I have been interested in the dynamics of polyamory, but it is rather hard to find the right couple that is stable and committed to such a relationship, and also due to travel on my part because of my university that it makes it rather hard to stay in one area.
I would also like a couple that has a similar educational background, which can be rather hard, but it is not totally necessary.
If Dawn could find a bi top . She would def be interested.
My positive sexual attitude and personality have helped me attract poly individuals. I have involved with such relationships. Many times the connection is wonderful. We have lots of fun physically and mentally.
Hello, my wife and I are both Demisexual meaning we love for the soul of the individual and it is that that drives our passion. As such we are polyamorous, there are too many beautiful souls in the world to restrict the heart to exclusivity. But we do require that connection prior to more discreet activities.
I did this once with longtime friends. It was the best sex I ever had, but not the best relationship. The couple I was with were not on the same page with each other, and I was usually the one to feel the squeeze. They called me family, but I was clearly the dog. After letting them move into my house, it imploded fairly quickly, and I learned some painful lessons.
My bad experience didn't completely destroy my desire for a poly relationship, however it did temper it somewhat. I still desire the challenges and benefits that come with having more than one core partner. And the sex- Oh the mind-blowing sex!
Tread carefully.
For a little historical fiction regarding polyamory I recommend looking at Robert Rimmer's series of books from the 60's and 70's. He's best known for The Harrad Experiment. The Rebellion of Yale Marratt was his first foray into an involved story of a one man, two woman relationship and was followed by Proposition 31, about the legalization of group marriage in California. I met him while in college and contributed to the Harrad newsletter, met with others in the Albany and Boston areas for a few years, exploring the ideas if not the long term lifestyle. Personally I have always been open to and attracted to the idea, but have never really pursued it - more of a 'if it happens, that would be great' attitude.
Maybe this is not quite the definition of a poly relationship but I would like to meet a couple in the Port Charlotte to Naples corridor for a regular relationship. I am primarily interested in a sharing situation. I am not interested in a one and done bed notching but would like to see primarily her and provide her with oral sex. A MFM arrangement would also be nice.
We are very interested and our swingers lifestyle is just a facet of that. My wife and I have been looking for some time for a BBW addition. My wife loves the idea of a "sister wife". When we do find someone, they have no job, often no car, and no ambition. We don't want someone who we feel is just desperate to live off someone else. We are looking for a BBW, or SSBBW who is intelligent, ambitious, employed and moble, who is interested in a long term relationship. Dating first, then move in as a "Sister Wife". If interested please contact us.
good afternoon . we are a 50s bi couple , looking for a female to come live with us poly style in sw florida . were not looking for a sub , but a full partner to share our lives with as well as our sex life . for more information , please contact us , ages 25 and up . prefer non smokers , but are open to discussion . thanks .
I really enjoyed this. We are new to the poly side been lifestyle for years. But We are trying to find that relationship that is on going. Can find lots that wants the sexual part but not the dating.
@ Namaah and qurious, thanks for taking the time to explain this. My mind opened up a whole lot more. You both showed how people we are different, similar and the outcome of what people would like to experience. Thanks for educating us.
I love Namaahs view of poly. I m new to it so it helps to understand what the expectations are as I dig deeper.
I guess I can say as a single male I was involved in a poly relationship with a couple. We met on line and became friends before anything sexual happened. I stayed over night with them and slept in the same bed. His wife and I did go out together and we had a relationship. I was respectful of their relationship and communication was very important. The relationship lasted about 4 yrs until they moved for his work.
It was a good experience and I would do it again.
Men will always be at a disadvantage to women. For men on Swiner/Open/Poly relationships it is necessary to be comfort with the fact a women can find sex much more readily than men...accept that and be patient and persistent and you will find meaningful interactions with others.
