Good morning, good afternoon, good evening, wherever you are. Welcome to "That Other Lifestyle Podcast." I'm your host, Jason, and today we're diving into a crucial topic: maintaining your marriage in the lifestyle. This episode isn't about testing, protection, safety, or consent—though those are all important—but rather about ensuring your relationship with your spouse remains strong amidst the lifestyle's unique challenges. We’ll explore the different types of intimacies—physical, emotional, and romantic—and why maintaining these with your spouse is vital. We’ll discuss the importance of communication, avoiding secrets, and why prioritizing your marriage is paramount. From practical advice on flirting and the double-up technique to the significance of reclaim sex, this episode covers various strategies to keep your marital connection strong. We’ll also touch on the value of marriage counseling, dealing with jealousy, and protecting your relationship from external drama. Join us as we navigate the complexities of maintaining a healthy, loving relationship in the lifestyle. My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.com National Lifestyle Weekend Tickets Naughty in New Orleans 2025 Tickets Single Men's Guide to the Lifestyle Course https://beacons.ai/thatotherlifestyle Risque Lifestyle Parties SDC.com
Transcript
good morning good afternoon good evening wherever you are i hope you have blue skies and let's talk about a really deep topic today welcome to that other lifestyle podcast i'm your host, Jason. Leave vanilla behind as we dive into this wild lifestyle. We need to talk about the most important aspect of the lifestyle today. It ain't testing or protection or safety or consent, though all of those are super important too. Today, we'll be talking about maintaining your marriage in the lifestyle.
Are you new to the lifestyle? You stumbled onto this show and wondering what the next step is? Go to my website, thatofthelifestyle.com, and you can sign up for a trial account of SDC. Courses. I always talk about my courses. Why courses? Given my show's subject matter, I have no chance in hell of ever getting monetized. You ever watch a YouTube video or you listen to another podcast after you've listened to mine and you get an ad just dropped in randomly?
That's monetization via dynamic ad insertion. The platform provides the commercials and the creator gets a cut. Since I talk about sex and fun stuff and ethical non-monogamy, yeah, I will probably never ever get a cut of that sweet, sweet, easy money. Now, if I had a podcast that described gory crimes, true crime, all that bullshit in graphic detail, blood and gore everywhere, they would just throw money at it. But I don't. I talk about sex. Long explanation for why I do courses.
I have the Single Men's Guide to the Lifestyle course available right now. Next month, this is September 2024, so October. So if you're listening to in the future, hey, it's already out. Next month, I will be launching the Men's Guide to Flirting in a Lifestyle. This course will help all the men out there who forgot how to flirt, need help flirting, and most importantly, how to tell if a woman is flirting with you. Last item to tell everybody about, National Lifestyle Weekend.
It is set for July 19th through the 21st, 2025 in Las Vegas in the U.S. This thing keeps on growing. We've had over 11,000 people RSVP for this epic three-day party. We're going to have topless pools and after parties all over Las Vegas. Tickets are on sale now. There's a link on my website, thatonthelivestyle.com, if you're interested in purchasing your tickets right now. Please know this podcast is intended only for adults. It is not safe for work.
We will talk about adult or sexual topics, and I'm going to use salty language often. This content is for entertainment purposes only, and again, only for those over 18 years of age. I also try to be as inclusive with my language and my terms as I can. It can be challenging to formulate and write and say all the inclusive terms in every instance. For simplicity's sake and time management, I may use terms like husband or wife or partner or spouse for the purpose of the narrative I am sharing.
This podcast is for everyone though, no matter your background, gender identity, gender expression, or whatever truth you may be living. Everyone is welcome no matter how you personally enjoy the lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy. A question to start us off. What do you do in the lifestyle to maintain your marriage with your spouse?
