This is one of those stories you likely won t forget. What is it like to be blackmailed in this lifestyle? How exactly does it happen? What do they really threaten you with? This is the true story of Joe, a single cuck who in 2018 was the victim of a blackmailer, and the only more shocking thing about how it happened is what he did after that. It s a story that reads like a nightmare but the plot twist at the end shows some incredible courage and bravery. Do not miss this episode!Join Venus and Joe for a live conversation on The MON App Tuesday April 12th at 5pm Pacific Time, 8pm Eastern. Bring your comments, questions, or just listen in. Link for the next Pillow Talk Friday April 8th at 7pm Pacific Time - https://www.crowdcast.io/venuscuckoldressVenus Cuckoldress WebsiteVenus Connections - matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationshipsMaison De Neige CoutureASN Magazine - Venus feature: The sexually empowered woman who wants it allFull Swap Radio - listen to Venus every Tuesday at 5pm and 11pm Central TimeNew Merch! - yeah you read that right! Now you can get Venus/Cuckolding inspired merch!Submit a question for the showPillow Talks - find out how you can register for these live events with Venus and friends!Become a Patreon supporter - support the podcast and get lots of perks! Including the Venus Vault!Venus on TwitterVenus on InstagramVenus on YouTubeVenus on FacebookSupport the showDestination Links for Venus - https://linktr.ee/venuscuckoldressLearn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices❤️Venus Connections❤️ - Matchmaking for loving cuckolding relationships and female-led relationships. Learn more at https://www.venusconnections.com/ 👑♠️ Maison De Neige is high end lifestyle and streetwear fashion with a passion for the beauty of interracial combined with high fashion. Visit https://www.maisondeneige.com/ ❤️xoafterglow.com❤️ Meet the platform for ethical porn. Made by women, for women (and everyone). We make and share videos that portray sex accurately and treat performers with dignity, because nothing is sexier than consent. Use code VENUS for a free 7 day trial at ➡️ https://afterglow.ubpages.com/venus/Support the showDestination Links for Venus - https://lnk.bio/VenusPodcast
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Coming up on this episode of the Venus Cuckoldress podcast, it is likely your worst nightmare come true. And then she showed me some pictures and then she requested some pictures from me. So then after the pictures and videos were sent, I didn't hear from her. I got a text message and it said, hi, is this Joe? So I was like, yes, this is Joe. And then I get another text saying, this is Amber. So I sent her a text message back saying, I don't ever recall sending you my phone number. And then the next text message after that was like, it doesn't matter.
The day of course I got another email and it wasn't a list of people it was the naked picture of me and it was actually all like it was in the people that they sent me it was actually my boss and they had his phone number his email they had all the other office people their phone numbers their email in this email and they were saying if you don't respond we're gonna send this and we're gonna contact your boss so what is this picture worth you the very next day this was probably probably the worst that could ever happen.
So that video that I sent to this supposed Amber, they sent that to me saying, we're going to send it to this person if you don't respond in 15 minutes. And that person was just one name. It was actually my mom. Welcome to the Venus Cuckoldress Podcast, a place to learn all things cuckolding for the curious the passionate and the sexually empowered woman who wants it all make sure you go to venuscuckoldress.com to subscribe to the podcast and check out the venus blog and of course if you love it share it now sit back make yourself comfortable and enjoy the show with your host, Venus.
Welcome to this episode of the Venus Cuckolders podcast. I'm your host Venus. Thank you so much for joining me for this show today. And what a show it is. Let me tell you, I'm sure you've heard the trailer already and it is something very scary. My friend Joe is here to talk about his story about how he was blackmailed and it is, oh my god, it's so crazy. The only thing more crazy than this story itself about the blackmail itself is about how he dealt with it. That really was like, holy shit. Bravery is the only thing that comes to mind. It's the only word that comes to mind.
Just total, absolute courage, bravery. I'm just like, wow, mind blown. So this is a story that you have to hear. There's some really important information about how to prevent blackmail from happening as well. So learn from his mistakes. Now, this happened to Joe in 2018, but this year he joined the Venus Connections program, which is the matchmaking service for single women and single men who are looking for a loving cuckolding relationship. And so that's how I met Joe because all of the applicants go through a one hour interview with me.
