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Welcome to theus cuckoldress podcast a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious the passionate and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and check out the venus blog and of course, if you love it, share it. Now, sit back, make yourself comfortable, and enjoy the show with your host, Venus. Welcome to this episode of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. I'm your host Venus. Thank you so much for joining me today. Today's episode is going to be all about cuckolding and what it was and what it is now.
And this is going to be a bit of a tough one for me to explain in a way that'll be easy for you to understand, I think, because there's just so much to it. And I also think that it might be a bit controversial. I might get some hate mail from this one today. We'll see. Hopefully not. Anyway, let's start. So, okay. First, I was reading the book Insatiable Wives by David Lay. And what an incredible book. It really goes into detail about the history of cuckolding relationships.
And he does tell a lot of stories about, you know, real cuckolding couples who have decided to go down that road and what it's like for them is a very well written book. I would highly recommend it. But it got me thinking about, you know, cuckolding where it was before and where it is now. Because I think historically cuckolding has always been with couples who've been married for quite some time, and they decide to go down that road. So it's, it starts out with an already established, long term committed, loving relationship. And I think that that has changed a lot recently.
Now, I feel like there's all these single people who are looking for this kind of relationship right from the beginning. And historically, that has not been the case.
And right now, I feel like there's a lot more men than women who are seeking out this kind of relationship and I and young men like I would say based on the stats of my blog and my podcast there is a huge number of young guys who are seeking out this information that's like age groups of 18 to 24 or 25 to 34 those are by far the the biggest numbers that I that I see who are seeking out this information which is different it historically was like older couples that have been together for a very very long time and so it got me thinking okay where has cuckolding been in the past and what does it actually look like now what are these trends that we're seeing?
I constantly get people asking me all the time, like, do you think cuckolding is more popular today than it was before? And so I've really sought out to kind of figure that out for myself. And now that I feel like I've been in this lifestyle for about five years, I've been exposed to little bits of this lifestyle at a time. I never really felt like I knew all of it. But recently, I feel like I have finally been exposed to enough of it, and so many different areas of it, that I have a picture in my mind, I can actually see what this lifestyle looks like from the outside.
And what I mean by that is for somebody who's never heard of cuckolding and they want to get some information on it they want to learn about it what does it look like as soon as they you know start out on that journey what does it actually what's the impression that they get about this lifestyle and so that's what I want to talk about today. I hope that you enjoy this episode. It's definitely one that's very important to me. Let's go ahead and get started. Okay, so first of all, I'm going to talk about the increasing popularity of cuckolding. Yes, it's been increasing, definitely.
There's some information to actually prove that. So in 2018, Google searches information revealed that the term cuckolding surpassed the usually popular term threesome. So that's pretty significant. And also, this is even more important in my mind, I've heard that cuckolding is the second most searched term by heterosexual porn users in English language search engines. That's pretty amazing. The second most popular search term in porn is cuckolding. Wow. Justin Lehmiller surveyed 4,000 men in a study and 58% of them had cuckold fantasies.
That's 58% of men have cuckold fantasies is what it showed, which I find is pretty incredible. Like that made the headlines when that study came out. It was, it was pretty amazing to think about that.
He also studied some women and he found that about a third of women have cuckolding fantasies so definitely it's more popular with men than women um and i found that like from 2018 onwards there's been a lot more information about cuckolding in the news i went and tried to get together some information to put on the resources page of my website venuscuckoldress.com i wanted wanted to find some, you know, has cuckolding been in the news? Has there been some research studies?
And that's when I kind of went online and had to look around and I was like, wow, there is a lot of information out there. A lot of news stories, magazine articles. Also, I find like cuck themes have been coming up in mainstream movies and TV shows and Netflix series, like the Sex Explained Netflix series where they talk about cuckolding. I was like, wow, this is amazing. It's really popping up in all of these different places. And I think within the past five years, there's been a huge increase in the amount of cuckolding material online when it comes to blogs and message forums and porn.
It's pretty impressive, especially with cuck porn. Obviously, if it's the second most searched term in porn search engines, then there's going to be a lot more porn. And that's like professionally done porn, which I find sucks, or amateur porn.