Assuming you're already married or you're in a long-term relationship as participants in the LS, what do you do every day to ensure that your partner knows they are your emotional and romantic epicenter? What have you done this week, this day, this hour to let your spouse know how much they mean to you, how they are more important than everything else in the lifestyle? How do you connect with your spouse in that deep, meaningful level that no one else can?
What have you done to show and express to your spouse that they fulfill all the three intimacies for you and to you? I have talked about the different kinds of intimacies before. Physical, emotional, and romantic. Physical intimacy is connecting physically. That one is super easy to get. Beyond sex, it encompasses hugs and kisses and holding hands all the time. Emotional intimacy is the friendship and the vulnerability.
You can be friends with another person and vulnerable with them, but your spouse should be your best friend and the person you can be the most open with. Romantic intimacy, that's love. Either that giddy new love where you want to spend every minute with them or the love you feel for them seeing them come home from work for the 10,000th time at the end of the day, and they still make you smile. Simple over simplification explanations here, but y'all get the point.
For people in the lifestyle, we have physical intimacy with other people, but we draw the line at emotional or romantic intimacy, which is different than the polyamory world. And I guess this advice I'm going to talk about today, it also applies to polyamory people too. If you aren't married, it's okay. Stick around. This is still super important for everyone inside and outside the LS. Don't get it twisted, please. I ain't just talking to married people.
This can and does include those in long-term relationships, even those who don't have a ring on their finger to formalize the union. Y'all are still welcome and valid in this discussion. This is really, it's about maintaining your relationship with your partner in the world of the lifestyle, whatever that looks like. In a lifestyle, your relationship with your partner is the most important thing, element, aspect of all of this. Full stop. You must maintain and nurture that connection above all.
It ain't just sex. It ain't the dating or the texting or the parties or whatever else the lifestyle throws at you. Staying grounded together. That's it. That's right there. Figuring out how to communicate, connect, and maintain that connection. Focus on that. We're going to talk about that today, especially after a sexual encounter with another couple. The connection we need in the lifestyle is different than vanilla marriages.
We need to be fully connected with our spouse so that when we do shag another couple, we know that connection is still there and they support what we're doing. And I know that was a very deep thought that I stated very poorly. In the vanilla world, if a person has sex with someone else, it is considered cheating 99.99% of the time. I respect that. Oddly, kind of, sort of, in the lifestyle, too, depending on how you look at it. That's a whole other discussion.
In the lifestyle, having sex with someone else, for us, is just a Tuesday. It's a regular old Tuesday night. In the vanilla world, sex is considered one of the pinnacles of connection, a physical commitment reserved for only one person. For us in the lifestyle, physical intimacy does not factor into the connection equation in the same way. Physical intimacy is important, but we have a whole different viewpoint on this.
We can be physically intimate with other people and not threaten our marriage. And people may bristle or cringe at me associating physical intimacy with the act of sex with others. They think, well, it's not that big of a deal. You're making it out to be more than it really is. But it is kind of a big deal. To be physically intimate with another person is one of the ultimate vulnerabilities in life.
To be naked with another person takes courage and a willingness to share this aspect of ourselves, the physical aspect that we normally hide under clothes all day. To be touched by another person should require a level of trust. It needs some level of connection. Albeit tentative or brief, you are still connecting with another person, literally, like genitally wise. For people in the lifestyle, we are secure in our connection with our spouse in a different way than a vanilla marriage.
And no, this is not going to make any damn sense to vanilla people. Let me share one of the differences that I see between vanilla and lifestyle marriages. Broad generalizations here, so please don't get offended if you think you're one of those special few that this does not apply to. There's a particular kind of humor I cannot fucking stand, be it a stand-up comedian, memes, sitcoms, whatever the format, where a married couple straight up insults each other.
Maybe the husband is portrayed as a bumbling buffoon, or the wife is portrayed as ditzy, and only the husband can save her from all these hilarious situations. The husband, picking on men right here, might be shown to be terrible at caring for children. Or the wife drives around for weeks with a check engine light on because she didn't think it was important, thereby implying a lack of mechanical intelligence.
