Our profile needs help

Hi there. I'm going to be really blunt and sometimes that can feel harsh and unpleasant. The intent is kindly meant and the ultimate goal is to help,you get what you want, including as many,opportunities as you desire. So, try to hang with it and know it's about your profile and not about you personally.

Right now there isn't a ton of content in your profile, so I'm mostly going to give guidelines in hopes you do some significant rewriting.

However, first I'm going to chime in on the zero weight thing. People might have lots of reasons for making that choice, but the usual assumption is being insecure about your body. So, for a complex set of reasons attached to that, some people will reject any profiles with zero as the weight.

So you might consider just owning it and letting your photos show your beautiful bodies proudly.

As far as your photos, you do have too many and too many,of them are selfies. Do prune it down, lose the unrotated one and any duplicates, and replace some but not all of the selfies (two are pretty hot) with photos per Velma's suggestions.

The first line of your tagline probably belongs in Description, but not here. The second, tightened up a little - maybe lose the word "us" - is nicely inviting.

In Looking For, say something about who you are looking for. Mention all three groups, then something about what you're looking for. Do you want fwbs, social time, whatever? That information goes here.

In Description, say more. Married for 24 years, we are fun and outgoing is a good start. The rest is just filler and can go, although if you can find a graceful way to weave that your photos are current into Additional comments, it's useful info. Instead, tell us more about you as people? What are your vanilla interests? What do you like?

In Fantasies, say something about your actual experience and then some g-rated fantasy material if you have any.

End on a positive note in Additional comments.

As you revise your profile, let that fun and outgoing couple show. You don't have to write a ton, just a few sentences in each section is fine, but make them inviting.

Good luck. Come back for a review once you've made some changes.

Couple of things-just to start I want to emphasize not to take anything I say personally. I’m only thinking what most other people are thinking.

Second, I opened a private gallery for you to see the kind of pictures you should have.

The good news is that You two look happy and in love. The bad news is that I would reject you too out of hand because you both weigh 0 pounds and you don’t know how to rotate a picture. I’m also not a big fan of taking a picture of a picture. It leads me to believe that you went on those cruises years ago or you don’t know how to take a picture with a cell phone.

Put in accurate weights-if I have to deal with the man of the world rejecting me for being a size 12, you do too.

You need fewer pictures not more – don’t take more than 10. And don’t show the same picture more than once-you don’t need four selfie’s of your face.

Keep pictures nine, 10, and 11. Throw everything else out. Use my open gallery as a guide to the pictures you should have.

I'm not so good with couple profiles but I'll do my best. Just remember that everything said is about your profile not about you personally.

You might be missing out by not listing your weight - many consider that a red flag and will pass on any profile that has weight = 0.

There really isn't a lot of text to work with. Your toggles indicate that you are interested in couples and singles but what sort - outgoing, party loving people, outdoorsy hikers or boaters or quiet conversationalists? Are you interested in one-time casual encounters or on-going FWB relationships? That is the sort of information needed in Looking For. Description is where you tell us what you are like - are you the life of the party or the quiet one? Including information about your vanilla interests allows people to decide if you will have anything to talk about when you meet. Do you like wineries, movies, playing Frisbee, hiking to waterfalls or refinishing furniture? Fantasies/Experience is all about sex - what you've done in the lifestyle that you enjoyed and what you still want to try. Generalities are fine - no need to go into details.

You probably should compose your text in a word processor so you can run spell check and grammar check when you're all done. You have several grammar issues (your rather than you're), missing punctuation, random capitalizations and extra spaces.

I'm not a fan of all the selfies and too many are essentially the same. If Velma doesn't stop by with advice go looking for a post where she explains her DEBauCH system of core pictures for your public gallery. My photo advice is simple - smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies.

Let us know once you've made changes and your updated profile has been approved - we'll be happy to offer additional advice.

Good luck & have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

We are new to this and still learning. I think it’s time for our profile to get some help