hit and then we kind of fell off the rails for a well everybody started eating DoorDash yeah everybody started everything was closed down and we had nothing else to do but to eat I know it was so yeah we didn't have any many options so we did start out Thank you.
everything was closed down we had nothing else to do but to eat i know it was so yeah we didn't have any many options so we did start out because and there's like there was nothing to do at all yeah so then we but then we decided to turn it into an actual like it was like became our project like when we gained the 20 25 pounds back that we just lost and worked our ass off then it's like all right what the hell and so that's when we're like all right let's buckle down and that's when we determined to lose 50 pounds for her wedding yeah and you had and you had like a year to do it which wasn't a crazy amount of time like it was definitely doable it was doable for sure i just lost 20 and not easily but just had done 20 i was like in a year i could do 30 more yeah so 50 was our goal long story short we ended up losing 75 before her her wedding And we, at that point, I had finally gotten into a pretty regular gym routine and did cardio, and we went to pretty much all protein.
Yeah. That was it. That was exactly how we did it. And a few vegetables. A few vegetables. Very few. Protein was our main. Lots of meats and cheeses as well. And protein. A lot of protein shakes. We basically went to carnivore before carnivore was a thing. Yeah. We cut out all sugars. Pretty much all carbs. Or as much as we possibly could. And yeah, our calories. Definitely in calorie deficit. Oh, I learned that it's okay. Portion control.
I got to being hungry yeah but but your stomach like drinks and you don't feel something yeah it's kind of weird how that happened but then you start eating more often and then we learned how to that you actually are better off snacking throughout the day yeah yeah turns out you actually should not be starving you should not be hungry you should be eating all day long to the point where you feel full just all of the time and it should be packed full of good stuff in those little well that's it it's not you're not eating empty calories but we're eating when our snacks were protein or protein shake or you know unsalted tiny meals and portion control and was huge portion control was like thing.
And also, it's okay to throw food away. It's okay to not clean your plate. And that was huge. That was a really hard one, too. Yeah, it really was. For sure. Because I was always, you know, you were always taught to clean your plate. Clean your plate. Don't waste food. Yeah, don't waste food.
And, you know, we've been through some hard times with food-wise i've always been like worried about food and you know i've had a weird attachment to making sure we have enough food so it was hard to retrain your brain and learn it's okay to get up the fork down we showed up to the wedding and we got all the compliments at the wedding well they hadn't seen me for yeah well that was the motivation they saw us chunky that was the whole purpose and then we showed up I hadn't seen me for yeah well that was the motivation they saw us chunky that was the whole purpose and then we showed up i hadn't seen them in like 10 years five years it's been it was a really long time before i seen and most of them it was more but yeah it was kind of a motivation i want to show up and there was like there's a whole backstory a whole personal reasons and lots of things that there was.
The whole main thing was to just show up. And we did. Just show up good. And yeah, we lost 75 pounds before the wedding. And then at that point, it pretty much was our whole lifestyle was changed. And we were in a habit, good habits. And we were losing weight really well and easily.
And was in a good gym routine and he hates the gym he despises it still still hate it he's been like you've been able to drag me a couple times but i love i hate cardio but i do love the gym i love this like i know i need to go to the gym but i forced myself to do cardio but i do love lifting weights i do love the by myself part and the therapeutic quietness i don't get to be alone very often so it's a nice it's a nice little break and i learned a little bit and i need to get back well then we lost another like 50 pounds after that and then yeah and then we kept going with it and we were pretty strict we were very were very strict.
We were very portion control, very protein, high protein, and no sugar. We cut out pretty much all sugars, everything, sugar, everything. And then we counted calories for the most part, and we ended up losing 130 pounds each, roughly. Yeah, roughly. learned somehow we both lost the same amount i lost but i lost my quicker than yours and then i started gaining a little bit back when you hit your smallest yeah we lost at different times if we both ended up because i got down to like 175 pounds at one point 130 like it was crazy ever, it was crazy.
I've always, my whole life, we were saying, like, about struggling with dieting and stuff. I have been chubby my whole life. I never went through a high school, like, skinny phase. I never got to be skinny. I have been consistently morbidly obese since I was three, four. You know what I mean? Like, I've been, since elementary school, I've been overweight.
