In today’s episode, host AC Maxwell dives deep into the intriguing role of being a Bull within the swinging lifestyle. What does it really mean to be a Bull? How does this role impact relationships, emotions, and group dynamics? AC breaks down the expectations, boundaries, and communication crucial to navigating this unique position. Whether you’re curious about the lifestyle or already involved, this candid conversation offers insight into the psychology, challenges, and rewards of embracing the Bull role. Tune in for an honest, respectful, and enlightening look at one of swinging’s most fascinating roles!Listen now at swingingsinglepodcast.com
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welcome to the swinging single podcast with your host me ac maxwell broadcasting from the legendary upside down pineapple studios here in the heart of texas so for over two decades ladies and gentlemen i embraced the swinging lifestyle as that single male oh yeah the one you all hate when you go to the club we look at you and oh my god we don't bring nothing to the table single male on this show however i'm here to share my wildest tells and some experiences you even talk about some of the you know whatever the issues are for swingers today so grab some lube gentlemen and tissues for cleanup you know we don't like a messy boy and shave your cock and balls for those ladies ladies if you're home with your man right now pull your panties to the side or if you don't got panties on, even better, sit on his face, make him make you cum, and get ready for some uncensored, eye-opening stories on the Swinging Single Podcast.
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The content of the podcast is protected by copyright and other intellectual property laws call me the brazilian baby i'll make them all go crazy they say that it's my smile For the sake it, shake it, wow, throw my hair back, I'm a six chick, no holding it, let it down, let it out, throw my hair back, I'm a six chick, no holding it, let it down, let it out, he loves the boys, want me, wanna see big men on me, wanna see me take it, take it, come home so he can reclaim it, come home so he can reclaim it, he loves the boys, want me, wanna see big men on me, wanna see me take it, come home so he can reclaim it, he loves the boys, he can reclaim it, he can could reclaim it he loves the boys for me wanna see big man wanna see me take it take it come home so he could reclaim it i'm in love with a caca i'm in love with a caca now you wanna admit it but he knows that i love it i'm in love with a caca all right let's get ready I'll see you next time.
oh yeah you are all right let's get ready we still heard it cuckold he's in love he she's in love with the cuckold so that's what we're going to be talking about today what is it like to be a bull in the swinging lifestyle and what maybe it takes to be a bull and all that stuff we're going to talk about that we're also going to talk about am i the asshole here and something i saw on reddit i thought it's pretty funny it's a long fucking rant but i think every one of you can relate to this because it's probably happened to you before and all that great stuff so you know sit back and relax everybody but first remember gentlemen to shave your cock and balls also Also, go to my website, swingandsinglepodcast.com.
Go check out all things AC. Email me, man. Email me on, you know, if you are a Swinger Club owner and you want me to come out and do a live broadcast from your place. You know, get some pub for your little establishment. I will come on out and do an honest review and all that stuff. And, you know, hang out and talk about stuff and maybe give you an interview.
If're a content creator swing slash swinger you know how you know there's a lot of you out there nowadays making that moolah come on my show talk about your experiences let's talk let's have a debate you know and all that stuff so and all that stuff later on today is friday you know last friday of october oh september i'm sorry september i'm getting ahead of myself a little bit last friday of uh september of 2025 and you know got my partner got a date going to the night game here in houston texas gonna be there later on looking for guys gentlemen if you're out there you want to fuck a nice little slut that i'm bringing you know hit me up Say hello at the night game And we will settle it there And all that stuff So she is she's down the she's dtf she's not one of those one that needs to have a relationship with someone before she can fuck them or do anything like that so it's gonna be a good time you know and everything so you know enjoy i'm gonna enjoy it tonight you know let out some stress know.
Being the boss at work isn't easy. And, you know, you got to let out some stress. But remember that, gentlemen. Remember that, ladies and gentlemen. Mental health is very important. Communication is very important. Take care of those two. And the swinging will take care of itself. Also, remember, gentlemen, shake those cock and balls, you know. And ladies, man, clean those assholes.
Some of us like to eat that ass so you know you do what you got to do but let's talk about being a bull because it's something i'm familiar with uh they might a bull what the hell is a bull there's like 20,000 different labels in the swinging lifestyle nowadays which is sad because i remember when i started yes this old man started a long time ago, back in the late 90s. There was only two, full swap. So let's get into it. Let's talk about the term bull.
In some relationships, you know, especially with those non-monogamous people or those BDMS people in the communities, the term bull refers to something, a very specific role typically played by a man. Yes.
Now, have I ever heard of a bull for a bull for a woman no not unicorn but you know it's we can't be we're junior freeway now for some reason anyway so anyways it's usually played by the man this role involves engaging sexually with the partner of someone who identifies as one thing could be a cuckold you know one of those guys to a stag you know we don't want to be about those guys or just some dude that likes to have his wife get pounded by a bunch of dudes or a dude once in a while nothing wrong with that gentlemen don't be small dick energy let your wife have some fun if your wife has fun guess what gentlemen you're going to have fun and also remember this gentleman the ladies run the lifestyle not you so anyways she don't need you to get fucked by another guy.