There's a lot of amateur porn on there as well as well which is a little bit better but also an increase in interracial porn and maybe that has to do with the increase in interracial cuckolding who knows but tumblr before it got shut down it had so much information on there about cuckolding but that was mainly just porn it was just porn captions about cuckolding memes and stuff like that and when that got shut down basically everything moved over to twitter and so there's a massive amount of of cuck stuff on twitter it's mainly just um cuck porn stuff and not a lot of like real good information on there about the lifestyle unfortunately but there's a lot there um there's a lot of blogs out there there's obviously mine but they're they're mostly blogs that are written by men or produced by men um and then there's these so-called chat rooms they're not really chat rooms they're just like wank rooms I call them because basically it's just guys who are just posting pictures of their wives so that the bulls can react to them on there it's literally all men and it's all just there's no talk going on really nothing of any amount substantial amount or quality it's just literally just swapping pictures to jerk off so they call them chat rooms really they should be wank rooms there's a lot of literatica online as well and some really good fantasy kind of literatica about cuckolding but again very dominated by by men who produce this or put this information out there on fetlife black to white forum and reddit there's also a lot of information about cuckolding as well.
So there's like a lot of stuff out there. If anybody wants to learn about cuckolding, there's definitely a lot that's going to pop up in a search term. There's a huge presence online when it comes to cuckolding.
Okay, so obviously, with more information out there in the mainstream about cuckolding, you think that that would be a really good and it is because it's it means more people are hearing that word cuckolding and more people are asking the questions what is that what does that mean what can I learn about that and for me it's been always very important that women learn about this lifestyle and that's why I find that I need to ask these questions right now about what does this lifestyle actually look like what's it portrayed like online because I want women to be able to learn about this lifestyle so what is it that they see when they search cuckolding is it an accurate portrayal of what it actually is and why is it like that, so here goes.
This is the controversial part that I think some people might disagree with. But these are my opinions. In my opinion, there have been some negative trends in cuckolding in the last few years, at least, where cuckolding historically went from being relationship centered. So it's a relationship that incorporated cuckold fantasies and sexuality into it, to something now that's just a standalone sexual fantasy. It's no longer about the couple. It's more portrayed as just simply a category in a porn search. It's literally, that's all it is.
And I'm going to talk about three different kinds of cucks out there. I know that there will be guys who really don't want to hear this and I'm sorry in advance, but I'm going to bring it up.
So the first type of cuck out there that is, this is new and I call them the newbie cucks because they are this new younger version of cuckolds that are out there who have been raised on porn and all they know about cuckolding is just basically what they've seen in porn what they've seen online in these porn captions for cuckolding what they've heard about through these male-dominated stories produced by men about cuckolding that's all they know they don't know anything about actual real cuckold relationships and so these newbies um that's literally all they've ever seen is just what they've seen online and they are so interested in this cuckold fantasy because they've seen it in porn.
It turns them on and they're just like in a frenzy about all of this cuckold stuff. And it's literally just like a lot of jerk off material for them. They're just so horny by it all. And this is what drives them. And many of these guys have no actual intention of dating in this kind of lifestyle or making this fantasy a reality. Like it's just literally jerk off material for them. It's fantasy land. And it, you know, it consumes them. They love it. They can't get enough of it, but really they have no intention of making this a reality.
And I remember that time in my life where I realized that I was like, Oh my God, there is this huge number of guys out there who have no intention of actually living this out. Like this is just their, what fuels their rubbing out moment. And that's, that's it. I was like astounded by that.
It's kind of a pivotal moment for me and so yeah these guys exist but it makes it really difficult for women like me because you have to number one be aware that these guys are out there when you're dating and number two you got to weed through them as many of them are dishonest and love to waste your time because these are the guys who basically treat you as as a fantasy dispenser. So for women who want to date, avoid these guys. Identify and avoid. That's my best advice. In my opinion, these guys usually lack relationship experience. They have poor communication skills.
They have issues with anxiety and insecurity and they love to come at you with one thing and one thing only they want to talk about cuck fantasies so these guys are everywhere online so please keep that in mind you got to weed through these guys all they want to do is just talk about fantasy shit now those are the newbies I'm going to move on to the second category of cucks and for, I call them real cucks, because that's, that's honestly what they are. They're real cucks. These guys are quote unquote, hardwired with this fantasy in their mind. And it's like a driving force in their life.
And with that, I mean, that like, they're not really into a lot of other kinks or fetishes. Like, this is just the one thing that turns them on and has for a very long time. They usually have experience with this with past girlfriends. They understand the magic and the value of the actual relationship part. And they appreciate the humiliation or tease and denial in like a loving kind of way. They get it. They totally get it. These guys are also very giving, selfless, loving, caring providers and protectors. And they are forever loyal to their woman.
They are respectful and kind and well-mannered and when they approach you they are more interested in getting to know you than focusing on the sexual fantasy part unfortunately these guys are a lot more difficult to find because they're not out there online these guys are just doing their everyday thing looking for a relationship with somebody maybe like a vanilla girl who they are going to talk to and try to, you know, bring this up. Interracial, black and white, the beautiful and sexy relationship dynamic that we love now in a lifestyle clothing brand you can wear with pride.
