Trying to improve. Can anyone help

I’m not taking it as an insult. I appreciate the honesty.

My wife isnt the photographer that she thinks she is. Lol.

Please don't take this as an insult, because it's not meant that way, but look up Selfies for Dummies. Or if that feels insulting, Selfies for Men. The latter isn't as comprehensive (and "blue steel" is mentioned far too often), but whatever it takes, you need to learn to take photographs from a good angle rather than from below or full on. You're a good looking guy, but you're also a big guy and that means there are some angles that do you no favors at all. Right now, the only photo of yours that I like is the one in the red shirt, and it's not terrific.

I know this feels nitpicky, but it really is important that your photos show something that will attract the people you want to attract.

Updated pics. Hope these are better and i can take more in the future.

My deepest thanks to both of you. You have been extraordinarily helpful. I have made the text changes and will be working on getting new and better pictures ASAP. Thank you so much.

GGMM nailed it. Thanks for expressing what we couldn't.

I'm not photogenic either, so I feel your pain, but get someone else to take photos, because the angle will be better, or use a tripod (you'll see many instances in multiple places of sorillo suggesting that option). Also, have some expression on your face other than "wow, I really hate taking photos." Pleasant is best, by far.

As far as your current profile, I get the impression you have a very dry sense of humor. That translates better in person, where people can see the twinkle in your eye, than on line, where your native earnestness is in the forefront, leading to a sense of being, as AandJ noted, a bit drab. So, maybe think about how to come out of your shell using just words.

One thing you can do is avoid word repetition. It's something that can be used to great effect, but you need to be a really good writer to pull it off, so that means it's a no for most of us. In Looking for, "looking," "people" and "couples" appear twice. And sex it up just a bit. Here's what I mean (plus I'm correcting your misplaced comma): While I love the benefits as much as everyone else, it's the friendship part of FWB that's most important to me.

In contrast to my usual advice, I'm going to ask you to take out a personal detail. That sentence where you like old movies can go. Start a new paragraph with "The way it should be, etc." And consider referring to yourself as a third instead of single guy, since you aren't actually single.

Also, I am second to none in my love for Star Trek, at least TOS, but that's another detail that can just go, even if the episode you're talking about is the one with the green girl. It's just a wtf for most people to think of a television series on in the background while you fuck. So, even if it's your deepest, dearest fantasy, just leave it off your profile.

Otherwise, I know it doesn't seem like it, but I like almost all the changes you've made. Nice job.

Oh, and run this whole thing through spellcheck, because that will get your "I" capitalized and clean up the typos.

Thank you AandJ. I’m working on getting better pics. I’m not the most photogenic guy ever, but i’m working on it.

A couple things;

First, pics. You look bored. Smile.

Second, your profile comes off a sincere and definitely gives us a sense of who you are. You seem to care that your playmates enjoy themselves and feel comfortable. This is good.

But, and it may go back to the pics where you look bored, it comes off as drab. Sincere and honest, but drab.

We can't put our finger on exactly why. But it wouldn't get us to reach out.

PP gave some good advice as well.

Thank you, very much.

Hi. First, before I forget, after you make all the changes you're going to make and get them approved, then go in and change your toggles for smoking and drinking preferences. If you don't do it in that order, you will get stuck with SLS's new default of Want Smokers and Want Drinkers.

Okay, so, I think your profile has good bones, but it also has some problems. I'm going to focus on the problems.

In Looking For, you have waaaay too many iterations of the word "friend." Once is all you get and, yes, "friendship" counts. This looks needy and scary. Instead, talk about the sort of people you want. It doesn't have to be detailed, just don't use meaningless phrases like "like minded."

In Description, the word "I" appears so many times that it's distracting. See if you can rewrite that section using more commas and a lot fewer pronouns. I'm ambivalent about mention of your oral skills. Pretty much every second man says that and it's a bit of an eye roller for me, but there's something about the way you've phrased it that makes it work here.

In Fantasies, that's a little too raw. As in, a little too vulnerable to put out there for strangers to read. It's fine to share that depth of emotional connection with people in person, once you know them a little,, just not in your profile, where you are essentially marketing the suit and tie version of yourself rather than the naked one. So, please soften up the images some, leave out the part about missing them, and if you have some fantasies of your own, this is the place for them.

in Additional comments, I think you handled all of this well, with just one caveat: Instead of "doesn't want anything to do with it," which makes it look like she thinks swingers have cooties, perhaps "doesn't share that interest." Also, have a plan for getting her to verify her approval, because most of us will want that.

One way to emphasize her approval is to lose the dreaded bathroom selfie (lose it anyway) and have her take photos of you. Selfies do the opposite, btw.

Good luck. Collect any advice you're given, make whatever changes suit you and come back for a review.

Would someone please give my profile a review? I’m trying to make it the best profile possible and i would appreciate any feed back. Thank you in advance.