She can just go to a bar and say, hey, who wants to fuck me? Spread her legs, and she's got 20 cream pies in her pussy. But anyways, so that's what a bull, you know, basically is. Someone who engages in sex with a partner. Someone who maybe identifies as a cuckold, a stag, vixen, or just a guy that likes to watch his wife get pounded. Understanding what it means to be a bull helps shred light on the dynamics and the emotional impact this rule has on everyone involved.
I think this is a very important topic because I always hear single male bashing. Every fucking minute, I always hear couples bitch and complain about single male bashing. So maybe if they follow these rules as a bull, they will probably, maybe it will be better for them and all that stuff. I'll see you next time.
single male bashing so maybe if they follow these rules as uh you know as a bull they will probably you know maybe it'll be better for them and all that stuff i don't know who knows anyways uh hopefully i can shed some light you know so any single males out there listening you know follow some ground rules and all that stuff you should be fine couples yeah listen if single males are not your thing you know what just be respectful and all that all that.
You treat them with respect, you'll get respect back. It's called karma, baby. Knowing the responsibilities and boundaries of a bull is essential. It reveals how this role can either support or challenge the health of a relationship. By clearly defining the behaviors and expectations tied to a bull, we gain insight into the complexities of modern relationship structures.
And let guess they are very very difficult what bulls means can vary and like i said it depends on person to person some people don't even know what the fuck a bull is some people know what it is and they all they all ramble but anyways the meaning and expectation of a bull differ widely dependent on the relationship and its unique setup now i date a married woman her husband travels for work and you know i'm there to take care of her needs during the weekday i don't consider myself a bull but they might consider me a bull but i don't think so but you know i'm there to take care of the wife when the man's away that's our relationship setup yours could be very different yours could be a one night where you know you go out find a strange man fuck him and leave him it's up to you communication i told you people you got to communicate you don't want to be one of those people that don't know how to communicate if you don't know how to communicate do not swing stay out of the swinging lifestyle stay out of the bdms lifestyle because of this vulnerability it is important for those already involved in or considering such arrangements to Thank you.
out of the swinging lifestyle stay out of the bdms lifestyle because of this vulnerability it is important for those already involved in or considering such arrangements to have a clear understanding of what a role the role truly entails gentlemen you got to take heed of this you got to listen to this clear your mind get your hands off your cock get that lube drive that lube off listen do not jack off to what i'm saying some of the key takeaways you're going to have in this is what understanding the role of bulls and porn in any dynamic where that role exists you are just as important as the couple guys yes bulls we are just important a bull's presence can significantly influence the emotional experiences of all parties it can make or break a couple or it could say couples fuck single males word is going to go couples single females.
The perception and function of a bull vary based on relationship agreements and personal boundaries. Clear guidelines about what a bull should and should not do help maintain a healthy relationship environment. Knowing the full context of the bull role equips people to navigate the challenges inherent in those alternative relationship lifestyles.
So is there anything, how does a bull how you know you ever wonder how these terms came about like i heard the one all the kids are saying from tiktok six seven and it's just some fucking random song some guy saying on tiktok and now all the kids and all that are going six seven six seven everything six seven now how did the term bull become the term bull the term bull has evolved considerably over time reflecting broader shifts and how society views relationships everything has changed because people think it's one way when it's really not and all that stuff so you know you get you get what you get and all that stuff so you know you gotta be careful so what are the origins and the uses of cuckoldry historically a bull was a man who had sexual relations with another man's wife symbolizing dominance and power much like the animal itself now i thought i disagree with that because just it doesn't mean you're uh you're a beta it just means your wife might be a hoe you know there ain't nothing wrong with that ladies be hoe find your inner hoe ladies i love it this usage highlighted dynamics of control and social status within traditional relationships.
That's why I hate it when people call some other guy a cuckold because, you know what, cuckold. Because the funny thing is, it doesn't mean anything. Your wife could just be a hoe. We like to fuck. Society will be a lot better in this world when we just realize we just like to fuck. We just want to fuck like animals instead of this, oh, we gotta have relationships, we gotta have oh, we gotta have a connection, we gotta be talking for 50 minutes. No, we don't need none of that.
We just need to go out and fuck and just admit that we're just whores. We're all just whores. Alright? Social cultural transitions of modern dynamics as cultural norms changed the meaning of the bull shifted alongside the them. The term expanded to include consensual, not when I missed setups swinging, making a movement toward more and open and diverse expressions of love and sexuality.
Where once the world implied dominance, today it increasingly reflects mutual respect and consensual enjoyment within the relationship.
The evolution of mirrors society's growing emphasis on consent and individual autonomy yeah women are being fucking what they want to be they want to fuck they fuck you know they're not doing any of that stuff shit anyways defining the role of a bull in a relationship today to fully grasp what the bull entail role entails it's important to consider the dynamics and expectations placed on them today the role within the relationship what should what is the role of a bull a bull is typically an outside partner who joins the dynamic essentially supplementing the primary relationship all right so like with my uh couple that i i guess i'm in a relationship with i'm in a relationship relationship with her.