Maybe it's a meme where one person's having a conversation with someone else and they're just dropping straight fire insults on their partners. I don't like it. Don't insult your spouse. They're supposed to be the love of your life. Treat them like it. But, haha, Jason, this is all in good fun. Okay, yeah, but that good fun, after years and years of that bullshit, turns toxic. It becomes the default brain setting in a married couple.
Instead of seeing each other as the amazing humans you were when you met, that toxic mindset corrodes that once golden statue of a person you married into a tarnished lump of copper and slag. Every time you see them, instead of seeing them as the being, the person you love and are worthy of love, you see them with resentment and disappointment. And damn it, I'm being depressing right now. Dropping a truth problem right here.
In the lifestyle and all the interactions I have had with men specifically, husbands, and it's been a bunch. There's only been one time I can think of as I was writing the script, has a man ever insulted his wife? And maybe this dude thought it was just good nature fun.
And I can tell you right now right now nobody liked it when they did it everyone just gave him this look like you dumb motherfucker we as men in the LS do not insult our wives in any way we treat them as goddesses every single man I know and associate with and I don't it does and I don't associate with men who do not treat their wives like goddesses.
In the vanilla world, you get five guys together, they're watching baseball or sports and there's a silent signal where they all will start bitching about their wives. Not all the time. It totally happens and you know what happens because you've been a part of it. Same thing with women. Y'all ain't getting off on this easy. Get a bunch of women together, a bunch of wives together and they will all just start bitching about their husbands. Are they all collectively really that unhappy?
Probably not. Maybe it's just a societal expectation to engage in this behavior. The lifestyle though, we are a whole different society and culture. Newbies out there, specifically y'all, insults, good nature picking. Yeah, don't fucking do that. Your spouse will be the greatest wing person, man, woman, wing woman, cheerleader, confidant, and emotional rock you have. You will treat them with respect and kindness. Why does this happen in the vanilla world?
One of my personal theories, a piece of this is the erosion of the act of maintaining a marriage. Life gets in the way, I get it, and without a relief valve of some sort, that external pressure weighs on a marriage. Demands from your job, kids, money, time, taxes, health, the washing machine broke, the roof needs changing, the dog is sick, stuff. All of that corrodes this once beautiful relationship until two people, they're just going through the motions. I say relief valve.
I am not advocating for anyone to join the lifestyle as a way to fix their marriage or provide relief for unhappiness. I never will do that. The lifestyle is not here for that. Pick up a mutual hobby like hang gliding or knitting before you ever think about getting into the lifestyle. It is much less stressful and there are much less stressful and chaotic hobbies out there to try first.
Maintaining our marriages, either vanilla or Ella's, for the long term because marriage, as unpopular as it sounds, I believe should be a lifelong commitment. Yeah, again, life happens, shit happens, and it may not work out that way, but we can try. I know growing up, I always heard the statistic that over half of all marriages end to divorce. This was like the late 1990s-ish. And guess what?
That statistic- I know growing up, I always heard the statistic that over half of all marriages end a divorce. This was like the late 1990s-ish. And guess what? That statistic is wrong now. The divorce rate has dropped in the past 20 years. So there's some good news today. In the lifestyle, we maintain our marriages a little bit differently. We have different factors and variables to contend with, like physical intimacy from other couples.
We willingly, and it better be fucking willingly, open our marriages to new connections with people. Those new connections lead to new interactions that nobody ever prepared us for. We face different threats. Maybe that word threat is a little too harsh, but it gets my point across. Physical intimacy, realistically, is just a hop, skip, and a jump away from romantic intimacy. Some couples and people see a happy marriage in the lifestyle.
They can't figure out how to make their own marriage happy, so they decide to attempt to take or ruin someone else's. Maintaining our marital connection helps us deal with and navigate all of these external variables. Sounds all fucking great, Jason, but what does it mean? Real concrete advice, because that's why you tune in, right? The practical advice. All right, let's talk about what you can do today, right now, to strengthen the connection you have with your spouse. First up, flirting.