And so he was telling me this story and that's how I came across it. But for all of the single ladies out there, he is handsome, successful, educated, and obviously super fucking strong and brave. So if you want to talk with Joe and get to know him, you can go to venusconnections.com. And just so you know, there is absolutely no fin dom, no gold digging, no using guys for money, definitely not blackmail in the Venus Connections program. That's why everyone is thoroughly screened in that program. Men and women, men of all shady flaky sorts get kicked the fuck out. Women with Thank you.
is thoroughly screened in that program, men and women. Men of all shady, flaky sorts get kicked the fuck out. Women with all sorts of ulterior motives get kicked the fuck out. So it's actually a very safe place. Oh, and I wanted to just mention that all of the candidates who go through the Venus Connections program have to do a three-week course. they've got three weeks to complete it. And the courses, people have been asking for a long time now, can we do the courses without becoming a member in the matchmaking service?
And so I finally have been able to offer those courses to anyone who's interested, who's not going to be a member right now or not interested right now just wants to learn about the courses. So there are two courses available if anyone is interested in taking them. The first one is Loving Cuckolding Relationships 101.
So basically that just dives into what loving cuckolding relationships are all about, what makes a really great loving cuckolding relationship, that kind thing and the second one this one's really important for all the single guys out there this one should be mandatory for you all because this one has to do with success with dating in the cuckolding life lifestyle and it goes into all sorts of information about why this has been so traditionally difficult to do online, and what the barriers are, and then figuring out what it is that you need to do.
And this course, unlike a lot of the courses that you see online, which are written by men, this one is written by myself with input from other women. And so you get to understand exactly what it is that we are looking for, exactly what it is that we want from you when you approach us, when you initiate a conversation with us, the way that you behave with us, this is basic shit that you absolutely must know. So that one is called Success with Loving Cuckolding Relationships Dating. And that one, like I said, should be mandatory for all the single cucks out there.
If you want to learn more about Venus Connections, or if you want to purchase those courses, you can go to venusconnections.com. One last thing before we jump into today's episode. All right, so Joe and I are going to be doing a Moan chat together. So this is going to be on the Moan app, which is a live drop-in audio app. Super fucking cool. I've talked about it on the podcast before. Love it so much. It is just like Clubhouse, the Clubhouse app, but this one is for sex. So sex positivity. So everything to do with sex, sexuality, it's completely open and inclusive for everyone.
And it is just wonderful. So you can go pop on there. It's all live. So whoever's speaking at that time doing a presentation or just a chat or just some fun fucking shit, some sexy stuff, I don't know, you can go and listen in. So the Moan chat will be Tuesday, April 12th at 5pm Pacific time. That's 8pm Eastern time. Make sure you catch it because like I said, it's live. It's not recorded. So you got to catch it at that time. So set a reminder on your calendar. And the link for the Moan app will be in the show notes for today. All right.
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Find Key Barrett on Twitter for more details. Joining me on the show today is my friend Joe, and this is such a cool story that he has, a frightening story, but a very interesting story that he has to share on the show today uh okay so the the story of how i came across this was i was interviewing joe for my matchmaking service he's a member of the service and um in that interview i asked all sorts of questions about the met the person about who you are what you're looking for, and everything like that. And in that conversation came up this story, and I was just like, holy shit.
I have never heard a story like that before in my life. And I think that this would be a really great thing to talk about on the show, because it is something that we're all afraid of happening. That, you know, you're just like, shit, like, I hope that never happens to me kind of thing. But in this lifestyle, I have not heard anybody really talking about it that I know of that I can think of off the top of my head, any other shows or anything like that talking about this kind of thing. So welcome to the show, Joe, thanks a lot for joining me. Say hello to the listeners. Thank you.
Thank you for having me. I'm very happy. And I'm excited to share this story for sure. It's like you said, nobody really talks about it. So yeah. Transcription by CastingWords about it so yeah interracial black and white the beautiful and sexy relationship dynamic that we love now in a lifestyle clothing brand you can wear with pride don't sacrifice quality and comfort any longer with Maison Dines you get both in fresh empowering looks for, for everyone. From the streets to the sheets and everywhere in between. Check us out at MaisonDinesh.com. Maison Dinesh Couture.
Modern fashion for the modern revolution. Yeah, that's why I was like, when you told me, I was's true it happened to somebody like this is so crazy okay let's get right into it start from the very beginning tell our listeners what happened to you so you know everyone's sense of normal kind of went out the door in March of 2020, right? With the pandemic and everything. And, you know, with my sense of normal went out the door a year before that in March of 2019, as kind of when everything all started.
