ThaMFKNLees: Journey into the Bold and Unapologetic

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Speaker1: You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own podcast is free and easy. Upload an episode and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads just like this. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start your new podcast for free today at RSS.com. This week on Hot Couple Chronicles. Finally, after all of this time, we have the Motherfucking Lees. And then where did the name the Motherfucking Lees come from? Lauren. Yeah. Lauren from Chronicles. One day at Trap, she just came in. Samantha Motherfucking Lee. And we kind of sat there at the end of the night. I'm like, we should use that as like our title and just brand ourselves that. The first time I met you guys, I was naked in a playroom and you were sitting on the side. Oh yeah, I will always be myself. But yeah, if you knew me a year ago, you don't know who I am. I have changed so much. We have to meet these people. We have to, I was like, you got to meet them. They have a vampire paddle. And then the orgy room, we met again. And that was pretty much like the beginning of it all. And she decided to fight. I'm a stubborn bitch. And I get what I want. And you're what I want. I love her for that. And I'm forever grateful. I wouldn't be sitting here doing this podcast right now if it wasn't for our secrets time. No. I love watching people grow. That's one of my favorite things in this lifestyle. I always try to put myself in uncomfortable situations for other people. Yeah, it's okay. It's okay to be weird. We like it weird here. No, we say don't make it weird. I like dead weird. The one that on a random Thursday says, hey, babe, on Saturday, we don't have anything going on. Do you want to drive an hour and a half? I want to try it. And I don't drink coffee, so I sit there and say yes. Of course. Welcome to Hot Couple Chronicles, a podcast exploring the singing lifestyle. Our discussions may contain explicit content and adult themes intended for mature audiences. While we strive to offer valuable insights and entertainment, please be aware that the views expressed are based on personal experiences and opinions. We encourage listeners to approach the content with an open mind and to prioritize communication, consent, and respect in their relationships. Remember, everyone's journey is unique, so take what resonates with you and leave what doesn't. Thank you for joining us on our adventure. I'm Russ. And I'm Ashley. And this is Hot Couple Chronicles. Welcome back. Happy Wednesday. We have friends with us here today. It's going to be an exciting episode, finally, after all of this time. We have the motherfucking Lees, our good friends. We are so excited that we finally got them on. It has been a minute. We've been talking about them. I know you've heard about them a million times in our podcast. They're some of our closest friends that we call family now. And yeah, we just want to get to know them. A lot of our podcast has been just our closest friends, people that we've been around in this space, and we want other people to get to know. We love very, very much. Yeah, everybody's heard stories about these people. They're Ashley's. They're Ashley's. Yeah, they're not imaginary. My travel buddy. They're Ashley's travel buddies, bunk buddies. Yes, we're gonna get started with who are they? Okay, we're gonna start on some questions. We're just gonna get to know them. First of all, we're gonna start easy. I know they're nervous, but we're gonna make it really try and make it easy for them. How long have you guys been together? And how did your journey and the lifestyle start together about eight years got married in October 2023 anniversary is next week two years anniversary is next week what got us into the journey I was when I was younger I kind of always knew this is what I wanted to kind of travel navigate I was in a lot of relationships that were close-minded receptive to the that get a lot of push I kind of to fit what they wanted. And then we've actually known each other a lot, and we've been together. She used to make little vinyl stickers for my vehicle and all that. So we've known of each other. And when we got together, I basically told her to begin, like, this is what I want. This is what I want to see. And she was pretty much okay, like, down with it and receptive. For the first time in my life, somebody was like, yeah, I wanted to go on this journey with me. And ever since, we've been making the most of it and making a lot of memories and close friends. It's been amazing for us. And then how would you describe your dynamic in the lifestyle? Just so people know. Full swap. Same room. This is an us thing. It's not so much a separate thing. And for her, I have, she has the option to do solos, hot white and all that. It's more my thing for her, not necessarily her thing for me. I enjoy it. It doesn't matter. I require too much mental, so it doesn't happen very well. We gotta keep the standards high. Yeah, pretty much, yeah. And then where did the name the motherfucking Lees come from? Lauren. Yeah, Lauren from Pinecoles. One day at Trap, she just came in. Samantha motherfucking Lee. And we kind of sat there at the end of the night. I'm like, we should use that as like our title and