Hey everyone, and welcome back to The Swinging Single Podcast! I’m your host, AC Maxwell, here with another episode dedicated to you—the single man navigating the swingers lifestyle. Whether you’re new to this scene or you’ve been around the block a few times, today’s episode is packed with advice and insights to help you succeed and thrive.Now, swinging as a single guy is a unique experience, and if you’re listening, you probably know the challenges. But here’s the truth: success in swinging isn’t all about you. It’s not about what you want, or what you think you deserve. It’s about respect, relationships, and reputation.Today, we’re going to break down the mindset and behavior single men need to cultivate to truly enjoy and succeed in this lifestyle. We’re talking about building a solid reputation, why you don’t want to lead with your cock, the importance of presentation, respecting the rules of the club, mastering conversation, handling rejection with class, timing your moves, and ultimately just enjoying the ride.Alright, let’s get into it.swingingsinglepodcast.comswingingsinglepodcast@gmail.com
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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host, A.C. Maxwell. For over 20 years, I've been navigating the swinging lifestyle as a single male, experiencing all the excitement, challenges, and everything in between. This podcast is my honest and unfiltered take on that journey. A fresh set of eyes diving deep into real stories, lessons learned, and practical advice for everyone exploring or curious about the lifestyle.
Whether you're new, seasoned, single, or partner, join me as I share my experiences, bust myths, and help you swing your best in the exhilarating world. Let's get real, keep it respectful, and keep on swinging. Single. AC Maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only. swinging, single. and do not necessarily represent those of the podcast's affiliates, sponsors, advertisers, or partners.
Any information provided is given with the understanding that it does not constitute a contract, engagement, or formal advice. The content of the podcast is protected by copyright and other intellectual property laws. We'll be right back. Everything I ever wanted, sketching hearts around my skin. You should have told me they would see through. Guess I turned a blind eye to the truth. Cause you were all I ever wanted, yeah. It seems like a bit of conversation.
But you don't like when the heat turns up. So you're never gonna not run. I'll leave my heart out on the line. They wanna leave it out too dry out there. Oh, I swear. They got the worst tasting girls. I feel it coming when they smile. I know it's only just a while till they're scared. Then they're not there. They got the worst tasting girls.
Now, I'm going to take a look at the top of the top, and I'm going to take a look at the top of the top of maxwell here with another episode dedicated to you the single men navigating the swing lifestyle, and for those couples that love those single males or are getting new into it, maybe not into single males, but they're into the swinging lifestyle.
So whether you're new to the scene or if you've been around the block a few times like myself, today's episode is packed with advice and insights to help you succeed and thrive.
But first, before you do that, go to swingandscom check out all things ac maxwell also you can go to swing and single podcast at gmail.com and you know send me an email maybe there's a topic you would like to hear from me or experience that you want to know if i had your experience and all that stuff so just come out and let me know because you know what i'm always down for it so just let me know trying to get this all shit to work and all that but it ain't working i don't know what it is guys and girls but you know whatever it is it sure will sure will be fine all right so let's get into it now swinging as a single guy is a unique experience and if you're listening listening, you probably know the challenges, single guys.
But here's the truth. Success in swinging isn't all about you. It's not about what you want or what you think you deserve. It's about respect, relationship, and reputation. Let's call these the three R. Respect, relationship, and reputation.
So today, we're going to break down the mindset and behavior single men need to cultivate to truly enjoy and succeed in this lifestyle we're talking about building a solid reputation why you don't want to lead with your cock and remember shave your cock and balls and the importance of representation respecting the rules of the club, mastering conversation, and handling rejection with class, timing your moves, and ultimately just enjoying the rides. All right, so you know what?
I had a conversation. I had a little fuck session with a married woman at a hotel this past Friday, and we were talking and bullshitting and all that.
After we got done, I made a squirt for time and I'm the first man to ever do it so cha-ching for me so here you go yeah yep that's it baby you know a hand clap for me and all that stuff all that great stuff because you know what I did it I did the deed but we were talking and she was asking me about all my stuff that I've been doing in the past how long I've've been swinging, stuff like that. And I told her, you know, going because she goes to clubs by herself without her husband.
And I don't know what her dynamics is with her husband because she doesn't really talk about it that much. But she talks about it, that she goes to the club and she does all kinds of stuff, you know, without her husband. She goes to clubs by herself. She does all kinds of stuff.