Her husband works outside the city. He's gone Monday through Friday. Comes back home on the weekends and all that stuff. I met the woman, the beautiful lady. I met her at a glory hole party and all that stuff. I talked about it later on. Me and her hit it off. We sucked me off twice at the glory hole party. I ate her pussy there and all that stuff. We exchanged numbers.
The dynamic, she was telling me about the dynamic that her husband travels for work or works outside of town, and she's alone Monday through Friday. Well, Monday through Thursday, Friday, he comes home. I said, all right, no problem. We weren't able to fuck or anything because that was the rules. She can't do anything. She can't have an encourse with any guys unless her husband meets. So we met. I met up. I had dinner with them. Everything went great. Met up again.
Fucked her in front of her husband at Marfilis and all that stuff. And we had a great time. And now it's just like whenever, you know, she has her womanly needs and wants to get fucked, she calls me. And we meet up and we fuck and have a good time. So that's our dynamic. That's my role. My role is just purely to make her happy sexually. There's no taking her out, dating her and stuff like that, going to the movies, going on trips and shit like that. Boundaries and agreements.
Clear boundaries and mutual agreements are essential to ensure that everyone's comfort and desires are respected.
Like I said said with my couple i don't do anything outside of my role as the sexual provider the orgasm giver whatever you want to call it i don't do any of that stuff because i don't have his permission now there will be times where we do go to a baseball game together you know she calls and asks the husband can he can she go with me to a baseball game stuff like that if we're going out if we want to go out to dinner i have to call him and let him know that is the boundaries that we have and all that stuff so you know it you just got to be able to communicate what you like about i it's a perfect situation for me there's no commitment no nothing i get to hang out and have sex with a beautiful lady so you know i'm not angry i like the boundaries that we have the communication part ongoing honest communication among all parties keeps relationships healthy and satisfying now is it is it my perfect relationship no it's not because i would love to go out and trips like i said i went to secrets last weekend i would love to go to secrets and have a good time again and do all that stuff with her because she's a fucking beautiful woman and she's got a fucking great ass her asshole tastes like fucking uh shit sorry tastes like struck fucking strawberries her pussy doesn't smell doesn't have a taste i'm down there 30 to an hour i love everything about her but you know our boundaries is in our communication boundaries are there where she don't get to do that with me weekends are for her husband Thank you.
everything about her but you know our boundaries is and our communication boundaries are there where she don't get to do that with me weekends are for her husband weekdays are for me and all that stuff so you know but you never know things can change communication i communicate that with her and maybe you know one day she does go uh with me and all that stuff so by unpacking the role of the bull with attention to respect consent and clarity we can better appreciate the depths and nuance of these complex interactions so you as a couple you're thinking about bringing in a guy a bull whatever you want to call it you got to figure out what you want from him do you just want him for pure sex one night that's it never see you again wham bam thinking man we you want to have that ongoing relationship where, you know, he comes over once a week or once a month and fucks your wife and all that great stuff, and you guys have a great time?
Or do you want to be in a poly relationship where you actually bring that person in as a third? Maybe they live with you and all that stuff. I've seen ads on Craigslist before they took off all that stuff. I saw ads on DoubleList for couples looking for a male to come in and live with them. I knew a couple back in Michigan where they actually had their bull live with them and fuck his wife every night.
She ended up getting pregnant by the bull, but, you know, I guess that's what they wanted, and that's the risk. You don't protect yourself and stuff like that. Oh, well. What's so funny, JJ? I don't know. Let me know, JJ, in the chat. What's so funny? So, the understanding goes beyond simply defining what a bull in the relationship is. It reveals the intricacies, mix of desires, emotional well-being, and personal boundaries involved in these dynamics.
Such insight is essential for fostering positive, respectful, and fulfilling experiences for everybody.
Yeah, you want to have everything strawberry pussy what about oh a strawberry asshole not strawberry pussy her pussy doesn't have no taste at all but her asshole tastes like strawberries maybe it's the i think it's the uh lotion she puts on her nice big ass but you know whatever i don't know i don't i think jay i didn't give a fuck because you know what i could lick that asshole and finger her and make her squirt so you know she's happy jay one thing i always realize is that you always gotta please the woman you gotta when you're with the couple and you gotta bring your a game don't bring your b or c game to a couple because guess what those couples are going to tell other couples that what a shitty lay you are if you fuck the shit out of her and she's happy as hell she's going gonna tell every damn couple how good you are and that just brings you more business guy so you know what but like any like i said her asshole tasted great i could not could not complain about it so you know where was that so what are the characteristics of a bull within different relationship structures the role the bull significantly shapes each person's experience and overall harmony within the relationship Thank you.
of the characteristics of a bull within different relationship structures the role the bull significantly shapes each person's experience and overall harmony within the relationship exploring what defies the defines a bull includes understanding their emotional mindset remember we also got guys you got to take care of yourself bull fellow bulls you got to take care of yourself you know keep that mental health clean uh and all that stuff how expectations align with reality like what my reality is that the couple i'm with we're never going to be on vacation stuff together and stuff like that i'm never going to be one-on-one uh with her on the weekends or anything like that it's always going to be when i see him on the weekends it's going to be the three of us and no vacations or anything like that i you know why why are you harping on uh vacation acs because I like going to Seekers.