just brand ourselves that, so shout out to Lauren. All right. And now we've talked about who you are. Let's talk about how you are as individuals. We want to talk a little bit more about that. Outside of the lifestyle, just kind of tell them who you are as people. This is one of those things like, you know, people ask you what your hobbies are. Yeah. All of a sudden, I have none whatsoever. I have no idea. He's the social butterfly. I like to do things with people. He's the social butterfly. I am the more the one that sits back and just watches. Yeah, I'm definitely more out there than outside the lifestyle. We both are never met a stranger type of people. I'll go up and introduce myself and start talking. Before I know it by the end of the night, I've walked out with a new friend. He makes friends everywhere we go. Everywhere we go, whether we're at a grocery store or in a parking lot. I just love talking and meeting new people. I think the first time I met you guys, I was naked in a playroom. You were sitting on the side. I think you were vlogging. And then we talk about how you've always kind of been social people, but how have you changed since the lifestyle? Have you grown and changed? I've become more confident in myself. When we first started, I was definitely more insecure, more comparing myself to everybody else. And I definitely have found that with time, I've definitely come more out of my shell. I've been more confident in me physically and kind of mentally. Yeah. Yeah. No, I understand. Oh yeah. I will always be myself. But yeah, if you knew me a year ago, you don't know who I am. I have changed so much. So no, I get that. And then how do you stay authentic within this lifestyle? How do you stay true to yourself? Yes. I love that answer. Yeah. Because they are exactly who you see, who you see here and who you see in events and who you see anywhere. You're going to get the same people every a single time. That's what we love about you guys. I don't have the capacity. I can't. I don't have the energy. To be your true self, I mean, this lifestyle has taught us being your true self and the acceptance that this lifestyle has given us. I have never felt in my entire life. That's what we're going to talk about next. The friends and the relationships. I want to give them a backstory of how we all met at the first glow party they came in the room they were friends with anything but vanilla rob and lindsey and they came in and he had the vampire paddle i know we've told the story before of the guy with the vampire paddle that was that was him and yeah didn't know who they were sat down next to them and kind of made comments about that and just kind of talked in passing and it really was like we just kept seeing each other over and over again and i was like we have to meet these people we have to i was like you got to meet them they have a vampire paddle well that was one of the first events that you went to solo. By myself, yeah. Yeah. And I didn't really know anyone. We brought friends of ours, really close friends of ours, but didn't really know anyone yet. We were still pretty early on and kind of was after dark group and stuff. And that was us. I mean, Rob and Lindsay kind of took us out, put us all to love. And we went there. We were still trying to navigate where people are. We're still fresh. And you were camping out in the room. So we went there just to hang out with us. That's kind of wearing coins and your friendship again. And then the orgy room, we met again. And that was pretty much like the beginning of it all. So we've touched on your, kind of your dynamic. How do you two navigate your boundaries? Because you've talked about how is open to one-on-ones and solo adventures, but how do you guys together just navigate those boundaries? I'd say for the most part, we have those conversations. We do group chants. We're full swamps. At the beginning stages of the lifestyle, we've had pushback where it's like, oh, well, she's allowed to do that. You should be able to, and that's not It's our rules to make. This is our journey. And this is what I enjoy seeing her do. We do this together as a team. So I'm not sure if it's something they want to click with, explore more, willing to. If they don't, it is what it is on that. Not everyone's going to love your rounders, but that doesn't matter. This is your journey. So it doesn't matter. Yeah. Yeah. You know, you're too picky. You're too, you have too many this and that. And that's okay. That does not matter. Yeah. There's no such thing as too picky. Yeah. Yeah. This is a journey for you guys. And for you. Even. We make it like y'all. Yeah. Preached for many episodes. Yeah. It can be whatever. Yeah. Competition. This is what you want to make. It can be your own story. The limit is endless. Oh yeah. You can accomplish everything and anything you could ever dream of here. I shouldn't. But yeah. Okay. And then what is one thing that you admire about each other and how you show up in your relationship? You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own is free and easy. Upload an episode, and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and hundreds more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads like this, even with just 10 listeners a month. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start free at RSS.com. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own podcast is free and easy. Upload an episode and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads just like this. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start your new podcast for free today at RSS.com. I love hearing love. I love love. Sorry, saddies. You're turning red. I know. I'm kidding. I'm kidding. You're not. I simply want to show people how these relationships are just so much different than normal relationships. Yes, Hugo. Her devotion and dedication to that. She fought very hard to begin to get me. She knew what she wanted. Yeah. We went through trials and tribulation, fire and brimstone, and forged what you see now in the love. I made mistakes along the way. It was always, it was, it wasn't always perfect. She never, ever gave up, showed the slightest bit of weakness towards us. For that, she, there was a time at Pilling the Curtain Back where she had all the reasons in the world to leave and she decided to fight. I'm a stubborn bitch. I get what I want and you're what I want. I love her for that. And I'm forever grateful. Beautiful. I just love showing people the love that is here. It's love. It's so much love. So much love. No one is. We've learned and we've communicated. And that's where a lot of this lifestyle has helped us both personally outside of education. The talking, being open and transparent with everything. Because as I stated earlier, I came from relationships where if I express ideologies, I was kind of shocked. minimalized or you're weird it took me a while to be able to he always thought it was a trap yeah he always thought it was a trap and it took forever for him to finally learn i'm not i'm not i'm on your side we're together it's not a time it took a while because in the past i was always scared i was i was afraid to express who i wanted and what i wanted in a life without ridiculing it like she said it took a while it got us to where we are now we can talk anything anything under the sun and You've definitely grown leaps in the outdoor location part. That took a bit. That's huge. And it's so important. Just lifestyle. Yeah. It seeps into everything else. It has strengthened outside the lifestyle. Yeah. That's what we noticed too early on was the lifestyle opened the doors to talk about all this spicy stuff. But then in the end, we realized we could talk to each other about absolutely everything. To the point now, like she's even told me, she's like, okay, you're like, you're over. We can keep some things a mystery. Looking to add some excitement to your social life? Meet 3Fun, the free app that connects open-minded singles and couples for fun adventures. With thousands of active users, 3Fun is our ticket to new friendships, flirty encounters, and unforgettable experiences. The best part? It's completely free to use. No hidden fees or subscriptions. Ready to join the fun? Download 3Fun app now from the App Store or Google Play Store and start connecting with like-minded individuals in your area. Don't miss out on the excitement. Find the link below and get started with 3Fun today. And then another easy question. What is a favorite memory from a lifestyle event or club that you've had together? I think now my favorite memory is probably my birthday trip to Secrets. That was such a good trip. Turning 40, I think that entire weekend we were completely on the same page. There was not one moment of... We were just... They were beautiful to watch. We're hitting on all the cylinders. Just seeing how much you had grown from, because we had been on a secret trip before, not far before. That was a hate. I mean, but there wasn't much space in between the two, and just to watch how far you came. We extremely underestimated secrets. It's a lot. We were lucky enough and fortunate enough that y'all invited us down there to experience y'all's happy place. And we went in there with the mindset of ABC, one, two, three. It did not. And we were overwhelmed and it was a lot. But we learned from that trip and went back for her birthday. Just everything did perfectly. Everything was fun. And we had friends come from Georgia travel all the way down to just to surprise her and just to camaraderie and love that was sharing her that weekend. It was, we still to this day talk about like, man, I wish we could Replay that one again. We're going to try. We're going to try. In a few weeks, we're going to try again. It'll be my birthday. Yes, we're heading in November and off to Secrets. It was our first time earlier this year, and now we've been back. It'll be our third time in November, so we definitely love that place. I was struggling last time, so now I can get on the cylinders that you guys are on and we'll be great. It's going to be even better. It's going to be a good time, but talking about events and all of that, I want to talk a little bit more about your How important those people were to us, how much of an impact they had made on not just our lifestyle life, but our life in general. The majority of our friends now are within PAD. They're our family at this point. Yeah, prior to PAD, I mean, we've been in the lifestyle for about five years. We first associated with apps. And we didn't yield the results that others did. A lot of it was ghosts, pictures, collectors. The occasional