And just kind of like a little bit of a background story on me and how I kind of got up to this point was, so in May of 2018, uh, I was married at the time. And though she likes to be called the was wife, um, instead of ex wife, it's was wife. Um, she, we decided to just end our nine year marriage and we have two boys that are under the age of 10.
And I, you know, our oldest was getting up to the age of like he's going to start to remember things so let's just call it what is and let's just end our marriage so that we made that decision of May of 2018 and you know I kind of stayed at a friend's house but I bought my house in September of 2018 of 2018 and was kind of like, you know, throughout that time, I was just really enjoying, you know, the alone time with me and my boys and just, you know, having that fatherly, you know, normal time, I guess you could say with them. And it was a lot. It's a lot of fun.
And so then I was like, OK, I'm going to start back up and dating. And so I joined a few few dating websites here and there. And, you know, I am submissive. I'm just naturally a submissive gentleman. And it's like one of the reasons why the marriage did end was it's not solely that reason, but it's a part of it. It's one of the reasons why we ended our divorce. So it's very hard as a submissive guy to come across to try to find a dominant woman, you know, just the yin and yang trying to find somebody compatible.
So I just put a little snippet in my dating profiles, like I'm a submissive, naturally submissive gentleman looking for a dominant woman. And that was just kind of my placeholder in all of my dating profiles. I didn't want it to sound sexual. I didn't want it to, you know, just, yeah, it's basically sound sexual, you know, because that's usually where, you know, it's always the first thought when somebody hears submissive.
So, you know, I, I, and the reason why I did that was because I went on a date with a lady beforehand and she got very upset when I kind of like told her like, okay, so I am looking for a dominant woman. She got very upset that I wasn't upfront about it. So that's why I put it in the profiles. Uh, so then I met this one lady named Amber.
and again this was in early March of 2019 and you know we kind of I guess you could say we somewhat hit it off i wasn't head over heels or anything like that it was just kind of a getting to know each other and we um we kind of chatted on the on the dating site and then we moved it to a messaging app and you know that's when the whole conversation shifted to the topic of BDSM and so she knew my name she knew where I lived and she knew what I did for a career she didn't know exactly where I worked but she just knew broadly what I did for a career so we you know we exchanged some obviously messages and then she showed me some pictures and then she requested some pictures from me.
And, you know, I was it was fun. It was exciting. You know, I'm not one to just up front like many women get like a ton of dick pictures. Right. You know, it's so she requested them and it was, you know, full frontal pictures of me and everything. There's no hiding behind it or anything like that. And, um, it was just a couple. Um, and then I sent her a video that she requested. So, so then after the pictures and videos were sent, I didn't hear from her. I didn't hear from her at all. It's just like, I got ghosted, which I mean, at the time I was just like, wow, you know, I was like, okay.
Um, but then again, I wasn't like, I don't know from her I didn't hear from her at all it's just like I got ghosted which I mean at the time I was just like wow you know I was like okay um but then again I wasn't like I said I wasn't head over heels you know it was fun at the moment and I just let it I was like okay whatever it's fine so it's like one of those days where you always remember a moment that was happening to you you remember the time of the day you remember what was like outside and everything. So it was a Wednesday and it was around 9am.
And this was three days after I had talked to this Amber lady. And I just got in from a run. Like I said, it was 9am. I was cooking up some eggs and my phone goes off. I got a text message, a direct text message on my phone.
it was from a new jersey number and it said hi is this joe and at first i was like you know i get a lot of text messages from a lot of businesses trying to get my business so i was just like oh you know it's just what it is you know it's just none of our business and then i get another text message from the same new jersey number with my picture of just my face picture from my dating profile. And I was like, so my heart starts to kind of like race just a tiny, tiny bit. Cause I was like, this is weird. I've never had this happen before. So I was like, yes, this is Joe.
And then I get another text saying, this is Amber. And I was like, so I sent her a text message back saying, I don't ever recall sending you my phone number. And then the next text message after that was like, it doesn't matter. And I was like, oh, I was like, okay, this is fucking weird.
So, so then I was like automatically thinking, okay, she must be like some kind of fin dom or whatever right you know it's just it's not it's not for me so then i get another text message saying are you ready to show your devotion to me and i was like okay yeah for sure fin dom and i gave the good old midwestern answer no you know my text message and then i sent that off and I blocked her on my cell phone. I'm like, I'm not going to deal with this. It's already weird enough that she somehow found my cell phone number. Okay. That's fine.