Do you flirt with your spouse? Do you tell your husband he's sexy every day? Do you try to sneak peeks at your wife's boobs every chance you get? Because I do. I know a couple. They have been together for 27 years and they still flirt like they're newlyweds. It is adorable and inspirational. The husband of this couple, he will profess often and loudly how lucky he is.
For the wife, the way she looks at her husband will melt a a glacier they flirt and they giggle and you can see this real love between them that expression of love communicating their happiness continuing to remind each other each day how attractive they find the other person desirable wanted needed we need more of that in this world y''all. Every marriage needs more of that. We need more outward expressions of love and less TikToks. We need affirmations of love and less true crime podcasts.
Fuck those true crime podcasts. And a simple first step in all this is flirting. It is often an overlooked aspect of marriage in general. People settle into routines, bodies age, we get tired, life wears on us. Do not stop flirting with your spouse. Make them feel special every day. As an offshoot of this, I offer up the double up technique. I'm getting better at naming my techniques. Whatever you do with another person in the lifestyle, you do double for your spouse.
If you have sex with someone else, do your spouse double. If you send a nude to another person, send your spouse too. Do you send nudes to each other? There's a question. Like special, super spicy nudes that you don't share with anybody else? Do that. Send texts of love and affirmation and titties all day long. Little actions like that add up and help to maintain a marriage. Communication.
I talk all the time and is still just as important you will hear other thought leaders podcasters people in this lifestyle space we all talk about this the reason we talk about it so much is because it's so fucking important you have to must have need clear lines of communication to stay connected and maintain your marriage. No grunting, no pointing, no passive-aggressive bullshit. Use your words.
You have to be able to talk about what makes you comfortable, uncomfortable, things you like, things you dislike. And your spouse or you have to be receptive in these conversations. If an issue with the lifestyle or marriage in general comes up, you have to be receptive to the conversation. When you are married, two becomes one. You and your spouse are now one entity. You are no longer separate people, but one married couple. Issues should no longer be you versus your spouse.
Problems and arguments should be how we together can overcome this issue. It's us against the world. And I know this is easier said than done. I get that. Remember in the lifestyle, you're operating as a unit. You deal with issues, give consent, and get naked as a unit. Whatever your particular rules are, rock on, have fun together as a unit. The one thing that will destroy a unit, though, in the lifestyle is secrets. You ever work in a place where there's that one jackass who knows everything?
They know where the extra copier paper is. They know how to do a process. Nobody else knows. They know the stockroom like the back of their hand. Everyone goes to them for help because they seem to know everything, right? Yeah, fuck that guy. Let me tell you why. They're keeping secrets.
Instead of cross-training everyone, they hoard all the knowledge to themselves like the minted goblins because in their mind, they're now valuable to the company because they know their secrets and where everything is in the stockroom, in the break room, and they're unfireable. I'm not sure if that's a word because they're unfireable, untouchable because they know everything. No, you're not. You're fucking keeping secrets from everybody else. No one likes that guy.
It's the same with the marriage. Don't keep secrets from your spouse. Good rule for this. All texts and communication are completely open. Either you got a four-way chat with another couple, or if you do have side chats, the other spouse, my wife, can look at my chats anytime they want. No questions asked, just hand them the phone. Remember, you're operating as a unit, and secrets creep in when you don't. Secrets destroy marriages.
Secrets breathe resentment and open the door to let in all these nasty cracks. This is going to be a hot take. This is a crazy idea, but it could help somebody. Go to marriage counseling. Y'all can go to counseling even if you have a great marriage. Think of it like a tune-up. You can learn new communication techniques, work through any hidden resentment or lingering issues. Do not be afraid of getting help, especially mental health help.
