Suggestions on our Profile

Robhaley69 create a new post and I can try to help.

Hi we are new to this and w as s just going to try out the site at first for no other site was what it seems but we really like it and the people so we are keeping it if you can give us advice on how to make sure our profile is set right we would appreciate it

I am not your target audience but I do have an eye for a well crafted profile so I'll chime in. MsMolly & Velma are a wonderful resource - take their advice to heart. And all the negative is for your profile not for you - trust me I've been on the receiving end of it as well.

I gave up long before I read much of your profile because it is all about you - especially in places where it shouldn't be about you. So in Looking For dump all the crap about you and tell us what you want - the type of playmates you would like to find. Refine the information about the two of you and put it in Description (except anything that would be in the toggles & drop down statistical info). Keep fantasies relatively short - you want to have something to talk about when you meet! And the legal BS just makes me wonder about your sanity and/or intelligence so delete it. Basically a few lines or two short paragraphs in each area - enough to give good information but not so much as to overwhelm.

I didn't look at your pictures - but there are way too many. And I agree with Molly - if you are attempting to play as a couple you need pictures as a couple. Velma has a good system for basic pictures. Go out to dinner & have the waitress take your picture - tell her it is the anniversary of your first date or some such craziness. If you're not near a beach go to a hotel with a pool and pay their day rate for using the pool and have people take pictures of you having fun together (in lounge chairs holding drinks with umbrellas or her on his shoulders in the water playing whatever that game is where you knock the opposing lady off her guy's shoulders).

Don't look at my profile because I haven't been able to put into practice all that Molly, Velma and others have recommended. We just moved and fixing the profile has had to take a backseat to unpacking! But getting some good pictures is on my list for as soon as possible and my profile text has been revised and refined several times - and several more refinements are planned. These people are good and they want us to be successful and get laid.

I invented something I call the DEBauCH method. This is mnumonic for DATE, EVENT, BEACH, CHICK, HIM. I opened my private pictures to you So you can see what I mean by each picture. You need a picture of what you would look like on a date, add an event like a ball game or a 5K, a picture at the beach, A picture of the chick and a picture of him.

I think you can salvage some of your pictures.

Keep the picture of him on the lifeguard stand. Keep the pic of her in the white chair. Keep the pic of her in sunglasses showing her in the bikini.

Delete everything else.

Take two more pictures- a pic of you dressed nicely like you are going to a nice dinner. This is your DATE pic. I want to know what you will look like when I meet you for drinks. The I want a pic of you doing something fun. Go bowling, indoor rock climbing, or do a 5K together and have someone take a full body pic.

Add these pics and then repost so we can reevaluate.

Getting into the specifics of your profile, Looking For is meant to be about the people you're looking for. You give a bare nod to couples, mention singles in passing and spend four substantial paragraphs talking about yourselves. Instead, use this section to talk about who you're looking for. And then a bit about what you're looking to do with them and how they might fit in to your desires. Give people a chance to see themselves in what you're looking for. And if you’re looking for solo women, highlight that in some way.

In Description, don't bother duplicating what is in your stats or visible in your photos. And the sexual portion belongs in Fantasies, not here. This is the part where you describe yourselves as FWBs and then subtly undercut any disinclination to play with you because of that by speaking of yourselves as a twosome. Since this profile is more than four years old and you've been fwbs for only two, I wouldn't raise questions by saying how long you've been doing this together.

Use this section to talk about the things you like to do - you've got the ingredients when you talk about playing the guitar badly, not at all when she talks about liking to work a cock. I know this is a sex site, but sex is as easy to come by as spare pennies, so what most of us are looking for are people we can connect with and then fuck.

The negative end to this section is a turn off. This is SLS. It's a microcosm of humanity and full of flakes and if you keep running into them, it's because your vetting process needs work.

Fantasies can recycle - with some rigorous editing - what you have misplace elsewhere.

Additional comments - I'm sure somewhere in your ocean of prose is something that can be used here. Be friendly, warm, and use this as your last opportunity to sell people on you as potential playmates.

What doesn't belong here is that nonsense about permission, etc. It really is mumbo jumbo, totally unenforceable, and really silly (go ahead and look up those statutes).

Hi. Yeah, I briefly looked at your profile in the other thread when njny suggested you needed to enter the cage match that is Better Profiles. Let me iterate that the mean things I'm going to say have nothing to do with you, only with the impressions your profile is making on potential playmates.

So, from the top, you've been on here since 2014 and have no certs. Whatever the reason for that, it's a bit of a red flag. Another red flag is that you have 10 galleries. Ten. And 32 photos in your public gallery, not a single one of them of the two of you together. Could you cut all of that way down, because I promise no one who is considering you as potential playmates (as opposed to a source of spank material) wants or is interested in Sexy Gaze, followed by Sexy Torso, followed by Sexy Ass x 3, followed by... ten galleries of what I imagine is similar, just with fewer clothes.

I'll let Velma tell you what you should actually have instead of what is visible now, but I'll tell you that I'm looking for pleasant and friendly rather than smoldering and I really prefer seeing photos of people with their clothes on.

Your tagline is fine, your age range is sketchy. You're looking for 12 years younger than her to two years older than him. You're fwbs, so does that mean you age out of that relationship in three years? The optics are bad, basically. Feel free to turn down older, but I'd suggest widening your range some on the top end and/or tightening it on the bottom end (I promise, not a single 31 year old will hesitate to contact you just because they're too young). Plus, it's in conflict with your text, but you've already lost a 56 year old woman who briefly looked at your profile.

Your tagline is fine. It's not inspiring, but it doesn't need to be.

Moving on to the text, I know by responding here I signed up to read your profile, but you are asking a lot.

I'm just going to point out some things that are getting in the way of interesting a woman for FMFs: You're merely fwbs. I do a lot of FMFs, almost exclusively with couples. I like hanging out with people who are in love. I do make exceptions, but generally it's with people I already play with separately, which means I have crazy chemistry with them. So, either they're in love, so I love being around them, or already play with them as two twosomes and it's just fun to add the complication. Either one makes the asymmetry of one man to two women a non issue. Mostly, though, it's an issue. Which is why threesomes with couples I don't already know pretty well have generally taken place in clubs, where I can go find plans B, C and D afterwards.

Then. your toggles and your text point to soft play only. Yeah, you have nothing for me. I know what you say about clicking, but eh.

We are a FWB couple and while we enjoy many aspects of the lifestyle as singles one fantasy we have yet to realize is meeting with an interested female for a MFM. We've been searching for a very long time, over a year, and have yet to get any notice or interest. We think perhaps our profile is not doing us any favors and we're open to suggestions. Thanks!