Profile help

You said ..... "Not looking for a one time thing, but rather a friendship with benefits."

It should go without saying that a FWB usually starts out with a 1st meeting with benefits. Can't get to the one without the other. By saying this, you are automatically cutting out anyone that may want to just have you over for sex. However, if you delete this "not looking for" and you get your cock in the door, you can then work on your effort to charm them into wanting you back and hopefully it will turn into the FWB scenario you are hoping for.

Maybe they fixed it - stranger things have happened. ;-)

I've never shown no interest in a group and was relying on what others reported.

seems to work fine for me, single guys can see my profile and it also shows I'm not interested in single men.

"you've got it hidden from single males ... I never understand the desire to hide it ..."

He's showing "no interest" in single males which effectively blocks single males. I know the interest level says "profile still viewable" and there's a check box if you really want to block the entire group. But it has never worked properly.

you've got it hidden from single males so I can't help you.

I never understand the desire to hide it, like are you afraid a guy will look at your picture?

Hi. I'm just going to be blunt. It's well meant and about your profile, not about you, but stuff like that can still sting, so I apologize in advance.

Your tagline is out of date and it's too long. When you use time sensitive wording anywhere in your profile, you need to remember to update it. Also, please go for short and snappy instead of so informative that no one needs to open your profile, something your tagline is meant to encourage.

I do not love public nudes or lack of variety. Any chance you could take some smiling photos of you in unwrinkled date type clothes that fit? Also, since your age and your photos don't seem to relate well to one another, if the pics are current as of this year, put that in your profile. If they aren't current, please replace them with those that are.

You are dealing with preconceived notions about your age, so you need to be clear about who you are now, including what you look like. And certs would help with the notion that older men invariably have ED.

The text of your profile could do with being read out loud to catch and correct the less than flowing prose.

To get to specifics, there's no reason to have that last sentence in Looking For, because it has nothing to do with who and what you're looking for. Put it in Description instead. And there you can lose discussion of hobbies you don't have. I mean, I've looked into needlepoint, but my chances of ever doing it are zero, so talking about it would be, at best, a yellow flag.

I don't love most of what you have in Fantasies, but I can't tell if it's because it's too flowery or because I don't like the writing style.

Additional comments, which would be a good place to put that your photos are current (if they are), instead mostly just has stuff that goes in other sections or is ridiculous like that black ring chain letter nonsense. You find other swingers by going where swingers go rather than by trying to start a movement via a cut and paste in what is supposed to be your polished, interesting advertisement to potential partners.

Anyway, good luck. I hope you make some changes in your profile, but your best bet is to meet people at parties, meet and greets, and clubs.

I agree with P&W's comments and also wanted to note that as a single guy, certs likely do more for you than they would for couples or single women. You have no certs and no mention of them, even though you say you've been in the lifestyle for a while. While certs mean little to us, there are likely couples and SFs that won't even consider you without them.

I'd say give the re-org/clean-up a whirl and ask for people to check out your updates. In case what P&W wasn't clear, the questions you are trying to answer in the specific sections are "Who are you looking for and what woul like like to do if you found them?", "How would you describe yourself?" (let pictures/toggles speak for physical stats), "What (in a broad sense) have you done in the LS and what things would you like to try or do again?".

Everything else goes in Additional comments.

FWIW - I'm kind of surprised SLS allowed the nude pic in your public gallery.

The most obvious thing about your profile is the lack of organization - you've got a little bit of everything in every section!

It's easier to read a profile when the text in each section answers the question implied in the section header. Try to keep the first section about the types of people and relationships you hope to find - you've got the other three sections to talk about yourself. And please, call us women or ladies not females.

It almost appears that you composed your text on a small screen - you've got capitalization, punctuation and spacing issues that are very annoying when viewed on a large screen. Of course SLS doesn't help since you have to experiment with how many carriage returns are required to provide a blank line between paragraphs! If possible copy your text into a word processor on a desktop or laptop and rearrange all the text into paragraphs (instead of lists) and then clean up the capitalization, punctuation and spacing.

I'd like to see at least one photo of you dressed as you'd appear for an initial meeting - nothing fancy, just not your biking togs. And you should probably submit a support ticket asking SLS to rotate your sideways photo.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

Hi Seeking some advice. Not new to SLS, just looking so far. Consider myself average, well,maybe above for my age. Would like to see more responses to my site. Would appreciate honest critiques. Thanks