A great big thank you to all of the respondents. We would have been very pleased with a couple of short observations or a few words of wisdom. We weren't expecting such detailed responses, but we sincerely appreciate them. And agree with them.
The excellent advice has not fallen on deaf ears and we plan to redo the entire mess using that advice.
Thanks again to all who responded.
I didn't get home until 11 last night. Now I have to go back to work. I am woman, I am tired.
I opened my private pictures for you to demonstrate the 5 core pictures you need. Ideally, you need a picture of what you might look like on a DATE, at an EVENT, at the BEACH, and picture of her, and a pic of HIM.
Never take a picture with a gun or a fish in your hand. Never take a picture with a messy background. Never take a selfie looking down at the camera. Never take a picture of the male half topless unless you are at a beach or a pool.
Right now, you are mostly meeting that criteria in spirit. We just need to refine things a bit.
I think you need to delete every single picture. Don't take any more pictures in the bedroom. Maybe it's the lack of light but the strange shade of green on the walls makes it look like a fallout shelter or my old middle school principal's office. You two a dressed like you were just moving in or maybe painting. SLS is like a resume for sex. Would you show up for a job interview wearing those clothes?
The female half has an apple-shaped body. But the good news is that apples are delicious! The dress in picture 4 looks good. If you don't own a pair of heels, there is a Ross Dress for Less 30 minutes away in Rock Hill. Go there. Every woman needs three pairs of heels of at least 3" in height. In order of importance: Nude, Black and Red. I can go around the world in a pair of nude heels, so that's the most important. I can dominate the board room in a pair of black heels and I can seduce any man in a pair of red heels. Best of all, if I get them from Ross, they are only $30.
The male half needs some nice clothes. Every man should have a pair of light grey slacks, a pair of khaki slacks, a blue blazer, and one or two blue or white dress shirts that fit. There's a Men's Warehouse in Rock Hill. Go buy this stuff. You'll spend about $250-$300 but you'll have it for the next few years. IF you already have church clothes, take them to a Tailor and make sure they fit well.
There is a Riccio's Italian Restaurant in Charlotte. I'd like you two to travel there - her in a nice dress, him in a Jacket and slacks. Have someone take your pictures. That is your DATE picture. I'd like the two of you to sign up for a 5K or maybe go to a Charlotte Hornets game. Take pictures there. You can wear casual clothes. That is your EVENT picture.
If you don't have a picture of you two at the beach, go to a hotel that has a pool. Ask to pay day rate and use the pool. Have someone take your pictures in the pool.
This will be a process, but at the end, you will be rewarded with some pretty amazing photos that will look good and get you more attention. Take the pictures and repost.
I got interrupted and apparently hit the "Submit" key by mistake. I'm sorry to have ended that post on such a negative note. I try not to do that.
So, moving on to your text, your tagline is good enough for now, although you need to correct that first word to "Newbies," but please change it after your six months on the site.
In Looking For, the only thing I know about who you're looking for is that it's a couple or a single woman (not female, please). I see nothing about them. I doubt just any couple or woman would do, so it would make sense to think about what you're looking for. Are you looking for fun, outgoing people with whom you can have on-going encounters? Are you a one and done couple? Are you equally interested in full or soft swap? In addition, what you write needs to also give others a way to see themselves.
So, don't talk about yourself in this section. Instead, describe who you're looking for and a bit about what you want and think about this section as if it's your first chance to appeal to others. Because it is.
In Description, Phoebert's Wife is exactly right. Do not duplicate what is in your stats or visible in your photos. And take as many opportunities as you can to talk about you as a unit rather than as individuals. So, something like: We are a friendly, outgoing couple. We have been married more than 20 years and have talked about swinging for a very long time. That's just an example, recycling what you have already written. It really could be anything, but present yourselves as a couple first. And then talk about who you are as people. What are some of the things you like to do? Do you collect Boris Vallejo prints? Go off roading? I know it sounds weird, because you're looking for sex, but you want people to identify with you in some way, even if it's an interest they don't share. So, think about how you want to present yourselves. It's okay to be brief, but give a real flavor of yourselves.
Fantasies needs to be reworked. That you're a condoms only couple is great, but it doesn't belong here. The part about no anal doesn't necessarily belong on your profile at all, because your limits need to be discussed with each and every potential play partner, sometimes repeatedly, and unless you have some overwhelming reason for mentioning it, I'd leave it off.
Instead, talk about at least one fantasy. Not in any graphic way, but as a way of sharing something about which you fantasize. Maybe some others will share that fantasy and contact you because of it. I know I used it above in my recycling example, but this is really the place where you say you have no experience but have talked about it for a long time.
In Additional comments, by hygienic do you mean disease free? If so, say that instead (and make sure you get tested so that you can say it as well) If you mean clean, as in freshly showered, do you really expect people to show up dirty unless you specify that you only want the other kind? And I'm never certain what people are looking for when they say they want secure couples. What is it that you're really looking for? Anyway, it belongs up in Looking For, whatever it is.
Instead, use this space to finish selling yourselves to others. I kind of feel like one or both of you has quite a lot of charm, but it isn't showing up in your profile. So, think about ways to inject personality in what you write and use this last section to end on a high note.
Good luck and I hope you make whatever changes feel right to you and then check back for a review.
Actually, I have so little clutter in my house that friends accuse me of having a hidden storage site and some magical way to whisk the mess away. My car is another story, because it's tiny, doesn't have a trunk, and is full of dogs most of the time. ;-)
Regarding clutter in photo backgrounds, the fact is that the VAST majority of us have clutter in our everyday lives (c'mon, admit it kids). That's kinda normal. The thing is to make sure that we don't SHOW it.
Hi there. I've read the other responses, but I'm going to write as if I haven't. At least in part, that's because I hope that if two or more of us tell you something, you will be even more willing to listen and make the changes. And I apologize in advance for saying seemingly mean things. They really are about your profile and not at all about you, except insofar as you didn't think about how things might look to others, and that's such a common thing that I hardly ever remember to mention it.
Your photos are pretty bad. As in, none of them are attractive. Velma is the photo maven and I'll leave the specifics to her, but whatever photos you take, have pleasant expressions, tidy backgrounds and don't do upshots, because they don't do anyone any favors. And I really do feel the need to mention the clutter I see, because I suspect it's also a problem in your private photos and that will make a huge difference to how you are perceived by others. Clutter is not only visually unappealing, it's a cue about how you approach life. Do you really want people to see your photos and think you're slovenly? And that you will approach swinging in the same manner?
I agree with NJNY - toss the photos and read some of Velma's posts about pictures until she gets here to offer specific advice - she knows pictures!
And MsMolly is absolutely fabulous with profile text. But even I know there is no reason to repeat age, height & weight in Description - that is what the stat toggles & dropdowns are for - no reason to repeat that information. And saying your photos are current is sort of meaningless unless someone knows when you wrote that line - better to say photos are as of Jan 2019 or whenever they were taken.
Good luck!
Need some help with our profile. We are new and not sure if it's right. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