And she was asking me about being a single guy in the lifestyle and I honestly told her that I don't mind being a single guy I kind of like being a single guy going to a club and all that stuff because I don't really have to you know when I go with a girl or I take a date or anything with me I want her to have a great time so my I'm catering to her so I never had any trouble scoring getting laid at a club or any event that i went to as a single guy now i'm not that ugly i'm not that hot but i'm still you know i'm not some ogre or anything like that so you know i can get you know pussy and all that stuff so it didn't really bother me to be a single guy yes i'm limited to my action that i can get yes i'm limited to that but you know what it's not about all the sex and all that it's about some of the times you meet connections you hang out with people and you develop relationships over time with these people and like i said the reputation you get a reputation of being able to deliver the goods to the hot wife or the wife or whoever you are fucking the single girl other couples will start will notice that that you do that so i i've never had a problem with coming in single and paying the high prices now yeah as a single guy we got to pay an arm and a leg but to me i like a club when they pay a lot of money and i know a lot of people i see on reddit about secrets hideaway in cassimi florida people bitching about it's going to cost you $300 to $500 to get in.
Oh, well, so what? But like I said, it's worth it for me. Sometimes it's not worth going to Secrets. Go to Paradise Lakes, same thing, $100, $150 to get in. It's worth it to me to go. Last time I went to Paradise Lakes, shit, there was like no, I didn't see any single.
I saw one or two single guys, and to be honest, I'm not going to say anything, but I was the best looking thing there for the single guy, a lot of old dudes that were pretty disgusting looking and all that, but yeah, well, you know, it's one of those things.
Last, I've never been to Caliente, haven't been to Caliente in a long time, not since I quit working there back in 2022, so I don't know what to say there, but when I go to clubs you know i have no problem and i don't mind being a single guy because i mastered the three r's respect you know you got to respect the couples and the rules that they have uh and all that because you never know respect you gotta respect the relationship that they have the dynamics that they have in the relationship and and i just got a good reputation of not being a fucking total douchebag and all that stuff yeah i'm an asshole because i express my opinion i don't let people just couples disrespect me because just because i'm a single guy and all that stuff i don't let them do that so you know you gotta you gotta really be able to be able to know what you're doing and all that stuff.
So don't be shy, you know. You're going to run into shit and all that stuff because I got it. When I first started, I had made a lot of mistakes and shit like that. So, you know, you've just got to be able to go do the good with the bad. All right. So let's get into this shit. All right. So understanding that it's not all about you guys. I know you all got the big old 12-inch cock. You're a fucking black dude. You're a fucking Hispanic dude. You got fucking washboard abs.
You're six foot tall, six foot two, whatever. You drive a million-dollar car, whatever the fuck it is. Don't worry about it. It's not about you, bro.
You're just the fucking pawn in the thing, the thing in the cog so first things first swinging isn't about you alone so especially as a single man it is critical the mindset to understand to have that mindset the lifestyle is largely couple centric most events clubs and parties focus on couples experiences and desires why would it if you took out all the couples out of a swinger club who the fuck would you have left you have like four or five single guys and maybe one single girl you ain't gonna have a lot so yes know your clientele clubs and it's couples so if you walk in expecting the attention to be all on you you're putting yourself setting yourself up really for disappointment and i don't know too many single guys that have this attitude but i know some guys in a lifestyle that do have this attitude that they think their god gives to women and shit like that you know those guys they walk around the club with their shirt off and all that and try to hit up on anything and anything that will move and stuff like that so instead thank community thank the connection think about how you can add value not just what you can take so look at yourself like when people ask me about single girls when I want to date a single girl I ask what do they bring to the table now a lot of guys will say well she brings a pussy so that means if I take her to her club I'll get access to more pussy that's not me that's not AJ a ac style that's my my style is I you need to bring something to the table so when you're with a couple what do you bring to the table for that couple what do you give her and the man that they're not getting at home so just that's one of those things you got to think about couples are looking for someone who respects their boundaries understands the dynamic that they have contributes positively to the experience.
That means your role isn't to dominate or demand, but to negotiate, listen, and engage respectfully. Now, when I was in Vegas a couple years ago, I had a couple that answered to my ad. It was on DoubleList. And we talked for a couple weeks before I got there. Then when I got there, a lot of their demeanor changed. They wanted me to meet the guy alone, just me and him, before the woman would come. And AC is no fool. I already knew what this was. This was a classic bait and switch.
He was going to try to get me all whored up. So he'll say, oh, I'll suck your dick or I'll fuck you. I'll let you fuck me and all that because he'll do that oh the wife's on the way she's just getting off work stuff like that which is bullshit all right so now i did the negotiation i said if the wife's not going to be there i don't want to meet you if the wife's going to be there i will meet you and he says who do you get who are you to dictate the terms and i go i know i'm the guy.
