Profile review request

"Also, good choice of pictures.

I think. :-)"

Well, now you can know. ;)

"I believe both of these things will limit your chances of finding people, or them finding you."

I asked myself and the response was that I really, really don't want a lot of people contacting us. (And I apologize. I have no idea why I didn't clearly identify myself when I was using a different profile.)

We did a photo shoot at Naughty last week and we all, including the photographer, planned to devote a few minutes to getting a representative but not particularly enticing photo for our profile and cards, but the shoot went off the rails immediately. So, multiple orgasms for me and lots of super hot photos, but...nope on the nicely composed pic by a pro.

"It's difficult to reveal both personalities in a couple's profile - that could be the source of your perception of stiff text."

When I tried to say something about his personality (or even reference it), I kept getting all mushy which made me feel weird. And vulnerable. The closest I can get is to say we crack each other up all the time.

Love you back a lot.

Thanks for the help. I know one change I'll make immediately (by not vanilla I mean kinky, so I should probably just say kinky instead of being confusing) and I'll see if I can be a little clearer about what we're looking for besides smart, funny people.

"They look just like you guys"

I know, right? The resemblance is absolutely uncanny, and considering that they're much older, we just hope we look as good as them when we get to be geezers.

And Mayhem, do all youse guys from New York City think that everyone west of the Mississippi are in the same "neck of the woods"? Guess that's only fair to us because I'm convinced that everyone who's east of the Mississippi and north of the Mason-Dixon line are from New York City.

It's difficult to reveal both personalities in a couple's profile - that could be the source of your perception of stiff text. And trying to write with the voice of a couple rather than a single sometimes creates odd phrasing.

I think your text is enticing, inviting and clear about your swinging desires and boundaries.

Hopefully the lack of default photo will serve you as well as it has us - maximizing the chance that someone has read most of your profile and minimizing the knee-jerk "wanna fuck" messages in response to a pretty pictures. ;-)

And DAAAMMMMNNNNN - time flies when you're having fun! I can't believe it's been four years. Love you guys!

Wow Goodenuff! They look just like you guys ;-)

As I recall, you are in GGMMs neck of the woods and she regularly comments to profile help requests, so perhaps she can give you a better idea of the potential impact of the "ages in the 90's" and the Gumby pic. I believe both of these things will limit your chances of finding people, or them finding you.

That said, you don't really say in the Looking for section what you're looking for in general terms like MFM, MFMF. FMF, etc. You can get a sense of that in the lines that follow, but some never make it that far into a profile. It never hurts to be more upfront, in a general way, about what you're looking to do with people once you find them.

I thought the Description section was good and gave a decent sense of what you like to do for fun, besides sex. Many times this is lacking altogether in people asking for profile help.

When I first read the "We are inclined to keep the less vanilla stuff between the two of us...", I only really got the meaning of that from the ask in the post asking for profile help (i.e. I'm squeamish about exposing strong feelings to strangers and feel really strongly about my partner,) . That just seemed like a slightly better way to phrase it, but you shared enough in your profile that I question whether you even need to mention this line at all.

I'm definitely not the person to offer profile advice to anyone, especially you. I'm just here to say...

It's about time.

Also, good choice of pictures.

I think.
:-)

After four years seeing each other and two years playing as a couple, plus now living together, we finally created a couple's profile. It feels a little stiff and I'm not entirely certain how to fix it. Or even if it's really stiff. I'm squeamish about exposing strong feelings to strangers and feel really strongly about my partner, so I'm metaphorically hunched over a little, especially in the Description portion of the program.

The lack of a public profile pic and setting our ages in the 90s is intentional, because it filters for curiosity and wider than usual tolerance levels, but that means it's even more important that the text be inviting and interesting.

Any help would be much appreciated.