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Coming up on this episode of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast. A lot of the women that I coach have never masturbated. Yeah, I believe that. So in that sense, like if confidence comes from practice, you've never had practice, where would you find the confidence? Research shows this is one of the biggest factors contributing to our confidence is how much you love your body. And girls from young age were socialized to be a certain way, to look a certain way. Sexual confidence is external.
It's like how you show up up right how you show up is how people say wow venus is so confident it's what they can observe but what's what you believe on the inside is more important because you're gonna be able to show up like a bad bitch if you believe on the inside that you are a bad bitch We'll be right back. show up like a bad bitch if you believe on the inside that you are a bad bitch you are now listening to the venus cuckold podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious, the passionate, and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all. Go to venuscuckoldress.com.
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Now sit back, make yourself comfortable, and she's just cool as fuck it is going to be so so good but listen up i was on her show just recently i actually came out this week and it was so fun she's having one month of uh i guess guests talking about cuckolding um i think dr justin lay miller was just on her show to talking about cuckolding. I think Dr. Justin Lay Miller was just on her show to talk about cuckolding. Basically, it's a cuckold themed month for her show. Her show is called Love Bites by Dr. Tara. Make sure you check out that podcast. It was so much fun being on her show.
So she is on the Venus Cuckold Just podcast for today. I'm so, so excited to have her. I was Let's see. on her show. So she is on the Venus Cuckold Just podcast for today. I'm so, so excited to have her. I was watching her TED Talk on YouTube, and it was called How to Become Sexually Powerful. And she said something at the, well, the whole thing was amazing, but she said something at the end that I thought was profound. She said something to the effect of becoming sexually powerful is a choice.
And when I heard that, I was absolutely shook because I don't know if we're supposed to think that as women, this just comes naturally and there's something wrong with us if it doesn't. So today, this show is going to be all about how to become sexually powerful. And why is this important? So all the guys who are listening right now, let me tell you, I know you're probably thinking, well, this is not sexy. This is not fun. I don't really need to listen to this. Why should I care about this episode if it's about women feeling sexually powerful, blah. I get it. It doesn't sound fun. Whatever.
You need to listen to this episode. You have to. If you really give a fuck about, you know, your partner feeling sexually confident, strong and powerful, or your future partner feeling that way, if you care about that, if you care about women having buy-in into this kind of cuckolding lifestyle, then this is important as fuck. So don't turn this shit off. You need to listen to it. In fact, for all of you guys who are partnered, you both need to listen to it together. Because yes, this is important for women. Yes, this is super beneficial for women, but it is also beneficial for the guys.
If the woman is feeling comfortable in her skin, if she's feeling like the bad bad bitch then that is going to be a good thing for everyone involved okay so don't tune out on this one you need to tune in before we get started i just have a few quick announcements and the first one is big like i just announced this on twitter recently this week and i was so so happy to be able to to put it out there but i have been hard at work adding flr as a relationship option for venus connections matchmaking service so up until now it's only been one type of relationship um that you that you can choose and so that been a cuckold, loving cuckolding relationship.
So if you're single guy, single woman, you're wanting to join the program, that was the reason why you join it, because you want a loving cuckolding relationship, where it's a one sided open relationship, where she gets to have all this, you know, extra encounters with men, and he's monogamous to her, and they both love it that way, that kind of thing. But now I have added female-led relationship. And sure, some cuckolding relationships can have that dynamic in it. But this is going to be something separate. This is just female-led relationship.
So it's mon monogamous and it's not an open relationship but it's where she wants to kind of take charge or take the lead and he's in more of a you know very supportive role and they both love it that way and so I'm so excited to be able to bring this on as an option and if you want to learn more about all of this you can go to venusconnections.com Thank you.
I'm so excited to be able to bring this on as an option, and if you want to learn more about all of this, you can go to venusconnections.com, and there's the Frequently Asked Questions page where you can get all sorts of information on either one of those options, cuckolding relationship or FLR relationship. okay also uh recently there was an online a free online master class um about opening up your relationships.