So then an hour goes by and literally I was walking into the bathroom to take a shower and I get an email and not just in my personal in my work email i get a message saying from i don't even remember the email address um the subject line was titled i remember this was devotion so i was like what the hell and then in the body yeah in the body of the tech of the email was just like you can block me on your cell phone, but you can't block me on your work email. Are you ready to show your devotion to me? And I sat on the tub and my heart just started racing. I think I started sweating.
I was getting angry.
All these emotions were just running through me like crazy because this is my work email now all of a sudden yeah so what else does this person I you know I'm pretty sure obviously her name's not Amber you know and I'm pretty sure it's probably not a lady so I'm like oh my god this is just this can't be happening to me right now now it's 39 at the time so I was like I can't believe this I'm 39 years old and this is actually happening to me like you know it's like you're alone on this island and you have nobody to talk to about this and then I get another email from her or from this person and I didn't I didn't respond to the first one because I was just still in shock I just didn't't know what to think of.
I kept rereading it, rereading it. And then she was like, she's this person sent the picture of me naked. The one that I sent to the supposedly Amber. And it said, are you ready to show your devotion to me? I was, you know, I was just like, I cannot believe this.
I just honestly, honestly I was like I thought I was kind of ruined and done with and so then I get another email because they were hitting me like boom right after one after another and I was just like I don't I mean I started shaking I'm pretty sure I was having probably a panic attack at the time because, you know, I was just getting flooded with all these emotions. And it said, if you don't respond to this email, we're going to send this out to 20 people. And it had a list of 20 people that I knew. And those 20 people also very well know me.
But they had all these names with this picture of me that I had sent to this. And, you know, I thought it was in private, but apparently it wasn't. So there it is, the whole list of 20 people that I know. And I was just like, and then I, so there's like, after, you know, all this whole ordeal, I looked into everything and there's like three rules that you never do. One is you don't respond. I responded actually. And I said, look, I'm going through a divorce. I've got nothing to give you. And that's what I said.
Cause at the time the was wife and I were just weren't divorced because we're just not in a hurry. It was big or whatever blah so i was just like i just i couldn't believe it that you know and that's when i think they knew they had me my attention was when i did respond because in the end i wish i had never responded so i didn't hear from them after my email And I was like, I got zero sleep that night because I was expecting my phone to ring from one of those 20 people. Cause I was just like, this is, I mean, this is just, this is how it's going to end.
I think, you know, this is just the way that I put myself in this situation. I should be ashamed of myself. That's how I really felt.
So then the next morning it was almost like clockwork the next morning i get another email same picture a list of people saying are you ready to show your devotion or we're going to send this out to these people and it was a list of 30 people 30 totally different people that i knew and they well aware knew me and i was just i didn't respond i i was just like i was thinking how long is this going to go on for so then this is what really like like just hit my heart the hardest was just the absolute this is just the absolute worst was when they sent me a follow-up email to that one the next morning and it was a picture of my kids and it was like one of my absolute most favorite pictures of my kids they were both together sitting on a couch and they photoshopped my x-rated picture with it and they had it they wrote on that picture saying look what daddy did and.
And I was just like, I was just like, my tears were running down my face. I just felt fucking awful, just felt horrible. And I just like, I couldn't, like I was shaking. I was like, and that night I was going to be picking up my kids. And I was emotional wrecked the whole entire, probably that rest of that week week. I was just never really, you know, it was just very, very hard for me to be with my kids knowing that this, they, these people put their picture together with, with my picture. And I was just like, I was just like, I just couldn't like day to day stuff.
I couldn't really almost hardly do because it was just so hard for me to see that and to feel what was happening to me. So, so then I didn't hear from them at all and I didn't respond to them. And, you know, in that email they said, what's this picture worth to you? And I was just like, I just felt like they were just waiting for me to come up with some dollar amount and they were just going to go from there. So then the very next day, of course, I got another email and it wasn't a list of people. It was the naked picture of me.
And it was actually all like it was in the people that they sent to me. It was actually my boss and they had his phone number, his email. They had all the other office people, their phone numbers, their email in this email. And they were saying, if you don't respond, we're going to send this and we're going to contact your boss. So what is this picture worth to you? I was like. I was just like. It's just more anger got out in me. Like, I can't believe you're actually trying to drag me down for this. I cannot believe you're actually trying to ruin me is what I felt.