times that we did meet people wasn't really a vibe. So when we were on Facebook, we were part of a few groups, but pads stuck out to us and they were throwing their second ever party in Alpharetta. We'd never done a social event. We've always hid behind a phone, an app. So this was kind of our debut showing our face to the public in a social setting. And ever since then, like she touched on it, the impact, the acceptance and how much it changed our life for the better i went to robby lindsey and to davia laura and i was like i want to be a part of this i want to affect change i want people to feel the same love that we're feeling and that they're giving out and it's it's been life-changing for us and i i was i was on him almost every week like hey let me let me do something let me help carry the bag this started with the fight started down yeah just volunteer hey i want to help you helped us. This is the least I can do. Kind of transition into the role of helping plan their parties and events to moderating and admin. I was going to ask what was your role. I probably should have mentioned what the roles were. I'm an admin to the page. She's a moderator. And I'm on the event planning team. We try to help coordinate the events, get all that lined up. And it's been an honor. And we've gotten to meet and do incredible things that we never thought would have been possible if it wasn't for them. and the love that they have shown us and the acceptance that they have given. That's a good crew. That's a good crew. We love them so much. What has been your favorite moment of being on that team? The collaboration, the working as a team, trying to make sure that everybody has a seat at the table, everyone feels seen, they're heard, and we have a little bit of everything for anyone that wants to show up today. And it's truly been rewarding. Like, people are just like, man, this was amazing. Like, thank y'all for what y'all do. It's our first time. We'll be coming back. And that alone makes everything leading up to that horsey. It just feels good inside. And then what is the biggest behind-the-scenes thing that you've seen that people don't realize goes into events? So much time between the halls, between going and, you know, finding venues. And then when things fall through, and then you're having to find backup, and they put a We have hundreds of people counting on this date and time into those events. Yeah, I don't think people realize. I think people think you put up a flyer and everyone just shows up in parties. It is not. For instance, we had our glow, our second glow this year, and we had a venue fall through. Issues with that, we had to pivot like a few weeks out. Like, hey, okay, now it's here and try to keep people's interests and attention. Like, okay, well, we're going from Atlanta to this part of the house. And they still showed up and showed up. Hey there, listeners, are you looking to prioritize your sexual health and wellness? We've got just a thing for you. Shameless Care offers at-home testing kits, telehealth consultations, and even treatment for ED and performance anxiety for when you want to play but your body says otherwise. It's convenient, discreet, and all about keeping you at your best. 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It was, you guys have seen me at my lowest personally. I think out of everyone, we've known in the last probably 15 years. And I could never repay you for what you've done and how much you've helped me. That's why I was like that. I think I could let that wall down. Somebody else thinks the same way that I do. I'm being crazy. You trusted us enough to be vulnerable and transparent in a moment where you felt the weakest. That in itself is an act. Most people try to hide that and conceal that to pretend. I can't. I want to. I try. I feel like I am. It was an honor to go through that. We built each other. I'm here to tear anybody down. We want to succeed and be happy in this. That's why I really am trying to get across. It's not pretend. It's not a lie. It's not this made-up fantasy. People say to me that I'm lying, that this is not all this big, amazing, wonderful, non-judgmental zone and that we're pretending. It truly is about. Not just about your looks. It's not just about that. It's about so much more than that. You can't even explain unless you're here. Yeah. It's hard to understand. Coming into this, I had so many, I'm sure most people can resonate with this. I had a lot of insecurities. Oh, yeah. My size, I mean, my teeth and that. I was like, man, nobody's going to want to talk to me and have me kiss their wife. I think most of us feel that way, too. We've been married for a minute. We're not sure if you're. You're listening to a podcast right now. Driving, working out, walking the dog. If you're into podcasts, chances are you have something to say too. With RSS.com, starting your own podcast is free and easy. Upload an episode and we distribute it to Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, and more. Track your listeners, see where they're from, and start earning from ads just like this. If you've been thinking about starting a podcast, this is your sign. Start your new podcast for free today at RSS.com that I think all of us. Oh, I still back to this. I'm still there. We get to an event or we get to crap or we get