I've been been the chubby girl i've had boobs since i was 10 i remember being mortified having like double d's when i was 10 years old and i remember one time the girls walked some girl one of my friends walked into a locker room and all the girls were talking about how big my boobs were and at 10 years old like destroyed me like absolutely mortified me like i was so so sad but i've always just been a big girl i've been a really big girl and i've just hey you know i've done the dieting and done the way i really had to be a mental thing for me it is and that's what everybody always asks like how'd you do it you know it's i could have done it without you yeah like definitely it was way different to have somebody to not just not rely on but like to rely on do it you know it's i could have done it without you yeah like definitely it was way different to have somebody to not just not rely on but like to rely on to keep you accountable and to you know well we didn't have to sit there and watch the other one like he's still eating like i'm saying we threw out all of our shit we you know only went shopping around our diets we you know our kids obviously we didn't keep them to the deficit we didn't keep them like i still remember making them like we had to do separate meals and stuff but for the most part like we ate together we just added the carbs with their meal yeah like they got the starches they still got the starch like the mashed potatoes and the noodles and the macaroni and cheese and all like we planned meals.
But they still ate the same type of meat and vegetables that we ate. Or we just ate the meat and vegetables. Our whole family needed it. Our whole family needed high protein, adds some proteins and some healthy fats, some good stuff into our diets.
We definitely were eating way too many processed foods know sodium was killing us all and sugar was killing us all and so it was good for them too it was good to get there because you know they're gonna have unfortunately their parents are fluffier and so they're gonna have to be conscious of for the rest of their lives you know about their weight unfortunately they our whole family kind of passing that down to the next one and you're welcome children so sorry yes it's good though because i was never taught how to eat you know well how not how to make better i always say make good decisions and i like to teach we taught it's about having a you're listening to a podcast right now driving working out walking the dog if you're into podcasts chances are you something to say too.
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Start your new podcast for free today at rss.com a healthy relationship yeah not and because and that was the hardest part with me is because i love i have emotional attachment i had addiction and have i still do but i had to break up with food emotionally i mourned it i remember crying remember i cried because i thought we'd never get to go to another restaurant ever again like i went through a whole grieving process of like i don't want to ever because like our most of our relationship we've traveled for food a lot of our memories were food i had i have a really big addiction yeah i've been struggling my whole life with addiction to food and it does have emotional attachment to it and it is like you go through the grieving process of giving up your favorite things like you can never have them again until we learn it's all about moderation you cannot realistically never eat oreos again so kind of going off of that the kind of we lost all the shit ton of weight naturally our confidence like skyrocketed and because we were sizes that we had never been in our entire life we went out shopping spree buying all the clothes like because I could wear things i had never wore before and actually look good i only could shop at torrid or the old lady department stores yeah we were going to all this we were going to the skinny people stores we were going to real like regular stores yeah like express i didn't have to go go into yeah express was like a new place i never had explored before and yeah there's a new whole bunch of new worlds when you're small we could go into like h&m and all of these forever 21 forever 21 get cheap clothes and you could you know five dollars and because they're yeah i would go in a tour and like a pair of my pants was eighty dollars yeah a pair of pants for me or a shirt was like 50 some dollars yeah like you know bigger sizes it costs more if you want quality if you Thank you very much.
like a pair of pants for me or a shirt was like 50 some dollars like you know bigger sizes it costs more if you want quality especially back then and it was a few years ago now I love seeing everything the size inclusivity and all the stuff you're starting to see all the bigger I had a suit made and you're starting to see that but even a few years ago we weren't seeing the bigger mannequins and we weren't seeing the plus size options like you are now Thank you. Bigger sizes everywhere. I had a suit made. Yeah. And you're starting to see that.
But back, I mean, even a few years ago, we weren't seeing, like, the bigger mannequins. And we weren't seeing the plus-size options like you are now. I love seeing it. I do. But it's hard when you grow up your whole entire life and you just want to put on the cute stuff. And you want to wear the cute stuff. I've just never got to experience it.
And I thought, honestly, like, naively, I thought that, you know, you believe that if you're skinny everything's going to be good everything's going to be great tell me how that's not true it's not true at all it's not because it wasn't true for me either oh yeah i was more confident i like my body better well going back on what you're saying we when we moved here and we were pretty much at our smallest I've ever been in my entire life. We found this lifestyle. And that's really where, like, the confidence—you do get confidence with losing that amount of life. Oh, absolutely.