These people were just trying to ruin me.
So was like I got to get ahead of this I got I can't just sit here and live day to day as they send me you know 30 people at a time 40 people at a time of like we're going to threaten you to send this picture out to all these people and these people were my friends these people were my clients these people were you know everybody that I knew from like high school these were just everybody that I knew so so I was like okay I have to get ahead of this I got to I have just have to confess that's just what it what it came down to for me so the first call was actually to my was wife to my ex-wife and to her, like, here's the deal.
And I was just like, I can't believe, you know, I was thinking of this. I can't believe I'm fucking doing this. I can't believe I'm fucking doing this, but I have to do it or else this is going to ruin me for sure. So I call my ex-wife and told her what was going on.
And she was like, you know honestly like from my end this is what she said from my end do not even worry about it it is what it is and what was really interesting was on those lists of people that she sent or this person that sent her name never came up so I was like that's really bizarre because that would you know you would think that that would be the very first person that they would be sending so so then i was like that's really bizarre because that would you know you would think that that would be the very first person that they would be sending so so then i was like oh my god so i kind of thought more about that then the next call i had to make was to my boss i actually called my boss and i was like todd here's the thing i was like you know yeah i was like i i think the first thing i said to him was like you know i'm a good guy right and he was like of course yo you know that you know he's like he said he was even dealing with a world of shit that day so i was like well let me add on to that will you so i told him that i have a lady i i honestly i didn't go into the full story with him because i don't think he really needed to know the full story i just wanted to say to him like todd there is a lady here threatening me via email through my work email threatening to send these compromising photos to you and he was like he took a long pause and he was like oh he was like is it anything you have to do with our business i was like no absolutely not he was like, he took a long pause and he was like, Oh, he was like, is it anything you have to do with our business?
I was like, no, absolutely not. And he was like, Oh, he was like, then he was like, well, I'm really hoping I get to see these pictures then. That's what he said. So I was just like, Oh, like the weight of like the world came off my shoulders from that because I was like, Oh, thank God. I have a boss who wants to see these compromising photos of me. You know, it's like I was like, oh, my God. So so it felt like huge relief to me. And so then the very next day. This was probably the worst that could ever happen.
So that video that I sent to this supposed Amber, they sent that to me saying, we're going to send it to this person. If you don't respond in 15 minutes. And that person, it was just one name. It was actually my mom.
And I was just like, I was like, how the hell did they get my mom like out of all people how do they how did they even how do they even do this i'm just like oh my god so i was like i'm just gonna have to do the same things what i did with my ex-wife and now my boss like i'm gonna have to make that hard phone call so i actually called my mom and i was like mom i got something to tell you and my dad was on the phone too because that's just what parents do they jump on speakerphone together when their child calls and i was like i have this lady here i I sent these, her and I exchanged photos.
And now she's threatening to send this video, a compromising video of me to you. And my mom was like, oh, Joe, I am so sorry to hear that. You know, she's like, that sounds just awful. And then she was waiting for my dad to pipe in. And my dad was all quiet. And, you know, my dad, he's a strong Vietnam vet kind of guy. And he said, it's those damn Russians. I tell you, I knew it.
They're probably doing something behind the scenes they're they're behind this i just know it and so i just felt a world of relief just talking to my parents about this and just saying hey this is what might happen you know i don't know if it's going to happen or not so i have my wife's wife who was just saying don't worry about it my boss saying that you know I hope to see these pictures and my parents basically blaming a whole nother country you know on this so it was but and then after that I didn't respond I only responded to that one email and I never responded to anything else and I never heard from them ever again So I think they just left the very last you know person that would just drive me over the edge but luckily i saw the light at the end of the tunnel i was like i've got to get through this because it's just like it's only going to get worse is what i felt and so that's kind of that's just where it kind of happened and i never heard from them again i actually have no idea what these questions are so you're going to be coming along the ride right along with me the show is what women and other wonderful humans want presented by dating kinky it's the show about how people connect in the right ways i like the way that you're you think about this and i was wondering if maybe you and i could create some of these experiences and the wrong ways hey hey share nudes where are nudes i want nudes interviews with women and other wonderful humans from many sex positive walks of life new episodes come out every Tuesday on Apple, Google, Spotify, Stitcher, and TuneIn.