somewhere and then like everybody's coming up and I'm like, do you really like this? This isn't a imagination. But that's part of the lifestyle that you're constantly working on your confidence. Never would have done the stuff that we've done in this lifestyle otherwise ever. Just this alone is making me go, oh my goodness. This has been such a journey. And then what is one piece of advice you would give to someone starting the lifestyle. Ask before you touch. Consent. Always. And everyone's talked about it. Y'all have had on y'all's podcast. It's not all about consent. Yeah. Don't think just because you walk in the door day one and you're going to have this orgy. I mean, it can take months. It'll all happen. Let it flow. Don't try to force it. Don't try to push it. Don't get, you know, don't get discouraged because we've been to two events. Or we don't have our people. We get that a lot with we, you guys have this close group of people. with the same friends all the time. I want that because a lot of people are looking for that. Don't be afraid. It takes time. Yeah. Friends. Yes. I was just going to say that. Does it not mean you're not welcome? We want more people. They're most comfortable. So that's who they're going to take towards, especially our group. And we get that. Yeah. Oh, yeah, for sure. There's not anybody in this group that wouldn't welcome you with open arms at all. Everybody has that fear of rejection. But. Like, that's part of the excitement that we're drawn to. Like, the chance of possibly being rejected but not is that much more of the dopamine drip. Like, that's why people think that I don't like them is because I'm not the approcher ever because I'm terrified of rejection. So I'm just like, I'll just sit over here and wait. Yeah, it's learning rejection. I feel like that's part of the whole butterfly feeling we get when we go, meet new people. It's like, they might not like me, but you know what? I'm putting myself out there. Just doing that is huge. And that in itself is an adrenaline boost. And then when you start connecting with these different people, it's like, oh, okay. And then it builds your confidence. You become more social. And I mean, let's be honest. A lot of us have been together for a really long time with our partner. We forget how to interact with other couples and flirt. Yeah, so like we're relearning or for some people that have been together since high school. Sweethearts. And I've never flirted with anybody else. So it's we're learning or relearning a lot of these things that we haven't done in years. And it's not going to be perfect. It's not like you're going to mess up. It's going to be weird. Get comfortable being uncomfortable. It's going to be weird. It's just going to have moments. To me, those awkward, funny moments. are really the moments that are like the best. And there's going to be ingrained in those people. Yeah. Yeah. And that's how you find your people. She talks about fear of rejection. Like I've even noticed a difference in her, you know, in the last three or four months. She's become more vocal. She's kind of putting herself back there a little bit more to people that she likes. And even this past weekend, she saw a gentleman that she liked and she's like, hey, do you have one of your cards on us? And I was like, yeah, when are you about to dish? I will give it to him and tell him to come find me. That is so hot, and you would have never done that sooner four months ago. But I see little moments and little things like that, and I commend her, and I let her know, like, hey, I see what you're doing. I'm an effort, and it has changed her confidence a lot. That is hot. I like it. I love it. I love watching people grow. That's one of my favorite things in this lifestyle, is watching couples. Yeah, that was one of my favorite things in the very beginning. I would find that you could, because you could tell, when somebody's not confident, or really shy, they stick out like a sore thumb when they're in a group of people that are really comfortable. I used to single those people out. You might have done that to me. I wasn't trying to be predatory. I wasn't really looking for any type of play. I just wanted to see them be comfortable in their own skin. I used to just sit there and talk to them and pull them out to the dance floor. Introduce them to people. And anybody that knows me, that is my most self-conscious place, because I am not a dancer, but I do it for her. I'm not good at it either, but I love doing it. Me too. So I always try to put myself in uncomfortable situations for other people. Show them, yeah. It's okay. It's okay to be weird. We like it weird here. No, we say don't make it weird. We like good weird. We like good weird. I mean, the first few times we went to trap, like, my hands were on fire. Like, I didn't know what to do. how to navigate. I was like, I just, I feel awkward. I feel vulnerable. People are staring at us, but it took those, like you said, like getting out there and putting yourself in a position or a situation that you wouldn't have done in any other setting. And people are actually reciprocating. Hey, you know, we see you now. It is. Yeah. It's fun. All right. And then before we wrap it up, we're going to do what we do with everyone. We have rapid quick fire questions real fast. No thinking. All