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Okay, the last category of cucks, I really struggled with what to define these guys as like what's a good name for these guys. But I settled on backpack cucks because these guys literally carry a backpack full of things that they want to fulfill their own agenda. So they've got all sorts of stuff that they come at you with that they carry along with them. Cuckolding is usually simply just one of many kinds of kinks or fetishes on their list of interests. And usually they're all submissive in nature or degrading in nature.
They identify as a quote unquote sub and they usually seeking a quote unquote dom. So it's very much in this kind of BDSM realm. The humiliation and denial of extreme cuck fantasies is what attracts them to cuckolding and they crave cruel, kind of like master slash slave scenarios. So these are like the slave cucks. These guys love to come at you with a list of their favorite choreographed scripts of porn or femdom cuckolding. And immediately, that's what they'll start talking about.
Many of them want the kind of like forced by aspect of cuckold scenarios, or the feminization or sissification of cuckolding stuff like this part really appeals to them. Their main focus is fulfilling their own fantasies and agendas. So that's what they're most concerned with. Even though they'll come to you, you know, and say, I'll do anything for you. I'll do whatever you want, blah. But really what they want is to have their kind of like slave cuckold fantasies lived out.
They want you to give them a list of rules for them to follow they want you to outline like everything what it would be like in the relationship they want it like word for word detail for detail everything kind of spelled out for them many of them are into this kind of like financial slavery thing and they pay for fin doms to humiliate them or degrade them or extort them they pay the pro doms to do kind of like these scripted cuckolding sessions with them or they pay for these so-called cuck training sessions these guys are all over the internet like all over the place they're they're just as common as the newbie cucks online okay so those are the three types of cucks that I feel like are out there I've talked a little bit about the trends in cuckolding it's so popular now and how it's changed from something that was relationship centered to now something something that's like porn fantasy-centered, and what the repercussions have been.
I've talked a little bit about the fact that we've got this new generation of cucks out there who are like porn frenzied, and it's simply just a fantasy for them. But what I really want to get to, and I talked a little bit about this in the beginning, was what does that kind of online portrayal look like and why is that important? So if a husband was to bring it up to his wife or if a boyfriend was to bring it up with his girlfriend about cuckolding and she were to be like, okay, I'm going to figure out what this is. I'm going to go online and I'm going to figure it out.
Or if a single woman was to watch that sex explained movie on Netflix and was like, Oh, I've heard of cuckolding. Like what, what exactly is that? I'm going to look into that a little bit more. Maybe this is the kind of relationship that I might want.
So if these women were to go online and have a, and have a little look around, like what the, what the hell does that look that look like for them oh my goodness when you've got these kinds of cucks kind of online and and everywhere and and think about how they approach women what kind of impression is she going to have what's she going to see hear or read and why does that matter to get to my point my biggest concern is how women are interpreting what they're bombarded with online. Let me tell you, it's going to be a nearly instant turnoff for most of them. Most women are vanilla.
They subscribe to society's expectation of monogamy and have been brainwashed to suppress their own sexuality. We all know that. For these women, cuckolding can only be palatable if it comes from a truly loving, trusting relationship, not from porn or kink or fetish factories. But instead, what they're actually seeing is porn that mainly depicts cuckolding as a femdom-centered, not relationship-centered scenario. It's literally just a femdom storyline. That's it. It doesn't show the relationship part at all. And they see that nearly all cuckolding material online is created, produced by men.
It's all porn and fantasy. It's for an all-men audience. It's blogs that are just literally just distributing porn. What they also see is these quote-unquote chat rooms that are just like guys posting porn, pictures of their wives jerking off, wank rooms. And they're bombarded. Women are bombarded by porn-frenzied newbie cucks. That is not good. Trust me. Take it from me. This has happened to me over and over and over again for years. There's also backpack cucks who bombard them online and they're, you know, wearing panties asking to be humiliated and degraded.
And to the average vanilla girl, going to be like she's just literally going to close that search screen forever and just be like nah fuck that like I'm like what is that it's not that's not a turn on at all it's just not I mean sure for maybe like 0.01 percent of the women out there they'd be like oh my god this is what I've been fantasizing about forever. But generally, it's just going to be a turnoff. And then especially on Twitter, you've got these fin doms casting their financial slavery nets under the guise of a so-called cuckoldress. They call themselves cuckoldresses.
