Kicking Off Season 4

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Speaker1: You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own is free and easy. Upload an episode, and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and hundreds more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads like this, even with just 10 listeners a month. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, This week on Hot Couple Chronicles. Done a lot of things. And yet nothing at all. But yet nothing at all at the same time. We took our kids to South Florida and just went to an island and we got an Airbnb and we did Thanksgiving there for a week. Yeah. That was kind of our first destination Thanksgiving. It was really good to reconnect. We connect with people we haven't seen in a long time and we love them so hard. I'm sure you've seen the videos on TikTok. We did our little reality show. It was something that we've never experienced before. It was different than anything we've ever seen. I went to my first dungeon. We offer a before doors open. No one else is there but us. If you don't want to go on the tour but you still want to come to Trapeze and hang out with us. The code HCC or ABV will get you the biggest the biggest discount you'll ever get. Also, that's why we have a podcast. So we can kind of say how we feel about things and talk about things that most people won't talk about and are afraid to talk about. And that's why people listen to the podcast. And we've gotten told that a million times is that people appreciate that we are real. We're real people because we are. We are just normal. We're you. We're right. That's serious. Don't make it weird. People will be making it weird and people will be making it so serious. And this space needs to be uncomfortable. I think that it's time to shake things up. I think it's time to talk about things no one talks about. I think it's time to be uncomfortable. And I think it's time to call out bullshit. Some things need to be challenged. Some things need to be taken down. Some walls need to break down. And it's time. And I think that's what we're here for. And I'm ready for season four. Season four is going to be crazy. I'm Russ. And I'm Ashley. And this is Hot Couple Chronicles. Happy Wednesday. Happy Wednesday. And happy fourth season. Season four. It's been a minute. We know. We apologize. It's been a while. We've done a lot of things. And yet nothing at all. But yet nothing at all at the same time. It's been a good mix of. Yeah. Winter. Swinger season. Swingers. Has been off. Yeah. Off season. Yeah. It's been the off season. Swinger off season. I mean, we did have some pineapple adventures, but we had a good mix of... Family. Family. Sabbatical. Yeah, sabbatical. Keeps telling her. Everybody keeps asking where we are. We had a lot of personal things happen. Winter. Winter. We started, we stopped the season in November, and then we went to... Trappies for Christmas. This episode we went to... We had Christmas and then... It was Thanksgiving. With anything of vanilla, we decided to have a vanilla pineapple family Thanksgiving. We took our kids to South Florida and just went to an island and we got an Airbnb and we did Thanksgiving there for a week. Yeah. That was kind of our first destination Thanksgiving. We got to share it with anything but Vanilla, Robin Lins. Our kids got to connect and hang out. And we made a big meal and spent a week on an island. It was so good. It was a destination Thanksgiving, but I still did the best I could to make a Thanksgiving feast. And I feel like I did pretty good. Yeah. And then our kids hung out and we hung out and we just all just did Lyle and Life for a week and then came back and did Christmas. at home and it was all our family and then we went to trapeze we yeah they were throwing swing nation was throwing a toys for charity event yeah event so we went we decided last minute to go there and we reconnected with swing nation and we said it was a surprise 40 pineapples ended up showing up well it was a surprise that we were showing up yeah we didn't know as well yeah and we decided to go We made a quick post on all of our socials, and then they commented on our post. I'm like, you were in the bathroom getting ready for doing your makeup and stuff, and I was just, I got a notification, and I looked, and I'm like, I yelled, baby, you're like, what? I said, the Florida pineapples are going to be there tonight. She's like, what? And so, yeah, that was really good to see them again. Yeah, we were there at them. Our friends, Estee Hero, and anything about Nella, we had a whole crew there with Swing Nation. We ended up, you'll see, we will talk about it in an upcoming podcast. We're going to talk all about all of our adventures a little bit more in depth. This episode is going to be kind of going over what we have done. And then we decided to do a low-key New Year's Eve. We were thinking about trapeze. That was on our radar. Yeah, we had a lot of friends going to Trapeze for New Year's Eve. We went to New Year's Eve at Trapeze last year. We decided we wanted more low-key, more quiet. So we had friends that asked to come to their house. So we got a group of us that went to their house. And we had a good New Year's Eve at their house. It was spicy vanilla, I guess. Because it wasn't real spicy. It was really good to reconnect with people we haven't seen in a long time. And we love them so hard. But, you know, again, they also have their own lives and stuff going on. So we