right. You can both answer. Okay. Who made the first move? You. Me. Okay. Do you want to explain or no? I'll allow it. I'll allow it. Control pass and finally slid in and shot my shot. Here we are. Who's more likely to plan a date night? Me. Me. 100% me. Go. I didn't see that one. Neither. I figured he would be, though. No, he wants to go places, but I am normally the planner. He comes along with me. He's a support system. I'm the one that on a random Thursday says, hey, babe, on Saturday, we don't have anything going on. Do you want to drive an hour and a half? I want to try. And I don't drink coffee, so I sit there and say yes. Of course. Duh. Yeah, she'll randomly just get a hair up. So I've seen this thing on TikTok. We go do it. This is what we're doing. We're going to go down to South Georgia for this. We just like to travel, so she'll plan something. I'll be like, oh, no. Nothing to do. Okay. Who is the homebody? That's hard. Also, because we just were talking about going. Who's more of a homebody? I have the desire to stay home. She'll get up and I'm just going to go this and that and shop here and get around. She'll find an excuse to leave the house. I'll sit here and just be like, I kind of just want to sit for a moment. Well, I think that's how we are, too. Because I, you know, go like going to work and stuff. When I get home, I just want to be at home. But her being at home. I work at home. She's working at home. I'm getting out of here. She's like, let me get me the heck out of here. I know I need to do laundry and all that. I'm going to go shopping and go to Marshall's or TJ Maxx. Last time I came here. I've got the house now. There's no keeping me in here. There's some candle on sale right now. I gotta go. I gotta smell it. I have to smell it. Lightly turn colors. I've got to go north. Yeah. Oh, she'll go chase leaves. I know last time I was here, you guys were all set on cleaning the entire house. You had a whole plan. And then like hours later, you're like, well, we didn't do that. We went to Six Flags instead. That's why we get along as well. I was in the middle of getting breakfast. I'm like, we're gonna have breakfast and eat and clean. And then we got a text message and she's like, I'm getting dressed now. I'm like, well, Yes, we're going there. It's a whole new day of adventure. Another whole day of adventure. I was like, damn it, I should have stayed there a little longer. Making memories. Hey, beautiful. If you're looking to feel confident and sexy, Voluptuous Fixin has got you covered with stunning lingerie and outfits that fit every curve. And for our listeners, you can snag 10% off your order with code HOTCOUPLENGA at checkout. Don't miss out. Check out the link below and find your next favorite piece. What is your guilty pleasure snack after a night out? I'm going to say either ice cream or cheesecake. Definitely, we'll go out on a dinner date, and we'll try to find a local ice cream spot nearby. Yeah, but after like a lifestyle night, though. Oh, a lifestyle night? It depends. It depends on where we're at. Well, if we're in Atlanta, you know we're going for Woody's cheesesteaks because they're up at 4 in the morning. Oh, yeah. We're going for cheesesteaks at the end of it. Yes, always. Waffle House is always a day. We're a local Waffle House guy. And he knows when we come in, Penny and I have dead with our trap bracelets on. And our clothes. He'll just look at us and kind of nod us and end up like, just don't end. The Waffle House, like right next to the hotel we usually stay at. Who's ever gone there? Oh, they know. They know. When everybody's coming in, I'm coming in with a button shirt, halfway done, like a blazer that's all, We're covered in sparkles. Yeah, covered in sparkles. Glitters. Yeah. What's your go-to drink order for a night? Peach, Crown, and Sprite. I'm a Crown Royal person, too. I'll do a Crown and Coke or something. Solid. Biggest turn-on that isn't physical? Own. Just who you are as a person. How you handle yourself, how you approach us, and just talk to us. Confident. We were talking about it last weekend. Had you seen, like, or after party or playroom. Like, we have an eclectic group of all various sizes and shapes. And comfortability. And, yeah. We don't necessarily judge by what you look like. I mean, obviously, I have those, you know, desires and wants out of it. As long as you're a good person to me and my wife and our marriage, we don't see any of that. Yeah. That's what we talk about is, we have met absolute tens for couples. And after you're talking to them for five minutes, as they turn into twos and threes. But on the other hand, you would see somebody you wouldn't even look at twice walking past at the store. But as you got to know them, they became the 10 because their personality was top notch. So much more than looks. In that attraction build. Soul. Dream vacation just for the two of you. I'm this girl. I'm a habit. I'm a beautifully used. I like to, I can go either way. I'd think like a Cancun trip or stuff to go down to Mexico, see that part of town. I've lived very secluded. I've grown up. If it doesn't touch Georgia, I've experienced or seen it. So I'd like to probably go experience some of that and go down there. Okay. Who's more likely to start the party? Yeah. We already covered that one. Yeah. Guilty. What's