And I had never—like I said, I was never skinny. I've never been thin. I've never been a normal societal, you know, normal-sized. I've always been in plus that person and so this time i was like there was options of lingerie there was options of like smaller sized that side of it and then i think we were getting attention we never got before from other people other than from us you know and like, dopamine rush. Yeah, because we were that hot couple in Georgia. Yeah, I mean, that's how we got our name. Our Georgia couple.
Is because we would, friends that we had met be like, I was just talking to someone. That's what they called them. They're asking who that hot couple was over there. We didn't name ourselves, people named us. Yeah.
So, yeah, it was this rush of, yeah, everyone wanted to talk to you you were you know you fit in you looked like you fit in you looked yeah normal you looked like normal compared to what you before we stood out we were big people yeah we stood out in the room everybody you know was we took up a lot of space and now we couldn't blend in with the group of people and i honestly wonder if we would be in the lifestyle or not and i don't think that we would either i wouldn't have the confidence i don't think i would have had the cup and then and i i always tell people like it's not what you look like it's how you feel you look like i didn't feel like but i didn't feel like i look like and i understand how larger people like are reluctant and getting into the lifestyle and having issues with it because you don't have the confidence and when you don't have that confidence you don't attract the people you're wanting to attract turns out we thought that it would give us sort of self-worth and it would make it automatically make the world all sunshines and rainbows but turns out you have to put that work into it and confidence is all a state of mind it's not how you look it's not how you feel yeah it's or not how you look it's all how you feel and it's all how you perceive yourself i hear this a lot with people that are losing weight or like through a health journey is and i am guilty of i was so fixated on a number numbers yeah like i remember going down like every friday and jumping on the scale once a week at the same time every week and see how much weight i lost for that week yeah and then coming down and like i had an app to track it my everything how you feel in clothes and how you feel in your outfits that's way more important than yeah the number has nothing to do with the number so we talk about how we got this huge confidence boost and everything but also i know i felt this way i know you were feeling a certain sort of way about how your body was your how your new body would look yeah we thought that if we lost the weight we got to a certain number we got you know to a goal weight that you would be able to walk in put on the lingerie and just own the place turns out that actually was it's actually the opposite turns out i actually started not liking this body more than i didn't like the other body and it never fixed anything i just found ways to pick apart my body in new ways because it was the loose skin now and it was the veins you could see the varicose veins better and you could you know it was like the the stretch marks and the boobs i lost my boobs i lost my ass everything became you know deflated my face everything and i just turned it into instead of like i'm too choky or i have this much on here and i don't like extra weight on this body part or whatever it became the opposite and so yeah it turned out it was a definite huge eye-opener at that it has nothing to do with how much space you take up has no nothing to do with a number that you weigh and what it says on the scale it was all it's all in your head it's all a mental yeah because i remember because even when i was at my smallest i remember like i had like the you know skin like on my stomach, the loose skin from, you know.
And then I had, you know, this or that. Yeah. Yeah, like, the neck skin started loosening. Like, there's just different things that started changing. I started to see wrinkles that weren't there because my skin wasn't stretched out. Yeah. You don't have, like, the plumpiness in your face. Your face changes. And everything, you know, everything just changes, period. And I was slapped in the face with a whole new body. And on top of that, at the same time we were dealing with this, we were finding this new lifestyle where there's plastic surgery everywhere. 90% of people have something enhanced.
So, you know, you were self-conscious about your boobs. My boobs were huge. I refused to show my boobs even in, I did content where we would just like have our boobs out with like other content creators that I'm really good friends with. And I know very well now, but I would stand there and I would leave this, I would leave whenever they did butt pictures or boob pictures because I refused to be up there because I'm like, I don't have those. That's what I would say every time. I would be like, I don't have those. And so I'd stand on the side.
Every single video, if you've seen the behind the scenes, I'm standing over to the side and I'm not in any of those. It's because I was so self-conscious about not having boobs, not having implants.
And I had posted a story on Instagram the other day and it was kind of like what are your biggest insecurities what you know what about your body are you most self-conscious and it's the amount of women that said loose skin and my boobs i don't have implants i don't have a bbl i don't have and it like it breaks my heart because like now that i've been through this whole journey and it's been five years now i I understand and I get it that it is 100% how you feel about yourself. Hey, beautiful.