I know I don't bring anything to the table other than my cock. But still, I am a human being. I have to take care of myself. I have to be protected. And I don't know you from anybody on the, anyone else, better than anyone else. So I'm going to say either we meet, all three of us meet at the same time, or we just don't meet at all.
And that was heard from the person again so you know you got to negotiate listen if you're uncomfortable meeting the couple because he wants to meet but with you one-on-one it's okay i can i can uh what is it called i can back you on that decision not to meet or be it and that you might sound like an asshole and all that i don't think you're an asshole about it i think you're being smart don't meet uh mel alone unless you know him from past clubs experiences all that then you can meet alone but if it's the first time meeting make sure it's all three because you don't want the the classic pain switch so this approach puts you miles and have many other single guys who come into the lifestyle thinking it's a free for all that's one thing a lot of guys think like i said a lot of couples even couples think this a lot of couples will think that it's just a free-for-all that everyone's out there fucking and sucking and doing all this stuff i wish it was true i wish this was europe where every fuck you go in the you walk into the club and it's everyone's butt naked and everyone's having a good time, but it's just not the way it is.
So we have to, so you have to understand that. And I don't think a lot of people do in this lifestyle. I don't think they understand it. I think people watch too much social media. They listen to these two, these porn stars that are, that call themselves swingers.
They listen to them, those content creators or whatever the fuck you want to call them and they think it's a free-for-all but it's totally not it's not what you think and that's what i have to tell everybody when they first get there so couples if you're thinking that you're going to go to a club it's going to be one orgy thing again unless you're in europe now if you're in america maybe some places there will be an orgy later on but most of the time there's not going to be anything all right building that solid reputation single guys this is what you're going to need to do you're going to need to build that reputation next up your reputation is everything like I take a hit for doing a show because I'm going to say the honest truth and I know a lot of people don't like the honest truth especially in the swingers lifestyle you know but i'm willing to take that hit the people that know me they love me the people that don't know me don't have no clue about me probably should get to know me first before they make up the decision so how you show up physically socially and emotionally will determine your opportunities and experiences world travels word travels fast in the swinging community and trust is currency all right so ask yourself what builds a reputation respecting everyone's boundaries is one not trying to steal a man's wife is a good way uh is a horrible way trying to steal another man's wife is a horrible way to get a reputation.
People will know that. Doing drugs, stuff like that will get you a bad reputation. Now, if you do weed, stuff like that, people ain't going to care because that's pretty much the norm now. But you're high on ecstasy or whatever the fuck you are doing, you might get that reputation of a drug addict or and if your penis don't work, guess what? You get the distinguish of the limp dick bitch.
Also, another thing that builds communicate but build a reputation being commutative and honest be honest if you're married you're married so what like i said when i meet a couple i meet a single girl i don't care what your relationship dynamic is at home inside a club is all i care about so if you are married if you're a single girl you're at the club you're married it's not my problem that's between you and your husband if you if a couple you know they're they're here together but they're not married to each other they're married to other people that's not my problem all right we're all there we're all adults we're all there for a reason no one's being held against their will hopefully not hopefully everyone consented to be there so i'm not going to worry about that i will respect your relationship as that's your girl i'm not going to try to say hey i could do better than you you can do better than him you should come with me because you know what you don't sit there couples you don't think that's going to happen it could and does happen in the lifestyle and i think i think it's kind of crazy because i never would ever ever think about doing that that girl's already married um she's off limits all i'm there to do is make her have an orgasm one or two or three or four or five that's all i'm there for so being honest tell them that i'm with a partner or something like that are you single you're not single and if they don't want't want to play with you because you and your wife have an understanding or your wife hasn't had sex with you in 10 years, then that couple's not there for you.
There are other couples that will not care what your status at home, gentlemen, is. They will play with you as long as you can bring the goods. Consistency, demonstrating hygiene, and good manners. Nothing can be said better than shaving your cock and balls, washing your asshole, wash your belly button, wash your armpits, you know, get all the stinky parts.
Put on some deodorant, put on some cologne, not a lot, some, just a little bit, so you don't stink up the room with your cologne because not every woman's going to love your cologne. Dressing well. Being able to put on a nice pair of clothes and not dress it up like you just came out of a fucking, you know, out of work, out of the warehouse and stuff like that. Put some khakis on. Put a dress shirt. Button up dress shirt. Don't come looking like a bum.