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Because that is not, I don't think, what most people would do. Most people would either pay money or go to the police. Like I w I doubt anybody would actually do what you did. I, I had to, I just felt like I had to get ahead of it. And that was the only way I felt that I was going to be able to get ahead of it. If I file a police report, what is that going to do me? Nothing. It's just, it just felt like to me, it just wasn't gonna do anything because they still could be sent out. If I just felt like if I could just get the forewarning out there so they can at least say like, okay, here it is.
He already told us about it. That's fine. Whatever. And that was the only way I could really come out ahead of this. And the way I found out was how they got all of these lists of names, how they got my mom and my boss and everything is if you Google my first name, what I do for my career and where I live, I'm the number one thing that comes up on Google. So then they can easily find my boss.
They can easily their contact information and then that picture of my kids was the only picture that i put as public on my facebook profile and i actually didn't know this was all my friends on my facebook profile this actually was made public you actually have to go in there and mark them either private or only to me or something. I didn't know that. And that's where they got all of my friends, all of the people that were my friends or are my friends on Facebook. And then I think they just went through my comments and they saw my mom commenting as a mother would on, you know, good job, Joe.
I'm so proud of you. Like, you know, not many people would probably say unless it was your mother. And sure enough, we shared the same last name, obviously. So that's how they figured out that was my mom. So I was just like, and it's just, it's, it's so like, like intrusive, you know, to, especially with my kid's photo. And that's what, that's what almost, yeah, it almost did send me over the edge.
And if I didn't have like, you know, the years of experience of like, you know, like going through life, because one of the, one of the biggest reasons why I wanted to come on here and tell you this story was because we're seeing it day in and day out with like these 15, 16, 17 year old kids that are actually committing suicide over this because they send out a photo, a compromising photo of themselves. And they think they, they truly do think it's the end of the world and they don't tell anybody. And that's, what's really nerve wracking. Cause I just saw a news story.
I just, cause I wanted to see like, cause I remember a 17 year old committing suicide in New York. And then I, when I Googled it, it was actually this 15 year old and it was literally within a couple hours when he got that compromising message or the photo of himself saying, we're going to, you know, we demand, it was like $3,500 and he committed suicide over it. And that's, what's really scary is because now, you know, I have two boys that I am going to share this story with them eventually in time because it needs to be brought out there.
It needs to be put out there and saying, don't, don't respond. It's not the end of the world. That's the biggest thing. It's just not the end of the world. So, and the way I looked at it at the end was like, okay, yeah, these are compromising photos of me and compromising video of me. Like, I'm not, I never said I was totally innocent. You know, yeah, I'm guilty of it, if you want to call it that. And they're probably on Pornhub now, you know? So it's like, I should probably go out there and try to find those pictures and videos and try to get some residuals from it.
But, you know, it's just like, but, you know, it's, it's, but I it's but i know i keep finding my own videos on porn i'm like every time it happens yeah yeah so i'm just like i i know so many people in my my career field that have done 10 times worse than i have and they're still doing the same thing as what I do so I'm like at in the end it's like yeah I fly the freak flag high you know and that's just who I am and honestly at the end of this I came out a way better person just like more confident more like you know at because I just felt like you know you guys, whoever was you didn't get me you know i'm yeah i actually confronted them kind of in my own way of like you know i came out just a better person i'm i'm proud to say i'm a cuck i'm proud to say i'm submissive you know it's like there's no shame about it you know and that's just what it is and you know screw those guys or whoever it was and yeah exactly and the those people were pros like that is what like you could tell they spent three fucking days looking into every single thing about you they worked for three days and to try to get money out of you as the end result and uh i just think it's amazing that you just were like, fuck it, I'm going to own it.
I mean, it would be a terrifying experience for me. I can't even imagine how I would probably throw up. Honestly, that would be my first reaction I would probably throw up. But I feel like in the cuckolding lifestyle, there is so much fear about people in your immediate circle finding out that like people are terrified of this, like really, really terrified. I get it. I completely get it. But I have always wondered, well, what would really happen if somebody found out? Like what would really happen? And would it be the end of the world? That's why I left your story.
I was like, well, fuck, it was not the end of the world that's why i loved your story i was like well fuck it was not the end of the world no no it's really not i mean very good relationship with your ex-wife with that definitely helped i mean if you guys have a relationship that would have been really fucking bad and and luckily your your boss was cool with it and he It wasn like i don't know some i don't know sermon giving church guy or whatever you know like yeah yeah it had nothing to do with the the place i work at or anything that or the company that i work for you know it had nothing i mean obviously had nothing to do with it but it's just like but it's very like now you know my it's very like, it is very, you know, you do put yourself in a vulnerable situation, but you know what, if they don't accept you for who you are, then either your boss or your friends, if they, if they can't accept you, then, you know, then they're really not your friends.