just don't have a chance to connect with them as much as we could. So we got to go to their house and spend time with them. And then we had friends come over. So we had a little group over there for New Year's Eve. And then after New Year's Eve, we went to the Greenville, Carolina. Yeah. That was your birthday weekend. Before my birthday, yeah. Yeah. And we went through a whole... That'll definitely be a whole episode. I'm sure you've seen the videos on TikTok. We did our little reality show. It was something that we've never experienced before. It was different than anything we've ever seen. So we will sit down and talk about that experience way more in depth later on the season. But it was wild. I didn't hate it. It was so much fun. And we were just talking about we need to go back so bad. Yeah, we were just talking, literally, literally just talking about how, man, we need to get with them. That was such a good group of people. And, yeah. I did that. And then we went to Vroomers, Atlanta. I went to my first dungeon in Atlanta. Yeah, you went that one solo. Yeah, I went to that by myself. Well, with Elise. I went with our friends. And did that. And then we went to Pads, St. Patty Day, We did that for your birthday weekend. And they had the Friday the 13th Friday party on Friday. And then they made it a whole weekend this time. So we did St. Thursday on Saturday and it was a whole weekend thing. And then, yeah, we've done a lot of trapeze nights because we now host every third Friday. So we started a thing with anything but vanilla every third Friday. Come experience trapeze. If you've never experienced trapeze, if you have always wanted to try trapeze, Come check it out. Any third Friday. That's been our main focus. We coined it Fresh Fridays. And it doesn't matter if you're new to lifestyle. If you just want to come tour Trappies Atlanta with the lights on, it is for you. So we got with Trappies. Trappies has always included, if you go to the front desk, like, can I get a tour? They've always been really accommodating with that. On the downside of those tours, it's almost like you're being paraded. around because everybody sees you getting a tour, right? We offer a before doors open. No one else is there but us. All the lights are on. Not all the beds are made. All the staff is still prepping for the night. Like it's not glitz and glam, but we will give you the entire rundown of the club before they open. And not inclusive. to that if you don't want to go on the tour, but you still want to come to Trapeze and hang out with us and party with us. The code HCC or ABV will get you the biggest discount you'll ever get. Yes. At all. So if you tell the front desk you're with HCC or ABV, they will give you the discount that you're there with us. And then just so visually we know, they'll give you a special little pink bracelet so we can If you don't tell us you're coming, we can see you're there with us and we can talk and introduce ourselves. We have our own little theme. Just look out on our socials. We'll show you. You'll get to see the club when it's not intimidating, when the lights are on. We'll check you in before everyone else gets there. We'll make sure that you get through and you do your ID and all of that computer stuff and then you get everything paid for and you'll get in and get a spot to go sit down and eat and Hangout and do all of that beforehand. So Fresh Friday is like our main focus right now. And that's our biggest thing. We'll be there every third Friday. This next May is going to be leather and lace, which we are all excited about. We're trying to do it. We're really trying to make it themes that are very easy for newbies. So if you're new to this lifestyle or new to the club or new to experiencing this stuff, we're trying to make it very basic. So it isn't hard to address. We're trying to make it simple enough where chances are you have something that fits in your closet. Yeah, you have something lace or leather or you have something gold or pink. We're trying to really break it down so it's very easy for you. We're trying to make it not too complicated. We do have requests coming from the peanut gallery of different themes that they want it to be and I'm excited. There's a little more. We do have some a little bit, but we really do try to, like, we're trying to, even with those requests, we're trying to break it down to, like, make it the easiest for new people to come and find costumes, stuff they already have in their closet, stuff they can incorporate. Also, we're announcing on our website the themes a month ahead of time. So if you decide to come the next month, you have a whole month to plan. Order some Sheen. Sheen. Yeah, Sheen, Amazon. Fashion Nova. We have a month to plan for the next... But that in mind, if you have any themes that you're trying to see, let us know. Because we are trying to come up with themes that you guys want. We are open to suggestions. No, everybody thinks... We have some requests for masquerade. A lot of people want masks. We have a lot of people that want renaissance because there's renaissance fairs. Everybody's really down with the Vikings or the renaissance themes. They're pretty hot. Bridgerton. We've had a lot of... people request Bridgerton I think would be so much fun so if you want a theme just let us know and we can make that happen any third Friday at Travis Atlanta we're really trying to focus that's most most of our mission has always been on the newbies and the people that are joining the