one non-negotiable in your relationship? Communication. Yep, communication. First trip you ever took together? Gatlinburg. Well, not in Tennessee. It was cold. Horribly. It was raining, and he had mesh shoes, and he was... Oh, no, mesh. She talked about this place, and I've never been to it, and we went, and I highly underestimated it. It didn't pack at all, and we... We now make it a point. We go multiple times a year now for many years. I cannot wait to have, because we've been on our own, but it wasn't the greatest memories. We've done it a few times. If you come do our tour, it's going to be fun. That's what I'm excited to do at the motherfucking Lee's Way, because our ways have not been the most fun. We became friends with bartenders and all that down there. They'll reach out to us now. They'll offer their house to us. Like, hey, let's come stay with us. Some of them, I think they know. They know who you are. everywhere. I've got to drop hints and he's picking up the hints. I'm like, oh no. What do you feel about pineapple? What's your favorite compliment to hear from each other? You compliment me so much. How do I pick a favorite? Don't worry, I'll wait. I like to hear when you tell me how much you see that I've grown and how proud you are of that. That means a lot now. But I have. I've seen your journey through this weight loss, through your growth, not only in the lifestyle, But personally, too, how you communicate and navigate things in that. And I am. I see you. And I see your hard work that you put in. Thank you. I love you here. What song instantly gets you in a good mood together? Do you have a song that you listen to? I'm a music girl. We are music people as well. Man, that one, that's a tough one right there. That is. We've got such a vast. Yeah. We have an eclectic, vast, From Any and All Things. Do you have a song? It is Parkway Drive, Deathless Song, which nobody probably even knows what that is. Nobody knows. Come on, metalheads, don't let me down. It's a metal song. It's a metal love song. It's both guy and female. It is beautiful. And if you look at the lyrics, it's a beautiful song. Where we started off, we used to sit in my vehicle and we'd just exchange music. Let's listen to that song. That's how we kind of communicated. We love music. We share songs all the time. Music is huge in my communication. Yeah, she shares lots of songs. That's how I speak to people. I mean, we've even shared songs in our chats. The song is spicy. We love to talk about the playlist. I love music. The unofficial. Unofficial. Soundtrack of the orgy. We're like, I need this playlist. Let me see if I can share it. At this point, everybody's patting on to it. I would love to see your Spotify views. You'd probably beat a lot of these out here. As many people play it. Who's better at keeping secrets? I'm horrible. I do not have secrets. Don't ask me to keep a secret. I'm the one that buys gifts and then instantly is like, here, guess what? I got you. Same. Yeah, I can't. Same. I like surprising her a lot for, like, her birthday or things, and I'll play dumb to a lot of things just because I love that shot. Oh, my God. Learn to read him now. Yeah, he's... I've learned to read him now. I can go like, oh, I said I'm coming because I know you. That was a lot of people to wrangle. That was a lot of logistics going into the hut. That was a hell of a lot of squirrels. Everyone was all over sneakers doing their own thing and everyone came together. We were all just running around trying. I'm sitting in a pool like why do all of our people keep walking by? Everybody just disappeared slowly. Watching you on Life 360 and I was like he's back there and he said he went to go to the bathroom. She was in the pool area. The front bathroom was closed. He had to go to the room. He went to the front to get. Yeah. We all, there was like, how many people in that room? Had to have had 30. That's what I was going to say. And we were all at the pool area just hanging out and it was time. So we had to all nonchalantly, but if you know secrets, you have to walk around and you can watch everyone walking and where they're going to. Then go upstairs and back through. And she was just sitting there. We're all trying to be sneaky and Mike was running around. I'm like, hey, I got to go to our room. Let's go real quick. And then the room we had to go to was not anywhere. in the room. No, no. As soon as I cut, she was like... We don't go this way. He was like, let's go this way, where you can overlook the pool. He was like, why? What's the vehicle? Are you trying to hide from me in the back? He showed up while we were at the pool. And he was like, well, fine. We walk around, and all of a sudden, he just randomly bolts off into the room. And I'm like, what are you doing? Why did you go... Surprise. That was a beautiful move. That was so beautiful. I was proud of the bus last weekend. We didn't tell anybody. We didn't tell anybody. We kept that one tight. I did a podcast. I had to say me, I, and I kept thinking it, but I was. I think it actually slipped because. That's what he said. That's what Rob told me. Rob said that he heard you slip. Yeah. He's the only one who caught it. Before I showed up, he was like, you sneaky. I'm like, what are you talking about? Like, we've been tight lipped about this. It got, it got let