So it was about different forms of non-monogamy, lots of amazing speakers that has ended, but if you missed it or if you caught it and you want to watch it again, there's actually going to be a replay happening. And that is going to be the weekend of April 14th to 16th. And that's going to be online where you can actually replay all of the guest speakers presentations for that masterclass series. So if you want to join in on that, you can find the link to that in the show notes for today. Last but not least, you probably already heard.
I've been talking about it the last few episodes i have been doing a live show a live radio show on gtfo radio and it's been so much fun last time i had a confident cuck and before that i had key barrett and the next, which is going to be Tuesday, April 18, is going to be with Crystal Welch. And we're going to be talking about all sorts of things. But I definitely want to dive into erotic humiliation in that one. For sure. It's going to be live, you have to catch it. It's going to be noon. So 12pm Pacific time, that time. That's 3 p.m. Eastern on Tuesday, April 18th.
All the information for it and the link to where you can listen to it will be in the show notes for today. Okay, that's it for announcements. Let's jump into this episode that honestly is going to blow your mind. Here we go. I have a very special guest on the show with me. I'm so excited to have you here. I'm just going to do a quick intro and then get you to say hello to the listener. So joining me is Dr. Tara, and she's a tenured professor of sexual communication, an award-winning researcher, a relationship coach, a sex and relationship expert, and she's the host of Love Bites by Dr.
Tara podcast in the top 5% most followed podcast on Spotify. That's awesome. Where she interviews sexperts from around the world. She's a booming social media presence with almost 2 million followers across platforms and is the most followed sexpert on TikTok. You can see her work on the media such as Cosmopolitan, Women's Health Magazines, and Insider, KTLA News, PIX11, New York Living, and et cetera. Her goal is to normalize sex talk and spread sex positivity through comedy and education. Welcome, Dr. Tara, to the show. Hi, Venus. Thanks for a sweet bio reading. I made it through it.
I didn't fuck it up too bad. No, that was great. How are you doing? I'm doing great. I'm so happy to have you on the show today. So what we're going to talk about today is sexual confidence in women. And the reason why we need to talk about this on this show about cuckolding is because this kind of relationship is very much about women and women's sexuality, women's sexual empowerment. That's been my whole goal with this podcast and my blog and everything was to reach women and let them know, hey, you really can have it all in this kind of relationship.
But there's so many stumbling blocks that come along. And when I saw your TED Talk, I was just like, oh my gosh, yes, this is the one who's going to come and talk about this subject. So I'm so excited to dive into this with you. Let's start off by talking a little bit about how you ended up doing this TED Talk. What's your story? Yeah. So that TED Talk came about because I was just finishing up my big study based on 5,000 participants looking at what are some important predictors of long-term sexual satisfaction.
And that had led me to studying in depth the very important personal sexuality variables like sexual confidence and sexual self-esteem. But a little bit about me is I'm originally from Thailand. I grew up in a very sexually conservative environment. I went to an all-girls Catholic school and my principal was a nun. Oh, wow. Yeah. So that's the environment I grew up in my family. My parents never talked to me about sex. But I was always sexually curious.
I like was the girl that you know, when I was like, I don't remember maybe eight or 10, like using the bidet extra time like on my clit not knowing that it was sexual but it felt good it felt good yeah do you guys have bidets in Canada yeah they they're here yeah okay because like in America I rarely see bidets so sometimes when I tell this story they're like what's a bidet yeah it's like the stuff that shoots water in the in the bathroom so like usually the concept is you pee and then you as a girl you use the bidet to like clean Thank you.
day yeah it's like the stuff that shoots water in the bathroom so like usually the concept is you pee and then you as a girl you use the bidet to like clean your vag yeah but because it feels good pressure yeah it felt good so i know like just by remembering like childhood that i've always been someone who was interested and curious about like sexuality and then i moved to america and then that's it whore face just kidding yes straight up i mean thank god for america i mean i moved to america and then um i moved to los angeles first have you Okay. L.A.
is very sex positive comparing to other parts of America. I mean, L.A. and New York are very sex positive. So I first moved to America. I lived in L.A. And that was also my first time going to like a sex shop, like sex toys and seeing all the toys, seeing, people like trying them out it's like apple store like that doesn't exist where I'm from so with that exposure I started kind of you know being more and more sexually adventurous with multiple partners I've had a lot of partners and I've always just been someone that was that I've never been able to orgasm.