I like going to Desires. I like going to Vegas and stuff like that for weekends and shit like that. I like doing things. I like seeing other people. You get to meet other people and all that stuff, and you get to actually talk and have a good time and all that stuff. So that's what I'm saying. So I just got to know where I fall in. What's the crucial balance between what is agreed upon and what actually occurs? You know, we can always say, you can always say, hey, we're going to part.
I'm going to come over and fuck your, you're the bull. You're the bull. We want you to come over every week and fuck. But it doesn't always happen because what happens? Mother Nature gets in the way. Kids get in the way. Family obligations get in the way. Work gets in the way. You know, being an adult gets in the way.
So kind of becomes hard and can you survive that stuff because like i said there was with my couple that i that i'm a you know a bull for i am i don't like being called a bull anyways but i'm just gonna refer to me as a bull for this podcast episode we didn't fuck for a month because we just got busy.
She had period uh then i got busy she got busy and stuff like that so you know you don't see each other for a while we play this week we're playing next week so we're gonna have a good time so we're trying to we got makeup so you know the reality is it may not always go down as much as you think it is going to be constant constant and clear consent and clear communication emerge as villa virtual pillars in this process all right so you know you just gotta be i don't know it's tough being a bull sometimes but anyways but i love it even though i like being called a bull i'll i'll take the and do whatever so the psychological profile of a bull and sexual dynamics a bull's mental and emotional state is the fundamental to their success and satisfaction within the relationship typically bulls exhibit emotional strength and confidence qualities that help them navigate their role effectively listen you got to be confident in yourself if you're not confident in yourself don't start swinging now go do whatever it is you don like your body, get your fucking ass in the gym.
Take some Ozempic or whatever. Get skinnier. Get buff. Get leaner. Do whatever you need to do, but your mental state has to be in check. You have to have that mental state there, you know, because you got to have confidence. Women love confidence, all right?
If you're short, you're going to have to have a lot more confidence than someone who's six foot four six foot five and all that stuff because why because women love tall guys so what makes you different than every other bull you got to come up with a niche something that says this is what i'm good at this is why you should pick me out of all the other bulls you need to pick me and all that. So you've got to figure out what your confidence level is and get that confidence level up if it's low.
Qualities that help them navigate their role effectively. These traits influence their interactions and contribute deeply to the health and stability of their connections with partners.
If you can't, you know, if all you can do is talk about pussy and sex when you meet a couple you are going to strike out a lot try to be able watch news get fucking read a book pick up a book talk about have a a list of things you want to talk that you can talk about that you know you're good you could talk about something you're in if you're an accountant talk about money or whatever fucking adding subtracting dividing whatever if you are engineering talk about that talk about things other than sex because once some couples listen me if i went out when i take my girl out like tonight i'm not interested in a guy's um ability to talk i'm interested can his dick get hard and fuck the shit out of my partner because she wants to get dicked down.
Not every couple is like me and all that. Some couples want you to be able to have a fucking form of sentence. Some guys, you can't, listen, well, you probably already know. Some men that are in this lifestyle, couples and singles, guys, they can't even form a fucking sentence because they're just fucking, their brain is somewhere scattered. They're out on Dulululand or some shit like that.
But anyways, you've got to be able to have the ability to communicate well and be able to have a conversation because not every couple is DTF, you know. Respect, pleasure, and the gap between expectations is reality. Expectations surrounding involvement with a bull can vary widely. While some may assume the experience is purely about excitement and dominance, the reality is often more nuanced. Authentic relationships require mutual respect, understanding, and flexibility.
This complexity can lead to personal growth and richer interactions beyond initial assumptions. There you go. Mutual respect. A lot of it does not happen in a lifestyle because of the single male double standard or the single male stereotypes.
So you really have to break down walls and barriers with couples because, you they see you well they had one single guy fuck them over they're waiting for you to fuck them over again so it's like you know it's like a bad relationship and stuff like that a toxic relationship they're waiting for the shoe to drop so you have to be better and that's why i tell couples don't look at the size of a man's cock is how tall he is what his body is why don't you look at the man's character because that's what's going to determine if you're going to have a good time or not okay great he's got an eight inch cock he's fucking six foot far he's got six pack ass but you know what you gotta remember ladies that fucking guy is chased, pursued by every other woman in that club and every woman outside that club.