loose by when, when people went to trap. We came out. Y'all are good at secret keeping too. Y'all are. We tried. We come out. We came a minute to realize that was you guys. I see these dapper people. He's got a nice suit on. I'm like, man, they're dressed really nice and I kept looking I seen the car and I was like that's Russ she squealed and ran to the car like you son of a gun nothing nothing is better than her other friend that got really excited and started bolting across the parking lot butt plug came flying that's how much excitement your surprises bring to people when y'all show up yeah just backstory for a second last weekend last weekend we were all in together at Chappies two nights in a row we celebrated birthdays we had first Friday and Russ wasn't planning on coming but Russ was surprised everybody and got the whole weekend with us all off so if you know that's what we're talking about is we were all able to spend the weekend together last weekend finally which we enjoy when we can we need it when we can it's always great when you are together i mean you able to i heard that so many times this weekend was like you're just such a different person with russ there you're amazing when you're by yourself but when you're with him you're complete that extra extra i heard that so many times i was like well this is what we prefer so good because you're more comfortable Yeah, feel safer. Yeah. Security blanket there. And we talk about, like, evolving for her. Like, I've seen your growth from first glow to now. Like, you've navigated it, and you've grown with your own confidence to have it. But still, when you're a better half, it's always better. Preferred, for sure. Rapid fire questions my ass. Sorry. Sorry. We can't rapid fire anything. All right. Detour. If you had to describe your vibe as a couple in three words, What would they be? Real fast. Energy. Awkward. Beautiful. Beautiful. Amazing. Perfect. Who's more adventurous in trying new things? I'm normally along for the ride, and I will go along, but he is the one who comes up with all the ideas, and I'm just like, okay. I have a hell of an imagination. Hey, what if we do this? Let's bring this and evolve. What is your favorite way to celebrate wins together? Just spend a time with each other. Everyone has this. We reflect. We talk afterwards. How did we win? What made that happen? Try to recall everything. Just kind of replay it. Talk about it. We did it. We made it. If you could relive one day in your relationship, what day would that be? Wedding. Yeah, I'd say our wedding day. 100%. That was a long time coming. On the beach. Friday the 13th. Perfect. Yeah. Superstition. All that. I'd relive that one. Yep. All right. So we're just about out of time. Before we leave, what do you hope people take away from this podcast episode? That even if you feel like you don't truly belong to keep at it. They're out there. Your people will come. Your circle will come. It takes time. Just be, like she said, be your most authentic self. Don't try to be anything else. Don't try to put a facade on a personality. Just be yourself. Your people are out there. Don't give up on what you want. Don't compare yourself to everybody else. What is it? Comparison is the thief of joy. Yeah. Don't compare yourself to everybody else. Your journey is your journey. It's one of Sam's wise words that resonated with me this summer and I replay so many times. Don't look at what other people had or how far along. they are on this journey or accomplish it. This is you and your partners or if you're solo, this is what you may do. Be authentic, be real, be compassionate, be respectful to one another and just love one another. And have fun. Have fun. That's what it's all for. That's what we're here for. Goofy. Put yourself in a situation and be sane and just take a chance. Take a chance. Put your hair down. Say hi to those people. You never know the people sitting next to you on the couch in some random hotel room. people you don't know. Might be your best friends. Making strangers flog in. Yeah. It's just a paddle. It starts with curiosity. And we've met so many and we can never thank this lifestyle or thank y'all enough for what y'all have given us and granted us. Same. To see it accomplished because of. Same. And other people watching this that we're friends with that y'all have given us so much. We like it here a lot. And then do you have anything coming up, anything exciting that you're looking forward to? Low ticket sales right now there. October 25th. October 25th, hotel takeover, a little rooftop party. It's going to be good. A little spooky vibes, dark settings, DJs, come on and have fun. And then the following... We'll all be at Secret. It's the first week for iCandies, their Halloween special. Looking forward to that. It's going to be a good time. We're going to party and let's have fun. Make more memories. their socials so you can follow them and get to know them a little bit more on social media and all of that we'll have that tagged below but thank you guys for being here that was so good that was beautiful that's exactly why we wanted you guys here we needed that piece in in our podcast so thank you for doing this having us all of that but so much saying we love you guys too and as always it's not that serious don't make it weird we love you guys bye