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We do want to be appreciated for our bodies and how giving we are...and we do like admiring the beauty in others not just physical... I guess we have a strong sense of loyalty patience and kinship that we would like to express and being included in a relationship with another couple seems like a way for us to feel at home with our strengths, where we could give our best and have it really mean something. We are looking for more places and people that would like to be inclusive towards us - if being more sexual can help make that happen for us then were okay with that, but also expanding our sense of commitment and love seems appealing as well. Without sounding egotistical, our appearance has put us in the position in the past to be treated as an accessory rather than as individuals. The casual sex or better FWBs of swinging sounds fun and we will probably enjoy it, theres just something about the idea of being on a bigger team as two couples that sounds comforting and empowering. We're tired of being marginalized and are finding that tapping into our sexuality is helping us develop our personalities, if this can help us have more friends and lovers and meaningful connections then we are willing to go there.
There is a story I have, about a group that I worked with for a few years ago...and I returned recently with my wife to find everyone is totally different and not in a good way. I felt really connected to that group, and went on with my life from there with them in my heart. To see them all go sour and cold.... how it went was pretty tough and felt like breaking up with a whole group of people. After going through similar things with relatives, I feel just very open an accepting of people even if they dont want me... because thats just what they need and if you love them why would you deny them what they need, even if it is an apology or to go away...
I'm not sure if what ive said has any value beyond anecdotal, but its nice to have a place to share these views even if they are unrefined.
Hey thanks for your responses! I had been trying to reply but I guess it was too long... so going to have to split it up.
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Thanks for resoponding, and Namaah for the links so we may be further informed. Being new, our poly-curiosity is still developing...we found a local poly discussion group that we're going to attend this weekend. At this point we're interested in the last configuration from the infographic, where everyone is involved with eveyone else. I am used to writing personal because I blog, so I had to share more if youre interested...
Our interest in poly didnt arise entirely from sex. We do have bisexual interests and being able to share this safely with another couple who needs that kind of interaction as well does seem to have advantages. But its also, I guess to explore a need for more people in our life...we both are at a point where our relatives are not in our lives anymore, or anyone from our past for that matter - people that judged or even shunned us for being not just bisexual but individually unique beyond their prescribed plan for our life. Having these people out of our lives has a certain aspect of freedom to it, but it also has some lonliness and we are looking to increase the companionship factor in our life together, not just with each other but with communities sexual and otherwise. We want more friends, we both like being appreciated, and are very big hearted compassionate giving people.
We like the idea of a “four way relationship” like that image : each person has a bisexual partner, two straight partners, and all can play together both ways... We have talked and fantasized about this. We are beginning a new life path together. We have both had very hard working corporate strict conservative lives up to this point but are beginning to realize we have been missing out, and maybe even lost in self denial a little being overshadowed by certain obligations from past relations. We've both been through hard relationships and times, together and as a couple, but have seen that we have integrity and a sense of adventure, an appreciation for novelty...
That’s very well said Namaah. Really like the way you explain the difference and work it takes in poly relationship.
Which Poly type relationship are you interested in?
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The issue isn't the gender or sexual preference, who you are dating or who you like to fuck, it is how well is your communication and how well can you deal with jealousy? Bi doesn't matter. Can you see your partner date, have a relationship, spend time, money, energy, on a person other than yourself? You can separate sex from love, but can you share the person you love with someone else who has the ability to love them too. I'm sorry I'm using the specifics of sex and love, it's not that simple, but it helps with wording it.
Poly is hard, but it is good. It takes A LOT of communication. A LOT. It also takes selflessness, respect, and compromise. The goods are great, but the bads suck, really bad. Breaking up with a person, or multiple people at the same time sucks. Arguing with two people at the same time sucks. But having two or more people love you and take care of you is amazing. Poly is work, not sex. Sex is a bonus, but not the goal.
Here are some resources on Poly
amazon. com/More-Than-Two-Practical-Polyamory/dp/0991399706
amazon. com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X
amazon. com/Ethical-Slut-Third-Practical-Relationships/dp/0399579664/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_0?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=3MFT5BV605QW3334ADKR
amazon. com/dp/1500838160/ref=cm_sw_su_dp
polyweekly. com/
Hi, we are a couple in our 30s who is interested if anyone here has had a Bi relationship with another couple? How did it go? This is an intruiging notion to us and just would like to hear thoughts and stories, share our own, maybe meet a couple who is also interested in this kind of relationship?