You know, do these guys get tested regularly? They say, oh, I get tested every time. Yeah, bullshit. A lot of these guys don't. A lot of these people, even couples, the couples will fucking tell me they're tested and they never get tested. Oh, they got tested in 2015. Oh, okay. Oh, that's the last time. It's fucking 2025. But anyways, you know, do they take care of themselves? Because you know what? Thank you.
tested in 2015 oh okay oh that's the last time it's fucking 2025 but anyways you know do they take care of themselves because you know what make sure my dick is clean it's sure the hell more important if i got a six-pack ab or a fucking eight-inch cock because if that's eight-inch cock comes with the fucking gonorrhea or herpes or whatever fucking god forbid hiv it ain matter anymore. So, you know, the respect part is lost in the lifestyle, even with couples with other couples.
Sure in hell, not a lot of respect for couples and single guys. And you know what? Sometimes we deserve it. But you know what? I tell people, everyone's different.
Don't sit there and assume that I'm the piece of shit because every single guy you come around is a piece of shit there are some actually good people it's like couples it's like if i'm assuming every couple needs a relationship or needs a connection i would never get laid i notice note i notice when i go to the club most of the couples are just looking to get laid they sit there you know they'll tell someone they need a relationship but fucking 15 minutes later she's down on her knees sucking on my cock and i'm fucking her later so you know you got to be able to show your respect to everybody and be very thankful you know and all that stuff so it is you know it's tough single guys is tough out there you we got uphill uh hill the the climb a mountain to climb and all that stuff so you know but just remember if you don't respect couples you're not going to get respect back and vice versa the crucial role of consent and communication the two c's consent and transparent communication are fundamental when defining the bull's place in my relationship these elements assure that all parties feel safe heard and respected open everyone to express their desires, limits, and comfort levels while adhering to shared agreements protects everyone's dignity and freedom.
You've always got to watch out. Feelings can be developed. Yes, it has happened. I know I have known guys who started falling for their cuckoldress and all that stuff. The lady they're having an affair with. The lady they're fucking. The couple they're fucking. They started having, you know, those feelings for them. And either good or bad, I don't know. Same thing with the woman. Women started feeling good, feeling, having feelings. They leave their husband.
I seen one, I know one couple for sure.
They used to do porn or content creation whatever you want to call it she left her husband who would watch her fuck all the black guys she ended up leaving all the fucking her husband for another dude you know so you know you was there consent there going on was there communication going on because you got to remember guys you got to check in with your wife say hey honey you still like swinging because i guarantee you if we went to a club and on a saturday night and we actually had them interviewed where they wouldn't their their true feelings would never be heard by their husband or anything like that a lot of women don't want to be swinging they would try to be doing something else and that's just the reality of it so you know gentlemen we got to always talk to our girls and say hey ladies you you're honey you're loving this you like this what do you want to do and all that and it's okay to talk and be open to communication about it tell your tell your husband what you want to do you want to get fucked by a bunch of dudes get fucked by a bunch tell them that you want to get do a fucking strap-on gaming with a bunch of lesbians go tell them that to do something don't be shy ladies and gentlemen listen to your woman don't sit there and just oh no that ain't gonna happen i don't get no pussy you don't get no dick listen to your woman because guess what i'm going to tell you gentlemen this if you don't listen to your woman another The man will listen to your woman because guess what I'm going to tell you gentlemen this if you don't listen to your woman another man will listen to your woman and same thing vice versa ladies listen to your man or another woman will listen to your man so we got to have that communication we got to be raw and honest with each other as a bull you got to be open and honest with your with your couple that you're you know.
Can you give them what you want? Because you are there for them. You are not there for you, you know. Don't get it twisted. You are the toy in the toy chest. They are the Andy in this story.
You are the fucking Woody and Buzz Light lightyear all right so you know you just got to understand your role know your role sucker uh how a bull impacts relationship dynamics and physical individual psyches bringing a bull into a relationship introduces significant shifts emotionally sexually and socially all right these changes can enhance intimacy or introduce new challenges depending on how they are managed for individuals the presence of a bull may affect self-esteem social interactions sometimes fostering strength and other times promoting uncertainty clear communication remains key to navigating these couples i pray that if you are deciding to bring in a bull, a single male, into your bedroom, that your man has fully understood what the possibilities of ramifications can be.
All right? You want a hung gentleman. Okay, let's say eight inches. Your husband's five inches or four inches or two inches, who knows? Your wife, gentlemen, may moan and groan I'll see you next time. or fucking don't, or two inches, who knows. Your wife, gentlemen, may moan and groan ways that she's never moan and groan with you. You might get upset about that. You might be a little jealous. Now, that is okay. Jealousy's okay. A little bit of jealousy's okay.
But you gotta remember, understand what you are about to do. You are about to allow another man to enter into your wife's vagina Here we go. but you've got to remember, understand what you are about to do. You are about to allow another man to enter into your wife's vagina, and you're going to sit there and watch, or you're going to let her go out and do her own thing and hear about it later on, whatever you want to do, however you want to set it up.
But you've got to also remember there are going to be things that happen. She might, like I said, she might have a great time. She might be happy, smiling, getting fucking pounded, getting back shots all night. But you've got to remember she's getting that because of you. If you didn't bring it up or anything and you didn't consent to none of this stuff, she would never have got it. So you don't have to be that jealous of him.
