Profile review request

Just me. ;)

I notice the avatar has changed.

Are you both still feeling a little stiff or is it just greg?

Ok, I can agree if I was really searching for a 93 year old woman, you probably wouldn't want to talk to me. So, yes, you would filter those people out.
As for weight, first thing I think of is they look like a Sumo wrestler.
If I was interested , I would just ask for a photo. So I do not see what listing your weight at zero does for you.
But, I'm not trying to argue. If it works for you, do it.

"So I do not see how saying you are in your 90's helps."

It keeps away people who think there really are people in their 90s on SLS. Which is a useful filter, to my mind.

Putting 99 or whatever as your age is like using 0 for your weight. It removes a piece of information that the profile owner doesn't want people to have. And just like there aren't actually people here who weigh zero, there aren't 99 year olds active on SLS.

Why your search results - and you can totally keep free members out of searches - vary depending on ages is a question you might want to ask SLS support.

Now I'm really confused.
I just did an 18- 99 year old search and a 40- 64 year old search.
I got 20 profiles on 18- 99 . 19 free members and only one I could contact.
On 40- 64 I got 21 profiles. 3 free members and 18 Paid that I could contact. How does limiting the age range produce better results?

Like I said, maybe I'm different.
I search at least once a day. Always for 18 - 99. Not that I think I have a chance with an 18 year old or would want a 99 year old but because if I limit the age I do not get anybody. Besides , maybe a 99 year old will reject me but recommend me to her daughter or grand daughter. Or maybe even great grand daughter .

Ymichael14 - "So I do not see how saying you are in your 90's helps."

Just a guess, but some SMs looking for women may use the SLS Search, and if they do, they may put in an age range. It's unlikely that someone will go up to 90+ for an upper age limit.

This will limit the # of SMs that hit her up with the "How R U?" or "Want to fuck?" messages. It may also some limit some legit SMs, but the benefit here for her is likely higher than that risk. It's actually pretty brilliant IMHO.

Mayhem- Maybe I'm different, but in all the time I have spoken to goodgolly I assumed she was in her 90's. I suppose if I thought I had a chance with her I probably would have asked or try to find if she really was in her 90's. But then, if she didn't have a good reason for saying she was in her 90's I would wonder what else she was lying about.
So I do not see how saying you are in your 90's helps.

"The profile sounds like people we would really like to contact."

Thanks. It's not definitive, because you know it's me, but you're exactly what we're looking for: relaxed, experienced, smart people.

"Now, can you get Greg on the Forum? We'd like to hear from him too."

He lurks occasionally, because fucking is not the only thing he likes to watch me to do, but has never posted anything. So, my secrets are probably safe. ;)

Some people hit a profile and go for the pictures only. If they like what they see, they blast out a (often inane) message. Having no pictures means they will either read the profile, or move on.

Seeing the ages in the 90's will either pique their curiousity or they'll move on. The pics-to-message crowd will likely not read the profile at that point and miss that the ages listed are bogus. Either way, it's likely to have the intended limiting effect.

No Velma?!?! Damn, I really hoped that would have worked. I guess it only works for he/she who shall not be named.

sigh

Take this for what it's worth 'cause I suck at critiquing profiles:

The profile sounds like people we would really like to contact. Both of you sound like people that both of us would get along with. We'd message you (Greg and Molly) until you agree to meet us (somewhere) or we we'd stalk the hell out of you, figure out where you live and convince you we're a good match. As distance is an issue, you're safe. Well, maybe.

FWIW, we really don't care about pictures and long winded elaborate profile language. You just need to say enough to tweak someone's interest. We think you learn more by exchanging messages and talking in real time and...

On an unrelated note, I wish you could access a person's/profile's Forum history from their profile. If you come across a profile that sounds interesting, their Forum history (if any) may be the deciding factor on whether or not to contact them.

Now, can you get Greg on the Forum? We'd like to hear from him too. Couples are always flaunting their womenfolk. :-)

"I would love to know why setting the age to 99 got you a higher quality of people."

I can only speculate.

Some of the folks that use the default ages for search are just the thirsty, will-fuck-anyone crowd. The way I wrote my solo profile discouraged some of them, especially those who actually read it

Others who use a wide range for searches seem to be more interested in intangibles than a laundry list (like must be under 35, with washboard abs and a 12" dick) and might reach out after reading the profile that appeals to them.

But, really, it was probably a numbers game married to perception. Fewer people contacting me who were no, nevers made the others - who probably would have contacted me anyway - a greater percentage of messagers.

"It was totally the default photo. I mean, my hair is brown in this one."

Yep, it was the brown hair vs...ummm...none? Yeah, that's the ticket (insert red face here) ;-)

Goodgolly- I would love to know why setting the age to 99 got you a higher quality of people. It just doesn't make sense to me that it would work.

I am impressed that you have not blocked me because you do not think I am both mean and stupid or really mentally unwell, and you think I might have something to add to the conversation.

