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In floggers, your soft leathers are generally deer or rabbit. Those are good for sensation, those who aren't into pain, and those learning how to throw a flogger. Mediums are generally elk, moose, suede and horse hair. That is for a more t…
I wouldn't worry so much about the floors. Any wax that ends up on the floors should be solid already so it getting stuck to the hardwood would probably only be from you stepping on it bare foot and your body heat remelting it. Also a dust…
I apologize for the butt hurt that was caused. Since this seems to be about me, here are some more resources I offer... Here are a few books.. For general BDSM knowledge 50 Shades Of Curious: BDSM For Beginners: You've read "Fifty shades o…
Between Single and Mol, this post has turned into "l do" or "I like". This isn't about you. This is about Bull and getting him to resources that he needs to get what he is looking for... I get you are a good Domme, I get that you own your…
@Bull, if you are into BDSM and you identify as a D or an S, you are wired that way. A Pro would 100% be doing it for money. A Pro will be into what you are into but that doesn't mean that they aren't going to do it for pay. A Pro is a sex…
I'm a little late but if you haven't already gotten one check out DeTails Toys. On their website they explain the different types of leather and how they would feel on the skin from low, medium, and high intensity. Quality products that yo…
By all means, if you choose to go to a pro, go to a pro. The best way to get what you are looking for is to pay for it. If you are looking to find a partner to go on a journey with you, don't pay anyone for what you are looking for.
@bull, I apologize for the misread on Dom vs sub but the advice I gave holds true for the sub side of things as it does the Dom. I don't understand the "wired the right way" comment. If you are searching for someone willing, they are wired…
Also, a good start is joining a BDSM social/fourm website like FetLife and joining some D/s style groups to ask questions to people in the lifestyle. You can check your local Mast (Masters and slaves together) chapter. There are 4 in Texas…
I didn't mention sex at all because to some D/s is completely separate from sex.
I am writing this from the perspective of the Top/Dom. The questions you need to ask are, what kind of D/s are you looking for? Is this going to be a casual D/s with an occasional partner for occasional fun or is this going to be a D/s rel…
People... questions are what is supposed to happen. We want our peers to ask questions. As for progression, does it matter that someone goes from feathers to e-stim? Are they being safe? Are they being sane? are they consenting to it? If t…
"normal life scenarios such as diet, exercise, work, personal discipline related things" Can you please be more specific as to what you mean by "behavior modification" To me, this sounds like a D/s or M/s relationship. Generally, these are…
What is an "Aloha Dom"?
::slow clap:: Damn straight
Well than, I apologize officer.
That sucks, but what does that have to do with being a troll? What does the scene changing have to do with saying people are not proper swingers? Because they dont party like you party? They arent in a committed relationship like you are?…
You don't change the commercialization of swinging, you don't bring back the old days, they are gone. Just like kinksters don't change the commercialization of BDSM, 50 Shades is the worst thing to happen to the community in quite some tim…
We completely understand what you are saying about parties. We don't do swinger parties because we don't do group. We also don't like to be the entertainment for people who don't see BDSM on a regular basis. The most we will do is a meetup…
Which Poly type relationship are you interested in? polynotes. tumblr. com/post/47284529122/i-like-how-this-shows-some-more-configurations-for The issue isn't the gender or sexual preference, who you are dating or who you like to fuck, it…
@ncalcouple - are you the swinging police? who are you to tell someone what they are or aren't doing is swinging? According to you "Swinging is having sex with other people beside[s] your other half for the fun and pleasure of sex." is swi…
I accept that BDSM is strange. There are things in swinging culture that I/we, who identify as kinksters first, find strange. However, it isn't our or anyone's job to judge someone's kink because they think its strange or because they dont…
A strap on has two distinct parts. The harness and the insertable. For harness, we recommend a spare parts harness. They are, cloth adjustable and machine washable. You can put any dildo with a wide base in it. As for the insertable, its r…
Why is it swingers are some of the most judgmental people of kinksters?
@AndrewRobin Don't yuck someones yum. You seem to be overgeneralizing the BDSM community and think that your experiences in a goth BDSM environment reflects the experiences and practices of other communities. You seem to think people who g…
