Profile Advice/Request

Thank you so much goodgollymsmolly!

I made changes and it's just pending approval.

Thank you for taking the time to review and provide comments. I hope the next round is better than the first.

Hi and welcome. Most of what I don't like in your profile is easily remedied. Whether you want to make the changes or not is a different matter. ;-)

First, do you only want drinkers and smokers? Because that's what your toggles are set for. Moving on, your tagline is the opposite of what you want, which is to be a little enticing. If you're stuck on those particular words, then reverse your terms so that you're Fun and Educated Too. Your education isn't the highlight when someone is looking to roll around in the sheets, you know?

Much of what I don't like is where you let the bones of your thought processes show. So, for instance, that first sentence in Looking For can just go. I suspect it feels polite, but that's not how it reads. Then, pet peeve, not female. Also, are you only looking for one? Because that alone would put you in my tentative nope bucket. So what about women or couples as your interest? You needn't add a crowd, but even the fwb bunch isn't usually looking to be someone's one and only.

More bones showing in the Although this information... section. Plus, you're right, it belongs in Description. And when it gets there, it needs to lose a bunch of words and start with "I am married and in an open relationship..." Declarative sentences are your friends.

In Description, it probably won't surprise you to hear that I think you should remove "It sounds a bit arrogant to..." It doesn't sound arrogant. Just describe yourself without the weird tease. This is the place where you take a value neutral approach and pick out some of your qualities to which other people might relate. And if your education is part of that, the modifier of "quite" hits a wrong beat.

For your penis, it's its size, not it's. And the section could definitely use some oomph, so maybe talk a little about what you like to do.

A little more in Fantasies about your actual fantasies rather than the bare bones of your experience would be helpful.

In Additional comments, I actually like how you handled things, but "Please keep in mind that" can go.

Overall, I think you've done a good job. Don't be apologetic or even a little defensive about being in an open marriage. There really are people who prefer attached men playing solo, so you have that niche going for you as a positive. Don't go crazy trying to prove it, but do have several strategies in mind that will provide reassurance that your spouse is on board.

Good luck.

Thanks Velma and Shaggy!

I certainly understand having a difficult time considering I am in an open relationship but that's what I expected. I will definitely work on the pictures as well.

Thanks again!

Your profile is good-there’s no glaring mistakes. I think the main problem is that it’s uninteresting. You should probably Include some pictures of you doing interesting things like traveling or playing sports.

I think you might have a tough time because the open marriage thing is difficult for a lot of swingers to grasp. It might be more helpful if you also had a couples profile that way there will be a little more proof that you really were in an open relationship.

Hello All,

I am wondering if you would take the time to review my profile and tell me what you feel may need to change (or to remain). As the writer, it's difficult to critique as the reader. However, I have read other reviews and tried to incorporate some of those comments into my profile.

One of the points I would like to make is that I am a "single" male in an open marriage (really and truly). I completely understand if an interested couple or female would be suspicious of that so I did my best to be up front about it and included my flexible schedule for meeting (I read previously that a limited schedule could indicate a cheating spouse which of course I am not). I would be curious to find out if I did a good job of making the reader comfortable about my open relationship.

The other point is that I have one picture as my profile picture with my face blurred (actually my whole head). I am fairly fit and healthy but it's not my style to fill a profile with selfies with my shirt off in front of the mirror. I want to be discreet and offer a picture that would pique interest from others so any recommendations on how I can be discreet AND provide enough picture(s) would be appreciated.

Thank you again!