If you are clear communication with your wife, there ain't going to be no problems. The jealousy will not get to you. But if you do not communicate well with your wife, something might be open.
You might open Pandora's's box and you can't get that box closed again because once you open pandora's box that box is always open all right your wife might actually fucking love the lifestyle where she gets to play with other men while you watch she might get turned on by you watching you might be like whoa this is more than i bargained for because i because i when you watch a porn it's different than anything that porn star you have no love or no emotion for but that lady that's that you brought to the table your wife well you got all that love you got all that compassion for and all that stuff and it might hurt a little bit so make sure you are communicating and bulls take care of the man too you're you're not only taking care of the woman you are taking care of the man you might not be sexually taking care of the guy but you are there to take care of the guy you got to let that guy know i'm not here for you to steal your wife I'm here to make you two closer.
I always tell couples are like grandchildren to me. I just want to use them for a couple hours and give them back to the parents. I have no desire to marry, steal another man's wife. Because I always feel like if she fucking leaves me for him, leaves me or leaves him for me, she's going to do it to me again. So why the fuck would I want a woman like that? I want a loyal woman. I don't want some hoe or anything like that. I want someone who's going to be loyal to me.
So me, being that bull, I have to talk to the man. I have to make sure everything's all right.
Is there any concerns he has or anything like that like when i met my couple's husband when i met her husband i had to talk to him me and him talked alone we actually this is one of the first times in 28 years of swinging this is the first time i sat with another man alone talking about his wife talking about what i can and cannot do and all that stuff usually the wife is there she wasn't there she wasn't there for the first hour it was just me and him bullshit and you know what we were just talking bullshitting you know talk about sports and all that you know we'll bring up the wife and play parties and stuff like that what he would want me to do what he's what he's willing to do and all that stuff and it was great and you know it's one of those experiences that i had but anyways so you know as the bull you got to make sure you're taking care of the man just as much as you take care of a woman all right ultimately the addition of a bull can both challenge and enrich your relationships when approached with openness honesty and mutual respect can lead to deeper understanding and more satisfying connections for all of us all of us involved so you know what you know you just got figure out.
You got to get that lead. You got to find that sweet spot, you know, like on a baseball bat. You got to hit it in a sweet spot. So what are some of the facts and, you know, questions and answers? Some Q&A. So what is a bull in a relationship? A bull is someone who joins in sexual activities with couples. They may have sex with one or both partners. This happens without getting romantically involved.
Now, with the addition of bisexual men, you know, becoming more and more popular or more men coming out as bi, you may have those couples where they will ask you, hey, you know, how are you with going me sucking on your dick and stuff like that? Or, you know, having sex with me and the wife, you know, so you have to decide what are you a bi bull or are you just a regular straight bull? And it happens and you're going to get a proposition by a couple. Trust me, don't worry about you will.
If you haven't, then you're doing something wrong. Probably what is the role of the bull in a relationship? The bull's role changes in each relationships. They are often there to make sex more exciting for the partners.
See you notice i didn't put for the wife i said partners you're making sex more exciting for the partners and i'll tell you what the best i love fucking reclaiming my partner's pussy when we're at the club i love watching her fuck another guy then when he's done he comes i jump on there and listen i can't hold my i fucking come within a minute because it's fucking hot and exciting and her pussy's fucking soaking wet and i just love that shit so you know what you know you're there for both as the bull you're there for both people uh let's see how is a bull defining relationship a bull's roles include many things like task and relationship limits sending clear rules and taking uh talking openly is key this helps everyone from what they suspect what are the characteristics of a bull within different relationships bulls have certain traits like being sure of themselves and good in bed yes now they also should understand and follow a set of rules open and clear communication is a must so i put in there that you have to be good in bed you gotta be at least some fucking good if you gotta if you gotta advertise cock to a small cock you still can be a bull to me all right some people don't think a bull is any guy who has under an eight inch cock that's just fucking ignorant people and there's a lot of ignorant people in the lifestyle you You know, we can all agree on that.
We've seen them. We know a lot of ignorant fucks. A bull can be any size cock. I just say, if you have a small penis, learn how to master the art of eating pussy. If you can make a girl orgasm by eating her pussy, making her fucking squirt.
Like when I was at the Hot Wife Hotel takeover in August, there was a couple there using the glory hole, and I started fucking eating her pussy making her fucking squirt like when i was at the hot wife hotel takeover in august there was a couple there using the glory hoe and i started fucking eating her pussy and fingering her at the same time and she squirted and she's like oh my god this is the first time i've ever done that so no all night i'm fucking making her squirt and shitting her husband's fucking high-fiving me and shit high-fiving and all that they're calling me say hey you're gonna come to the next hot wife party and stuff like that i got in with this couple beautiful blonde lady awesome man then i'm like why don't i teach you how to fucking make your wife squirt so i'm over there fucking doing our tutoring class a master class i'm making this white square and she's squirting with him doing it he's learning all this stuff and he was amazed and he was excited that he was able to do that Now, that was my as their bull i was their bull i taught them how to do stuff but i'm not fucking hung like a horse but i'm still the bull you don't have to have an eight inch cock to be a bull now you got some ignorant fuckers like i said before you got ignorant people that think you have to fucking be in nine inches and also some people even think you have to be a black person to be a bull that's not true you could be any color any size you could be a bull you just have to be good learn your skills in bed master those skills in bed pussy eating all that stuff sometimes a smaller cock hits the g-spot too real well so you know what you might be uh you should be able to follow the fucking rules listen if he says don't call her don't call her if he says call her on this time call her at this time he says we need you at friday at eight o'clock you be ready to go at friday at eight o'clock you are there for them they are not there for you all right so follow the rules that they have Condoms, no condoms, follow the rules and always be communicating with them.