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That's why I see you see it on the social media platforms where it's like people against enhancements or modifications and all natural want to be all natural this and that and honestly it's just how you feel about yourself if it makes you feel good about yourself then do it if you want to go have your whole entire body replaced and have a whole new body put on you and that's what makes you inside the happiest person and the most content with it's your life it's your body you're the one who has to live in it i am fully support that but i hate when you are you just don't you know whatever you do choose there shouldn't be hate on either side of that whether you choose to stay natural or also like we've talked this about because you've talked about how you want to get oh i want it all i would love to but also it's not but i would just my whole thing has been is i want you to want it for you not to look like this person or that person or for me or anything i want you to do it to make yourself feel better that's the key and that's what we've talked about us that's all i'm trying to make sure that now you'd you if you want it let's do it but also i want you to make sure it's for you and not for everyone else well fortunately i'm too scared so i'll never get it done and i I have lot of health problems and every time i have surgery i just about die so i have not yet been able to justify just an electoral surgery elective surgery to just get something that i don't necessarily need and then dying because i have children and that's kind of where i'm at with it people just assume that you don't have the money or you don't, you know, there's this reason or that reason, you know, and it doesn't matter what your reason is.
Like whatever makes you the most happiest. And right now, that's... Yeah. You're listening to a podcast right now, driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too.
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Going off of the back of that, what have you done with your new body to make you more comfortable in your new skin? It's all fake it till you feel it. It has been a huge one that's kept me... We've said that how many times have we said that? That's one of our other phrases.
Fake it till you feel it has been a huge one that's kept me we've said that how many times a lot that's one of our other phrases they get to you feel it you aren't going to always feel 100 great about your body it's really honestly been the hardest journey that i've ever taken is learning to try and love my body more and i feel like i've come very very far and i'm getting there but it's a every single day i'm just starting to remind just there are going to be a lot of days where you just don't feel compare yourself to everybody else i feel like comparing myself especially say especially like in a club setting naked and as a guy and i've yeah we lost shit ton of weight, but I still have very much a dad bod.
And then I'm surrounded by guys that lift weights four hours a day and are good for them, but they, and they look amazing, but also, like, and that was the whole confidence.
It's hard not to bury yourself with every other whole confidence and that's where i went was well you know why would any woman want to be with me when this you know i feel the same guy that looks like a model yeah you have all these women with ginormous boobs and you know bbls are big right now so big old asses big old boobs everybody's got tiny tummy tuck waist and botox and extensions and that yeah but hard not that's all is you're not alone in the whole thing is very similar we got and not a lot people talk about the guy side of it we hear a lot about the women's side of you know dbls tummy tucks boob jobs it's just hard in general not to carry yourself to all these yeah but men have the same thing where it's in you know muscular like super chiseled you know men and like I said in the same situation where like you put the work in it makes you feel good i'm here for it but i dealt with the personal where am i going to fit in this space and so i had to meet people like meet people honestly is what did it and i think what really helped us both is yeah we did that we talked to people and our personalities took what took over uh we gained confidence as we met these people like oh they are like attractive well the thing is when you start meeting people and you start talking to these people they might look the perfect bodies and have all the things but a huge chunk of them it turns out a lot of our friends were also like bigger and went on a health journey and lost a ton of weight and then went to the gym and then got you know into that and then just went a different route and and it turns out a lot of people and most of those people that look perfect and have the chiseled bodies those more than anyone else are the people who are so self-conscious they are and they're just as worried about i remember having a conversation with one of our friends and at that time he was yeah one of our close friends built he's and i i remember joking around with him and i said i couldn't have your body and he's what are you talking about i said i couldn't he's what do you mean i'm like i would be a trash person i'd be just like my i'd be so cocky that like i'd be just no one be able to handle me like i'd be so arrogant like it'd be annoying and everyone everybody would hate me but and he's he's looked at me kind of laughing he's like so why do you have more confidence than me i'm like i don't know it's all in your head he's like because i watch you he's like i watch you at the club or at Secrets or wherever and you're around, you're talking to girls, you're, you know, dancing, having a great time.