So how old were you when you had your first real vaginal orgasm? Like clitoral orgasm I had because I was able to stimulate myself with my hand and cum. But I've never had vaginal orgasm. How old were you? I was 30. Yeah. That's crazy, right? Like all my friends said the same thing. Yeah. I was 30 and it still rarely happens. Like rarely ever. Yeah. So I was also in my late twenties, um, when I had first like vaginal orgasm.
So like exploring throughout my twenties I had you know I had a lot of good sexual partners but but I've never had vaginal orgasm so with that plus you know unprocessed shame that I like never really um ever digged it up again since childhood plus now that I'm studying it academically, it's like in my face every single day, yet I am the person that's unresolved. So, um, I embarked on this like sexual empowerment journey, um, to really just find myself and find my happy spot, uh, where I can embrace my sexuality, feel confident, um, experience more pleasure and be a good partner.
So that's like a little bit of my story of how I combine like my personal interest and also wanting to resolve myself yeah with professionally i was already studying relationships the first i remember that one of the research findings and you've heard this i think already uh shows that one issue that all couples have All couples around the world a universal experience is sex like at some point in your relationship you will experience some kind of like conflict about sex yeah and that's a universal like global experience so to me it's like how come we don't have a solution to such an epidemic yet?
You know, when we started having COVID, everyone comes together and find a solution, which I'm grateful for. But at the same time, this has been an epidemic for hundreds of years. People, you know, having terrible sex or their sexual abuse or there's divorces and breakups and heartbreaks because of sex. So I just felt like I want to be a part of the solution of a big problem. Oh, that's amazing. Long story short. Well, you're a part of the solution as well.
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What is this? Is this a thing? It is a thing. It is a thing.
And there's some studies and also just my like professional observation of women that i work with is is that in your 20s you kind of play around and explore on your own but in your 30s because a lot of us you know have a very stable life with like career and you know have we have good friends we have good routine going maybe we have a a good partner but just never really had amazing sex it's like time for us to be more um reflective towards like what will what will help us have a better sex life because we have everything else in our 30s it's like this is what's missing but it's a huge part like lack of sexual um i mean lack of sexual well-being affects every part of life and i know this for a fact because i was very much thriving professionally but i was in my previous marriage when I was married when I was younger and in that marriage I was not happy sexually and even though I was thriving in every way it still hindered a lot of my like happiness I remember one day I was like sitting in, um, at the end of the bed on the floor and I started crying and I was telling my ex-husband like I'm not happy I'm not I'm just not happy I'm I feel I don't feel good and you know I mean I feel bad for him because he's like oh my god what's wrong but it's like it's all internal like I can't you, I have to be on this journey on my own and I need to find what's right for me.
And it's not necessarily anything you can do. Yeah. So what are some of the common reasons why women struggle with sexual confidence? That's a great question. And through my deep studies and also the data from my own study, I know that there are multiple factors, but here are like three main factors, not to say that this is only factors, but the first factor is societal factor. So everything in the society tells us to not be sexual and to be modest as women, as girls. Uh, as soon as you remember, you know, maybe you were four or five, right?
If you, um, were acting, you know, a little bit assertive, then they say like, oh, you're so sassy you're so bossy be more polite um or if you like i don't know accidentally touch your genitals even though you didn't know they're sexual um you know your parents might just not consciously might like slap your hand away and say don't do that yeah right that's not what that's not what good girls do so societally which includes like your culture religion and other social customs have told you as a girl and then young woman and now a woman that being a good woman is not being too sexual.
So of of course, we are not sexually confident. We were told that if you're sexually confident, you're a slut. If you're sexually confident, you're not worthy or wifey material. Right. Right. Unless, like, have you ever heard of a different narrative? I feel like. I was wondering, like, were you, like like a teenager? And, you know, you do ever hear parents or people say like, oh, yeah, like, fuck as many guys as possible. No, it wasn't until I met my first cuck boyfriend and he was like, wanted to literally celebrate that side of me. And I was like, what is this?