Don't be shy. Don't be scared to talk to them, all right? How does a bull impact relationship dynamics and individual psyches? Having a bull can change the way relationships work and how people feel. It might make sex better or cause some jealousy. Yes, you're going to have some jealousies.
Handling emotions and talking things are important to deal with deal with these effects so there you have it that's what it is to be a bull what is it like to be a bull it's fucking awesome being the single man on this lifestyle that can talk that is not ugly who is just you know just your normal human human being is pretty fucking awesome i'm gonna tell you that right now you know i don't't mind not having a partner.
I have female partners to go to the club with, but I have female partners that I like doing stuff that I like doing things with. But I enjoy going by myself. When I tell people I go to secrets by myself, they go, wow, I never see that. I go, what are you talking about? There's only single guys there and all that stuff.
But, hey, but hey whatever anyways so i hope you like that little rant about you know bulls and all that stuff and the lifestyle bulls you know we got a bad reputation single males got a bad reputation it's deserved but you know what still not every bull is the same all right remember that just like every there's no two snowflakes alike there's no two bulls alike sorry all right so let's go back to am i the asshole here this is a very long rant and i'm gonna read it now listen remember i'm not reading i'm not i didn't write this so if i like the english is fucked up that's because it's on them am i overreaching am i just being a little bitch or dude i legit have a good beef here first off.
My wife, 37, and I, 42, have only been in the lifestyle for about a year, so newbies. Even then, we have only had one no-string-attached male-female male threesome and one evening a parallel play with the MFM thruffle. Oh, God, those people. Whenever we have gone to any clubs, we end up grabbing a playroom. Just me and the wife. Awesome. No problems. And honestly, I'm fine with that. Good. She is very self-conscious as she has Bastrick, that stomach surgery nine months ago.
She still sees herself as a 300-pound lady, even though she has lost nearly 90 pounds good good job lady also i'm a better guy okay he's a big guy pushing 295 and an average height typical dad belly anyway we get a dm uh dm a couple months ago from a guy who goes to the same local club we do introduced himself all that jazz said he would like to meet us at the club next time we went So a few leaks went by, sporadic texts back and forth between he and I.
We drive to the local club on a saturday our local club is three hours away fuck for us by the way we met him 45 met him 45 and his partner 26 oh that's yeah he's painter at the club and hang out a little little bit awkward but nothing that can't be written off it's just meaning them being nervous fast forward about two hours we he gets a phone call and his daughter and they have to leave from his daughter all right he if the daughter's not at the club he got a call from the daughter and they had to leave okay that's fine we have kids we understand that shit happens no problem next day he texts me he asks for our numbers and the dm and so on and so on sorry about ditching you all my daughter blah my ex-wife blah okay i get it bud i'm divorced and remarried i know how exes are no problem don't think anything of it so now he's texting every day hey buddy hope you and your missus are good happy friday what What's going on this weekend?
Shit like that. Honestly, kind of annoying to me. But I humor the guy and message back and forth. This shit goes on every couple days for another two weeks or so. He says, next time you all come to the club, let's do dinner beforehand so we can sit and converse without trying to yell over the music and crowd.
Why do fucking swinger clubs, why do you people, swinger club owners stop fucking blasting the club music loud come on man tone it down a little bit let the people talk maybe that's why in houston no one fucks because every goddamn club from tpc to fucking tng has the goddamn music up so high anyways so i'm all about this hell yes i can hear shit with a lot of background noise i can't hear shit with a lot of background noise me too buddy so this is perfect wife and i figure out a weekend that's good for us and we chat with him confirm he and his partner are available and all is a go made my hotel reservation three times as much normally because the rock festival going in town make reservations at a nice steakhouse chatting a week leading up to our planned meetup.
He said her partner wanted to see that my wife was wearing for the party to see if her outfit was comparable and not too over the top. So we messaged her, all is good. Everyone in his good spirits and all that jazz. She says, let's do dinner early then we can go back to the hotel andgame before to go in the club. Hell yeah. So we drove down and went to the club Friday night just to hang out ourselves. People watch all day Friday silence radio cricket. Nothing. So the guy's not texting.