He's like, and I can't do any of that. And I really didn't have an answer for him except for it's just, you know, you just fake it until you feel it. That's been our motto. Yeah, because we don't, I don't Thank you.
you know you just fake it till you feel it everything that that's been our motto yeah because we don't i don't feel it a lot of times but you just gotta put your head up and it's a never-ending struggle there are days when i wake up and i'm like yeah you're hot bitch you got this but most of the rest of the days i don't understand well a lot of times i if i'm not feeling my body i confident i compensate with how i dress like yeah i'll put on i was gonna say some tips for confidence and feeling better about yourself is dress to rest has been a like a really good useful thing if you feel good about what you're wearing that helps you feel better about your body and you see yourself and your body better absolutely mental this is a whole we always said our entire weight loss journey has been a mental game 95 of it has been mental and we've always said that it was very little diet 90 wellness mental wellness journey period is been mental like even when it comes to losing weight everybody on earth knows how to lose weight yeah everybody knows it's the simplest thing you would ever do but is yet the hardest thing we have ever done because it is a fight against your own everyone knows how to do it yeah everybody knows how to do it but it's the hardest thing i ever did so hard doing it so i i think it's that just shows how everyone struggles with something everyone self-image i think that's where the community really comes into play it's because we i i see it all the time we build each other up yeah there you go and it's one thing when i tell you you're beautiful you look amazing you're hot you're sexy but it hits different when a complete stranger tells you you're so beautiful you're hot you're sexy oh my god like where'd you get that it hits different because you hear it from me all the time and it almost sits where we've been married for so long like you say you've said it like you have to say that and i don't but and but i say it and so it doesn't hit in the same way as a complete stranger.
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And I was at my tiniest, so I was navigating that because I had other side of it i was like too small and i started figuring that out and then we got our bodies got comfortable we got comfortable and it was just hard to sustain it's very hard to sustain at the level that we were sustained oh yeah we did for two solid years pretty hardcore and it wasn't we couldn't maintain that and so we eventually started getting more lax and introducing more you know carbs and sugars back into and it is a very easy habit to get back to exactly you know exactly what you're doing wrong you know exactly what to not do and you still go back to exactly the way that it was and that's kind of where we're at right now that's kind of where our current journey is i've since've since gained about 30 pounds back.
So I'm still at a 100-pound loss. I'm about the same. Yeah, we're, again, still navigating about the same. And I am always struggling to not be hard on myself for gaining 30 pounds back. Because in the huge scheme of things, I would have been perfectly happy with 30 pounds. Yeah we started we never expected to lose that much weight. Like you said, our goal was to lose 50 pounds and then our stretch goal was 75. That was just to see. We almost doubled that. It blows my mind. But it becomes an addiction.
And you start And you start seeing that number go down, and it becomes like a game that you play against. Part of it, and people that are going through a health journey, I think it's almost because we were addicted to food. It's like addiction replacement. Yeah, we were foodies. We just mentally just stopped instead of being addicted to food, we were addicted to this lifestyle and this number. This journey of how much weight can I lose? It was not the most healthy thing. Then we got to the point where our bodies wouldn't lose anymore. This is where I am. Then we started getting comfortable.
At that point, we found I'll see you next time.
we got to a point where like our bodies wouldn't lose anymore kind of just explains okay this is where i am and then we started getting comfortable that at that point we found swinging and so we were going out more we were eating out more we were making empty calories we were drinking more because we stopped drinking completely for a year and a half two years yeah and yeah we started drinking and yeah sodas we're not drinkers we've never have been in our whole marriage we would have like when you go out to eat I was getting a sweet tea or a soda you're getting a soda you know or we're getting a cocktail which isn't any better got hard I was hardcore addicted to Dr.
Pepper yeah I still am hardcore addicted to Dr.