lifestyle and we've always really felt led towards that and people that are unsure people that are trying people that are just experimenting exploring and so we really feel pulled towards this fresh Friday event that we do every third Friday and that's where most of our main focus is on the podcast and Fresh Fridays that's where everything's going to be kind of on plus we're going to be doing some stuff here and there I've got a Nashville trip a secret trip possibly coming up in June and then we'll be hosting with Eros and we'll be working with them for the end of August last weekend of August we'll be at the Ramsey in Pigeon Forge yeah everyone loves that hotel loves that space that's actually the perfect time in like that area because you start getting the fall colors it's not too cold and you can still go down gatlinburg like the streets of gatlinburg with your friends and do all the tastings and whatnot and the shopping yeah it's a good time of year great hotel yeah yeah we all know the room it's a good it's a good yeah it's a good space it's a good venue so we're doing that and then who knows what else we might have up our sleeves we're hoping for some seekers trips um we have some events where we'll let you know you'll be the first one to know but we have a lot of stuff gearing up for 2026 we are still figuring it all out yeah getting that and be fair we've only had two fresh fridays yeah certainly our second it's getting bigger next may just last weekend we had our second one which was yeah we're gonna start we're we're starting to talk We're in talks of doing some Saturday events and making it a whole weekend Fresh Friday thing. And we have some, we have a lot of plans in the future of making it bigger. If we get enough people coming with us to Trapeze, we're talking about maybe hotel discount. We're talking about talking to the hotel and seeing if we can get blocks. And, you know, the more people that show up, the more people that support it, the more people that are there, the more it's going to be bigger and bigger and bigger. So come out, come hang with us, come. We just got home from... We just went to Swing Chela at Trapeze. We just did a Fresh Friday. It's just this Friday. It was Fresh Friday. We weren't planning on going, actually. We're going to do Fresh Friday and drive home. That was the plan. And Swing Chela is Trapeze number one event of the year. That's one of the biggest advertised weekends. So we went to our Fresh Friday, had a great turnout, wonderful night. And then we ended up extending it and going to Swing Chela and experience it. that and it was it was fun we saw so many so many faces so many people were there and yeah it was i saw it started out slow it really started out it started out slow and every single person including everyone who was yeah owned and in charge of trappies was worried i'd say 11 o'clock it was 11 o'clock when everyone was and relieved because you in the past like big events you showed up early to make sure you could Make sure you got in. There's a line to walk in the door. And yeah, this past Saturday, it was like we walked right. Like when we pulled up, it's like 830. Not very many cars. And then there obviously was no line because there weren't many cars. We walked right in and went in, ordered our food. And then like we hung out and we talked to a few people that we already knew. And no one. It was. It was dead. It wasn't dead, dead. But there were people there, but it wasn't as busy as it usually is. And we're like, what the heck's going on? I went in the office and everybody, like the owners and everybody. Yeah, we were like. We're worried too. And then 11 hit and everyone, there was a line in. There was so many people came in. There was car after car after car. And 11 p.m. it hit. Yeah, 11 o'clock. It was. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say, too. With RSS.com, starting your own is free and easy. Upload an episode, and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and hundreds more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads like this, even with just 10 listeners a month. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start free at RSS.com. packed out front and it was a line of cars out the parking lot onto the street and there was a line of people i'm like there everybody is i'm like oh okay and it that that kept going till about one o'clock in the morning like by 12 31 o'clock it was so busy in there i'm like there's everybody that's that this is the crowd i was expecting It was a good night. It was a good weekend. They had a lot of people. We are just always supporting Trapeze. Trapeze has, that's our journey. That's how we began. So we will always support Dennis and Trapeze. We definitely have a nostalgic attachment to Trapeze, for sure. It's the best of the game. It is. Best in the game. We've been in multiple clubs around the country and that is Trapeze Atlanta. The only thing I'll put up to To par to Trapeze Atlanta would be Colette in New Orleans. Yeah, we love Colette too. But we love all of you. We love everybody. But Trapeze Atlanta will always have a special place in our heart because that's where we began. That's where we go. That's where our date night place is. That's where we host for every third. Like Trapeze Atlanta will always have a special place in our heart and we'll always be here for them. And you never know when we'll show up. We might get a wild hair and show up on a Thursday night. We have been doing that more often. We've been doing that more often. of that in the meantime. But we have so many things coming. It's going to be a great year. We're going to have a great year. I know. And on the one side of my mind, I'm like, it's time to take a breath. But then the other half, there's so many plans, so many things happening, so many events, so many things. Looking to add some excitement to your social life? Meet 3Fun, the free app that connects open-minded singles and couples for fun adventures. With thousands of active users, 3Fun is our The best part? 