Saturday morning, cricket. Saturday afternoon, cricket. Saturday around 1.30, I get a message from her that says he won't be back until 4 because he had to take his daughter to a last-minute couch campus tour 2.5 hours away. All right, so we agree we'll just do dinner on our own and meet at the club at 7. He texts apologizing and says he will see you at 7. 7 rolls around, he pulls into the, we pull into the club. In and change into our outfits for the night.
Grab some drinks, chit-chat with a few people, here they come. We exchange greetings. He, she excuses herself to go to change and he goes to get a drink. They both come We exchange greetings She excuses herself to go to a little change And he goes to get a drink They both come back to the table where we're at The women exchange compliments at their outfits Nails, shoes, and hair You know all that woman shit I say, where do you want to sit?
Or our normal spot This motherfucker says Oh, I bought VIP tickets We're going in there We will catch up with you in just a minute...
our normal spot this motherfucker says oh i bought vip tickets we're going in there we will catch up with you in just a minute wife beelines to the front desk any vip available nope sold out earlier this week i'm a little irritated but i'm going to let this not let this ruin my night we station ourselves directly across the dance floor from the vip entrance we keep ourselves keep to ourselves as folks come in and fill the area around us we dance for a little grab a snack and a little more to drink all the while they go in and out of the vip upstairs talk to other couples back downstairs back upstairs never once make an eye contact now i'm'm pissed.
Fuck this guy. So we go about our night, go slip into a neon room. Mama soaks the sheets, and I say, well, you blew me out of the main third-floor room. She nervously agrees.
So as she has a mouthful of dick, these two walk by with another couple and say, looks like fun, and go into the same playing room we just left then post pictures today of how much fun they had with this gorgeous woman and i don't care if they fucked 80 people or zero people they blew us off completely so am i the asshole for wanting to really just tear a mud hole in his ass and walk walk it we didn't even we didn't wouldn't have even made a six-hour round-trip drive boarded our dogs for the weekend and spent six five hundred dollars on a hotel if we hadn't planned to spend saturday night with them no offense to our club but the theme wasn't anything earth sharing it wasn't like it was halloween or new year's St.
or anything we could just spit fire and fuck that guy so am I so is my anger justified and should I tell them both to take a long walk with a short period or do I need to just let it go and keep on with the bullshit annoying small talk I hate small talk I work 12 to 14 hour days I don't have time for that shit okay sir this is what you should do let it go you have learned a valuable lesson in the lifestyle people are not who they seem to be in the lifestyle you have fucking assholes and you have some great people you just happened to hit an asshole that day what happened was he found a better looking couple to to fuck with.
He had you in the back. You were the, so your wife was 300 pounds. She lost 90, so she's 200 pounds. So she's probably looking good, but she's got saggy skin and all that stuff. He had you in the back pocket just in case he wasn't going to get pussy somewhere else. When he was able to get another couple to fuck and fuck a bunch of other couples, he let you go. You were demoted. You were sent down to the minor leagues. You were no longer on the major league roster.
You were sent down to the minor leagues. Now, is that fucked up? Yes. Should you be angry? Yes. But you also got to remember, this is per course of swinging. A lot of couples will do that. They try to swing up, I call it. Remember, a lot of swingers have SDS, Swinger Delusional Syndrome. They don't know where they stand in reality. They lose reality because they go to a club and they're like the hottest people in the club.
But when they leave club they're not so hot they're just average to below average type people so you got to remember that you can't be angry don't just stop with the anger you don't want to do anything physical to the guy you never want to do anything physical to anybody in the lifestyle at all because you will get a bad rap you probably get banned from all the clubs because i would ban you if i knew you were a violent person i'm banning your ass from a club because you know why because i don't want that shit in my club but anyways you just you just gotta take it and go with it man and i listen i said you are justified being pissed off but you just gotta let it go you got fucked over by an asshole you just you know if anyone if you have a couple ever talks to you about them just tell them their story he told us to come out hang out wanted to hang out with us then he met someone else and fuck he threw us to the curb because that's what happened they found someone better and they just wanted to go with that better what they thought was better now you could be better than them but you know in all that he found someone better that he thought was better and said fuck it and all that stuff so you know what and you don't have to talk to the son of a bitch anyway you see him at the club just fucking ignore him he ignored you you know him saying well we don't we don't want to have anything to do with you buddy and you'll be fine everything's gonna be great all right so don't worry about it don't sweat it and all that.
And you'll be fine. Everything's going to be great. All right? So don't worry about it. Don't sweat it and all that stuff. You're going to be awesome. You're going to be fine. I guarantee you. That's AC Maxwell telling you you're going to be fine. So remember, gentlemen, to shave your cock and balls. I'm going to get out of here. I got to get to TNG, get this girl fucked, and get her pussy cream pie and shit. Whatever she wants. All, remember gentlemen, the women run the show.
You are just there for the ride. Also, go to swinginsinglepodcast.com Go check out All Things AC. Come on, Swingin' Clubs, let's go. Let's do a fucking live remote show from your club. I would love to do it. That would make my fantasy come true. And all that stuff. Anyways, go have fun, America. Go out and fuck and keep on swinging, everybody. Come, it's pretty good. It's going grow.