I feel like cuckolding relationships are the opposite of slut shaming. And that is a really, really amazing thing. That's so interesting. And I can imagine conceptually that it is like the opposite of slut shaming. It's like slut celebratory. It is. It is. And he would say that he would say he would say he loved he loved that word slut. He thought it was just the best compliment for a woman. And he would say like, I don't understand why any guy wouldn't want a slutty girlfriend. Like he was, he was just, it was amazing. I was like, I was like, who are you? Where'd you come from?
What is this you're talking about like this is what well yeah because like societally and religiously um in history um a slutty woman has never been perceived as like a wife material or like a worthy yeah woman right so it has like such negative connotation even though you know um in the modern world i think a lot of like sex influencers have trying to like take back the word yeah and you know made it empowering for women to accept or say or you know not think that it's a bad thing. Anyway, so the first factor was like societal.
And I think we can agree that that's like, usually the narrative we hear. Yeah. Absolutely. The second reason to why we're not more sexually confident is the fact that we rarely were ever told to explore our bodies when boys were told masturbation was normal like oh he's a boy like he's probably jerking off in his socks right like you see it in tv shows and movies like teenage movies like boys are okay to like touch themselves but girls were not so again like this is a second factor to why we're sexually confident.
It's like we can't even like touch our bodies because if you're a girl and you're playing with your pussy, then you're way to advance. You're a slut, you're a whore. But if you're a boy and you're, you know, hitting puberty, you're probably jerking off and that's fine. Yeah. So girls don't even want to look at their pussy.
They don't even want want to look down there whereas guys are staring at their penis all day long like all day long all the time uh so that's another factor is like we we don't know our bodies you know a lot of us don't know our bodies um i when i ask my students in my college class like have you guys ever put a mirror in in front of your pussy and just look at your pussy like your labia your clit your you know urethra your vaginal opening like have you done that and most of them have not right so we don't know our bodies we feel bad when we touch it and a lot of the women that I coach have never masturbated.
Yeah. I believe that. So in that sense, like if confidence comes from practice, you've never had practice, where would you find the confidence? Yeah. Right. Yeah. So again, um, the first one was societal.
The second one was that we don't really know our bodies and not knowing your body like really contribute to just being unconfident in general and lastly is it's kind of related to the body and research shows this uh this is one of the biggest factors contributing to our confidence is um how much you love your body and girls from young age were socialized to be a certain way to look a certain way to understand that a certain type of body is more attractive than others um but it depends on your like generation because when i was young it was more like really really skinny so like when i was young I was like Kate Moss and like Victoria's Secret models on magazines and they're really skinny um and ass wasn't a thing right no curse no when I was young I wanted to be skinny like really skinny um to the fact that like I developed eating disorder because I wanted to be so skinny.
I wanted to be just like the models. But then now, girls are supposed to want to look like Kim Kardashian. Huge tits, huge ass, like bigger than natural ass. And then tiny waist, right? And that's pretty. So now, no one looks like that naturally. No pretty. So now no one looks like that naturally. No one. They don't even look like that naturally. But research, multiple studies found that your sexual confidence, a lot of it, like 50% of it comes from your body image. So if you have body image issues, you're not going to be able to show up confidently in bed or in sexual settings.
So the last factor is body image. Yeah, that's big. It definitely is. And with cuckolding relationships, it usually originates with the husband approaching the wife about this fantasy, and it would be really great if you could sleep with other guys. And there are so many reasons why women react so generally, react negatively to that because there's so many reasons. At first, they're like, well, is this your sneaky way of wanting to sleep with other women? What is this all about?
I don't trust this but then also there there's all of that you know running narrative in their mind like okay I know my husband thinks I'm sexy he tells me I'm sexy you know whatever I he's I'm comfortable with my body with him but thinking about it was now I now I need to worry about if other people find me sexy now I need to sexually perform for someone else who doesn't know me. And that can be absolutely terrifying. What can women do to feel more confident about their own sexuality if they want to embark on this journey?