It does not mean your marriage is in trouble all too often couples will wait until it is way too fucking late to seek out professional help do not wait until it is too late for your marriage i know there's older generations out there that think that getting any kind of mental help is a weakness or a deficiency like somehow you're bad or you're not strong enough to handle life. They are fucking wrong, y'all.
Going to a marriage counseling, going to any kind of counseling is a sign of strength because you're recognizing there's an issue and a problem and you're willing to work on it, not just hide it, not just put into a jar and bury deep in the backyard. It is two people saying together, we need help or we want help or maybe we just need to work on communicating. It's a sign of strength. It is a sign of commitment to your marriage.
The stereotype that only marriages on the rocks go to counseling needs to fucking stop. Granted, you may not need it. You might think you don't need it. That's fine. I just want to let people know there is no shame in seeking help. If you do decide to seek out help and you're in the lifestyle, look for a therapist that is certified in ethical non-monogamy or consensual non-monogamy. They do exist. They are trained to speak our language and approach marriages in an ENM healthy manner.
Think about it. In the lifestyle, we may have sex with another couple. That's not an issue at the fuck all. In a traditional vanilla marriage, that means straight to divorce town. We deal with issues differently and jealousy works differently. And having a professional who knows how to handle this lifestyle, huge plus. Like I said, jealousy works differently. And oddly though, the same in the lifestyle. We may not get jealous if our spouse says another person is attractive.
We're not intimidated by that at all. We could get jealous if an interpersonal relationship with another couple crosses an established line, like going into secret territory off to the side, just two people, not four people. That's when shit gets weird and bad. In the vanilla world, there are people who will go apeshit if their spouse gets a nude from someone. For us, it's just another Thursday. In the vanilla world, these couples go apeshit if one of them looks at porn. Oh my God.
Jealousy is real and kicking in the lifestyle. I can't deny that. What matters is how we deal with it. The way you deal with it is communicating. Yes, it is uncomfortable to tell your husband that you feel a conversation with another woman makes you jealous or cross the line, but you need to do it. You and your spouse have to break down feelings of jealousy, figure out the triggers, recalibrate your personal rules, and move forward.
Another key to maintaining your marriage is protecting your castle. Protect your castle or marriage unit. Castle sounds so much better in this instance. So I'm going to remember that. From the drama of others. Protect your castle from being dragged into the drama of others. Y'all, the lifestyle can be messy. Drama! We're swapping partners, which naturally leads to swapping drama. Best advice here is if you start slinging shit, eventually you get covered in shit.
You will encounter married couples that are just full of drama. They enjoy that shit. You will encounter couples that have no business in the lifestyle based on the amount of drama they're bringing with them. Like so much baggage they put in airport to shame. Their marriage is rocky. They're trying to fix their marriage in air quotes. They can't stand each other. They don't like each other. They get jealous. Oh, this list could just keep going.
People with bad marriages, again, in air quotes, are not good candidates for the lifestyle. They tend to see themselves out the fucking door really quick. I have been asked by vanilla friends about bad couples in the lifestyle. Specifically, what do we do if we encounter a batshit crazy couple? You go on a date, and turns out that other couple, batshit crazy. That's the technical term for it, batshit. Honestly, they tend to disappear.
At the first sign of batshit behavior, we're out, we bounce, and we just cut off contact. We don't need that in our lives. And other couples will encounter that behavior, and they're going to cut them off too. Eventually, the batshit couple either settles the fuck down or they stop being in the lifestyle. Whatever issues they bring into the LS, they're going to get magnified 10 times. Probably going to break their marriage, which honestly ain't my problem.
Going back to not getting dragged into the drama of others, it ain't my problem. And I don't want to be a part of it. Don't let the drama in other people's marriages impact yours. Here's a scenario that happens. This is just an example, and it could easily flip around to the other genders. Two couples. We got the A couple, we got the B couple. They go on a date, they hit it off. A few days later, wife A starts texting husband B on the side, complaining about husband A.