"... I set my age to 99 instead. It wasn't entirely blessed silence after that, but the flood turned into a drip and the overall quality of people contacting me was higher..."

Having no default photo does much the same thing - so being in your nineties with no default photo might result in too few messages.

If you find that to be the case I'd suggest accurate ages so you show up in more searches - then a good tag line will entice people to read your profile (and hopefully the smart, fun and interesting will contact you).

If you stay in your nineties but add a default photo then you may start receiving messages from people that just respond to photos without reading profiles.

It was totally the default photo. I mean, my hair is brown in this one. ;)

"...how do you think it filters out the wanna fuck crowd? Won't they just get bored halfway through the profile and just send a wanna fuck message? And how does not posting the correct age filter out the wrong crowd? Won't it just scare away good people that think you are too old? I'm just curious why you think it works or how you can prove it works. I wouldn't contact you because SM's are obviously very low on your list of priorities which means you are going to be very picky so I do not see where I would have a chance, so why waste both of our time bothering you. And the distance."

Years ago, I put a note on my profile that I wasn't currently playing, and SLS pulled my profile off line. I still wanted to participate in the forums, so I set my age to 99 instead. It wasn't entirely blessed silence after that, but the flood turned into a drip and the overall quality of people contacting me was higher, with a greater ratio of hits to misses. Instead of 1000 - 1, it was more like 100-1 and far more of the messages contained complete sentences from actual adults.

Our current profile says we're not really in our 90s, but to find it, you have to have a wide search. Could be thirsty, could just not care about age. The lower interest in single men further limits contact from them. Would it discourage the less confident? Yeah, but that's not a bad thing. I am a fun playmate but have a big personality and don't mesh very well with the insecure or tentative, to their detriment.

Anyway, worst case, we play with one local couple/single guy and save our more off the chain behaviors for Hedo and Naughty. We're hoping for more, so we might change things around later, but it'll almost be time to go to Hedo again before the glow from Naughty completely wears off.

Also, I generally only block those both mean and stupid and for the really mentally unwell, because those groups have nothing to add to the conversation. Otherwise, I find people fascinating.

The default photo threw them off. ;-)

Wait one damn minute here- did people NOT immediately recognize that Molly (or GGMM or whatever else people referred to her as) is half of this couple's profile?

LOL

Too true - I miss her in the forums!

What this discussion really needs is...

Velma.

Velma.

Velma.

I hope that works.

Goodgolly- I'm curious. Maybe it is because I am too stupid to understand your profile and it is working as intended, filtering out the stupid people, but how do you think it filters out the wanna fuck crowd? Won't they just get bored halfway through the profile and just send a wanna fuck message?
And how does not posting the correct age filter out the wrong crowd? Won't it just scare away good people that think you are too old?
I'm just curious why you think it works or how you can prove it works.
I wouldn't contact you because SM's are obviously very low on your list of priorities which means you are going to be very picky so I do not see where I would have a chance, so why waste both of our time bothering you. And the distance.
If I was part of a couple in your area there is nothing in that profile that would cause me to not want to contact you.

Goodgolly- I swear, if I knew it was you, I never would have responded.
I'm honored that you haven't blocked me yet. I would like to keep it that way because you are very helpful.

"I guess I was surpised that..."

It's impossible for me to be objective enough, so I asked for help. Which you generously gave. Thank you!

"As a single guy, I'm not your target audience so maybe you do not care how I feel but, you did ask. I find your profile confusing. You are a SM and SF that are married and play as a couple and solo but the wife has a lot more solo played lined up then the husband. If that is accurate, what are you even looking for?"

Thank you for your response.

You aren't our target audience, but not because you're a single guy. We do want to play with those, using the same criteria as for couples: smart, funny, curious, flexible, and able to navigate our profile without confusion.

I know that sounds rude, but I don't mean it to. I'm trying to explain how much filtering work we're relying on the profile to accomplish.

The hope is that most of the 'how r u wanna fuck' crowd will miss us because of the advanced ages and we'll mostly get messages from folks that are maybes and yeses.

Duh! Hadn't connected the dots on why both profiles were from Bellingham, Wa plus the "ages in the 90's" ;-) Just thought it was a hell of a coincidence.

I guess I was surpised that the profile-meister was looking for profile input.

As a single guy, I'm not your target audience so maybe you do not care how I feel but, you did ask.
I find your profile confusing. You are a SM and SF that are married and play as a couple and solo but the wife has a lot more solo played lined up then the husband. If that is accurate, what are you even looking for? It sounds like both of you are finding everything you want without this profile.
Some people only want to play with singles, some with couples, some with committed couples that are very much in love. You two seem to be all three. Which should be impossible.
As for the age, I do not understand why anyone would not post their real age. I think most people are not going to read your profile, they will stop at the age. Those that read your profile now have to ask your age. And you are looking for a guy my age. Are you really interested in a guy my age?
I do not understand not having a vanilla profile pic. Even if you block the faces.