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We plan on mixing in like a meet and greet, brunch, bar crawl type deal on a Saturday possibly. We're still in the kind of very beginning stages of that so we're not sure 100% on that one. But as more people are interested in coming to Hangout Friday, that opens up a whole new game of possibilities to spend more time with some pineapple people. Yeah, that's the goal. All that being said, we touched on a few things that we did on our sabbatical. We talked about plans for the future. What's really changed is our... Selves. Selves. Yeah. Our just overall... Selves. How we are seeing things. is how we don't hold our tongues as much as we used to. We don't hold back. We used to be more, you know. Angsty. Yeah, we're a little more angsty. Angsty. That's a good word. We got some more angst. I mean, for a long time since we've been in this space, we've always been 100% honest. But we are very, I would say, Say particular about our adjectives. Careful with our words. Yeah. We don't want to step on toes. Yeah, you're afraid to step on toes or make somebody mad or... And I get it. But that's why we have a podcast also. Yeah, also that's why we have a podcast so we can kind of... Kind of say how we feel about things and talk about things that most people won't talk about. and are afraid to talk about and that's why people listen to the podcast and we've gotten told that a million times is that people appreciate that we are real we're real people because we are we are just normal we're you we're regular i don't know how many times i've heard oh you're like actually the same people i hear that at least every single time i talk to anyone in the space is that oh you're the same people that you are online and that's exactly who we are who always who we strive to be before anything yeah we've always said we're always going to be us we're not we don't pick sides we don't do drama we don't get into all of the drama the as much as they try as much as they try we have skirt skeet skeeted around everything that has happened i mean there's the last five years people that have tried people still trying to bring still trying to bring us into that space we refuse to involve ourselves It's not that serious. Don't make it weird. People will be making it weird. And people will be making it so serious. And that's been the theme lately has been not so much. It's not that serious. Don't make it weird. But more of everyone's making it so serious and so weird all the time. And we've navigated divorces, marriages, crazy, just wild. I mean, it's a lot of what we do is pretty, you know, scary. There's a lot of stuff involved. I think so. When we started talking about this, we talked about how it would make or break relationships. But we didn't really know yet. Now we're seeing the relationships breaking that didn't do the work. The stuff we used to talk about and the things we knew but didn't actually experience or see as much. And now we're experiencing and seeing everything we've said. And we're watching that journey, people's journeys. And we say journey a lot, but it really is. It's a journey. It's a ride. I think part of it, too, is a little bit of grief. Yeah, mourning them. On our part, because we connected with these people. And now those people are going through this whole thing. They're changing their whole identities. They're separating themselves. from everyone. So we also have to grieve a loss on top of... A lot of picking sides. Yeah. Supposed to be picking sides. And we're supposed to be picking sides. It's like, no, I just want you both to be happy. A lot of navigating that. Yeah. And then people getting mad at us for not picking a side. And let's... People be peopleing. We've been doing a lot of work just recentering it around it's an us thing and this is what we do. And this is a thing that we do together. We navigate together. that we'd love to do together. And it got confusing there for a little while. And it got a little messy and it got a little bit intense for a minute. And there was a lot of weird things happening in this space and a lot of input and stuff. Bringing it back to center and bringing it back to why are we here? What are we doing? Why are we even doing this? And I think that's what we've really been trying to figure out for the last few months is just if we want to and why. I think why we keep doing this is the people we've met in the last like literally we were there at Chappie Saturday not our event yeah the day after our event we literally had so many people saying oh my god it's you I started listening to your podcast I just started listening to you. I just found your account. I follow you on Instagram. I had someone while I was doing the wobble. While I was doing the wobble come up to me and say, I follow you on Instagram. Oh my God. And I had quite a few moments on Saturday and it keeps me going. I think it's those people. You should go and it reminds you. It's a sense of responsibility. And