Oh, look at that, secret communications. Those are bad. Then husband A wants to go off alone with wife B, and then someone catches the feels. A solid marriage in the LS. Ain't got no room for the feels to develop. We can be friends, but no one wants to replace their spouse with someone else. The A couple in this example, y'all, they got problems. They got marriage problems. That couple, the A couple, they're looking at B couple to fix their marriage problems.
And in the end, they try to break up a healthy marriage with their own drama when what they really need is some therapy. See what I'm saying? The drama of other couples, people can and they will try to drag you and your spouse into it. Just stay out of it. Stay the hell out of it. You just kick them down the curb. We are not here to fix anyone else's marriage. Focus on your own marriage, keeping your spouse connected and happy.
Everyone needs to prioritize their own marriage, either vanilla or lifestyle. You need to make time for each other. If you go on one date a week with another couple, make sure you go on a date with your spouse as well. My wife and I, we have date night. Usually Friday night after work, we go out to dinner, we turn off the phones and we're just together. The best gift though you can give someone ever is your time.
You can make more money and you can buy more stuff, but time, time is the one resource we can never create more of, and giving your time and attention, that's important too. That is the greatest act of love I can think of between two people. How many times have you hung out with another person and they're just glued to their phone? Their attention is split between you, the real life person in front of them, and whatever the fuck's happening on their cell phone. How'd it make you feel?
Kind of shitty, right? This other person doesn't care about the time and the attention you're giving? Yeah, don't do that to people. Respect people enough to put down the fucking phone and be present with them. Double so for your spouse. Show your spouse they are a priority for you in any moment by paying attention to them. And another fucking thing, check-ins. Make time to check in with your spouse. Just blanket advice for everybody here.
It does not just have to be about fuckery or the fuckery we just had or the fuckery we're going to have. Checking in with your spouse about how they feel, how they're doing mentally, physically, emotionally. Again, we usually think of doing check-ins leading up to or immediately after an encounter, but you can do them whenever you want, as often as you want. There's no rules, bitches. Broad guidelines for check-ins.
On frequency, prior to any sexual encounter, post-sexy encounter, the day after a sexy encounter, and at least weekly, or whenever you want, because you're an adult and you can do whatever you want. Did you know as an adult you can buy a birthday cake whenever you want? It does not have to be your birthday. They don't check or card you. So go buy that cake and check in with your spouse whenever you feel the need. The best time to do a check-in? Man, usually not the end of the day before dinner.
Low blood sugar is a thing. There's a study I found, and of course I't find it again that most couples have fights between three and six in the afternoon. The researchers hypothesized it had something to do with low blood sugar and being hangry. You know that anger brought on by being hungry. Make time to check in when you are both relaxed.
The day is done or at least everything is settled so you can spend 10 to 20 minutes talking without interruptions and it needs to be a safe space and time so you both know that you're going to be heard and listened to. Damn it, Jason. This sounds like so much work. Because it is, man. Prioritizing your marriage is work. Maintaining your marriage is work. But it is worthy and it is good work. To our vanilla audience, I am now going to share a secret term we have in the lifestyle.
Y'all know, I know y'all are just here for secrets. Oh yeah, we don't have any secret symbols, so stop asking. Are you ready? Here we go. The secret is reclaim sex. Often, those of us in the lifestyle will get asked, and rightfully so, what do you do after you play with another couple? Side tangent here, that word play. I don't like it. It is part of the vernacular lifestyle, as in we are playing with another couple.
The sexual act we engage in with other people can, and it's called playing by people. I don't like it. The term just rubs me weird, and I can't put my finger on it. Maybe because it trivializes the act in my mind, though in the mind of others the act is so simplistic and natural and easy, playing sounds like the right term. To say we engage in playing with another couple, that might just be a cute replacement for the real term. Sex. We have sex with other couples. We fuck.