And a lot of guys are coming looking like bums.
And you know couples too some couples in the men the men are looking shabby why the girls are looking fantastic and all that so you gotta be consistent with your clothing with your hygiene and all that stuff now we're not telling you gotta wax everything and tweeze everything we're just saying you know if you got a beard trim it up make it look nice don't make it look like you're a fucking bum if they could if you go if you look sit next stand next to a bum on the street are we going to be able to tell the difference if not you are how you have a problem go to shopping if you know if you're a guy and this goes for the couples too if you're a guy and you don't know how to shop find someone that does there has to be one person in your life that knows about fashion a little bit all right there are a lot of youtube tutorials that you can go on buy clothes you don't have to go to you know those high expensive places go to ross dress for less or tj maxx or burlington coat factory go somewhere it's cheap you don't have to you don't have to spend a lot to look like a million dollars, guys.
Make sure you comb your hair. Brush your teeth. Make sure if you have missing teeth, hey, there's always dentures. Take some pride in your smile. A good smile goes a long way. A good smile means your dick deteriorated.
You ever see a woman when you saw a girl smile and she has missing teeth i always think that dirt that pussy's dirty so i'm not gonna fuck around with that i like a clean pussy nice smelling pussy that can stay down there and eat out all night make her make her squirt and all that and if you got missing teeth i don't i don't know if i could trust you being clean now your pussy might not smell but though is there fucking some herpes there some gonorrhea syphilis down there so you got to be very take care of yourself hit the gym hit something you don't have to be a muscle-bound dummy you could just fucking do some weight being punctual and reliable if you're committed to something that's something that also plagues the swinger community for couples and singles We'll see you next time.
impunctual and reliable if you're committed to something that's something that also plagues the swinger community for couples and singles like when guys ask about a gangbang they want five they want three or four guys guess what sometimes i went to a gangbang there's supposed to be seven guys he invited seven guys because she wanted seven guys i was the only one that showed up so i had her to all to myself she was disappointed yes because she's thinking she's going to get multiple cots she's going to have two cock one cock in each hand one in the mouth one in her pussy but unfortunately me and the husband had to deliver the goods and we hit a home run and i had a swinging relationship with that couple for about a year and a half before i moved you got to be punctual if the party starts at eight be at eight there's nothing funny there's nothing funnier than saying the party starts at eight and you showing up at 10 o'clock and everyone's in full swing now i know why you probably showed up at 10 because you didn't want to spend time talking to people because you have nothing to talk about so you come up at 10 whenever you think everyone's gonna be fucking when i when i go to a house party with my partner that I have, anybody that shows up late, we don't play with.
We want people that are going to actually put in some effort to at least talk to us. Now, we don't want to talk to you for 20, 30, 40 minutes, 10 minutes, 15 minutes, and we're good to go. We're ready to fucking whip out the condom. Let's start fucking. But don't show up like at 11 o'clock at a house party when everyone's fucking and you just get naked and you try to stick your dick at any first date. It's not gonna happen. Now, you say, how do I know? Because I pay attention.
I love the people watching. You know that. I love watching people and I love giving them backstories and shit like that and all that. So, you know, you just gotta be punctual. Be on time. No, if you're at a club and you don't get there till midnight, that's the club. But if you go to a house party, the house Thank you.
them backstories and shit like that and all that so you know you just gotta be punctual be on time now if you're at a club and you don't get there till midnight that's the club but if you go to a house party the house guy says house couple hostess hostess say come in at eight you be there at eight be there at nine nine a couple bites you over do a gangbang or whatever a threesome you say you're gonna be there at eight be there at eight if you're not gonna be there at eight make sure you text call say hey the traffic is horrible you know anyone that lives in a big city knows traffic is horrible everywhere in a big city so you know you just tell them uh if you're going to say you say you're going to show up show up you know what that's another thing if you if you stiff a couple you're going to get the reputation like i said of a no-show.
People are not going to want to fuck with you. So if you want to take the time out to find people online, things like that, you better show up because your reputation is going to hurt and people are going to talk. Now, it's okay to be nervous. It's okay to be scared for your first time.
You know, you're new and all that, all right, we understand that, guys, I understand that, the other couples, you tell the other couple, you communicate with them, this is my very first time, I'm nervous and stuff like that, so that couple, maybe they have experience, can sit there and talk to you and say, hey, we understand, just come and we'll have a great time anyways, don't worry about it, we'll take care of everything, go bada boom bada bing you're good but just don't show up don't ghost people and that's another problem in the lifestyle a lot of couples are ghosting other couples and other singles once that happens you're dead to me and that's it so when couples or club owners talk about good single guys they're talking about men who have earned trust through consistent, respectful behavior.