Oh, I love this question because I asked the same question like about five years ago. So my whole journey started not too long ago. When people look at my like TikTok or Instagram, they're like, wow, have you always been this like sexually open? My answer is no, I changed. I changed completely. You know, on the found like foundationally, I'm the same person Like I like humor. I like being funny. I like being loud. She's a part of who I am. Life of the party. All those things are the same. But no, I wasn't always sexually open.
Actually, I was very much sexually ashamed on the other side of the spectrum so on this journey and I can and I have proof in terms of like personal development my own experience and the research that I've done and the research that other people have done there are three things that you can do that can increase your level of sexual confidence Um, but first I want you to, I want to go back a little bit of like where your sexual confidence actually comes from. Cause sexual confidence is external. It's like how you show up, right? How you show up is how people say, wow, Venus is so confident.
It's what they can observe but what's what you believe on the inside is more important because you're gonna be able to show up like a bad bitch if you believe on the inside that you are a bad bitch yeah right because there is the school thought where like you can say a fake it till you make it yeah which it could work too there's like some studies that show like if you stand like a superwoman like every day for one minute like it will help you um which is like school that school of thought is fake it till you make it but then there's another school of thought where like you have to work on yourself internally and there's a concept called sexual self-esteem have you ever heard about that no but i really really like that that sounds good to me i yeah i understand where you're going with this and this yes this sounds good so sexual self-esteem is internal versus sexual confidence is external right but when you have high sexual self-esteem you just show up like a bad bitch anyways right one goes with the other yeah why it's like why do we teach people to like just fake it till you make it internally versus work on it internally and you will just authentically show up but nothing wrong with each school just to each their own so to understand what sexual self-esteem is you have to think about do you feel worthy of pleasure and that's very much related to the cuckolding relationship is do you feel worthy of pleasure i know that a lot of women might be hesitant to try something like this or even other types of like non-monogamy like like threesomes yeah right maybe she's like i don't want to i don't want to have a threesome um is it an actual preference and choice or does it stem from you not feeling like you deserve attention and pleasure from two men yes right yeah so there's there's a difference between powerful choice and, you know, a scared choice that comes from not accepting yourself and not loving yourself.
And that's self-esteem part. So now, um, after knowing that, that sexual confidence comes from sexual self-esteem, now we can move forward to talk about what are the three ways to consistently make us feel more worthy sexually. Are you single and looking for a female-led relationship? Now there's a boutique-style private matchmaking service for FLR Relationship Dynamics. It's called Venus Connections. It's totally private. There's no scrolling through profiles or messaging other members. All of the matchmaking is done behind the scenes. You can learn more at venusconnections.com.
That's venusconnections.com. the first thing that research found is a really effective method is journaling. Oh. Yeah. Do you typically write things down like on a piece of paper? Oh my God. I fucking post-it notes everywhere.
So research in positive psychology found that if you just write like three sentences a positive affirmation about yourself your body and your sexuality every single day for a month you should feel more sexually confident really yeah yeah it's uh it's what like all like athletes and high-performing people do huh yeah like you know ceo trainers will say like you know your ceo today i want you to write down three things like i'm i am the ceo like i know you know i know how to run this company best i so it's it's the same thing with sexuality is like, you know, I am an amazing lover.
I love my body. I have a sexy body, right? And if you write this down every single day, and you just keep doing it for at least 30 days, I feel like it just tells your brain that you are indeed sexy. Yes. And that you do deserve pleasure and that you are a great lover. And you are the bad bitch. Yeah, you are the bad bitch. So journaling is one way to increase your sexual confidence. The second method is from the University of British Columbia Sexuality Lab. and I did the thing too, and I do it religiously. And that's sexual meditation. Wow. Yeah.
So sexual meditation is a similar, similar to like regular meditation practice, except it focuses on sexual thoughts, sexual feelings, and like sensations in your body. So research found that sexual meditation can increase women's sexual functioning and sexual desire. So if you feel like your libido is a little dampened, try two weeks of sexual meditation.