We fuck like wild animals crashing through a forest. But I guess play is a safe neutral term, so it's more of that coded language. I don't like it, but I'm going to use it and it's the same thing with the term swinger I don't like the term my lifestyle associates nobody likes that term but I use it because you have to use terms that people know and meet them where they are lifestyle is a great alternative term but most vanilla people I guarantee listening to this yall know the term swinging.
So I will use it sparingly and in the context I feel is correct. Anyway, side tangent done. Back to what I was talking about. Reclaim sex. So vanilla people will often ask, what do we do after the fuckery? Like everything's done. You had sex. What do you do? They want to know what action immediately follows the encounter. I promise the answer is not as sexy as anyone assumes. Probably a shower, then a snack, and then reclaim sex. What is reclaim sex?
There's a bunch of different definitions to this. The simple answer, the first sex you have with your partner after sharing them with another. It could happen immediately after. It could happen the next day. Either way, it is fucking amazing on this primal level. You're still horned up from the night, and you want one more release, and you're wanting that release with your partner. It is a glorious and fucking wonderful time. Lifestyle people enjoy reclaimed sex for a lot of different reasons.
None of them are the end-all answer, though. Some people see it as reclaiming their spouse's theirs. I shared this amazing person with another, but they're still mine. Or it could be an intimate reconnection. Two people are coming back together to reunite in marriage and love.
Other people enjoy the sensation of reconnecting, that re-engagement of two bodies that have known each other for a long time, the physical passion that follows a sexy adventure, or as I mentioned, we're still horny and we want more sex. Like so many aspects of the lifestyle, if you're standing on the outside and this sounds like a completely alien concept, oh, it is. I get it. No amount of rambling by me is going to convince you that this is a good thing.
If you've experienced it, you know what I'm talking about. If you are in that weird limbo of, hey, we're in the lifestyle, we stood on our front porch and declared it to the swinger van that drove by yesterday morning, but we have not swapped with another couple and we're looking forward to reclaim sex, I can help you a little bit with that. Reclaim sex, it should be special between a couple. You had fun with other people. Now you are reconnecting with your spouse on a near spiritual level.
Take it seriously. Make it special. Hold each other. Cuddle. Embrace. Kiss. Think of tenderness over brute force. Slow versus frantic. Eye contact over buttholes.
The purpose of it is to to reconnect so yeah look at it like honeymoon sex again yes you get to relive your honeymoon sex all the time and that's super special there is no right way or wrong way or right time or wrong time to have reclaimed sex walking through a hypothetical situation you and your spouse swap with another couple a y'all four go at it for three or four rounds two or three switching up. And then you go back to your respective spouses and bang it out.
You have the reclaimed sex together in the same room with the other couple next to you. You could wait until you're alone again. Other couple's gone home. You and your spouse bang it out. We all are still sweaty and sore and needing one more release for the night. Or you could wait until the next day after y'all have rested up and got some sleep. Spend the whole day texting each other at work, naughty recollections of the night before. Build that tension.
So when you get together again that night after work, that sexual tension that's been building for hours, boom, fireworks. However you and your spouse decide to do it, that's up to you. Try all the different variations. Talk it out. Figure out what you both like. Timing, tension, when, where, and how. Talk it out. Express yourself. Use your words. Share if you like immediately after, or maybe you want to wait a little bit. Share if you want to have multiple rounds of reclaimed sex.
Totally up to you. I always appreciate hearing your feedback and comments on episodes or suggestions or topics, so feel free to reach out to me. Single guys, I got the course. Men, the second course is coming in two weeks or so. Go to thatotherlifestyle.com for more information. My personal disclaimer, I am not a medical professional nor a trained and certified educator of any kind in any way. I am a guy with a microphone sharing my personal experiences with you.
This podcast is for entertainment purposes only, and please join us for the next episode. Whatever you may do today, I hope you have a fantastic time doing it. Know that you are appreciated and loved. Have a great day.