Think long-term. What you do today at an event can open dozens of doors down the line. I don't know how many times I got emails from I go to a hotel takeover, I go to a house party.
The couple finds my ad, they email, hey, we were there, we didn't get to talk to you whatnot but my wife found you attractive what would be the chances of us getting together that happens a lot so you gotta remember the three r's you know the reputation keep it clean if it's clean you're good all right don't lead with your cock all right it's hard you know you got two brains you got one up top above your ass you got one in between your legs so let's get real for a moment gentlemen shave those cock and balls i know there's a temptation to lead with your cock who what man does it what man doesn't want to walk into a club and just fucking put their cum in every single woman but you can't do that you feel confident you're pumped up you got a good pump at the gym you're ready to jump in but trust me that is always a rookie mistake if it's going to be your first time at the club go there and just chill watch jack off before you go so it gets that poison out of your body or whatnot go and just watch watch.
See the vibe. See what happens there. Because the problem is a lot of clubs, you know, depending on the time of year, the mood, the vibe, it's like a snowflake. You go one Saturday, you go to the club, it's a great time. The next Saturday, you think it's going to be great. The next Saturday, next Saturday you go, it's boring as shit.
It's my experience that, you know, not every club night is the same it's like a snowflake no two snowflakes are alike so showing up as just a walking hard-on isn't attractive it's off-putting like when I go to Colette's I take my date to Colette's we go on hot wife night because we're looking for guys to fuck her and you get the same old guys going back and forth back to the porno room to the front back to the porno room to the front back and forth back and forth when i go as a single guy excuse me i'm going there and posting up somewheres because i don't want to be fucking that creepy dude that walks around staring at couples and looking at them giving that look if a couple likes me i'm sure the guy will say something hopefully they would or the girl will say something they'll give you that hello you know they'll give you that look they'll stare at you for a while and all that stuff Thank you.
Thank they'll give you that hello you know they'll give you that look they'll stare at you for a while and all that stuff but don't be just doing or being a walking heart on it because it just shows that you are just there for one thing and you know what we're all there for sex but you know people don't want to look like they're sex maniacs or whatever they just they want to feel that you give actually give a shit about them all right couples want to feel comfortable with you they want to feel safe that they're not going to get in trouble or whatever you're not you're not going to fucking cut their heads off and emotionally connected before any physical activities happen now some couples need all this some couples only need one or two of them it just depends on the couple so it's always good to hit the three.
So instead, arrive with charisma, curiosity, and respect. Engage people in real conversation. Listen, don't sit there and talk about how beautiful she is all the time because guess what? You're about the 50th guy to tell her that she has a beautiful ass and beautiful tits. Be different. Say, hey, man, you got some really nice eyebrows. I like how you trim them up. How do you do that?
How do you get that nice little shape there and all that stuff or you got some eyes maybe you know you got some great if she has dimples comment her on when she smiles she has great dimples stuff like that be different because if you're different that will go a longer way than saying oh honey you got some great ass you got a great set of tits You got a great, you know, everything Because every guy in that club says the same fucking thing But you were that guy that talked about her dimples When she smiled She's going to remember you Now maybe you don't get fucked tonight by her But maybe, just maybe she finds you on the internet Or she sees you at the club the next week And she fucks you So, bring that fucking charm Bring that charisma Engage in real conversation Get to know them I don't have to ask them everything about you know their kids or the kids how the kids what grades are getting stuff like that or anything like that but talk about their past talk about how'd you get into the lifestyle you know who's i i love knowing whose ideal was it out of the couple who decided to do it and i always tell hey don't tell me wait a minute i want to take a guess uh was it his ideal and they're like oh yeah or i say it's her ideal they go yeah it's her ideal and all that stuff and it's just a great way to get to know people more on a on a level where it's just not about sex is about other things all right your main goal is to fuck my main goal is to have sex and make her feel great like she's the only woman on the planet that and all that so you know you might say i'm like being a hypocrite yeah i am being a hypocrite but i'm just saying that sometimes sometimes you do hit it off with a couple and you do become friends with them like i said i have many couples that i have friends with right now because you know i went there to go get sex but i ended up with a friend so be able to talk about other things talk about their work you know and all that stuff see if they maybe they have an interesting job some people do especially you know you go around you know you go to the clubs out in pennsylvania dc washington dc area you might have fucked might be one of the goddamn congressmen you're fucking wife's you're fucking something like that so you just don't know all right when the vibe is right the rest falls your confidence will come from connection not just your erection all right so presentation matters your body matters what you wear you only get one chance to do a first impression ladies and gentlemen and in swinging first impressions often come before you even say a word of course like i said if you dress like a shit you're not touching my girl because god your dick probably smells especially if you're uncut you know you get that dick cheese from the uncircumcised dude and shit like that you got to show that you're clean you can be trusted and stuff like that how you dress how you carry yourself and your grooming send a very large message keep it clean neat and appropriate for the environment avoid flashy or overly sexualized clothing at the start it can scare people off at first now later in the day you want to put in a costume you know some of the guys put on costumes the ladies change lingerie you can do that but at first walking in don't be having the assless chaps on you know wait a couple hours dress to show you respect the space and the people in it this doesn't mean you have to wear a suit but put thought into your look i always wear suits like i said i always wear suits because i want to distinguish myself from everybody else people will know me as a suit guy or whatnot when i go to the hotel takeover at keller people love my suit they love my suits and they love my robe that i have that i put on after a couple hours in the suit.