You know, I'm not gonna, you know, I can, I always, you know, bring this up to people too. Like, you know, I have come out to some people saying you know i am submissive i love a dominant woman i just do and they're like you know they sometimes say why and i was like well my favorite color is green your favorite color is blue but we can have an argument about it but there's at the end there's it's not an argument but i wanted to get this story out to you because i want people to share the story because, you know, at the time when it was happening to me, I had nobody to talk to.
And I, I did not know if there was going to be a light at the end of the tunnel kind of thing. And I hope people do hear the story and just know that it's not the end of the world. There is light at the end of the tunnel and you are going to come out a better person for it. It's just, you just are. And it's just, it does break my heart though when I see so many teens committing suicide. I mean, I saw three, four different articles about it and it's just, it's very hard to see that. It's a terrifying story, but there's a lot to be learned from it.
So what do you have as like advice for people so that this does not happen to them to try to prevent this from happening? What's your advice? Yeah. So, I mean, my only like, so some of the advice is like, you know, don't, you know, if you're, if you're feeling hesitant about sharing pictures of yourself or whatever, and any compromising positions or anything like that, and then just hold off. The person will either understand or if they don't, and then they're not worth it. You know what I mean? So it's, so there's that.
And, you know, it just really just get to know the person first and foremost. And I, you know, I always know like get the, you know, don't go on a chat app, just go straight to just text message. So you have their actual phone number. So you can do your own research on it. There's a ton of apps out there that you can do a reverse number lookup. But at the end of the day, I mean, no matter how many precautions that you take, it still could happen to you. And that is kind of the reality, unfortunately.
You know, if I would have changed changed it up and did it differently it still might have happened to me i don't know but but you know my another advice is just to don't be ashamed of yourself just just be who you are and if someone's going to try to use it against you then they're not gonna have any power i mean it's just like if they seriously try to use it against you i mean just just be you that's that's all you can that's all you can be and you know don't be well yeah this um the fear of something like this happening is obviously very real for a lot of people um but it's one of the things that makes dating in this lifestyle so fucking hard is because nobody wants to give out a picture of themselves.
Nobody wants to give out information about themselves. And so you're never able to get past that first barrier of like, well, how do I get to know this person if we are both so private that we can't even exchange our actual phone numbers or a picture? Like, how, how do you even like figure out if you're attracted to someone, if you've no idea what they look like and they're terrified to show you. Like, not knowing, okay, is this person real or not? I mean, they've gone through the vetting process and stuff like that. So, yes, they are real and everything. It filters out.
It filters out a lot of those people who either aren't real, will flake, or are doing it for all sorts of malicious intentions. So, yeah, there's that. So at least there's an option now for dating where you can actually trust that whoever it is that you're going to have this date with is real and is legit. I mean, I really do have hopes that it just becomes more of the normal of like people just like, okay, their sexual interest is this and they won't be judged on it.
And it's just like you can freely share just a PG pictureg picture you know of yourself or just a face picture and you know i mean yeah you can have culpable deniability over it um but it's just like you know i really do hope that you know they can just have these the sense of like uh confidence that i have and like yep this is who i am this am. This is what I am. If you have a problem with it, then just go fuck off or something. I don't know. Yeah, exactly. Go fuck off. Don't want you to around me anyway. Just fuck off. Yep. Yep. I think that's really wonderful.
The fact that you've come out of that situation feeling so much more empowered and so much more comfortable with who you are is wonderful. So I really appreciate you sharing your story with everyone. Well, thank you for the podcast, because this is really, really going to be a fascinating show for a lot of people to listen to. So thank you so much. Well, no, thank you for having me on. I really do appreciate it. So, and if anybody has any questions, you know, I hope they reach out to See you.
anybody has any questions you know hopefully reach out to you and stuff like that all right that's going to be it for today's episode i hope you enjoyed it i hope you learned a lot i sure as hell did all right don't forget april 12th on the moan app if you want to join myself and Joe, we're going to have a lot of fun talking about this crazy ass story. Oh, and before I forget, April 8th, it's a Friday that evening, there's going to be another special pillow talk event, a live event, myself and a special cuck panel. It's going to be a sequel to the one we did back in January.
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