Pepper that's like the biggest nemesis like oh it was just the something where we just we gained a little bit back yeah and then we it's like we were saying it's easy to get back into old habits and again have to be mentally i have to be mentally ready and mentally checked in to quit things and stop doing things and yeah and so this past year has been a lot of navigating that and getting back into the gym and making better decisions and we're kind of trying to balance between living our life and still being the foodies that we are and enjoying good food and he's he went to culinary school he is as you know he loves i like to cook he's a chef he cooks like he does and he's his best meals are always the highest carbs and the highest sodium and the highest of sugars and the highest of all the things so it's been hard to navigate that and traveling and kids and life and everything and trying to moderation has been learning how to you know live with moderation and have you know enjoy stuff and learning how to let yourself i think that's our new journey our newest journey is actually moderation because we didn't have moderation when we lost weight we didn't have moderation we let it cut everything out and it's not it's not sustainable like we couldn't but i struggle with binge eating and Well and then we started going out and having a good time and then i think now it's for finding that we got to find that happy medium yeah it's best like year and a half or so we've been really trying to learn how to allow us when we go out and we have these event weekends and stuff we do let ourselves eat the pizza and have all the carbs and sugars and all things and then you know we eat a good a good vegetable a good protein when we get home and just learning how to make just better decisions i keep saying that it's not about a number it's not about a number just try and make better decisions drink more water eat you know just be conscious put the fork down in between bites and just be aware of what you into your body and learning how to get back to that because i i do i did felt amazing i felt at my best when i was actively in the gym and eating well and everything i did feel better i felt good about myself and i felt inside good better so getting back to more of that and yes getting my butt back in gear and getting back into the gym it's the hard part and then winter's coming sad season's coming kind of a struggle so like i got april's like my newest my newest goal is april and that's kind of what we're shooting for since we have yeah secrets coming up and bathing suit season yeah we've talked about that one the last two secrets I have finally I don't know in the lifestyle general I just don't care what people think about my body anymore which shows finally I'm getting there I love watching you just let go especially secrets I feel the most like yeah when you first walk into like with our lifestyle journey when we first walked in it was content creation we walked straight into content creation swinging and so a lot of the parties were smaller full of the most Thank you.
into what our like with our lifestyle journey when we first walked in it was content creation we walked straight into content creation swinging and so a lot of the parties were smaller full of the most beautiful men and women gorgeous and as we've navigated these last three years we've met people and like we were saying earlier the more you get to meet people the more you realize you're all struggling no no one thinks oh yeah i'm a hundred and ten percent perfect and i am you know a 10 out of 10 every single person has normal bodies every person's dealing with one you know stretch marks or something that they're self-conscious about or their nose or their chin or whatever everybody has a something there's something that you're going to be able to pick apart from yourself and from others and you just got to stop caring what everyone else thinks about your body it doesn't matter what they think about your body doesn't I'll see on last time.
I love watching it. I just stopped giving a shit what people i love my stuff and love watching it i have hs and i have a lot of issues there and a lot of that's where i'm 100 most self-conscious about is my hs my scarring and stuff and so i but i just there's nothing i can do about it it's my body it's right i have the skin disease i have these veins i have these health issues and it is what it is and you nothing I can do about it. It's my body. I have the skin disease. I have these veins. I have these health issues. And it is what it is. And, you know, I can't have surgery.
And also, you either embrace it or you just tie it around and, you know, wear a paper sack and sit in the corner forever. Just be sad and hate yourself. Or you can just stop carrying what everyone else thinks about you and take the top off and own what it is you do have and it's your body. Be proud of it and be happy that you can be there at all and you're breathing and living and living your best life there. And just be happy that you have a body to do it. I mean, yeah. That's what keeps me going. I don't get naked very often in public, but Seekers is a place that you might see me naked.
Yeah. The atmosphere is good, the people around her. You see all the normal bodies. You see so many normal, regular, everyday, average bodies. And it turns out it's not all content creator and the perfect little zipped and tucked and perfectly snipped bodies.
There is a majority of the people in the lifestyle are just normal regular average everyday bodies and it's not always as you first see it once you start actually meeting people and you start exploring the different communities and different places it's the majority of people are everyday average normal people so if you're looking at the lifestyle and I know like if you're thinking you can't be in a lifestyle because you're not beautiful or perfect and amazing i promise you for one you're beautiful i promise that i don't care who you are or what you look like you're beautiful and for two i it doesn't matter it really doesn't matter it's all how you feel it's all how you carry yourself it's all how you believe that you look and that's what everyone else will see i promise you well and i've met women that are absolutely beautiful on the outside but are trash people yeah and i didn't want to touch them with a 10-foot pole and go the other way you know run away from them but same with men and then you find somebody that is still beautiful but not the suicidal norm.
And... And you find somebody that is still beautiful, but not the super model. Serious, societal norm. And I'm way more attracted to those people than I am. It's all about your personality and who you are as a person and passion and what you're passionate about, what you love, and just you.