That's my thing. So I figure out ways to get people, and that's a conversation starter, guys. A lot of girls, it's nice and fluffy, the girls love to feel it, they feel me up, and they touch my cock and see if they like my cock, and you know what, it works, I get laid.
So good presentation conveys that you take yourself seriously and you take the lifestyle seriously uh you know people i don't know i don't know what's happening i don't know what's going on anymore things like that because i noticed that more and more people are dressing worse and worse especially the guys even some of the women will come in they got pants on and things like that you know what some some women look sexy in pants stuff like that maybe they're on their period that's fine but for the gentleman there's no excuse you got to be able to dress nice like i said you don't have to wear a suit you got to feel what's comfortable for you and when you do wear something make sure it fits your body you don't have to wear a suit.
You've got to feel what's comfortable for you. And when you do wear something, make sure it fits your body. You don't want to be wearing baggy-ass clothes. If you've got a good body, show the fucking thing. Guys, if you've got six-pack abs and nice big arms, show that shit off. Women like that shit. They sit there and say, oh, no, they don't. They're bullshitting you. They do like it. So show it off.
If you've got a fucking huge-ass beard gut, make sure you wear a shirt that covers your beard gut so it doesn't look like a shelf and stuff like that make sure you wear clothes that fit your body and stuff like that like i said you don't need a whole wardrobe you need two outfits just buy two outfits you can get all these outfits under a hundred dollars I'm the cheap of the cheap. I go to get my, people ask me how many suits I go. I got about 20 suits. They go, that must be expensive.
I go, no, I don't pay nothing more than $75 for my three-piece suits. Because you know why? I go on Amazon and I buy them. I found a store that sells the suits I like, the sizes that fit me the best. And I just go shopping there. You do the same thing. Go to fucking Walmart. Walmart has some good dress stuff you can make into stuff. You go to TJ Maxx, Burlington Coat Factory, Target, shit. Go wherever it's cheap. Go, hey, go to your thrift store.
Shit, buy some old shit that someone didn't want anymore. It might fit you well.
Do't be shy to look good all right respect the club rules gentlemen every club or lifestyle event has its own set of rules sometimes unwritten but strictly enforced respecting these rules is crucial they're designed to create a safe and an enjoyable environment for everyone single men what i don't like about single men is sometimes is that there's no single men in the playroom but how somehow i listen i don't understand how they weasel their way in without getting in trouble like i i'm on the uh secret hideaway reddit page and i see couples bitch about single guys in the playroom on a friday saturday night and i'm like i thought single men cannot get in the playrooms that day.
I thought it was only Tuesday. And for some reason, there are single men in the playroom. And I'm like, are we sure they're single men? Or are they just the wives get them in and their wives take off? I think that's what it is. But still, even if it is single men, respect that club rules. You don't want to get banned from a club.
You don't want to get in trouble with the club and if you couple sees you in there they might not like that you're in there maybe they want to be away from single guys for a while then they want to work up build up and they go get a single guy later on excuse me but i just don't understand you've got to respect the rules that they have a dress code respect the dress code no one respects the dress code anymore he's not in texas anymore i noticed that and people just differently and adjustment and you know what it's also on the club don't listen no i'm not giving those single guys all the blame there are clubs that do not enforce their own dress policy and then their own fucking rules for whatever reason but those clubs shame on you you gotta read respect the rules gotta hold the rules for everyone couples and single men all right so remember if they have a no single guy policy in the playrooms don't go in those playrooms don't be that guy so things things that you should you know respect the no means no always respect apologies immediately if it's an orgy ask the lady if it's okay to fucking fuck her or eat her out or lick her pussy or touch her do that just say and you know what maybe she says no maybe she don't want you that orgy or whatnot who knows all right follow the dress code and conduct policies if you're new to the club single guys ask where can i go as a single guy are there any rooms that are off limits and stuff like that So, let's go.