I think it's better than female Viagra oh I think I need to do this oh yeah I do it every single day for five minutes all right I need to take a course yeah well I have it for free on YouTube oh damn yeah it's free on YouTube so I'll send you the link you can do it your listeners can it. It's only five minutes and I guide you through it. Oh man. I have clients that actually listen to it when they like mindful masturbation. Oh yeah. You can, you can meditate, you can mindfully masturbate. You can meditate naked. Like just change of. Oh my God. Dr. Tara, you're blowing my mind right here. Okay.
Oh my God. I'm, I'm, I was, my mind was blown as well after I read that study because it was an experiment. And these were the women that had sexual dysfunction. These were the women that had cervical cancer. And some of them said, Oh, I don't I can't even feel my pussy. Afterwards, their sexual desire and libido was like significantly higher. Wow. So it works. I know it works from, from research and personal experience. Wow. Okay. Now I need to get on that. That is amazing. I'd never even heard of this. This is so fascinating to me. I love it. Are you going to try sexual meditation tonight?
Oh, fuck yeah. Only five minutes. Like, yes, please try and come back and tell me how it goes. Yes. Oh my goodness. Okay. And last question here.
Because this is very much or with cuckolding it seems to be very male driven as far as the fantasy goes and you know he's there's a lot of guys really trying to get their wife into it and and they would just they really want their wife to desire this are there some things that guys can do to help their partner increase their sexual confidence and sexual self-esteem or things they shouldn't do okay yeah let's do shouldn't definitely not like push them or like try to convince or persuade yeah because that just doesn't turn out well people have to come to their own conclusion especially like when it comes to sex but i do think there are some things that they can do to like encourage women their girlfriends or wives to re-examine cuckolding relationships and maybe even just try once yeah yeah um and i would say two things like first try just kind of consistently bringing it up in a non-pushy way so like oh i heard this on a podcast or oh i saw this article or you know what do you think about this um and i think that's a good way it's kind of like inception that's a good way to start yeah um and another way to allow them to feel more like sexually empowered and want to explore is actually to encourage them to flirt with other guys oh yes so you don't have to fuck them because that's like advanced version but you can just flirt and see how you feel because usually when when people flirt and they get positive feedback they get like addicted they like the attention especially women like if we've been with a guy for a while and you know we've been fucking the same dick for a long time um and we get to like go to a bar and with the you know not i wouldn't say like permission but with the support of your male partner saying oh like it's okay babe go ahead just flirt flirt with him um i think that can be a good entrance to the world of cuckolding or even just like ethical non-monogamy yeah yeah i agree yeah the whole trying to persuade the wife oh my god the stories i've heard over the years of guys coming up with all sorts of ideas that they think are brilliant when it comes to tricking tricking their wife into this oh my god yeah i mean it could be really scary for some women to like have sex with a random dude so tricking is definitely not good i actually have a client that said that he wanted to try this before this was like a year and a half ago but he made a powerpoint presentation about uh like what is cuckling and like here are like the two options of like the guys that i came across on like this app um and like here are the benefits of cuckolding according to like psychology today oh my god that's hilarious Well, whatever works works right well he said it didn't work oh poor guy I know well it was very creative of him to do that I mean that's the first time I've heard of somebody doing a powerpoint to bring it up to the wife I know I wonder how I wonder how effective that is maybe for other people I feel like it would be effective for me right I would I would probably laugh yeah extra points for visual aid yes yes and you know he's putting in a lot of effort it was making a powerpoint yeah yeah okay well okay so where can people learn more about you and what you offer I know you do some um some coaching and meditating whatever else um everything is on my website and that's lovebites.co l-u-v-b-i-t-e-s dot c-o lovebites.co you'll find all my social media my podcast my book and then my meditation and what's the book that you have it's an it's an e-journal so you know how I'm how much I love journaling and all the research that I talk about journaling.
So it's an e-journal that takes you on a 30 day journey of becoming more sexually empowered. Wonderful. Well, I think probably a lot of the women listening would benefit from that. So that might be where you need to go. Lovebites.co. Lovebites.co, baby. Dr. Tara, thank you so much for being a part of my show today. I've absolutely like you blew my mind today. It was just great. So thank you. Thanks for having me, Venus. Okay, that's gonna be it for this episode today. Thank you so much for joining me. Make sure you go to venuscuckledress.com. That's where you can book a private chat with me.
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