And I personally, I might be a weird one, but I personally think somebody's imperfections are sexy yeah it turns out most most people are attracted to things that are the quirks that you think are weird or the imperfections perfect it's those are the things people actually end up liking more about you i learned about the eyebrows now is like a huge thing which is cool for the girls with little pummies the eyebrows are like trending right now which i do love i like that and yeah and people are saying to just embrace embrace these little imperfections and yeah there's no such thing as perfect and that we keep all aiming towards this perfect perfection that we are we're already there unattainable that doesn't exist and we already there and you're beautiful and wonderful and as long as you believe that in your soul and as long as you believe that you're 10 you are everyone's Thank you.
already there. Unattainable. That doesn't exist. And we're already there. And you're beautiful and wonderful. And as long as you believe that in your soul, and as long as you believe that you're 10, everyone's going to see you, the way it turns out. I feel like that's a good spot to wrap it up. I know, that went fast. Real quick. That's all I gotta say about that for now. That's all I gotta say about that. But coming up, we got... We have a new event.
Yeah, we new york's eve in Atlanta with pineapples after dark yes um this episode uh the details possibly be coming out in time we're not sure sometime in this week so in sometime this week stay tuned for instance for all the socials instagram especially look at my stories and i will be sure as soon as i find out the information everything's kind of being wrapped up and contracts are being signed and everything is kind of being you know finished up and then we were going to find out all the information about that any moment we're just waiting on the permission to drop all the information and tickets and stuff where it's where it's at where it's in the lana area yeah with pineapples after dark and that's where we will be that's where we will be and we'll have a we'll have a link eventually and we'll have times information more details coming up soon but it's fresh it's new it's fresh definitely stay tuned if you are looking and you're in the southeastern usa area and you're looking for a good group of human beings to hang out with and to explore with.
And a good vibe, a good party, a good, you know, just a good group of people. Yeah, they are amazing. It's just such a good group of people. If you're in that area or not and you want to travel to this area, we're going to be there New Year's Eve. So definitely recommend coming out and checking that party out.
And then we got Secrets in April, but it is sold out yeah we try to tell everybody yeah we try to try to get all of our friends there all of our friends were coming this time we finally got an entire huge group of people to come next week this week one couple got tickets one couple got yeah we got one couple the rest are all because they listened yeah of course no one believes no one listens to us i was gonna to sell out so fast we told them i was going to sell out quickly but if you are there is a waitlist so if you want to get in on the waitlist dm us or email us get a hold of us and we can get you all that information for the waitlist and i'm sure there will be cancellations it's six months from now yeah there there will happen and rooms will open up.
That's why when we tell you, you jump on it. But yeah, that's what we've got going on. It's winter season. The sad season is coming. So we don't have very much swinger stuff going on right now. But winter is when we tend to spontaneously explore. We do. We end up spontaneously deciding we're going on things.
And now the last two weekends, we've had friends in our neck of the woods we've went to parties locally with them and we're we're staying close to home winter we do that we do close to home and we do a lot of want to get some health stuff and yeah i've got a a few health procedures that i would like to get taken care of and some surgeries that I have to do. I have no choice with this summer winter I want to kind of do. Yeah. While it's cold and sad season, so I guess. Might as well take care of our bodies. Jeez. Oh, we got to get ready for New Year's Eve. That'll be good for that. Yeah.
We're going to be there. That's going to be so much fun. I'm so glad you get to come. It's like a Tuesday. Yeah. That'll be fun. That'll be good. We got lucky this year.
and there that's going to be so much fun i'm so glad you get to come it's like a tuesday yeah that'll be fun that'll be good we got lucky this year and yeah that's that's about all we got to say about that come join us back again on wednesday every wednesday on how a couple chronicles make sure that you're liking sharing reviewing giving us all the feedback we love hearing from you anything that you want to know more about and you want to hear more about make sure that you dm us email us we have links on all of our things and below and that will give you all the information on how to reach us and any topics that you would like to talk more about any questions that you might have and make sure you're liking getting all our podcasts out there sharing it and following and doing all the things because we are a baby podcast we're brand new and we want all of our friends to know about it and all of your friends to know about it and yeah well we'll see you here next wednesday on the hot couple chronicles it's not that serious don't make it weird you're listening to a podcast right now driving working out walking the dog if you're in podcasts chances are you have something to say too with rss.com starting your own podcast is free and easy upload an episode and we distribute it to apple podcasts spotify amazon music and more track your listeners see where they're from and start earning from ads just like this if you've been thinking about starting, this is your sign.