Follow the dress code and conduct policies. If you're new to the club single guys, ask, where can I go as a single guy? Are there any rooms that are off limits and stuff like that? Ask that. Things like that. Be mindful of privacy and consent. Always ask to touch. Don't just assume that you can. Address the privacy.
if the door is open i guess some of the rules use rules are usually that you can go in if the door is half open you can watch if the door is shut don't be trying to open up the doors i know there's a lot of douchebags like you go to uh some porn theaters and stuff like that guys will try to open the doors and it's usually this typical type of guy that always does it this tickle stereotypical single guys but you know don't do that if the door shut leave it shut if the curtains are shut don't open the curtains of watch and shit like that just be respectful respect designated areas some clubs some clubs separate the seagulls couples and have private rooms so just respect that listen your day might come where you get a girl that wants to swing with you and all that stuff so remember you treat couples how you would want to be treated as a couple by another single guy i love bringing in single guys for my play time with my partner all right but what happens is a lot of you dudes turn her off because the way you act towards her or you do stupid stuff she don She don't like it when you guys walk back and forth.
Sit up, post up, have a conversation. It's okay. Things like that, all right? When you're in the private rooms, she don't want to see you open up the curtains or try to open the doors. She gets annoyed by that. So you kind of ruin the vibe, guys. And here, I am one of those guys.
I'm a stag vixen type of couple relationship and i'm trying to get you guys laid and you fuck it up don't push your agenda or pressure any couples you know talk to them after a while say hey you know i think your wife is awesome i get a good vibe from you guys so if you want we can go back to the rooms and we go play uh we don't have to do it now we can do it later but i just want to know that let you know that i'm interested in playing with your wife and you watch it or you join it in and stuff like that whatever their dynamic is and let it out there they have this chance to say yes or no that's it if they say yes all right say when would you like to go back and let them decide remember it's not about you it's about them all right so breaking rules can get you banned or labeled that guy and no one wants to be want that kind of reputation some guys i think some guys do i don't know i don't know all right so it is what it is make sure follow these follow my advice guys you're going to get laid unless you're really a troll and you're going to get laid.
Unless you're really a troll and you ain't going to get laid anyways. So conversation will go a long way, gentlemen. Never underestimate the power of good conversation. And also, you know, I want to say something. Couples, if you're listening to this too, you can do the same thing. Just put it as a couple. Because couples, conversation goes a long way with another couple. So in the lifestyle, communication isn't just a nicety. It's necessary.
As a single guy, being able to connect on a personal level, showing unique, genuine interest, asking questions, and reading social cues will open many doors. Now, there are couples, I will say, that don't give a fuck about a conversation.
He just wants to see his wife get pounded by all the guys that she can at a club those are great couples then there are couples that you need to wine and dine them you need to talk to them show them that you care about them that's where you that's where you have to set up and read the room read the social cues some couples don't give a shit like i said you i've been in this lifestyle over 20 years i've seen couples walk into a club and you know they put away their stuff they have a drink and 30 minutes later after they enter the club she's in the back and she's got her wig spread open for whoever wants to fuck her no conversation no nothing just whatever then i have couples where they spend four or five hours talking to a person before they even play so it's just you got to be able to read the room read the social cues use conversation to build trust show them the respect and find mutual interest humor empathy and listening skills go a long way what happens if you and the husband have the same job type and all that that can really get your foot in the door so if he doesn't know that he's don't really care about you yet but then you tell him yeah i work in the oil industry i work for the oil industry and you got you kind of know the same companies and stuff or you even know the same people that might get you in the door to get to your wife his wife's panties so just be able to talk about everything and anything not just about sex and how hot his wife is now you do that what happens if they reject you accept rejection gracefully do not get upset when you walk into a club certain couples don't won't even fuck with you there are couples that are strictly black only there are couples strictly white only there are couples will do anything but black guys there are couples that won't do anything that's under six foot you have to be tall you have to be you know can't be bald can't have facial hair gotta be clean cut stuff like that so the minute you walk in you already are eliminated by some couples because of the preferences that they have and it's preferences not racism guys preferences so don't get upset because they reject you you might just not be their type you might not be what they're looking for but you might be someone else's what they're looking for so don't take it personal rejection as a single guy and as a couple you are going to get rejected there are very few couples in this lifestyle that don't get rejected there are hot looking couplesples that look like supermodels get rejected by people for whatever reasons.