Or you've even got black guys on there who call themselves a bull but really they're just a male fin dom so these and they're in there they're all kind of using this hijacking this cuckolding label for their own financial benefit and what if a woman were to see like literally women see that and they're like what the fuck is that this is what my husband wants this cuckolding stuff like what the fuck is that it's so inaccurate so what they're not actually seeing online or they have to look really hard to find is the real cucks the real cuckolding couples I mean they're out there they are out there but you have to look really hard to find them.
These real cuckolding couples, a lot of them are not online because they're literally living their lives happily. Why do they need to be online? There are a few of them who do put themselves out there online to share their stories because they love this lifestyle so much. They do it to share that kind of experience with other people to show them how amazing and loving it can be. But most of them are just at home, living their lives, doing their thing, happy. And also they're not seeing real cuckoldresses. They're just so few of them.
All they see as these so-called cuckoldresses I'm just, I'm, cuckoldress, to sort of just, you know, make the money. That's all it is. So they see that. That's what they see instead of real cuckoldresses. So all of this is obviously really important that people realize, you know, what women are seeing when they go online, what they're looking at when they're learning about cuckolding. Obviously, it's really important to me.
Yes, cuckolding is popular, but it's been at it at its own expense it is a cuckolding really is a mental emotional intellectually complex dynamic between two people who love each other and that is the core of it it's not just a porn fantasy it is built on an already established real relationship most of the time, or it's integrated into a new relationship with the focus being on building love, trust, connection, and longevity. And that is what women need to know. That's what they need to see. And that's what they need to hear. That's what the message needs to be.
So for the men out there, I want you to think about this, pay attention to what you are creating online, and how it's being perceived by women. I know that You're creating it with a male mentality and you are, you know, receiving it in a male mentality, but please take a moment to really think about how this is being perceived by women. Also for the men, please make intelligent choices about what content you are consuming online. Choose carefully. Choose the stuff that really reflects cuckolding in a positive light, in a real kind of way. That would make a huge difference.
And for the single cucks out there especially, just focus on relationship building rather than being driven by the porn fantasy of it all. I feel like I need to repeat that because it really needs to be heard. Approach women within the context of pursuing a relationship and not pursuing a fantasy. Also, please, and this is for the men and the women out there, call out these fake cuckolding people online, these fin doms, these pro doms, these people who are looking to, you know, profit off of this, these cuckolding for hire people, please call them out.
I have a hashtag that I use that is hashtag fin dom is not cuckolding and I'm sure I'm making a lot of enemies out there and I don't really give a shit because I want people to know this is not what cuckolding actually is so please call it out if you don't call it out if you don't identify that and say hey look that's actually not what cuckolding is then we're never going to be able to change the perception of cuckolding. And that, you know, that, that would be really sad.
For the people who create porn, please hire some women to participate in the production of it, the script writing of it, please hire some women, because they know exactly what it is that needs to be portrayed. It needs to be more about the relationship, the emotional, the mental part of it, and not just this femdom script.
And lastly, my message for women is that I feel like it would be very beneficial if the women out there who are in happy, loving, long-term cuckolding relationships, please just start talking to other women, mentoring other women that need to learn or want to learn about this kind of lifestyle. I feel like the more women talk to other women about it, then things will begin to change. Things will be changing for the better. There will be this more accurate portrayal of what cuckolding really is that's women-centered I don't know.
things will begin to change things will be changing for the better there will be this more accurate portrayal of what cuckolding really is that's women-centered my message to the men out there who constantly complain about it being so hard to find a woman who's into this kind of relationship and my message to the husbands out there who are so frustrated because their wife just is turned off or not into what she thinks is cuckolding. Think long and hard about all of this that I have talked about. Think long and hard about this.
My goal is to make real cuckolding popular, not just this garbage that's infested the internet. And I really want people to celebrate real cuckolding. I want people to promote real cuckolding. I want women to pursue real cuckolding relationships because real cuckolding is love.
and my friends on twitter they are at real cuckolding relationships because real cuckolding is love and my friends on twitter they are at real cuckolding is their is their handle um they came up with that hashtag hashtag cuckolding is love and i have been trying to use that as much as i can since that came up because i feel like that is truly the real meaning of cuckolding. It is love. It is not a porn category. It's actually love. So if everybody could start getting that hashtag trending, I think that would be a really good start to changing the perception of cuckolding out there.
All right, I'm going to wrap this all up now. That was a lot of information, a lot of stuff that I really wanted to get out. So I'm hoping that it all made sense. It was clear. Who knows, might add to it later on. We'll see. Anyway, please make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and have a look at the blog. And if you love the podcast, please go ahead and share it. Please leave a rating or review on the Apple podcast. That would be really fantastic. And I do have a Patreon page under Venus Cuckoldress. If you do want to support the podcast, that would be super.
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