Should we redo our profile??

Ms. Molly and I usually have fundamental disagreements on how much you should be yourself.

I believe that SLS isn't suppose to show who you are. I believe it is supposed to show who you wish you were. If SLS showed who I was, it would show me under blankets with a bottle of bourbon and a pizza watching Netflix. But that isn't very sexy. So we show ourselves on the beach, and doing triathlons and at ball games.

You are totally allowed to be yourself - but being yourself comes with restrictions. If your default picture is of two tattoos then that's really going to limit your audience. The picture of you two in the car is good for a default picture but not great.

I think you need to take a few new pictures. The only full-body picture you have is the Halloween picture and I'll explain why I don't like that in a moment.

You need at least one full-body picture of the two of you dressed like you are going to a nice dinner. This is important because I want to know that you at least have nice clothes and know how to dress if you meet a couple at a restaurant. The second reason is that It shows that the female half isn't grossly overweight.

As a lady who has always been between a size 10,12 and 14, I feel like I have special insight in this area.

Most men on here are looking to "trade up" or at least "trade laterally." As a couple, you are competing against every other woman who is skinnier than or as skinny as their wife. Women below 140 lbs are in their own class and tend to stay in their own range. Women above 200 lbs are in their own class and stay within their own range. But women like us - women who really are "curvy" are in their weird no-man's-land where thin people think we're too fat and fat people think we're too thin. But in a way, this is an advantage, because if we show the correct pictures, we can hold our own and move freely between classes like a sorcerer who can slip between dimensions with ease. I tend to be able to hold my own with skinnier girls. My attitude helps. Liking that kind of rough anal that would break skinnier girls in half helps too.

So I think it's important to have at least one picture of the two of you together, or at least a picture of the female half that is full-body in a bikini, lingerie or a one-piece swimsuit. Yes, I know there are two pictures at the pool, but they should show the entire female body. This is why I show myself completely nude with only a clarinet covering my Hoo-haw. It's why I show pictures of us at races. It's a way of "proving" to men that all my weight is in my tits and my ass.

Yes, if I chose to "be myself," I wouldn't need to do all this work to prove to men that I'm worthy of them, but then I wouldn't get fucked as much. So be aware that if you choose to "be yourself" you stand a good chance at "being yourself by yourself."

Now all that being said, I think you need to get rid of the Halloween picture. Again, Ms. Molly and I disagree on this, but I feel that costume pictures - especially "ugly" or "horror" costume pictures don't bring anything to the table. Why would you post a picture of you being unattractive? What does it show? I guess it shows that you are "fun," but there's other way of showing that. You've just used valuable real estate to turn people off. So I would get rid of that Halloween picture and replace it with a nice full-body picture of the two of you together as a couple.

Sorry, there's no edit function. By too sarcastic I don't mean your profile is too sarcastic, I mean it's too not to.

Hi and welcome. Actually, some of it is your profile. It's confusing, it looks like seven different women in your photos and your brand new tattoos, complete with tattoo artist's gloved hand, are not the best default photo.

Starting with your tagline, what you have is not only uninteresting, it isn't exactly what you're looking for. Clever is good, but really anything that reflects you positively is okay.

Moving on to Looking For, it needs more content. Some of what is needed - what you want to do with that couple - is misplaced down in Description, but it needs a positive slant. So remove the negativity ("Not looking for casual fuck buddies" would be an example of that) and then talk more about what you're looking for, both in the couple and in what you want to do with them. No, I'm not suggesting you be explicit, just think more deeply about what you're looking for.

Description is a bit of a mishmash of misplaced things and a bit of that confusion I was talking about. You can leave out your stats, because they're already listed and say more about yourselves than what you have. Also, it's too sarcastic. So, you can't say you're a crazy couple and then say you're drama free. Especially since you talk about your broken hearts and say your triangle was fun but you don't want singles. That's not only confusing, it sounds like you're full of drama. If that's not accurate, you're going to need to rethink what you say about both those relationships, because right now it's like a neon sign flashing the D word.

Fantasies is the place where you say this isn't your first time swinging, not Description and I'd combine the first two sentences to something like "great for people watching, great for a quick fuck, but not great for..."

Additional comments is a bit of a wasteland. You might want to think about whether there's something else to put here. If you decide it's fine the way it is, that's not how ellipses are used.

You're probably a terrific couple and a lot of fun to be around, but right now your profile is confusing and suggests you come with a truckload of drama or are, at the very least, looking for a much closer relationship than FWBs. That's going to impact the number of people who contact you. However, if you change things around, including your photos, people who wrote you off will mostly not remember that and will act as if they've just discovered you for the first time.

I hope other people weigh in and you have a lot of advice to accept and reject. Good luck.

We havent received much intrest...i feel it's because we are fairly new in the lifestyle not our profile..any advice...