to, you know, I guess tell our truth right we keep getting told how much they can relate to us because we're normal and everyone says all the time you're so normal you're so regular you're just like us and I do think we do have this responsibility to maintain a voice for people that are regular because we are regular one of us has really met a stranger in our life Yeah. We treat everybody like they're our best friends. And... Yeah. We get it. It would take a lot to really... Like, it takes a lot to make us not... Not. Just not. Yeah. A lot. Like, we... Lowest lows. That's usually how we connect with our closest people is at their lowest lows. Oh, yeah. And that's usually how we... You know, we joke. It's funny. Ha ha. But, like, that's true. That's usually how we connect with a lot of our closest friends. is their lowest of lows and you know we don't judge we everything's safe here we have a we hold a lot of secrets we have a lot of secrets and we hold a lot of people's truth and you just kind of navigate and you try to be their voice for people and you just try to keep this fire burning keep the ship going you just keep we're trying you guys we're trying to we're trying to do the right thing we're trying to continue talking this is going to be a season of truth and honest opinions going to piss a lot of people off Maybe piss some people off. Make people uncomfortable. You're going to be uncomfortable probably. But we've said from the beginning. We want you to be uncomfortable. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. And this space needs to be uncomfortable. I think that it's time to shake things up. I think it's time to talk about things no one talks about. I think it's time to be uncomfortable. And I think it's time to call out bullshit. I think it's time to talk about the stuff we're not supposed to talk about. So here's my hot take is I think the last time this space felt uncomfortable was in the time frame where we came into the scene yeah like we found the lifestyle shortly after that is when we got on social media and started to go in that route and like we just it was by accident but we just kind of owned it and just kept on with it and we saw the lifestyle ogs become uncomfortable that we were public about the lifestyle so that's secret. Let's not talk about it. It was supposed to be a secret. Everything was a secret. We're supposed to be quiet. No one's supposed to talk. That was the last time the lifestyle as a whole became uncomfortable. And look at the growth that we've seen in it. So when the community becomes uncomfortable, that's not necessarily a bad sign. Yeah. Be comfortable. Be uncomfortable. Everybody has to kind of readjust and acclimate to a new You know, environment. And in this last round, I saw a lot of acceptance. I saw a lot of men growth and guys coming out with their sexuality. I saw a lot of women be more open and talk about their mental health and, you know. The pressure of being a woman and a mom and a wife. Yes, exactly. by mental health. We'll talk about that. We have an episode we just filmed talking about the pressure of being a mom and being a wife and being. And so in this short, you know, four or five years where we've done this publicly, I've seen so much growth. And then in that time frame also saw the stubborn people disappear. A lot of people disappeared. People we knew And cared about just vanished. Because they either, you know. People don't like us talking about it. Yeah. It's a hush hush place. It's a quiet place. We don't talk about things. And we're here to change that. And that's. Well, it still is a hush hush in a way where we're never going to out somebody. But the things that need to be. But when. The things that need to be said. Situation. needs to be called out. Some things need to be challenged. Some things need to be taken down. Some walls need to break down. And it's time. And I think that's what we're here for. And I'm ready for season four. Season four is going to be crazy. Can't even tell you what is ready to happen. But we are ready for it. We are open to it. And we're here for it. So we will be here for the next 16 episodes every single Wednesday. Make sure you're staying tuned and joining us every single Wednesday. Yeah. Like, follow, share, all the things. Follow, all the things that you're supposed to say that we always forget to say. You don't have to spend a dollar. Just please like. Just like and share and just be there and just watch. That means the world to us. Just watching, just being and supporting and everything. All of our Hot Couple Chronicles social media accounts are shadow banned so hard right now. So if you see one of our videos, a little like, a little save, a little anything. Yes. It helps us so much because we are fighting the outside world. and the algorithm and everything against us. But we appreciate you guys. We thank you so much for being here. I know we have met so many of you in person. And I can't even begin to tell you how much we appreciate you tuning in and wanting to hear more from us and supporting us and loving us. And thank you for navigating this wild, crazy journey with us and being a part of our shenanigans. It's been a ride. It's been a wild ride. But we are going to get even crazier, I think, as we go on. And yeah, we are just happy to be here. And as always. It's not that serious. Don't make it weird. Bye, guys. Bye. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say, too. 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