Maybe couples don't think they're really interested in them or they're just intimidated by their looks. But remember, single men, out of 100 couples, you are going to probably get rejected 95 to 99 times. It's that one couple that says yes, it gets you in the door. And how you handle it says a lot about your character. If you go off and they go, fuck you, it's your loss, whatever, to them, that says a lot more about you than that couple.
Now, to me, I had that attitude of, fuck, you know, they don't want, listen, if a couple don't want to play with me because the way I look, okay, well, that's their loss. I see it as their loss. But I'm not going to be pissed off at it. I'm not going to say, well, you're a loser and stuff like that. And I've seen that happen where guys would get pissed off and call their names and shit.
I've seen it where a white couple told a black guy they don't want to play with them, and he'd start playing the race card and shit like that.
You know, to me, that just says, and that turns a lot of other couples off because other couples are hearing this shit so don't do it just say okay thank you you know and if you ever and just say hey jack and jill if you ever change your mind i'm here i'm here for you i got you and have a good night you or you know what you really do do do what I do, well, okay, so what are you looking for, you got a certain type, and sometimes they'll talk to you, because maybe they're newbies, like when I worked at Caliente, I would, I worked in the fuck rooms at Caliente, when they were open, and I would talk to couples, because obviously the couples will be dead, everyone's naked, everyone's fucking, and there'll be just a couple that walk around and go, what are you guys looking for and they'll tell me i go oh i got a couple just for you come on i i know a couple that you'll like and i introduce them they go off the room they fuck and i get a 20 tip from them but you know what they weren't looking for me they were looking for something else but i took it graciously then i would see them again and they were always you know and they were you know talk to me and you know show respect and talk good about me to other couples and stuff like that so you just don't know so if you get rejected just say okay no problem you know if i can help you at any other way let me know no one owes you anything in swinging other than if they got herpes and shit if a couple or individual isn't interested don't push or get defensive about it you'll be okay trust me dudes you're gonna be all right there's plenty of women you know black guys your splash mocha tons of white chicks looking to fuck black guys there stuff like that so don't worry about it you're gonna find things guys you're gonna find a hot wife party somewhere.
Say thank you, smile, and move on. Remember, rejection in the lifestyle isn't just part of the game. It's not a personal attack. Remember, also when you get ejected, don't hang around a lot. Don't keep going back and forth trying to convince them to fuck you. You say, okay, thank you. Like I said, what are you looking for? Are you looking for anything in particular? They might say yes. They might say no. They might say, okay, nothing. That's when you leave. That's when you say, okay, thank you.
Have a wonderful night. Let me know if you change your mind, and that's it. And just walk away. Don't hang out with them. Don't be a hanger-on-er. Handling rejection with grace actually improves your reputation. It shows maturity and emotional intelligence, guys. And that's the one thing I think a lot of guys have to step up in. Even couples, their emotional intelligence. Know when to step back and when to follow up. Timing is everything. Sometimes stepping back is the best move.
If you sense that a couple or group isn't ready or isn't feeling your vibe, respect that and take a step back. On the flip side, if you've had good conversation or some positive singles, follow up later in a respectful way. It's your chance to show genuine interest. Don't be pushy. Don't disappear entirely. Either balance is key, all right? And finally, remember to enjoy the experience. Yes, swinging has its rules and lots of fucking challenges, people.
But it's fundamentally about connection, exploration, and pleasure. Don't obsess over the outcome or to put too much pressure on yourself. Because guess what? Your dick goes limp. Your dick is limp. And you're the limp dick bitch.
Have fun meeting new people., hell you can even find someone that can give you a job maybe around you can make connections through that learning about yourself what you like and embracing this exciting lifestyle on your own terms ladies and gentlemen so thanks so much for tuning in to this episode of the Swing and Single Podcast. I hope today's guide helps you single men and even couples.
I hope what I talk about helps you get into the mind of a single guy in couples, whether you're starting out or just trying to level up. To navigate the lifestyle with respect and success, don't forget to subscribe, share, and reach out on social media. Swingandinglepodcast.com, swinginsinglepodcast at gmail.com. I love hearing your stories and questions. Until next time, this is AC Maxwell signing off. Stay respectful, stay curious, and keep swinging. We'll be right back.
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